| Men Are Jerks!
Posted: 6/3/2006 10:46:20 AM | | My advice is to meet the guy yourself first before you have him meet your parents. No wonder he didn't show up. I wouldn't either. That is way to much presure. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2006 10:48:55 AM |
which is written all over your lil " white trailer trash" forehead.
That's Miss white trailer trash to you!
Humph! Guess I showed her | |
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Posted: 6/3/2006 11:04:11 AM | | people let this post go! its old im glad sum of yall find it very funny cause theres nothin wrong with laughing and maybe thats what its there for like i said b4 in my other post not all men are jerks.he was a jerk cause he was married and had a kid. yea i was mad at first cause he didnt say nothin but now i see why he did it its cause his wife was after him.Now that after i talk to his wife she saids hes a abuser,he didnt want to see his daughter anymore and the computer was his life he like playing with girls minds and hearts cause he gets off on that but yet he still wants her back.shes already move on with her life and is doing great with out him.so as i ment for sum men are jerks is cause if u have a good wife and a kid you should be with them if u love them i mean there is no since in haveing that little girl or boy grow up with out a daddy around. cheating is wrong and if ur going to do go ahead and tell the person.dont try and sneck around cause ur going to get caught and the truth will come out one way or another. yall can talk about what i wrote and whats on my profile i dont care its there and untill yall step in my shoes then dont judge me. yall dont know me and i dont know yall but what i do know is i been thur a hell of alot that most of you havent been in.so again i am sorry for posting this in the first place i wanted to get peoples two cent about thats why i posted it i didnt mean to make it sound as bad as i did and im sorry guys please dont take it too heart i didnt mean nothin by it. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2006 11:28:00 AM | I understand you were needing to vent - nothing wrong with that
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Posted: 6/3/2006 11:58:11 AM | This is why when you start chatting you get to a coffee date sooner than later, at the least, and take it from there. You are a beautiful gal and he is nuts to say the least but I believe meeting fairly early and see where it goes. Both invites were with groups of people that you knew but he did not. In fact he really did not know you either (except for cyber, DUH) and I can see why he second guessed it. I would not have but that's me.
PS: If it's any comfort, some woman do the same thing. It's not a guy thing but a person thing. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2006 12:22:31 PM | this statement is such a generalisation
it's rediculous.
every body is different.
some people are nice. others are not so nice. but people are individuals not a collective of their gender so quit with the generalisations already. there are so many forum starters that like to generalise in regards to gender (along with many other things).
open your mind up a little.
it might do you some good
but yes, if you are just using the forum to vent than....go right ahead, i'll just move on to the next forum where people aren't using this to vent.
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Posted: 6/3/2006 12:26:12 PM | ^^^
heidi...I so agree with you. I can't stand the sweeping generalizations that are out there. They lead to nothing but misconceptions.
Can I buy you dinner some night? Ooops, you're several thousand km's away. Well, the first round is on me regardless! | |
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Posted: 6/3/2006 12:30:23 PM | From what it sounds like and the reason you feel that you got hurt so bad is that you got attached, perhaps fantasized a bit more then you should have, your expectations where too high? Best guess?? And you probably put fear into him by mentioning parents; it should have been away from the house no matter what. Always first meets are at a mall or a coffee shop where there are other people. Your young so chalk it up to experience points and leave it with that. You learned something new today!!! How not to handle it and what to do the next time.
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Posted: 6/3/2006 1:28:12 PM | I had an online friend do that to me a few times after corresponding for several months. Always a new excuse not to meet but full of conversation in all his emails. After a year and had never met, I came to the conclusion he was probably married and changed my email address. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2006 4:35:01 PM | | Rule number one, first date never entails parents,,,ever ever ever..I would have run too. He should meet you and only you. When you introduce a possible mate to your parents, i mean sheeshh, it should be once it serious enough and youre BOTH COMFORTABLE with it. When you meet someone off the net, first meetings are always just first meetings, they arent considered a date. If you like each other and make plans to see each other again for dinner and drinks, then thats a date..no parents still. All men are not like that, all men dont treat women like crap or shit, give the good ones a chance. Trust me there are thousands of them on pof alone, and theres always one bad apple in the crowd, and the same rule applies to women... | |
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Posted: 6/3/2006 4:40:12 PM | | To tell you the truth, I have some doubt I would EVER want to meet THESE parents.... | |
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Posted: 6/3/2006 4:43:47 PM |   Ya,Ya,Ya,
Men are Jerks and Women are Witches
But we all enjoy the same things... ...So enough with The Big Mack Atack!!!
