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Kiaa
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Joined: 4/2/2006
Msg: 76 | |
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| Is There Any Serious People Out Here Looking To Find Mr./Mrs.Right???...Honestly!!!!!
Posted: 5/8/2006 4:44:21 PM | I have been on POF less than 2 weeks.
These are my experiences thus far:
1) Initially my profile stated LTR...I got Friends, Dating, Other Relationship (which I still have no idea what this means)...so...I changed my profile to Dating seeing as really we need to start there anyway...lol
2) Men that are 20 yrs my junior telling me that I'm hot...they don't convince me that they want a relationship.....so I have to assume they want sex.
3) Chat with men...things seem ok..then they disappear....IT WOULD BE REALLY NICE...AND ADULT...if they could just tell the truth.....There's not Chemistry....You Smoke and I don't like that....I don't think you are my type after all...you won't agree to a sexual relationship.
Whatever it is.....personally I'd rather know than just be dropped like a hot potatoe.
I find that rude and childish. If you're just looking for friends....then be one!!
I am honest (not hurtful) with every person I have been in contact with here or in the outside world.
I guess I just expect the same in return.
So...to answer you initial request...are there any serious people out there looking for mr/mrs right.....I'm beginning to think we are few and far between. | |
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funfly
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Joined: 4/29/2006
Msg: 79 | |
| Is There Any Serious People Out Here Looking To Find Mr./Mrs.Right???...Honestly!!!!!
Posted: 5/8/2006 4:51:59 PM | Looking for Mrs. right, there are so many out there that look at us men and think, no he's two short to tall to big, don't know maybe: ah no he's not the one. you have just passed Mr. right without giving his a chance. a man walk up to what he thinks is Mir right, the look he gets tells him, oh I hope he's not coming over to me.
All I ask is that give us a chance, we all can't be that bad.
Yes Im still looking for the one that will give me a brake. | |
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Enig
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Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 80 | |
| Is There Any Serious People Out Here Looking To Find Mr./Mrs.Right???...Honestly!!!!!
Posted: 5/8/2006 4:52:24 PM | ^^You dear Roxy r way too young to be so jaded. Trust me there r guys who r looking for their Mrs. Right...just a matter of time. Enjoy your freedom while u can cuz it only gets better, or something like that..forget how the saying goes now. 
Trinket, you can get that in any age group really. I know a few younger guys, one is now engaged, another who wanted to get married but I had a bit of a problem with that myself for a few reasons. Some ask me to help them look for a match now, it's just a lil tricky not doing it yourself I find. I guess like everyone when the timing is right n you click it will happen.
Funfly: Perhaps your right, only had that experience once that I ended dating a friend whom I didn't have that initial attraction to, so I suppose some need to be more open to the possibility, guess you never know. I know I'm more open-minded than I ever was before, but that's because of life experiences from everyone that's helped me along the way. | |
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| Is There Any Serious People Out Here Looking To Find Mr./Mrs.Right???...Honestly!!!!!
Posted: 5/8/2006 6:57:42 PM | I know personally I would love to find someone to spend the rest of my life with. However at this time I don't feel that because of finishing up my seperation and divorce I can't give all the time and energy to that one special person (which I haven't found anyway).
Now if someone would come along to catch me off guard and take my breath away, well then I would seriously reconsider things but for at least the next couple months friends to do things with and talk with is all I feel is fair. Not only to me but to them as well.
Can you find Mr/Ms Right on here? Who knows but it can't hurt none and if all that comes of being on here is the great forms and making friends then great. | |
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| Is There Any Serious People Out Here Looking To Find Mr./Mrs.Right???...Honestly!!!!!
Posted: 5/9/2006 5:09:03 PM |
I figure the poor man is out there, really searching hard for me so I thought I'd be hanging out here to make it a little easier for him to find me.
You are sooooooooooo friggin CUTE !!!
Seriously though, finding the right person for you is one of the toughest things we will ever do and it takes courage and strength to persevere through all the frogs and frogettes. | |
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Enig
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Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 89 | |
| Is There Any Serious People Out Here Looking To Find Mr./Mrs.Right???...Honestly!!!!!
