joyus1
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Joined: 2/28/2006
Msg: 51 | |
| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 3/31/2006 10:33:51 AM | | Come back when your 40 and tell us your looking for or dating a man thats 58 !!! | |
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 3/31/2006 10:55:31 AM | Well, personally I have never given a rat's behind about age. When I was 42 I was dating a 19 year old... I learned a lot from her, but mostly that I don't have the energy to keep up with someone that young. So I prefer older women now, but if someone younger came along and wanted a relationship I wouldn't say no.
I never lie about my age...why start out a relationship with a lie? I figure I will be myself and if a woman wants to be with me, fine. At least that is one hurdle that is out of the way (ages).
It is true though that society values youth and once you are considered "old" you might as well go sit on a mountain top and wait to die. What I don't get is that the Baby Boomers are getting old and should be recognized more in how people accept older people. But instead, it all seems to cater to the 18 to 30 year olds... Hopefully things will change...
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 3/31/2006 12:26:58 PM | | OK you all got me I'm going to be 50 on 04/20 my goatee been died to cover all the gray in it and yes I'm missing a few teeth none that you can see without looking in my mouth little over weight well maybe more than a little over weight .So now you got me happy there goes my fantasy | |
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 3/31/2006 12:38:18 PM | Well,I like to say I am 58,that way I get a compliment and they say,why russ,you look 48,which I am. | |
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 3/31/2006 4:31:32 PM | | Like greeneyes says, lying is lying, age or about anything else. Please think about it, how do you feel when someone lies to you. Besides, if you always tell the truth, you don't have a need to remember what you said to whom. Makes life a whole lot simpler. And please remember, a lie will always be found out! | |
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 3/31/2006 5:06:42 PM | Okay I admit it, I am 49 really, now thanks to this thread no one will believe me
I never lie about anything on here, like you say some day you have to meet and it will come out. Both men and women do it, it's a puzzle
I however think they are just numbers, date who you like, if someone happens to be 10 years older or younger who cares. A person likes who they like. Okay I am going back to being 49 yes I said 49. won"t last much longer!! | |
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 3/31/2006 8:27:14 PM | | There are so many posts, from women unfortunately, about not looking their age? And how amazed people are when they disclose it. and how much younger guys find them attractive? Give me a break. What fountain of youth are you drinking from? It is a rarity my female friends. Look to a guy closer in your age group, who you can relate to and makes you smile :) | |
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AnnMF
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Joined: 3/31/2006
Msg: 60 | |
| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 3/31/2006 9:44:21 PM | Hello,
I agree that one shouldn't lie about their age. Some people (both genders) will put a younger age in their profile so it will get noticed by the younger age groups. I have seen profiles saying, "I'm really 58, but I look 48", etc., therefore they think that's where they'll get noticed more. I don't think they believe they are doing anything wrong. One man contacted me and said that he really looked and acted 48 but was really 66 and asked for a chance to get to know him. He talked about how he needed a much younger woman to keep up with him. I saw his pictures. He looked about 60 to me, not 48. And I thought about what it would be like in another 10 years. I don't want someone who is nearing 70.
If you feel more comfortable with those closer to your age group, there's nothing wrong with that. Some people grew up in a different generation and that can have it's drawbacks, but not always.
But to your original question about the lying again...I have met a lot of men in their 50's who haven't lied about their age.
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 3/31/2006 10:48:03 PM | I've only ever been approached by one man on a dating site (not POF) who lied about his age. That was really stupid of him since my profile (back then) clearly stated that I did not want any liars or cheaters .... blah blah blah.
He wasn't really my type to begin with, but I thought "What the hey ... we always need friends.", so I agreed to stay in touch with email. After about the 4th email, he was still convinced that he could win me over and finally let the cat out of the bag about his age.
Since I really didn't want to date him anyways, it was not a big problem, but I did write him back and let him know that "friendship" is based on honesty and that I value honesty as was stated clearly in my profile. He did not write back.
Some folks just don't understand that it has nothing to do with what age you want i.e. your preferences ...
... and everything to do with just being honest.  | |
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 4/1/2006 5:42:16 PM | | Turning 50 is a major milestone for most guys. Time to take stock of yourself. If you've never been married or had a family it's unlikely to happen anymore now. Some men prefer to live in denial of this for a few years hoping for one last kick at the can. Mercifully, nature lets go her grip on them and men over 50 are often quite happy as they go through the remains of their lives alone. | |
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 4/1/2006 9:17:38 PM | I hear what you're saying garry and it really sounds valid up to the point where you start to write about hoping for one last kick at the can.
So let them have one last kick at the can ....... but instead of lying about their age and targeting a lady who specifically states she does not want a man over 50, setting yourself up for failure (it seems to me) ...........
............. they just need to target the ladies who specifically state they don't mind having a man over 50. 
Someone please tell me what's so hard about that?
Leave the ladies alone who specifically don't want you ... be honest and go for the ones who do want you!
DUH ....... That's not exactly rocket science ..... | |
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 4/2/2006 8:46:27 AM |
Since I really didn't want to date him anyways, it was not a big problem, but I did write him back and let him know that "friendship" is based on honesty and that I value honesty as was stated clearly in my profile. He did not write back.
Your profile also states "clearly" that your profession is "Off the Record". Just my opinion, but if you're going to carry the banner for Honesty, it's probably not a good idea to hoist the Jolly Rodger by being evasive yourself.
