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Posted: 3/28/2006 3:50:04 PM | garf Wow that post flew right by me...haha. (where's the blinking innocently smilie?) ME a smart azz?? Oh really! I'll take it under advisement and have my people get with your people. We'll all have a meeting.
As far as the other comment, I am SO letting that one go. I'll never tell!!  | |
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WesN
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Garf
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Posted: 3/28/2006 4:25:04 PM |  @ Bucs...you're slow today, lol. We'll forgive you though.
WesN:
Go through the profiles of women in your area and vote for a few that suit your type, so people can see what you're physically looking for. Don't get crazy with it, just a few will do.
"...Old Rock and Roll, Country, Cajun, Zydeco, and yes, Classical music..." Put these in your interests, and delete this sentence up to "...and if you were looking in..."
"On a rainy Saturday afternoon..." should start your "About Me" section. The first paragraph should be your second, as it's less...woman-oriented. (Is that a term?)
Cater to the woman's interests a little more by offering what you want to see in a woman. Whether it be looks, cooking ability (or lack thereof), spiritualistic views, or the amount of leather she should wear to the bar with you...or not wear...your choice.
Perfect first date. Leave it the way it is. Very nice, and you involve "sexiness" in a good way.
Other than that, it looks fine...but keep in mind that a profile looking for Long Term should be a little more detailed, as you are looking for someone who is very specific to you.
Read my original post in this thread for more simple pointers, and let's see what you can come up with!
(btw: If you have a good recipe for Blackened Salmon, could you send it my way?  ) | |
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WesN
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Joined: 1/17/2006
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Posted: 3/28/2006 4:50:40 PM | | Profile updated - and some info on blackening e-mailed to ya - lemme know if that solves it or you want more specific recipies... | |
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Garf
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Posted: 3/28/2006 5:34:11 PM | WesN:
Thanks for the recipe, I bribed my roomie to go get some cumin, lol.
I'm going to ask your permission to reference your profile for guys that are making profile for Long Term relationships.
If you change that profile; You will regret it!
Perfect! 
Southern Women: Go read it! He needs someone to cook for! | |
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WesN
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Posted: 3/28/2006 5:47:00 PM | Ok even, LOL I added a little bit more about me in there at the advise of two pretty ladies here, and it's locked unless I blew it! Let me know -
Yeah, reference my profile - I'm not hiding anything!    | |
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Garf
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Joined: 4/4/2005
Msg: 83 | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 5:49:54 PM | If you sing while cooking...
Thanks for letting me use your profile for reference, that's great.
The additions are subtle and conversational, I like it. | |
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Garf
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Garf
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Posted: 3/31/2006 5:16:09 PM | I've been trying to figure out what angle you're taking in your profile, for a few days now.
I've decided that there is no angle.
It's a random assortment of clutter.
Try to focus on one topic at a time, and cheer up a bit!
Go read your profile from a different viewpoint, and think to yourself what you would think if it were someone else's profile that you were reading...
This is a hard profile to improve without starting over.
But since you're looking for friends...take some time to fill the interests with a pile of stuff.
Anything at all, really...it's your interests that prospective friends will look at. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 6:55:21 PM |
I've decided that there is no angle.
It's a random assortment of clutter.
You are very wise, grasshopper!
The closest I have to an angle (back when I wrote it) was that I was baffled & somewhat annoyed at the messages I was getting. The rudeness. Perviously my profile was a list. Not of what I'm looking for, but what I'm like. This went over WORSE than what I have now.
think to yourself what you would think if it were someone else's profile that you were reading...
Possibly.. "geesh, this chick is fed up!"
But since you're looking for friends...take some time to fill the interests with a pile of stuff.
Until I can think on it properly and be more specific, I'm gonna leave that interests section... but I agree with you.
I recently told someone who's profile I reviewed to be more specific, then I remembered mine wasn't... at least not A LOT specific and I felt like a tool. But only for a minute.
But don't I look happy?
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Garf
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Joined: 4/4/2005
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Posted: 3/31/2006 8:23:56 PM | Yeah, you're a peach...
Ok then, if you change your email settings to disallow people looking for anything except friends...then you can safely write a profile that suits your desires.
Does that make sense?
The people you want to talk to from the forums, can email you if they're on your faves list.
Use your faves list to your advantage this way. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 8:26:41 PM | | Ok, that's why my restrictions are so... well not there, didn't realize your faves could e-mail you in spite of restrictions. Good ta know. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 8:59:36 PM | Hi Garf,
You've been here for a little while, and your profile is witty - - and a bit squirrelly ;o) You have a very good and even perspective.
I'd like to ask if I may, have you had any success here? - Sorry, I'm not trying to be rude or nosey. | |
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Joined: 7/22/2005
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Posted: 4/1/2006 2:39:40 AM | i'm seriously into the entire "broke back moutain" thing.. but .. helllo!
seems odd .. more than a bit there squirlllllly pants?!!!!!