Posted: 5/9/2006 7:22:13 PM | Samson: I was just thinking that as I was reading her post, but it's the pic too, absolutely love that pic (in the red lol), but she knows that eh Pinklily. She's even better in person tho. 
I agree with many of you, it's not an easy choice by any means. Some ppl throw monkey wrenches into the overcrowded sea that don't help to make it any easier either. It actually makes it even more confusing. I think I'm tired now tho, so g'nite, GL n keep it real fellow fishies. | |
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| Is There Any Serious People Out Here Looking To Find Mr./Mrs.Right???...Honestly!!!!!
Posted: 5/9/2006 8:14:31 PM | I'm hoping there is someone, but it seems lately, that all there is, is people who are looking for someone, and not THE one.
It makes my heart ache.
I've had many meetings on this site, I always end up extremely close to the women via MSN, email, whatever, and women often crush on me, until we meet.
I'm fit, I don't smell, I dress nicely. I open doors, am respectful, and not constantly talking about how awesome I am or anything like that, yet still, the answer the next day, is that they aren't into me.
It's a real downer.
All i want, is to be loved. THat's not too much, is it?
just happened again | |
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slink
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Joined: 9/6/2005
Msg: 91 | |
| Is There Any Serious People Out Here Looking To Find Mr./Mrs.Right???...Honestly!!!!!
Posted: 5/9/2006 9:32:17 PM | i havent read any of these posts,,,,,,,but,,,,,,all i gotta say,,,,,,once ya meet missus or mister perfect,,,,,no matter where ya meet em,,,,,,on the street,,,,,in a bar,,,,,here on pof,,,,,,who cares,,,,,,,you just gotta dive in to the ocean,,,,,,give a little slack back,,,,,,and see if the two of ya can keep afloat,,,,,i guess that would be,,,,,,love,,,,hmmmmmmm,,,,i dare say,,,,,,or is it just a need for,,,,,convienience???????,,,,,,,,i dunno,,,,,,,,when ya meet her,,,,or him if your prefernce goes that way,,,,hey,,,,thats fine with me,,,,,,,,,then youll know,,,,,who cares where ya met em,,,,,eh,,,,,,,,
sorry,,,,,,,,shoulda read the rest of the thread first,,,,,,,,damn beers,,,,,,,,, | |
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| Is There Any Serious People Out Here Looking To Find Mr./Mrs.Right???...Honestly!!!!!
Posted: 5/11/2006 5:46:43 AM | yet still, the answer the next day, is that they aren't into me
Sammy,
Do you say thank you to these women?
Because they are saving you a ton of wasted time !!!
Trust me brother the right women for you, will be totally into you when you meet her and all these other women are not worth your time anyways.
I don't expect anything from this site because the majority of people on here are single for good reason but I still believe that there are a small percentage that are serious but you need to get more selective my friend.
I've been here for over a month and spoken with at least 30 women but I still haven't meet 1 yet (for various reasons).
No offence to the women, many of them that I have spoken with are amazing but just not the "right" one for me.  | |
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| Is There Any Serious People Out Here Looking To Find Mr./Mrs.Right???...Honestly!!!!!
Posted: 5/11/2006 6:08:24 AM | I know exactly what I want and it all has to do with being on the same page in life, heading in the same direction and mutual attraction. I’m not sure why people think that because they are attracted to each other, life will just fall into place.
I’m here for one reason only…..”to find a reason to leave” and when that happens, I will be happy to remove my profile and would expect the same of the person I’m involved with.
I do realize that some men need this place for an ego boost and some are really quite addicted and have a hard time cutting the strings to messenger, chat rooms and dating sites…this is not the man I’m looking for and it really only takes a very short time to figure it out!
Oh right……. You asked a question…lol Yep, looking for a serious relationship that will come at a pace that involves getting to know each other.
Good luck to you all!!! | |
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| Is There Any Serious People Out Here Looking To Find Mr./Mrs.Right???...Honestly!!!!!
