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Posted: 6/14/2006 1:56:28 PM | Kerry ~ Valid point. I would not want my opinions to go unopposed, I would learn nothing if that were the case. And, whether or not two people agree, isn't necessarily "HOW" they feel about the other person. Most of my good friends here on POF are people that I have disagreed with or they have disagreed with me. Fortunately ~ that is what makes communication less than routine. Like you and me, there are many times I don't post because you have said what I might have said. I do believe two people can be different but yet the same. Just my opinion ~ but I certainly don't feel that there is anomosity here. Passionate ideals and written communication are sometimes hard to determine the underlying message, but in the end ~ I'm just wanting to enrich my life and that surely wouldn't happen if no one thought to tell me I'm full of sh!t once in a while!!
Ten: You are so funny. I believe that is exactly why it happens. It's really too bad. I don't know how I feel about being 42 ~ and it really doesn't matter, because I certainly can't change that! I did have a funny thing happen, however ~ I turned 42 the first week of April and someone from another site emailed me telling me I was lying because he was just certain my birthday was April 20th. He was mad that my profile said 42 when, he thought I was 41 still. Too damn funny.   (I'm still not quite sure what the hell his issue was, but after two-three emails calling me a liar I finally blocked him.) Yep, I lied...I put 42 on there two weeks ahead of schedule. LOL...some people are just never satisfied. (OH, and HE was the initial one who I caught lying about his age...what irony!!! LOL)
~OT~ OK. I'm now going to spill my news. I have re-entered the dating world. He is 46. (Over my limit!!!) So see ~ even nasty-a$$es such as myself have preferences, but overlooking an amazing person has never been my intention. We are going to Hawaii for 10 days (now that's a first date!! Woo hoo) and I had to give him respect for being brave enough to spend that much time on an island with me. (Ekkkkk!!) So ~ I suppose the reality is this: he was honest with me the very first time he contacted me (back in January) and he has been amazingly patient. I don't know too many men who would emailed/telephoned for that many months without any hesitation. Most would have long since moved on.
And guys ~ my Aunt found him for me...I'm telling you ~ I'd be happy to do the same for you!!!!  | |
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Posted: 6/14/2006 4:51:46 PM | ^^^^^
Good for you..it'll be like riding a bike...
got any aunts in Ohio???? | |
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Posted: 6/14/2006 8:31:08 PM | | Well, just for the record.. I don't email men my own age (47) if they are not 50 or older I'm just really not interested in them. I just like old farts.. i can't help it... | |
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Posted: 6/15/2006 5:39:23 AM |
April 20th
Now thats a day I can never forget lets see Hitlers birthday and of course its also mine. | |
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Posted: 6/15/2006 11:52:46 AM | ^^^^Hahahahaha...maybe he was mistaking my birthday for yours......or Hitler's.... Now I'll never forget your B-day!  | |
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Posted: 6/21/2006 6:55:00 PM |
Kerry ~ Valid point. I would not want my opinions to go unopposed, I would learn nothing if that were the case. And, whether or not two people agree, isn't necessarily "HOW" they feel about the other person. Most of my good friends here on POF are people that I have disagreed with or they have disagreed with me. Fortunately ~ that is what makes communication less than routine. Like you and me, there are many times I don't post because you have said what I might have said. I do believe two people can be different but yet the same. Just my opinion ~ but I certainly don't feel that there is anomosity here. Passionate ideals and written communication are sometimes hard to determine the underlying message, but in the end ~ I'm just wanting to enrich my life and that surely wouldn't happen if no one thought to tell me I'm full of sh!t once in a while!!
Dammit, Greeneyez-- just when I was having such fun trading kitty scratches with you, ya have to go and spoil it all with an "Awww Shucks" Kodak moment. :) Not to worry, I hereby promise to gently tell you when I think you're full of it if *you* promise to return the favor.
I'm glad to see you're broadening your horizons. Something tells me you won't regret the experience- even if it doesn't take you to where you think you need to go, one is often pleasantly blindsided by serendipity.
