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Posted: 4/1/2006 4:11:17 AM | If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream - and not make dreams your master,
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!
Rudyard Kipling (1865-1936) | |
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Posted: 4/1/2006 4:58:09 AM | Momya,
Very good....its hard to add anything to that. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2006 9:16:41 AM | Seems like in order to be a good man one has to fit into all the silly catagories of shallow people like :
You have to be this tall
You have to be this Build
You have to have this Hair
You must be this Color
Even the right eye color
and the list goes on ...
Not the important things like
You should be Honest, Trustworthy, Hardworking, FOR REAL, Good with children ...
Are there any Women from aroung Windsor, Essex, Chatham, Detriot Area that are looking for a Good person ??
One who has the qualities listed in the latter half of this thread ?
If So Please drop me a line - I want to find a lady who is looking for a man that will treat her right. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2006 9:20:22 AM | {If he does what the woman wants, he is a real man. If not, he is a real prick.}
Thats the kind of attitude that will mess things up and always does in a relationship. be careful what you say because that made absolutely no sense.
personally I feel a real man and a good man are one and the same. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2006 9:27:54 AM | Its true
It does make sence
to be discriminated against because of your height, race,color,weight, etc
I would think you can relate
I would do anything my lady wanted - I dont know where you are comming up with all this - but once again I am sorry for posting anything ... I said I would never do it again & i wont
But i will defend myself and will not let YOU bring me down - I am a great person - I just want to find a REAL PERSON
thats all,,,
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Posted: 4/5/2006 10:40:22 AM | i think the same virtues could be attributed to real and good women or a real and good person. they should have all these virtues and more
when two real and good people get together THAT is the basis for an AWSOME relationship, one that will stand the test of time.
trouble is we dont always arrive at real and good at the same time in a relationship!
ya just have to be ready and capable to grow and develop into a person the other one admires and respects. my2 | |
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Posted: 4/5/2006 11:43:31 AM | What is a real man?
I could spend all day on this subject, but it all comes down to a couple of qualities:
1. Confidence
2. Self-Assuredness
3. Happy
4. Fun
5. Driven, with a purpose
6. Shows his sword but never needs to use it
7. Mentors other men
8. Sees other men as worthy allies, congratulates them on their successes
9. Seeks approval from within
10. Is balanced. Not a nice guy, not a jerk
11. Has boundaries
12. Credits his failures or success on himself, never blames others or luck for his failures
13. Does not take rejection personally
14. Sees things for what they are, accepts them and then tries to change them
15. Stays calm and even keeled under even the most intense pressure
What a real man is NOT:
1. Clingy
2. Insecure
3. A whiner
4. Jealous, sees other men as competition and revels in their failures.
5. Makes threats
6. Gives up his personal power in exchange for approval
7. Either a classic nice guy or a jerk
8. Doesn't have boundaries or if he does, does not have repercussions for crossing them
9. Blames others (or luck) for his failures and credits only himself for his success
10. Take rejection extremely personal
11. Wallows in self-doubt and pity
12. Doesn't see things and accept them for what they are
13. Tries to change things first, then accept them when he can not
14. Folds quite easily under pressure
15. Is overly emotional even over the smallest of problems
I mean I could go on all day. A real man described by looks alone is a complete farce. Looks, size, etc have nothing to do with what defines a real man. It's what's inside you, your character, that defines what a real man is.
When woman ask for a "real man", she is speaking in terms of his character . If she is confusing a real man with his looks instead of his character, then she doesn't understand what a real man is.
The problem with men who aren't "real men" is they have no clue what defines a real man.
Real men know they are real men and never have to announce it to the world. | |
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