Posted: 5/11/2006 6:08:44 AM | I have to agree with Samson here... meeting people from this site has helped me understand what type of person, characteristics I am actually trying to find. I have met some great guys, unfortunately, not for me. but I have made some great friends and that has made this experience all the more meaningful.
I think alot of us on here have been burned and are seeking someone to "fill in" the time until we do find Mr/Mrs Right. Do we have to find Mr. Right right away?
I would be happy to find a Mr. Right Now, you know.... someone to have some good conversation and companion to do things. If that turns into Mr. Right, well that is great, if not, well it wasn't time wasted now was it?
To all those who are still looking, good luck, and those who have found their fishy... Congrats. | |
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| Is There Any Serious People Out Here Looking To Find Mr./Mrs.Right???...Honestly!!!!!
Posted: 5/11/2006 8:49:26 AM | Mr./Mrs. Right...there are hundreds of them out there for each one of us, the biggest problem is finding them. This is just another venue to meet people. If you hate bars, which I do, it isn't happening in the grocery store or through people you know, you have to gather all your options and be in the game if you truly want to find someone.
Sure many on here are here for different reasons, you just have to take the chance, put yourself out there and weed out the people who don't have the same desires as you do. It's no different than finding one person in a room of hundreds you connect with in a live situation. Time is our biggest commodity and POF allows you to communicate with people according to your own schedule.
Men bashing women and women bashing men as some have done on this thread doesn't help your search, it only shows some true colours shining through. Don't clump everyone in the same heap because of your own personal experiences, empty your suitcase and move on.
There is a success rate for internet dating but there are no guarantees like anything in life. Optimism and committment to the search are key.
*the only pain is to feel nothing at all*  | |
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| Is There Any Serious People Out Here Looking To Find Mr./Mrs.Right???...Honestly!!!!!
Posted: 5/11/2006 11:10:20 AM | Very interesting topic.. and even more interesting responses.
Myself... I initially came to POF with my head in the clouds. I figured I would find "the one" and that would be it.
Ok back to reality. I'm sure internet dating works for some... just not for me. Perhaps it's because I still believe in meeting people the old fashioned way and IN PERSON. I am no longer looking for the unattainable. And please don't tell me I need to get out to the POF parties. I refuse to attend a POF party that involves alcohol. It's not flattering how most people act when they are inebriated... think about first impressions people!!!
I enjoy the forums and sense of community here.... I just can't say for sure if my life partner is somewhere in cyber space searching for me.
So the coles notes version yes I am serious when I say I am not looking for Mr. Right on the internet. Although life has a way of surprising you!! | |
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| Is There Any Serious People Out Here Looking To Find Mr./Mrs.Right???...Honestly!!!!!
Posted: 5/11/2006 6:19:24 PM | Sacre bleu!!! But ... of course ... (it's all about picking from the PIX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) 
Right way to pick Mr Right
PARIS : Disregard months of email courtship, pay only polite attention to the advice of your friends. And forget about those Jane Austen-style books on how to select Mr Right.
A better way for a woman to choose a mate is to look at him in the face and trust her instincts, scientists say.
In a study published on Wednesday by the Royal Society B, United States psychologists tested a key hypothesis about male attractiveness.
This theory says that women are simply ambivalent, but there is a genetic cause for it. They might fancy men who are "hunky" but they also like the sensitive types. A masculine square-jawed man represents the best potential for producing a healthy baby, whereas a sensitive man represents the best potential for protecting and nurturing the offspring.
A team led by Mr James Roney, a professor of the University of California at Santa Barbara, has put the theory to the test in an experiment combining psychology and hormones.
They recruited 39 male students aged 18 to 33. The volunteers were photographed with a neutral facial expression and had information on their hairstyles omitted.
The men also gave saliva samples, which were assessed for levels of the male hormone testosterone, and were asked to look at pictures of babies and to rate how much they liked children. The photos were then individually assessed by 29 undergraduate women students aged 18-20.
They were asked to rate each man on a scale of one-to-seven for "likes children," "masculine", "physically attractive" and "kind."
And they were then asked to rate the men's attractiveness as either a "short-term romantic partner" or a "long-term romantic partner."
