| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 1:59:43 PM | He claimed he was calling his best friend and he happened to be at her house. He moved in there because he always liked her but he had never cheated....just fantasized....you name it. We all lived in a housing complex and his best friend was 3 units away, and the woman he was cheating with was 4 units away(right next to the best friend). He also offered for me to babysit for free for this woman while we were still together, his excuse for that was that I was at home anyway so he didn't think I would mind  ...bought a truck then immediately lent it to her while he was on the road(he was a truck driver), and said it was because she needed a vehicle for getting to work. WTF?? why was that OUR problem?? Just so many signs and SO many excuses..... | |
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| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 2:05:41 PM | | i'm almost 23 years old. all my friends are either in long term relationships or getting married. all of them. how can i be around them now? and y cant i stop crying? | |
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| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 2:13:47 PM | | Get mad girl. He cheated or at least gave you enough reason to think he was. You want to know how to get passed it...get pissed. Look at the pain your in now, he helped cause that...get mad. Then get smart. Realize it takes two to make it happen and it takes two to break it. No matter how perfect a couple everyone thought you were (even you) obviously there was something beneath the surface that just wasnt right. (speaking from experience of having a 16 year "happy" marriage break up). Get smart, find out who you are without him. Was there something you wanted to learn that you didnt have time for? (I learned to throw pottery and I am good at it) Some place you always wanted to go that he wasn't interested in? Wallow for a while but this is just a momentary hiccup in your life. You make it great, not who you are with. Now show the little bugger what he lost by moving on and being better than ever! | |
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~iiCe~
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Joined: 7/26/2005
Msg: 29 | |
| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 2:19:27 PM | Call you doctor... get some xanax... to get past the pain... and you will get past it... just takes time to detox off of someone...
I had an ex who cheated... he still to this day denies it... says the girl who's house he was at was his friends girl... funny cuz he moved in with her... wonder if his friend cared??? doesn't matter his cousin sold him down the river and told me... but to me... even if I was wrong about the cheating... the second I felt like I couldn't trust him... we needed to be done... can't live like that... | |
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| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 2:20:06 PM | | Count your blessings. You could have found out later, after you were pregnant with his child, or married. Whether you should move on is not a question, thats is just common sense. Now what you have to consider is why you were attracted to this guy, and what you can do to choose more wisely last time. Good luck, and God Bless. Lou | |
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| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 2:20:09 PM | Why, because a**** guy like can get caught in action. In the bed and all and still he will tell you what you saw wasn't what you thought you saw. Yes, you're the crazy one. And if he's real good at it, he'll make you start to question your on eyes.
If you know in your heart and mind that it happened, then it did. I know that it's very hurtful, but you'll be better off if you come to terms with the what you know is the truth even if this guy never does. | |
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| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 2:36:36 PM | | I just want to tell you Im so sorry for your pain. I got dumped a few months ago then lost my dog and my job in that order. YOU WILL GET THOUGH THIS. Most of my fellow posters have all felt heartbreak at one time or another. Its not an easy road. I didnt go to work a couple of times, didnt want to be with my friends. But u need to be with friends and stay busy. I volunteer at 2 seperate humane societys . And its weird but Ive been all of a sudden been getting lots of attention from some very nice prospects. (2 doctors!!) lol Things will fall in place soon but it wont happen overnight. Give yourself time to grieve and with every passing day I promise you things will get better. I know its so easy to say. But please have alot of selfworth dont let any guy think u are any less then you are. God bless you and plesae lets us know how you are doing. And dont take him his things, let him come and get them. Karen | |
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| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 2:57:31 PM | | I know exactly how you feel, and I have good news for you: Let time pass, and you will find someone else. Years ago, I thought I would NEVER get over a girl who stopped seeing me after we dated six months...and I too wanted to die. But I DID get over her! If you are positive your boyfriend was cheating, confront him with it. Tell him in no uncertain terms how hurt and angry he has made you, and get it out of your system. And be glad this happened before you got married. Believe me, like this website is titled, there are "plenty of fish" out there...good men who won't run around on you. And one other word of advice: Start dating again fast, but don't fall for somebody else too soon, or what you think is attraction may just be "rebound." God bless you. | |
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| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 3:06:32 PM | | you give him his stuff you smile and dont ever let him know how you feel, whatever you do dont let him know you are hurting, if he cant admit to cheating he never will and u will never be happy in this relationship because you will never be sure, then you go home open bottle of wine and pour it out to a mate hard but you ll get there | |
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| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 3:09:19 PM | | just read some of your replys please dont think tht rushing out and dating again will get you there you need time to heal and lick your wound yes if you feel like it go out and enjoy life but take time to lick your wounds | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 3:13:40 PM | | try not to take it personaally it is a shame but so many asss holes out there and we can all get caught up by them their stories always sound beleivable and we feel like we been stupid after,,, not worth it ,, but why would we think they would lie, it is his fallibilty not yours you an honest person he not, move on and try to find to a person who has the honesty you looking for might take ;you a bit of time but at least he will be the right one | |
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 37 | |
| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 3:26:40 PM | | Ya know, he cheated, you were able to find out now rather than 10 years down the road, be happy you know. Only thing your losing out on is your B-day present, I guess you should of waited til after it lol | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 3:34:34 PM | yes..run and run like the wind. This happened to me except I was the other woman and did not know until we had been dating for almost 2 months. He had a girlfriend for 6 months and She called me after going through his stuff. I did not know this woman even existed but after going thru his stuff she knew he called me everyday, the flowers he had sent..everything. When I confronted him he says "what r u talking about?" As if...