..nosy nora! | |
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Garf
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Posted: 4/1/2006 8:51:33 AM | Canuktech:
Thank you for the kind observation, and since the question of my success is relative to the topic; Yes.
And I don't see it as being rude at all, I asked the same question of someone who once reviewed my profile...based on the fact that their's was nearly blank, so I wanted to know if they knew what they were talking about.
Lohki...I completely missed the Broke Back Mountain reference...I only know that the movie is about gay cowboys...I haven't heard anything else about it, so I'm lost if you're referring to me somehow. Sorry. 
Russbear:
You would get more emails if you put the close-up as your main pic. I'm not gonna elaborate on that, because it'll make me sound gay, and I've already got one Brokeback comment on this thread, lol.
Got photoshop? Crop out the  posters on the wall behind you.
Anything explosive? That's interesting...and scary. Perhaps slowly introducing that aspect of yourself to the woman after you get to know her a bit, and she's a little more comfortable about dating the Unibomber.
Your first paragraph gives me the impression that you've been hounded about University before. Breathe. Relax. It sounds like you're down on yourself, and that's kinda negative. If you're going to keep this in, reword it to being a bit more assertive.
I'm sure that the right woman could get you interested in getting back into some music instruments...work that hint in there somewhere.
Don't call your customers idiots. One of those customers could be reading your profile.
"I have an xbox with one game, halo 2. i only play when me and my friends get just THAT bored." Guys who mention video games in their profiles...were thinking about video games instead of women, when they were writing their profile...shame on you.  Delete video game references...I have a 360, a regular Xbox, a PS2, a PC and a Gamecube...this post is the first time I've ever mentioned it on this site, and only for sake of example.
"i quite enjoy sitting at home and watching a movie, or going out and having fun. comfortable silences are heaven." --> "i quite enjoy going out and having fun, or sitting at home and watching a movie. comfortable silences are heaven."
Prioritization is the key to good messages.
I love the "Comfortable silences are heaven." ...so true. You should put this in your header...it will attract attention.
First date..."...reasons based on my job..." Why? Are you broke? Yuk.
Try something completely different...and nothing where eating is involved. Unless it's walking by a hotdog stand or something casual.
First dates can be nerve wracking. When people are nervous, they tend to fidget. Fidgetting while eating, usually involves playing with your food, and paying more attention to what you're eating than what your date is mumbling about...cheque please!
Casual casual casual!!!
Pool, bowling, walks along a public path, trip to a local tourist trap, something fun but casual!
There has to be a convenient escape in case the date is lame, that won't cost you the price of dinner for two.
Karaoke is fun, I hear. | |
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Joined: 7/22/2005
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Posted: 4/1/2006 3:06:16 PM | lol.. I was making mention of canuktech's comment to you.. just above my last post..
I got sucked into this room by the cheeky title>>not the kind who cares what my profile "looks" like>> no validation needed!..
.. but Garf,.. would listen to you on any topic..lol
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Garf
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Joined: 4/4/2005
Msg: 99 | |
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Posted: 4/1/2006 4:55:42 PM | Nerevar:
You need a brighter pic, for starters. The hoody pic is good lighting for example...you can see your face in it.
Fill in your profession...even if it's something silly. (Do you really think I'm the King of the Squirrels?) Blanks are bad.
Starting off the section that is titled "About Me" with "Some things about me..." is redundant. Just jump into action.
"I'm tall..." yes...6'4" is tall. lol, you don't have to mention it, unless you're elaboorating on it for some reason.
Yes weed is a drug.
You describe yourself fairly well, but what about the woman?
Your profile is informative, and good for someone looking for long term...but if you're looking for dating, I'd switch up some of the topics, and refer to something that is more active. Tell her what you want to do today, not tomorrow.
Something along the lines of, "If you're looking for someone to __(insert innocent activity here)__ with on a Saturday night, and all the other monkeys are taken, then I'm the monkey for you!"
I like the fact that you refer to the first date as an encounter. Good stuff there. But offer something that she can respond to.
Your profile is the first half of a conversation...remember that, and give an opportunity to respond with little effort.
This shouldn't be too hard for you to fix at all. | |
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Garf
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Joined: 4/4/2005
Msg: 100 | |
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Posted: 4/1/2006 5:12:31 PM | Outdoor2:
Cooking isn't an interest? That's disappointing, coming from a chef. Women will notice that right away.
In a word...BANG! HERE I AM!!! THINK FAST! and it's over...lol.
Your profile reads like a motivational speaker ranting about life being about progression, not regression.
Keep it like that, but add to it.
More about who you are as a romantic, and elaborate that first date until it reads like a fairy tale.
You've got the direct energy and confidence to make that work, and be believable as well. Use your energy to your advantage.
You've got mail.
Good first profile though, all in all. | |
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