Just treat me OK and I will become your Love'n Man... | |
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Posted: 6/3/2006 4:55:08 PM | | Ive had two bad experiences off this site but Im not gonna let it get me down. Not all guys are ***holes just waiting to hurt the next girl they talk to. There ARE really good guys out there. Hopefully you were just venting because otherwise you just totally let this guy get you down and for what?? You dont know him, you'll never talk to him again, neither you nor him have any commitment to one another and come on...he didnt care enough to even let you know he wasnt going to call so why waste your time trying to figure out why?? If he doesnt care why should you?? All people should have this frame of mind. I dont know anyone that has come on this site and had the best of luck. Everyone has their horror stories so I say suck it up and hang in there. You'll find one of the good guys. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2006 5:08:27 PM | | There is an old saying about a couple that moved to a new town. They asked what the neighbors were like, and a guy asked back what were they like where you came from. They replied they were jerks, and the guy replied thats how they are here too. Another couple moving in asked the same guy what are the neighbors like, he asked what were they like where you came from.They replied they were the best, the guy said you will find your new neighbors the same. The point is me are not jerks, no more than women are. There are people who are jerks, and you are either attracted to the bad boys, or your self esteem is very low, and you gravitate towards jerks feeling they are all you deserve. You wont find the answer anywhere but within. You may need counseling, especially if you intend to go into law enforcement. I wish you well, hmm by the way your dad is a man, is he a jerk too. Do you go to church? Is your preacher a jerk? The majority of the people in law enforcement are men, with the way you feel why would you pick that area to work. Maybe you should try, and get a job like nursing dominated by women. A women with phycological problems carrying a gun, sounds like a recipe for disaster. I wish you well, and God Bless. Ps I worked in law enforcement, so would be surrounded by people like me. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2006 7:53:38 PM | | There is a John Waters film that covers ALL of this in great detail... entitled "Pink Flamingos". | |
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Posted: 6/3/2006 7:54:59 PM | | okay the deal about my parents was because i meet guys off line never met them b4 and theres no mall no where to meet them in my town cause its a dead town basely. i still live with my parents at that time and growing up my dad is strict and wouldnt let me do nothing just basely kept me on house arrest cause he didnt want me to screw up like my brother did and get in trouble. so thats why my dad wanted to meet him b4 he let me go off with him anywhere...wouldnt u want to meet who ever takeing ur daughter or want to know who ur kids are hanging out with. yeah i know my dad a jerk. again i know its not just men woman can be jerks too i done said i was sorry if it hurt any guys feelings. i can sit here and try to explan to everyone my life style but there will be sum that wont get what im trying to say.basely my dad didnt let me go to town to meet anybody and i dont have any friends in this town cause there backstabbers.so thats why most of my friends are from the internet. yeah lots of guys came and saw me and had no problem saying hey and who he is to my dad and then bam we left and went and done our own thing.it was only 4mins of the guys time to say hey its not like i was takeing him to meet for like saying hes the one or what not...its not like that.its just so my dad will see im in good hands so he can just back off...i accept who i am,what i look like and if people dont like that oh well.its my life and what i do or think its my business and my choice.i wanna go in the law eniforcement because i wanna help people and save kids lives.so hopefully yall will understand everything now and if u still dont tell me what you dont understand and ill answer. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2006 9:49:29 PM | A couple good rules to go by... Think before you post... And don't post while angry.
Men make up at least half who view these forums... And even the title alone is quite insulting to them.
There are many good men out there. If you radiate negativity, you will attract jerks. Plain and simple. Once you decide to be at peace with yourself and fill your life with happiness, you will notice that good men will come your way... Well, you would still have to weed out the odd wierdo but still... | |
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Posted: 6/3/2006 9:51:53 PM | well golllllllllllllly
yeah what she said up there above me ^
also growing up a bit (I don't mean height) will help matters too.
hang in there. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2006 10:01:47 PM | | I think everyone needs to vent now and again. I'm getting a little frustrated myself. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2006 4:24:04 AM | | you see the minute you give a woman your attention , or tell them you love them they get bored with the guy because the excitement is over . Its a rule that you never tell a woman that youll love her because not even twenty minutes later shes out the door . its the truth and seen it happen many times to my friends . | |
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Posted: 6/4/2006 7:52:07 AM | butterfly has it right. Yes, as others have said it's good to vent. The forums, however is not the place for that. It won't help you attract anyone, some people must totally forget that their posts show up on their profile. 