He then proceeds to say all the things cheaters say...I was going to tell you about her, I was getting ready to break it off with her, your the one I love yada yada yada. Two days later...he says he wasn't thinking clearly he is confused and he did not realize his love for her was so strong..yeah right. I drove a 3 hour trip in 2 hours.
He is not worth your grief girl! Not one moment..he is a cheater period. I know you feel like dying..so did I..did not eat for over a week. But give it some time..you will get better..time does heal all wounds. YOu deserve to be treated with respect and if he cheats he does not respect you, her or himself.
Run like the wind! | |
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| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 3:35:26 PM | | i appreciate the words of support. i just got back from meeting him. i wanted to talk to him so bad. he got in his car and tried to speed off, i banged on the window, he asked for his things. i was about to give them to him and then i asked if i could talk to him and he said forget it and just sped off. im not trying to get together with him, i just need closure. y wont he talk to me??? | |
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~iiCe~
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Joined: 7/26/2005
Msg: 40 | |
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| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 3:37:21 PM | salmsolo,
u dated this guy for 2 months, i dated this one for 3 years!!! i dont know if you can imagine how i feel | |
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| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 3:38:27 PM | | do you guys thing i shoulda waited to go on a full paid trip to south beach and get a b-day present then do this? | |
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| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 3:39:32 PM | You will get over it, with time of course...Look at it as a new beginning in your life...You will come across good things beyond what you think is possible. Life is beautiful, be strong and forget him....
IT'S HIS LOSS!!! Cheaters are unhappy people, and he is obviously not at peace with life. You don't want that around you,do you??
One day, once you will be over with this pain, you will look back and think of him and you will feel like it was a good riddance and you will feel good that he is no longer around.
He was too coward to be honest with you so that also mean he is too coward to be honest with his own self. He will get what he deserves, don't worry. What goes around, comes around.
He is doing you a favor, be good to yourself, Good luck!!
PP | |
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| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 3:43:49 PM | | Sneaky, I used to skip school all the time, my mom would get the call, come upstairs and ask me why I was not at school. I would deny it until i was blue in the face eventhough she knew and I knew she knew. I would rather argue I did nothing than discuss why I was doing it. Some people will deny things for no reason at all, others because of their shame or guilt. You should be thankful that you have a chance to start over right now and not spend 10 years in some unhealthy relationship where you not only end up hating him, but yourself. YOur life is not over, a new chapter is just beginning. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 3:51:33 PM | | I know what you mean..I feel like dying right now also....also..because of broken heart syndrome..it really hurts wehn you put your heart into soemthing..only to find that person had a "first choice"..and goes right to her.. | |
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Joined: 1/12/2006
Msg: 46 | |
| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 3:52:00 PM | | I just can't believe that people "feel like dying" when a relationship ends. This is the second forum I have read that someone has said that. | |
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Joined: 2/23/2006
Msg: 47 | |
| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 4:07:37 PM | ill share my story, i am 21, me and my ex would have had our 4th year anniversary on may 28th this year, she left me on february 13th 2006, i was devasted and feel used, im still feeling affects from it and at times seem like im losing my mind, i never would have thought about dying, but im not gonna lie, i have over the past two months, it is never worth it, i know exactly how you feel, all the memories and feelings surface from time to time but just gotta try and look past them. the worst part about it was when i was past the anger stage and all i could think about was the good times, i am now back at an anger stage and really feel i am better off without her, shes not what i wanted anyway if shes the tyoe of person who could do what she did
just keep your head up and try to be with your friends more or make new friends, just find people to talk too
Steve | |
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| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 4:22:24 PM | I don't hit this board much so maybe I'm missing something. This thread just caught my eye. You know he cheated because another girl told you, a phone bill, something about a web page and a couple of favors to a neighbor. It sounds fishy yes. Is it proof positive? I'm not so sure. Who is the girl you asked? Does she have any ulterior motives (like maybe she wants to date him) to break you two up? How well do you know and trust her? As far as the remark goes about someone that doesn't want their privacy invaded has the most to hide, I say that's a crock. I don't have anything to hide but I damn sure don't want someone going through my stuff. It shows direspect and distrust. I would leave someone over that. It would make me mad enough to not want to talk to someone again. I may be way off here but I just don't see these few things as a definite sign that he was cheating. Like I said I don't frequent this forum much so maybe I'm missing something. Just a thought that maybe you might owe an apology for going through his things and he may be innocent. I'd want to know more before I threw something like this away. I mean he was taking you on vacation for your birthday. In my experience guys that are cheating usually take the one they are cheating with, not their SO. Just another outlook.
Luna | |
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| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 4:27:51 PM | | After months of sneaking around?...hmm sounds like you had gut feeling he was messing around but just had to confirm it. I assume you got on the personals..I call it.."going around the back door and peeping inside"..Obviously the trust was not there ..I would have printed out the "proof" and shoved it his his face with a coconut cream pie( YEAHHHH) and walked away..he is just a jerk...you deserve more than a jerkhead that would try to get out of getting you anything for your birthday anyway...sorry bout' that chicky baby..but I am sure you will life a long life..fate has something special for you...wait and see.. | |
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| i feel like dying
Posted: 3/26/2006 4:37:16 PM | Are you crazy!Dont be such a whimp! burn his junk then give him his cra p ina box and denie how it got like that! he isnt worth the effort...Life is short! So live live it!
Ami | |
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