Sure, you may have reasons for not stating it that are perfectly valid. But then if your stated modus operandi is complete and accurate disclosure from square one, it seems to me you're opening yourself up for a lot of criticism about double standards.
YMMV.
-Kerry O. | |
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 4/2/2006 12:33:44 PM | ^^^^I AM A NURSE ....... and proud of it and if you read through any of the threads I post in, it will become apparent.
Up until a couple of weeks ago, that was clearly stated on my profile. Then I changed it (mostly out of protest I suppose) because so many others were also being evasive. I forgot to change it back and I do appreciate that you went to my profile and looked ... that means you actually read down that far in the profile.
You are absolutely right ... I do have to set a good example if I'm going to carry the banner for Honesty ... as soon as I'm done with this post, I'm going to go in and change that. 
I might add ... a good reason to avoid putting "nurse" down is to avoid getting attention from men who really are "just looking for someone to take care of them". However, I can usually figure that out before too much time goes by.
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 4/2/2006 10:13:18 PM | Alright, I must be stupid or I would leave this discussion alone :)
I am 51 and don't lie about it. I can tell you, when I turned the big 5 0 - the contacts reduced by half. Many of those who do get in touch are 55+. Say what you will, the ladies are not much better than the men on this issue. In fact, it isn't that uncommon for women to post photos over 10 years old!
Now - why do I generally tend to favor women younger than myself? Simple ... A large percentage of women in their late 40s or older are way out of shape. I work hard to keep myself fit and I appreciate a woman who does the same. Double chins and flabby arms/thighs are an instant turn off.
I don't claim to be anything special, but that doesn't mean I have lost my appreciation for a beautiful woman. | |
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 4/2/2006 10:35:47 PM | ^^^Believe me, out of shape men can be a turn off as well ... double chins, flabby man boobies, fleshy bulging beer bellies ... no doubt the reason why a lot of ladies in their 50's have turned to the "trimmer" guys in their late 30's and early to mid 40's.
And you're also right about the posting of old photos ... I doubt any one gender on here can claim a monopoly on that. I don't like to mislead people, so I keep my photos as current as I can ... the one with the dog is about 6 months ago, the other one in my profile is about 4 months ago, and as soon as I unpack my camera from my recent move ... I'll get a picture and put that up.
One thing you have to remember though ... it's human nature for us to want others to see us at what we perceive to be our best. And for some, that obviously was 10 years ago.
OT: Another guy turned off by the blatant dishonesty he's finding here ... Go figure!
alone2soon: ... chin up, there are still a lot of fishies in the pond who are not cheating about that kind of stuff ... you just gotta be patient ..........
............ move your boat to the other end of the pond ... might be better fishing there?  | |
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 4/3/2006 4:23:26 AM | So, the broader question would be, why do people lie at all. To trick someone into giving them something they want but dont expect to get...mmmm. Still why bother? Life if so full of wonder and passion why waste energy on a baloon that will soon burst.
Im 57 and and dont care if I feel like it or look like it or whatever someone else wants to project on me. Just waiting for the man that blends with me and all my passions. Life starts now and we can go any where we want as long as we pull our heads out so we can see where we are going. | |
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gken
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Joined: 3/19/2006
Msg: 69 | |
| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 4/3/2006 9:56:16 AM | | Woo I hate being 50. First time a birthday ever ment anything. | |
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 4/3/2006 2:31:33 PM | ^^^Believe me, out of shape men can be a turn off as well ... double chins, flabby man boobies, fleshy bulging beer bellies ... no doubt the reason why a lot of ladies in their 50's have turned to the "trimmer" guys in their late 30's and early to mid 40's.
Hmm..., I don't have any of these problems to any great degree but if I did I don't know if I would want to constantly do battle with my physical appearance to get or keep a woman. naah.... I don't think so. It's not worth it. | |
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 4/3/2006 3:27:51 PM | | Well I am 54 and as others have said - what's the point in lying? I prefer men around my own age but mostly get way younger. I do find a lot of people here have unrealistic goals about who they want to date and telling a lie to get a date is never a good way to start a relationship if that's what you really want. Honesty is always the best policy. | |
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 4/3/2006 6:09:12 PM | | Just to clarify... I posted my age as 49..and I will be 49 till aug 17 th when I turn 50. | |
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 4/3/2006 11:08:14 PM | "cotter" said .... Believe me, out of shape men can be a turn off as well ... double chins, flabby man boobies, fleshy bulging beer bellies ... no doubt the reason why a lot of ladies in their 50's have turned to the "trimmer" guys in their late 30's and early to mid 40's.
"garry" said ... Hmm..., I don't have any of these problems to any great degree but if I did I don't know if I would want to constantly do battle with my physical appearance to get or keep a woman. naah.... I don't think so. It's not worth it.
garry dear ... I said that with reference to the gentleman who posted above me who was complaining about people misrepresenting themselves in their profiles ... you know
.... the picture shows one "body" and the real person "morphs" into something totally different upon meeting them. He was also complaining about not liking women his own age because they are so out of shape ... so I wanted him to know that the men aren't always in the best of shape either.
I don't think we should be doing any kind of battling regarding our physical appearance. We just need to be what we are in the picture we present so that anyone who contacts us will have a visual clue as to what we look like.
The thread is about people being honest about themselves and how they represent themselves to others.
I try to keep a current picture and not misrepresent myself ... no sense in doing that because it all comes out when you meet the person you've eventually been fooling all along. Who wants to do that? | |
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