If you need to vent, call up a friend or write in a journal. Go take a long walk, do something to distract yourself. When you cool down, then you can post, it's obvious when people post when they're angry. You're also more likely to break the rules and either get a time out or permanent ban. If you're not sure if you should post, then don't. Take a few minutes and come back later.
Common sense and self control go a long way.  | |
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Posted: 6/4/2006 8:24:53 AM | | Well, I think some people are being very mean. I know exactly how upset you would be. I do not like when ANYONE tells me they are going to do something and then they do not. I have friends that change their minds all of the time about where we are going, to if they are going, etc. I was dating a nice guy, but sometimes he would say WE ARE GOING TO DO THIS, etc...but then changed his mind before it happened. I do not think he was a jerk or anything, but just found he wanted to do something different at the time. I used to date one guy many years ago that would make dates and not show or come really late past when we were supposed to go somewhere.....and I would be pissed and we would fight. BUT now that I look back, hey at least he eventually came so he must have wanted to be with me after he got all of his running around out of his system. I don't think it is right to make someone sit around and wait, etc...which I would never do...I would just get up and go do something with friends, or myself. What I really know is that you have to focus on you and your feelings, and your personal life. What do you want for yourself? What kind of career do you want and if you already have one, do you want to improve on yourself? ANY HOBBIES YOU CAN DO THAT YOU LOVE???? When you have yourself fulfilled, you will not worry about how another guy treats you, or how a friend may treat you, as you are totally strong inside and you realize it is that person's loss that they do not want to be with you. When you have confidence in who you are and what you plan to do with your life, you will attract the kind of people that will not keep you hanging, or that will not do things that are different than you expect. I hope that does not sound mean either, as I am not a mean person. I am really sorry that you have felt such disappointment at such an early age. Do not let it make you bitter..as at my age, I have grown to be very non trusting and it affects me very badly. BUT, many life's circumstances made me this way and I can say it was from relationships that I HAD WITH MEN....some were not wanted by me and they did force me - and other parts were I chose men who would not keep their word...I did not want an honest man at that time. I am not bashing men, cause women are just as bad about all this too. BUT, my point is, I have set myself up to NOT TRUST in my life - and that gets into the way of every relationship that I try to have....and it is a terrible feeling. BUT is no one's fault but mine, as I am the one who allows these feelings, has the thoughts, reacts with actions. I need to change my feelings and that will change how I act to other people or who I choose to date, etc. HOPE I HAVE NOT BORED YOU!!!!!! TAKE CARE AND GOOD LUCK IN FINDING SOMEONE SUITABLE TO YOUR NEEDS AND WHO FITS IN WITH YOUR PERSONALITY AND ESPECIALLY YOUR FAMILY, as it seems important to you. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2006 8:38:39 AM | Lonely chick, are you her mother, because you sound like a 30 year older version.
How much did you read?
She wanted this guy to do the "meet the parents" thing on the FIRST DATE!!! That should be maybe 10 dates into the relationship. No man, or in this case no boy, wants to be put under the parent's microscope before they even go out.
Your whole post was about what you do with men. She was going on a date with a BOY. The mental aspect at 18 years old is a lot different than when they are REALLY adults and not just LEGALLY adults.
You have issues. I hope you find yourself and some inner peace very soon. We are not all one big generic man. Every one of us are different. Your diatribe was all about being punctual and changing plans without your approval. I upset women because I am on time or early. Had that been the case with you, I am 100% certain you would be on here screaming "And he was ALWAYS early, coming over before I was ready.
Try herbal tea with ginseng, maybe some St John's Wort, and relax. Vent your anger with a psychologist that will take your $85 an hour and tell you that you are right and it's okay.
But please do not condemn an entire gender because you picked out a jerk.
Have a great life. | |
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Posted: 6/4/2006 9:26:31 AM | | figment....not so hot women need love too.....jerk | |
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Posted: 6/4/2006 1:25:46 PM | Eastsideeddie: LOL. If I did not know better I believe I would be offended. I AM old enough to be her mother. SORRY! I did not mean to sound like I was bashing men. Most of my friends are men and I love them, party with them, talk business with them, etc. I LOVE THEM! AND as far as going to a psychologist and paying them 85.00...I AM A THERAPIST and actually get paid the big bucks TO ME.........so I have lots of colleagues that I can talk to for free. I will have to go back and read my post, I was trying to be very open and fair to everyone, and to encourage empowerment to a young girl. Sorry if I upset you in some way! BY THE WAY, I like your saxaphone. VERY NICE!  | |
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