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Posted: 4/8/2006 5:27:42 PM | Age just may be revalent to some. As for me I prefer someone near my own age. You know life experiences, and have lived long be near retirement age so they will have a lot of time to travel. Now my question is where's all the ladies who would consider a romantic stroll on a beach, hand in hand? As that's one of my life's ambitions, to stroll on exotic beaches.lol | |
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Posted: 4/8/2006 11:09:42 PM | *laughing* Gosh, I read part of the thread and had to post (no sh*te... here is the post)
Life for me took a completely different turn at 50 that I had not expected in my 40s. If the rest of my life continues as it has, I've got at least 5 more different roads less travelled I will journey.
As for men lying about their age..... this thread speaks to it continually, ageism abounds. Yes, I have been lied to.... both by younger males who were much younger then their late 20s  and by males who said they were 50ish when truly they were 70+  | |
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Posted: 4/9/2006 5:31:31 AM | | I do not know why people do not tell the truth men & women both . If your are looking for a date as a starting point for a relationship why would you lie . Perperhaps people think that others will change there minds about appearences once they meet . I do take offense that men lie all the time . This year I will turn 50 and it does not bother me . God I am starting to sound like Dr. Phil . | |
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 4/9/2006 5:38:20 AM | Years ago I dated someone who was 8 years younger than I. It didn't make me feel young... quite the opposite! I don't think I ever felt "old" until then. We had experienced totally different music, ideals and passions growing up because we were of different generations.
One of the first things I do when I get an email from someone new is to check their profile... and their age. Now, there's nothing to stop someone from lying about anything on their profile! But, if they're in their 40's.. especially early 40's.. I'm apt to wish them well on their search... 'cause it isn't stopping at my inbox.
I met someone on here who's profile stated that they were 43. When I told them that they were too young for me, they stated that their brother had set up the profile for them and had put the wrong age on it - which they didn't know how to fix. The man was actually 52. Hmmmmm... So, what to do?
I agree with those who feel that the worst part is the lying. I mean, what a way to start a friendship or more.. by lying! | |
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| Men reaching age 50 +
Posted: 4/9/2006 8:39:14 AM | Thinking aloud here...if some of you are so concerned about surprises regarding age when you agree to meet, ask to and agree to meet them on cam first. I personally don't know anyone who has been online for any length of time that doesn't have one. They are inexpensive and that will eliminate a great degree of the problems I see on here. You will see that they are or aren't their reported weight, height, age. When having men come to meet me from out of my immediate area I "have" asked them to show their ID on cam to verify their name and I do the same. They can cover their street address. Not one has balked at the idea. Some people say that they are in a different area to keep potential stalkers at bay.
I have read all kinds of complaints about this age thing but not many ways to resolve it.
I have dated men my senior and my junior and find it has everything to do with compatibility of interests and not age.
If "some" men and women behave a little out of our society's norm around 50ish, it may be because they are moving beyond the time when they "feel" they can reach their goals in life and "some" are grasping to get it before they "feel" they can't. I, personally, don't pay any attention to age at all. I enjoy the company of men younger and older and must say I find older men more accepting. Makes sense too. They, for the most part, have already to come to accept themselves.
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Posted: 4/10/2006 9:05:45 PM | This thread seems to be mostly about being P!$$ed off at liars. Even more it just sounds like being P!$$ed off.
Pretty ladies + P!$$ed off = unattractive to me.
I believe, verygreeneyes, that you seem to be rationalizing your own vanity by not dating outside your range. God forbid you might have have to tell some one your date or partner is 10 years older than you or 25 lbs overweight.
You call a man a wonderfull person and a liar in the same sentance! How is anyone, any age supposed to understand how to relate with you when you express your self like this!
Women lie too D@mn it. I went on a date with a self proclaimed expert web designer. I have great web design software and figured we'd have something in common. She knew how to do a few things that were called web design 8-9 years ago. When I told her of my software that does what she does and takes minutes to do what takes her weeks she scoffed at the idea, proving to me that she's no expert at all.
She's a liar. I won't see her again. Just another pretty ladiy + P!$$ed off + unattractive to me. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2006 4:42:58 AM | Getting more hits here is no reason to decieve, a lie is a lie is deception. I feel good for 63, even though I'm really only 53... lol.. Ha! I'm not so hard up as to lie.. I feel fantastic about myself without shame for being! to me 40 was yesterday, 30 the day before... don't wanna go back!
