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Posted: 6/5/2006 3:47:25 PM | We have one major clue to how our relationships are going by the amount of touching we get from our partner - if your partner finds it difficult to make physical contact with you then, the relationship is suffering in someway. Look to all the other issues you may have and how they relate to touching. When issues are resolved then the touching is increased. Some issues may be resolved or lessened with touching. When someone feels lonely we can touch them to bring on the feeling of being wanted and cared for. When we want to show someone we understand and can relate to them we touch. Touching can calm a increasing tense moment. Everything from reaching out and touching someones hand, to hugging, to intimate contact - any type of touch deemed appropriate to the situation you are in, is welcomed. Have you ever hugged someone who said they did not wish to be hugged? Did you find that they were so tense at first, but then gave into your hug and ultimately they felt better within moments. Human nature - the human desire to be touch, has taken over and a calming has taken place, the body relaxes allowing the mind to follow.
Who have you hugged today? Do you desire a hug?  | |
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Posted: 6/5/2006 4:33:46 PM | I have no one to hug right now but when I feel the need for a hug and no one is neer I hug my cat or go and get my hampster he likes to nussel in to my hair just by my ear
even a touch from a pet can help sometimes | |
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Posted: 6/5/2006 4:35:53 PM | | ^^^You are so very right!!! That's why pets are now used as therapy in hospitals and nursing homes!!! | |
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Posted: 6/5/2006 11:28:01 PM | | Touching is vitally important for good sex, however, out of the men I've been with, only one or two were accomplished "touchers"....it's quite a shame, that's a very low percentage! Most men doen't seem to realize how important touch is...and erotic touching is not just going straight for the nipples or coochie! Gotta touch and kiss and lick all over....mmmmmmmm | |
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Posted: 6/6/2006 12:04:02 AM | | to feel someones fingertips move along your arm...or accross your lower back....then coming around your body to make swirling motions on your stomache.... your chest....down your legs, any where and everywhere......it is totally sexy | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 3:31:55 AM | Touch is the best sense! I would never want to lose that one!
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it's actually the original sense.
All of the others are adaptations of touch. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 4:33:05 AM | We have one major clue to how our relationships are going by the amount of touching we get from our partner - if your partner finds it difficult to make physical contact with you then, the relationship is suffering in someway. And this is the reason I finally ended things with my ex, even though I loved him, and had his baby on the way. I got more affection from my friends than I did from him  | |
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Posted: 7/30/2006 11:02:00 AM | Yes, I enjoy touching wherever there is skin. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2006 3:56:16 PM | Hi,
Post #92 mentioned the anthropologist Ashley Montague. I would strongly advise reading his book "Touching" if you can possibly find it. it is about the importance of touching.
Peace,
Mack | |
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Posted: 7/30/2006 4:05:18 PM |
Holding hands, rubbing your back, stroking your hair, placing a hand on your knee, a kiss on the cheek, cuddling, playing footsies, a gentle smack on the butt, you name it. Any kind of loving gesture to connect with your partner will enhance the lovemaking in the bedroom.
You forgot to mention the finger in the bum. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2006 4:59:57 PM | | whats the piont, please help me because i dont get it | |
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Posted: 7/30/2006 5:03:33 PM | | I AGREE...it takes two to tango so body language is a must for dating or relationships. I feel it makes it more better to understand all the touching instead of keep asking do you like me or do you want sex. Just a quick peck or necking will do for me. So, pucker up guys I am here to experiment the touch of lust or love. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2006 5:05:23 PM | | now spread the word, cause what the hell are we doing here | |
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Posted: 7/30/2006 6:08:47 PM | Thank you, MakTK009. Good reference!
Another book (that I believe references Montague) is Helen Coulter's "The Power of Touch". | |
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Posted: 7/30/2006 9:05:58 PM | Touching is a form of communication and the way we live daily life. I grew up in Holland and we hook eachothers arms when walking together (girls who are just friends, moms & daughters; when shopping, just strolling, on our way to the bus etc.), kiss close family members on the mouth when greeting them (sounds freeky to people here, but it's absolutely normal in other societies), kiss anyone you know three times on the cheek when seeing them or saying goodbye etcetera etcetera.
North Americans (yeah, I'm generalising now, don't intend to offend anyone) have become prudes about almost everything that has to do with touch. Luckily I am meeting lots and lots of people who don't believe that this is the desired way of living and we hug and touch lots.
Now, when it comes to a romantic involvement, I am even worse for touching. I can not keep my hands of a hot date, believe in prolonged kissing and touching and it's the only way to get in my pants
If a guy is not into that, he's not into me (in more than one way ). He has to do the same thing in return. Perhaps not initially if he's been "repressed" in his upbringing (hahaha, bet I will get some reactions to that) but should be very open to learning a new lifestyle! | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 9:38:55 AM | | You know intercourse is great put its the end touching is the begining, i like betouched the drilling and date.We know the other great thing that comes next. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 10:08:36 AM | people bond through touch, it's a necessity to create a certain type of closeness, without it we are stuck with that sense of aloofness. I'm very physically demonstrative, touching a woman can tell me as much about her as the conversation we're exchanging....and I don't mean "down there" either, gentle soft stroking on her arm while we're talking or even enjoying a movie...let the hands wander but continue the gentle soft stroking...it's quite amazing how many doors are found open when your hand arrives.
On another note, I've seen the occasional thread on this and have contributed, PDA's. All I can say about this is anywhere.........anytime! | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 10:53:51 AM | When touching subsides.....
There are times in our relationships when the touching may subside - it is a signal to amplify the touch not to give in to the situation. Think of times when you like or need to be touched and project that onto your partner. It's not about sexual touching, although that can be part of it, it's the stroking of the hair - holding hands and stroking your palm - the arm around the shoulders - the cuddling etc.
I would certainly question a partner that does not respond to your touching. Although some people find the intimacy of touching difficult - when you are in a relationship there should be some amount of touching that happens between the two of you. The doors of communication should be wide open if you cannot feel comfortable with the level of touching in your relationship. Get to the root of the inability to provide or recieve touch, it will improve any waivering relationship. The bonding that touching provides, is imperative to the strength and development of any lasting relationship. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 11:11:17 AM | | Touching helps with connecting 2 people thats for sure | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 12:44:10 PM | | It is so important to a healthy relationship to involve a good ammount of physical contact. I love it, it makes me feel so warm and fuzzy inside. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 1:52:20 PM | I have a man who never laid a hand on me yet touched my heart.
Touching and kissing in my eyes is an other way of making love. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 4:07:38 PM | In the immortal words of Exile, "I wanna kiss you all over"  | |
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Posted: 8/15/2006 10:23:34 AM | | The skin is the largest organ on a person’s body, touching, kissing, and breathing on ones skin brings about feelings in most. It can be an escape in time, a person is not thinking about paying their rent or things like problems at work. They are simply consumed with themselves and the reactions to stimulating actions. Being creative keeps things interesting. A foot message, a neck rub or simply holding some one tight in the streets, dancing to the beat inside. It’s about how the contact is done and getting involved in each other- I would say. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2006 11:04:26 AM | | Touching is the first, meaningful step in a relationship between a man and a sandwich... Followed by kissing, and then eating | |
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Posted: 8/15/2006 11:24:18 AM | | I agree with Leeanne but if the person you are with just wants to get down to business I'm game for that too. However, I don't think touching need always involve physical contact. It can be done with the eyes alone which is even more beautiful for me. | |
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