I can well imagine previously being in a LTR relationship with someone who constantly lied could make one chafe when encountering even teeny versions of it in subsequent interactions. I've been there myself. But, one principle applicable to evaluating the dilemma has always stood me in good stead:
"Context is your friend."
Then, too, there's always John Rawls' "The Original Position" from "A Theory of Justice"....
But I digress, seeing that the natives are already starting to reach for their knives. :)
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Posted: 6/21/2006 8:36:54 PM | wow, this is very timely, as i was just having this discussion with someone a couple hours ago.
i'd said, "if you're not dating someone when you turn 50, it's somehow really bad." i know that sounds completely idiotic, & i myself really am not sure i actually believe it, but it was said just the same.
years ago, i dated someone who was a few years older (very unusual for me), & he's the one who actually felt that ^ way. after i'd left the relationship, a mutual friend said that he stated he was going to get married or engaged (or something like that) by the time he turned 50. he had a couple years to go i think at that time, & he proceeded to go immediately back to the person he'd turned down at the beginning of our relationship...basically cuz he knew it'd be a "for sure" thing. that might sound bad or wrong or judgemental, but there's details pointing that direction that i'm not mentioning here since there's no real reason to. the end of that story is that he *did* get engaged by that turning point of 50. he planned it & did it, all cuz he was afraid to be alone at that point in his life.
so, why is that such a negative time in a person's life, overall? is it cuz 50 just sounds so ANCIENT, no matter how young we all (ok, not all) might seem these days at 30 & 40? half a century i guess still sounds over the hill. (& it sounds goofy coming from me since i'm almost there myself)
guess there's nothing much we can do but deal with it, huh? | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 7:56:49 PM |
Dammit, Greeneyez-- just when I was having such fun trading kitty scratches with you, ya have to go and spoil it all with an "Awww Shucks" Kodak moment. :) Not to worry, I hereby promise to gently tell you when I think you're full of it if *you* promise to return the favor.
I'm glad to see you're broadening your horizons. Something tells me you won't regret the experience- even if it doesn't take you to where you think you need to go, one is often pleasantly blindsided by serendipity.
Sounds like a fair trade to me!! LOL
As for the "experience" ~ let's just say this: I returned from Hawaii 4 days early. Enough said about that!!! I do think Hawaii is highly overrated and I will mark it off of my "Things to do before I die" list. It will NOT make it to the "Things I must do twice" list!!
 BUT, you are right ~ I now know that I have to start living again. Tough as it has been, I have to move on. At least the trip rendered a view on life I had forgotten!! | |
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Posted: 6/23/2006 11:44:13 PM | After 50 your role/place changes and that place is not valued or easily accepted.
wow..you seem to be a nice kid but i would hate to tell you anything because it would go in one ear and pick up speed on the way out. just nothing there to stop the message. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2006 12:58:30 AM | bluesky: you didn't understand a word of it, because it said nothing. Basically he pulled an "Ask Jeeves" copied and pasted. I can assure you ~ that rhetoric said about as much as Bush says in his weekly radio State of the Union. (Whatever someone else wrote, he reads....likewise Kerry copied, pasted and posted
just couldn't keept on the post. if you are a president bush hater find some other site. stick to the post | |
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Posted: 6/24/2006 3:47:34 PM | Well its not like being 21 or 30 which is more looked at as growing up. However, I did find getting to be 30 was considered by many 21 year olds to be up there with 40's and 50's.
Now when I think back as to how I viewed people over 30 when I was 21, they did seem very old to me and 40 or 50 wow so far over the hill. I know that we have an expectation of how someone will look and act at a given age. I recall taking a neighbor's young son out walking. The farther was about 13 years younger than I was. We had to cross a railway track. When I heard a trail coming we put pennies on the line to see what would happen. When I took the young lad back home, he recounted the fun and showed his dad one of the pennies. His father not impressed said to me "you act like a young kid" and I replied yes. He repeated it several times and I said yes each time. He was actually trying to be derogatory. Ok so what am I saying? Well when I looked at those older people when I was young they seemed old and boring set in their ways locked in to a certain path. That is still how I see the majority 40 and 50 year old. However since then I have noticed that though that does happen to some extent as we get older to some it happens sooner than others. Their get up and go tends to have got up and gone too LOL. Fortunately, I think that is not true for everyone and perhaps more so than now than when out parents where in their 50’s.