The researchers found the women were uncannily accurate in guessing which men liked children and which men were less interested or indifferent to kids.
The men whom the women considered to be more masculine and a choice for a brief fling also had higher testosterone levels than their counterparts.
But the men whom the women preferred for a long-term relationship had a strong affinity for children.
Mr Roney says these findings provide the first direct evidence that women track men's hormone concentrations and liking for children when they formulate a judgement about attractiveness. Nevertheless, no correlation between testosterone and liking for children could be established.
In other words, Mr. Macho may like children and Mr. Sensitive may not. However, the risk is that a woman may write them off respectively, as a long-term or a short-term mating prospect.
But the study raised the question - How can a man convey such subtleties and how can a woman recognise them in the fast, furious, gene-driven realm of mating. - AFP /dt | |
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| Is There Any Serious People Out Here Looking To Find Mr./Mrs.Right???...Honestly!!!!!
Posted: 5/13/2006 8:38:32 AM | If a man reads my profile...It's my opening line! And, I mean it. Yes...there are a few of us left. I've been a widow for 5 1/2 yrs. ...and I know how it feels to have loved and lost. I shared a life with my husband who encountered danger every day yet was very " macho" and yet sensitive at the same time. So, a more mature woman recognizes both qualities...if a man possesses them. Men who have both qualities don't get written off.
You're information re: study although interesting and informative, was based on 18-20 yr. old women's response to a suitable mating prospect in the up to age 33 bracket. A study should be done including more mature women/men who aren't looking for a potential husband/wife....to be a father/mother for their children. Men and women's focus should be on the primary relationship first. Everything else then falls into place.
About "PIX no response". I've had plenty of responses and still no PIX posted...for security reasons. In this day and age of fast and furious, gene-driven , as you say, a girl can't be too careful. But, I always provide a pic when I feel safe.
P.S. I love Muskoka too...thus just moved here full time. It's the life!  | |
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| Is There Any Serious People Out Here Looking To Find Mr./Mrs.Right???...Honestly!!!!!
Posted: 5/13/2006 9:25:56 AM | I started to type an e-mail ... but then thought maybe I should share this with the Pond ...
As Muskoka Gold points out, some folks are pre-occupied with "skin deep" beauty ...
(hmmm ... perhaps we should christen this "The Clearasil Syndrome ... since it appears more predominantly in the hormonal youngsers ... ?)
On the other hand, evolution is a slow process - we still prize "face to face" meetings and conversations ... and then there's the ever-elusive "love at first sight" ... sigh ...
Harking back to another thread on the senses (five or six, depending on one's viewpoint), the rhetorical question resurfaces: "What constitutes 'beautiful' when one's eyes are closed ... ?" (i.e. "there's more than meets the eye" ...) | |
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| Is There Any Serious People Out Here Looking To Find Mr./Mrs.Right???...Honestly!!!!!
Posted: 5/13/2006 11:20:57 AM | I too have been on this site for just a few weeks and so I am very new at this whole thing, but I couldn't agree more that some honesty and manners would sure go along way towards improving the experience. Here's my rant. When I write an initial e-mail, there is little point in going on at length if it is simply going to be "deleted, unread". However, I still write about two paragraphs (the masochist in me!). So it's no wonder some people simply do a one-liner and rely on the reader looking-up the profile to see if there is an interest. In other cases, when e-mail is exchanged, it might go back and forth a few times, then silence (my sent mail becomes "read deleted"). I mean if you had enough interest or curiosity to start communicating, why not simply end it properly with a "good luck" or "good writing to you" or whatever. Instead, you get the communications shutdown and the implied p--- off. Yes we all have to deal with rejection in life all the time, but a site like this is supposed to be social and fun - yes? - so I for one would prefer "polite rejection". Seems to me that good manners would help lubricate this whole experience.
Anyway, to return the the thread content, I am not the type to hang out in a bar trying to make small talk over loud music. So this site seemed to me a reasonable alternative to meet some women and if a deeper relationship should form from such a meeting, then that would be great. I don't handle superficiality well so I really am looking for that strong emotional connection and intellectual rapport. | |
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