I see this often, and its a turnoff for a lady to be 42 and sets her preferences for 42 or lower men to date... what I see is someone I do not want to know anyway.. She has hangups that age will not cure, and I also sense it has something to do with her wanting the upper hand .. seniority maybe? Heck, I don't know... I just fade away.. if a few years makes a difference, so would a favorite color, or food preferences.. I don't have time for a nitpicking relationship, and I count myself lucky to know in advance.. hehe.. I might squeeze the toothpaste wrong or something, then What? I think its a phobia-fear thingy anyway.. like high school stuff, being a grade ahead or behind.. I have friends from 20 to 70 and there is no shortage of conversation to follow, but I don't limit myself to a slot.. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2006 10:46:56 AM | Hi Fanny! It could be the Sicilian ;) I have a lot of that on both sides of my ancestry also. But I wouldn't say that I take that good care of myself, lol. While I eat well, I do smoke, never exercise, and definitely don't drink enough water. I also don't use anything special on my skin. So I know in my case I was just lucky in the genetics department ;)
MacKev - just wondering, but if what you're describing is the woman web designer wrote all her own code from scratch, that's not a lack of expertise...sounds like she simply prefers doing her own coding to using canned software applications. I know many web designers who still write their own code; they simply like it better.
Re rationalizing one's own vanity - everyone has their own preferences, and that includes age range, and no one's preferences are right or wrong - they just *are*. As far as lying goes, if someone lies about something as minor as age or physical attributes, and those things are so easily found out, it makes one wonder what else they may be lying about, or may lie about in the future. If one is self-assured and confident, they should be proud of who they are; they don't need to lie about anything. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2006 11:19:16 AM | | Yes getting old is rough we men wanna be younge. But lying about my age is something I would never do. Why because I feel more refined then when I was a 49 yr old jerk. I have learned to love people as they are be as God made me and we will meet in the middle. Hey nice to email yea sorry I am married Larry Johnson | |
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Posted: 4/11/2006 3:24:05 PM | | I am very proud to be 56 years old. There are the advantages of the wisdom one has accumulated over the years, and some disatvantages as well. Aches and pains, etc. I do love the reduced price or discounts afforded to those in my age catagory. I have dated women from their 20s to their 70s. Its all good. Lying about my age, never. I guess I feel this way because I am very healthy, open minded and relate to all people regardless of age. I am in the music industry and that makes my mind work that way. Physically I am much younger than my years. I am currenty engaged to a 27 year old woman I met on another sight. Age is nothing but a number. One must look at the person inside. Some men lie about their age for one reason and one reason only; All men, no matter how ugly or pathetic they may become are attracted to younger women. So this is their ignorant way of trying to level the playing filed. To all of you old dudes who are trying to be young out there, be true to yourselves and know that any idiot can see through you. Im in a lucky position because I can in fact attract women from the 20s to the 70s. All of the old fools out there should realize that what sets us apart is not just our age but ones uniqueness. That uniqueness will draw to you that which is attracted to your way of being. Dont force it because it never works. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2006 11:43:59 AM | prolibertate,
She did write her own code, I know that code too. The 'canned software' writes code in minutes instead of weeks and doesn't make spelling or syntax errors to troubleshoot later. I was trying to help her along a bit to save her some time. She did exclaim to love writing her own code and canned programs write code that needs to be fixed with just a touch of anger in her voice and her eyes getting wide and all set for a battle!
Being that I've been using a higher level of software for years without ever having to troubleshoot, I knew she has never used it. She claimed to be an expert on web technology but she only knows a little piece of web tech, she lied!
But it really wasn't the lie that bothered me that much. It was the posturing she did to defend her point of view, like I said, set for an argument, As if I was now going to try to convince her of something untrue.
I just said OK. I gave her no battle and that's when she started noticing thin women in the room and declared them anorexic.
I was not there to get into arguments and I was looking for someone that felt the same.
Rationalizing ones own vanity? Preferences? Did I say those were wrong? If I did I didn't mean it is right or wrong. You're right, they just *are*.
I am proud of who I am, I am self assured and confident and I don't lie.
What's bothersome to me is trying to have a conversation with someone that's constantly asking themselves,
"is that a lie?" and always prepared for a showdown. It shows me she's not really paying attention to me. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2006 11:58:48 PM | | People GET THE POINT!!!! Its about lieing NOT AGE.... I've met more guys that clam to be 49 than ever. My conclusion is that winter most have been a cold one to have alllll those men born the same year. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2006 12:14:47 AM | OH MY!!!! I guess the OP dropped the ball. They moved my post and I have never been in the 'Over 45' threads. I missed some great posts. I have also aged a year since I posted this. 42 isn't so bad.