I will be honest I am interested in looks and not ready yet to team up with someone who looked like my grandmother (no offence intended to my grandmother who I loved but she never got my juices going). However I am more interested in that child like quality of finding fun in new things and even old things, adventures even daring. Still finding fun in learning new things. I want us to grow old together but not die of boredom together. By the time, we do start to look like I remember my grandmother, I hope either we will have such strongly rose tinted glasses or with such poor sight, it will not matter.
Yes, I am one of those guys that hates to admit I am over fifty because I think I know how woman will view that. Note to prospective partners  I am still only 29 in my head LOL and most say I don’t look a day over 49 (I have a ten year old pic to prove it) and only a month or so ago I got an almost irresistible urge to put a penny on the track of an oncoming freight train. Prospective partners should also note that though I have child like qualities I am also a responsible adult.
Well almost and very infrequently get drunk on White Russians 
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Posted: 6/25/2006 2:44:45 PM | | At 50 and I bounce at a hip hop club.( talk about funny looks as you put some young punk out and tell him at the door you just got owned by a 50 year old ) I sure don't feel or act my age.(also have been known to get on the dance floor with someone there) | |
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Posted: 6/25/2006 5:09:16 PM | when you accept yourself you accept your age. you can even be proud of it. you think 'just look how fit and healthy i am'.
if someone wants someone younger than you or with different color eyes than you have that's o.k. they should get what they want and you should get what you want. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 6:42:21 AM |
Why won't women date men over 45?
Women don't date men over 45????? I know many women who ONLY date men over 45. If your question is based upon your personal experiences, I guess my question would be: how old are the ladies you want to date? All people have personal preferences, I suppose you just need to pursue ladies who don't have an age-preference. There are many women in this thread alone who date men over 45 ~ | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 7:52:35 AM | | I think your life was over in your late 30's..or is now by generations? Women do not date men over 40 unless you are a guy who is more like he was in his 20's in every aspect. Women these days do not want to know they are getting old so they do not want to be with a man who looks, acts and is old..basically acting his age. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 5:24:03 PM | Women these days do not want to know they are getting old so they do not want to be with a man who looks, acts and is old..basically acting his age.
HUH???????
Truth is a lot of women these days, younger and older, are very comfortable with themselves and know exactly who they are,where they're at, and what they want out of life (or at least don't want!) and won't settle for anything less...seems some of us bubbas can handle that,some don't to do too well with it...
Women do not date men over 40 unless you are a guy who is more like he was in his 20's in every aspect.
Now that might be one of the dumber things I've seen in awhile...as a guy well past his 40s,I KNOW how wrong that is...most women 40+ I know would no more want to date a guy reminding them of their son than a lot of guys 40+ would want to date their daughter's clone... | |
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Posted: 6/27/2006 4:28:08 AM | | im sorry but u r attractive lady but to think u would past 4 35 seems, well ? i wouldnt bet money 41 is right but thats my opinion & thank god we all have 1 im 50+ & also have always dated younger but would never take the chance on dismissing a great companion because of their age thats seems to a worst crime than lying bout age | |
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Posted: 6/27/2006 9:05:03 PM | I never date men that are not at least my age (47) or older... who said women don't date men over 45??? NOT SO!!! I love older men... | |
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Posted: 6/28/2006 9:09:49 AM | Greeneyzes...Thanks..actually,based on some of what you've said in the past in here (particularly the description of her getting her tattoo!!),your mom sounds like someone I'd like to know...if she ever becomes available... | |
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Posted: 6/28/2006 3:15:19 PM |  I'll keep that in mind. I saw her last month, she's looking pretty good. And I could call you "Dad." ROTFLMAO....OH DEAR....now that is too funny ~ we'd be an entire family of fishes ~ or would we have to technically call ourselves a school? Oh hell ~ either way!!! | |
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Posted: 6/28/2006 5:31:54 PM | | Greeneyze...not sure what to call it...but Xmas would be a trip...or a blast..or both... | |
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