| Men Are Jerks!
Posted: 3/28/2006 4:08:29 PM | w00t, Jerk checking in...
WHO WANTS SOME???
jk.
I'm not a jerk, even though I sometimes come across here as one. Women are just as bad. Men may be jerks, but women cut deep, I mean deep. It's amazing how cold a woman can be. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 4:22:25 PM | warrior You're right some women can be cold. I've seen it and it just stinks. Believe me, I'm sure all of us at times aren't proud of the behavior of one of the specimens of our gender. The thing is that here, especially, the men outnumber the women by a decent ratio. So some women certainly have more choices and it's usually the guys making the first contact anyway. I know it seems lopsided. It maybe is. Men have the candy store/shopper mentality too trust me. Quite often, when you're trying to nail them down to a meet because you're just tired of yapping on the phone they disappear. Call you 6 months later or email hey how are you doing what's up. haha Who are you? THey don't realize in 6 months you've probably had a hundred or more emails and since they weren't interested enough to spend half an hour chatting over a cold one, you more or less just wrote them off. It goes both ways. Everyone gets to a point sometimes, gee, what a waste of time. Darn, I could have knit a cover for an RV in the time I'm goofing off here. But at the same time, we have that one dangling shred of hope that maybe the next one. Maybe tomorrow Mr/Ms Wonderful will sign up, find me and it'll be happiness ever after. And that's not a bad thing. In the meantime we keep plodding along, trying to keep our spirits up and not get jaded.
There are really LOTS of awesome guys here. Many of my friends here are guys, I think they're all terrific. And we all hang together, give each other a pep talk or let each other rant and cry on each other's shoulders and say it's gonna be better. It's great to be able to make those friends here. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 4:48:20 PM | Have I told you lately that I love you bucsgirl?  | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 4:58:02 PM | Noticed that you're a Christian, so I can see where your folks would want to approve of your date before you could even call them a "date".
To tell you the truth, a move like that would give me the heebie-jeebies. While I would not have stood you up, I may have cancelled, as meeting the parents on the first date is a No-No to me, sends up the red flag that you may be taking it wayyyy too fast.
Good luck, don't listen to the stupid comments from some of the ppl here.
Those must be the jerks you're referring to. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 5:01:28 PM | msg 102 yeah the word your looking! for is BITTER!  | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 5:07:38 PM | how bout that group hug now.....geesh..no one wants a hug   | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 5:09:15 PM | i'll say it again, genderising and stereotyping isn't the way to go.
we are all in different yet same places in life; we are human. it doesn't make us better or worse than anyone else, it just makes us uniquely different. with some similiar desires, perceptions and traits. and some different too, soo, now what's all this fuss about? | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 5:14:02 PM | That's what I'm talking about. My dear friend twlight, love you too, is a great lady, the real deal.
That's the thing anyone can be a jerk. Didn't we learn that in elementary school? Kids can be SO mean, some adults are just taller, bigger kids. Some don't grow up. But when you find those that do, it's great. Finding a terrific person and having a great friendship I realize this IS a dating site, but making great friends is just an added bonus. There are a lot of awesome people here. And there are plenty that aren't. Just keep it simple, the golden rule works real well, I've found. Treat everyone how you would like to be treated, whether they deserve it or not. If they don't at least you can feel good about yourself, because you did the right thing. And who knows, one of those friends may become the love of your life. It happens, really.
I'm always up for a hug, crazychic. Glad you stayed! | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 5:17:06 PM | | bucsgirl ty..im glad i did too..... | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 5:49:02 PM | i think abusive men and overcontroling verbal abusive and emotional abusive men are jerks some r nice but not the blackmailers and liars and those that blow woman off are total a--holes of the year ive had alot of bad dating experiences and tell u the truth i hate some of them especially the ones that goes by looks - so there guys thats why im disgusted with them men r suppose to treat woman with respect and love - so do it by kk | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 6:00:06 PM | | Yep... men are jerks... so are gals... people suck! Get over it! | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 6:10:47 PM | | kitkat With no disrespect, but women should treat men with respect and love too. It's not a matter of entitlement, it's about humanity. Women who feel or expect to be treated a certain way by men, well that's great. It's not about who treats who better, ideally they both should. Women by their gender are no more entitled to respect than men are. Sorry, that's just how I think. And I don't know about you, but for me I can give it first. I can and I have and I will. It works for me, I love it, I'm a happy, loving person and noone will change that. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 10:05:57 PM | ya know...not for nuthin but its kinda of funny reading the gender bashing stuff here of all places. It's like complaining about Fords while shopping for one at the local dealship.
Me..I kinda like the jer......err....I mean men. | |
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| people can be Jerks!
Posted: 3/28/2006 10:13:52 PM | | people can be jerks, but if it wasn't for them, then how would you be able to appreciate the "nice" guys? | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 10:32:48 PM | anyways back to southern.....try meetin them first an gettin to know them on a personal level by yourself....before takin them home to see mom an dad.
she did apologe people....take a chill pill ...member shes only 18 | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 10:38:29 PM | Bucsgirl...
I am starting to have a healthier respect for some women's opinions of men's feelings.....don't stop now.... | |
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Posted: 3/29/2006 2:15:00 AM | southerncherry,
Could it be possible, that he made a few false comments on his profile? You hit it off online etc its all good because you believe he is who his profile says he is. You talk back and forth amazed that you can find someone that you click with.....but he is telling you everything you want to hear just so it will continue. When it comes to meeting....he runs the other way - why? because hes most likely a fraud.
I may be wrong but I have seen & heard of it done a million times. | |
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Posted: 3/29/2006 7:15:43 AM | You all have to keep your responses and thoughts in perspective!!
The OP is 18 years old, living with her family, Christian, from the south..... ummmmm -- some people's advice/suggestions on here wouldn't be helpful for her and would be inappropriate considering her age and background of the values/morals/belief system of where she's raised....
OP: The bottom line is, some people are idiots no matter what and some people are better than that. Not every person you come in contact with will have your best interests at heart....... Just be safe in whatever you do!
....And don't put too much into it in the beginning..... it could have sounded more like "someone might swing by" to your parents instead of it appearing to be this HUGE date or something - you could have at least saved face there.....
Not everything works out. Let it go, but learn from your experiences...
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Posted: 3/29/2006 7:26:42 AM | | I'm pretty sure it's un-Christian to bash an entire gender. | |
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Posted: 5/10/2006 10:37:03 PM | advice: never judge all by the actions of a few, or you'll end up alone and bitter
unless one meets all, one can't say all | |
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Posted: 5/11/2006 4:12:40 AM | | I agree with hayzeus havent we all done that kind of thing I know I have | |
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Posted: 5/20/2006 2:55:28 AM | I guess women aren't the only ones that make up excuses or just decides to stand up their dates, give out fake numbers, or never call.
I guess it goes both ways. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2006 3:08:51 AM | | But one can say majority with facts....So who cares....Personally i gave up years ago....You women on here and everywhere else act like being a jerk is bad or something...So far from the truth...Look what kind of man majority of women go with...I stated it before and i will state it again...There is no shortage of women for jerks...They worship the ground they walk on. | |
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Posted: 5/20/2006 5:47:12 AM | southerncherry,,,,,have you spoken to this guy since? Maybe he was a bit freaked out about meeting your parents and just didnt know how to tell you. I think its kinda nice that your parents wanted to meet this young man that their daughter had a date with. Too often some parents dont care what their kids are doing or who they are doing it with.
Id find out first about his not calling you. If he did blow you off tho,,,,,hey its his loss and there'll be plenty more out there for you to meet. :)
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