I still maintain: starting anything (even a friendship) with a lie hanging out there is just not appropriate. Of those 6 men I spoke of in my original post, three actually still harass me about being shallow...ho hum! And, their profiles still say 49....LMAO!!!!!
For those ladies posting here that love men over 50 ~ I have renewed faith in love/attraction/relationships. It does take all types.
cotter: Thank you!! It is about the lie, not the age. VGE  | |
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Posted: 4/13/2006 2:18:07 AM | ~MacKevinized~ Did I miss something??? How on earth did some man lying about his age turn around to be my character flaw??? AGE is not the issue in this thread, LIES/LIARS (men and/or women) are what this thread is about. Should you feel that you are qualified to diagnose a person's character or lack thereof, via one small forum post and possibly a profile, I would say you need to replace Dr. Phil or better yet, Sylvia Brown ~ Montel believes in her!!
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Posted: 4/13/2006 9:03:44 AM | Very Green, you have the right to like what you like. Period.
Someone asks you your favorite color, you say (for example) Blue, do they have the right to criticize you for your favorite? Color, age, body type, humor, most elements of peoples personality are a matter of esthetics to another and to ourselves. Dont be pushed around by the thought police.
MOST times I see in "Her"profile that she prefers younger men, I click next, however, once in a while, when her words match (to me) a particularly beautiful set of photos and my stomach tightens as I sit up quickly, and my bone marrow humms, well (blush) I will send a hello, along with a genuine compliment....Ive never spent a dime on the lottery, but, there is always hope she'll write back. Gain without risk is rarely achieved | |
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Posted: 4/16/2006 1:49:30 AM |
Thinking aloud here...if some of you are so concerned about surprises regarding age when you agree to meet, ask to and agree to meet them on cam first. I personally don't know anyone who has been on line for any length of time that doesn't have one.
not so true as I have been one line for over 7 years and have just bought a com for my on line enjoyment | |
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Posted: 4/16/2006 3:08:48 AM | I recently dated a man who was 11 years older than me .. He was charming , polite , funny.We had dinner and talked for hours about things we have in common. He told me one site he lied about his age because of the reaction he got from people in their 40's and even 50's regarding his age.Most not positive.I read him the riot act about the lie As far as I'm concerned They miss a great opportunity getting to know this man. I laugh at thought that one day they may be fortunate enough to live to see 61. At the rate some of them live I doubt it.
I recall a line from a movie I saw recently regarding age and the need to cover up our our laugh lines ..... "Our lines show that we lived " | |
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Posted: 4/16/2006 8:58:29 PM | | being 50+ dosn't mean yo're dead it mean simply you did it to that age, as well as you did it to your 20's and we all should be greatful because at this age you don't have to worry about silly things as when you were twenty doesn't it?you still being full of life and with a lot of plans and goals to get in life | |
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Posted: 4/16/2006 9:28:12 PM |
vrb1955 on 4/16/2006 3:08:48 AM
I recently dated a man who was 11 years older than me .. He was charming , polite , funny.We had dinner and talked for hours about things we have in common. He told me one site he lied about his age because of the reaction he got from people in their 40's and even 50's regarding his age.Most not positive.I read him the riot act about the lie As far as I'm concerned They miss a great opportunity getting to know this man. I laugh at thought that one day they may be fortunate enough to live to see 61. At the rate some of them live I doubt it.
I recall a line from a movie I saw recently regarding age and the need to cover up our our laugh lines ..... "Our lines show that we lived "
You are in the minority it seems. The older I get, the harder it is to find someone to date. Not being one of the beautiful people, or being young, things get pretty limited. I was reading in the AARP magazine that older women are just fine being single without a significant other according to their survey. (Secret Lives of Single Women May & June 2006 issue). Not good for us older guys LOL...
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Posted: 4/16/2006 10:04:53 PM |
Thinking aloud here...if some of you are so concerned about surprises regarding age when you agree to meet, ask to and agree to meet them on cam first. I personally don't know anyone who has been on line for any length of time that doesn't have one.
I don't have one. I've been online in dating sites for 6 years. The reality is: if I have to "examine" someone on web cam to verify their age/weight/eye color/hair color/etc., there is a serious issue before anything really begins.
Sort of funny really ~ I posted this, forgot about it, came back ~ and I'm getting the same feeling I got when it was first posted....people are responding to the thread as if it were about AGE....this is NOT about age. It's about lying/liars. Nothing more, nothing less. Truthfully, I don't care how old or mature or young or immature someone is, because I'm not seeking anything that would dictate that being important. What I have come to realize is that I detest liars. They waste my time and I don't even want a friendship with anyone who can't be honest about something as silly as their age.
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