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Posted: 3/28/2006 9:59:27 AM | Um that wouls be 'no shock there' not ther.
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Posted: 3/28/2006 9:59:59 AM | OMG, this is funny. I love it when people correct people's speling and then mispell.
Your proof is a girl friends statement? Did she screw him? Or was she there? DO YOU REALLY have proof? | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 10:01:34 AM | SPELL MUCH? That would be would not wouls -
I'll get it rite...Look on the brite side by the time i do u will be WELL over this guy if i keep going at this rate. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 10:01:41 AM | SPELL MUCH? That would be would not wouls -
I'll get it rite...Look on the brite side by the time i do u will be WELL over this guy if i keep going at this rate. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 10:01:52 AM | | yes, that is enough. she has no interest in him. why would she lie? there is no reason for her to lie | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 10:02:54 AM | The funny thing is it is me correcting my spelling - Now look double posts! I give up!!!!! | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 10:06:14 AM | Just read my original advice and ignore the ensuing freakshow. I think it's last post on page 3 -
Much luck hon- | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 2:53:01 PM |
warrior, u sound just like him. no it is not an option, i wish he would admit but i have enough to convict him and that's all that matters.
Oh really now?
Yeah the word of another woman sure is 'concrete proof' that would stand up real well in any court... give me a break.
This is what pisses me off about women. They go entirely by how they feel. No real evidence, no proof that he did anything wrong, yet this chick blows up on him and searches through his stuff, and won't believe a word he says. What the crap is he supposed to do? I'd run, and fast. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 3:37:35 PM | | you know what i know the feeling.your story is almost like everything to a T on what i went threw and the only thing you can do is get him away from you.The healing part is the worst but dont worrie then end is near you will feel better eventually.I just got dumped yesterday for resons i dont even know fully but it sucks big time.specialy when u live with then | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 4:04:09 PM |
Lose the liar - check out my profile - that isn't real - that's the 2nd time in 6 months I caught the loser - nothing but lies - that profile was to catch him again - he wasn't worthy of my company - he's a non-stop lying pig and he FREAKED on me when I CAUGHT HIM - he busted open my bottom lip (4 stitches) because I told him I'd just spoken with one of his other girlfriends (I had) for 2 hours - he didn't try to defend himself - just that I was hallucinating and imagining all of this - finding the earrings in his bed, all kinds of lies - never-ending - it still hurts, though.......................I can't deny that
See, this is a little different. This guy abused this poor woman and even punched her. If I caught a guy doing that, I would knock his teeth out. She obviously has proof. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 4:07:27 PM | Dear Imsneaky,
Believe me when I tell you I know how you feel, one possible thing you might try with your ex boyfriend is telling him that, as far as you're concerned, the very worst part of his misconduct is his lying to you... his cowardice...
However, I can't help but also ask you (imsneaky) how you know the woman you mention above was telling the truth about your boyfriend as it might also have been she who lied... one of many possible scenarios which come to mind being that this other woman wants your boyfriend for herself, telling you he was unfaithful in hopes you dump him at which she enters "stage right".
Yet with all that out of the way I understand how you feel, one way of moving on that comes to mind would be simply look for someone else to take his place. That, and if you were living together when all this happened I'd look for a new place, too, if possible -- get away from anything which might remind you of the guy in question.
-- Sincerely Yours,
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Posted: 3/28/2006 5:12:44 PM | | Dear Imsneaky..they say there is nothing better to get over an old love like a new love...move on..let the pain go and find a new love. There are good decent guys out there he just wasn't one of them. Good Luck to you girl! | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 5:13:52 PM | | My dear, you cannot love someone that does not love you.., and beleive me..men don'tfee llove the way we do..I myself am suffering from a broken heart!! | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 7:24:28 PM | | Just look him directly in the eye, tell him you know he cheated and he is to much of a coward to admit it and move on. Sometimes you could stick around forever hung up on him needing to admit it..you know he cheated good enough. He can be a loser and lie about it all he likes. He knows what he did. Just tell him you know and now its over and tell him to never speak to you again. End of Story. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 7:39:31 PM | So someone told you he did something and you took their word over his automatically?
I don't blame him for breaking upw ith you. You violated his trust.
Message to ALL women:
Not all guys are sneaky ***holes only out to cheat.
You fugged up, ok, get over it, take some tiem for yoruself and soul search as to why you are so untrusting. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 7:55:34 PM | To the woman that posted this about the man who hit her and also "Imsneaky"...there is a really great website that I have stumbled on that discusses personality disorders - mainly of men that don't have a real ability "to love" and that "abuse". http://samvak.tripod.com/abuse.html
"The open and explicit abuse of another person. Threatening, coercing, beating, lying, berating, demeaning, chastising, insulting, humiliating, exploiting, ignoring ("silent treatment"), devaluing, unceremoniously discarding, verbal abuse, physical abuse and sexual abuse are all forms of overt abuse." There are two other types of abuse on this website page.
After reviewing the site you can decide if it applies to your situation. If it does, it might provide you some answers on "why he cheated" "why he lied" "what was the last 3 years for" "how could a person that seemed 'so right' be 'so wrong'" and "where to go from here" I wish I would have gotten hold of this information many years ago!!!!!
And I want to say that normal people that don't have anything to hide and that really care for someone are willing to be truthful, open, upfront, honest and talk to those people. I am not saying that people don't get angry and sometimes I can stay angry for a couple of days...but when I get over the "anger", I say "ok, let's go forward". Whether he cheated or not (though it sounds pretty conclusive)...he was not willing to be open with you and he tried to "hide" which makes him untrustworthy. Could you live your entire life with that gut wrenching feeling that he was always doing something behind your back especially with another girl? That is the worst feeling - sickening and betrayal from the person that is suppose to love you the most and that you love! That is no way to go through life either. So, if when you think about how bad you miss him now, think about the inhumane, betrayal, belittling, foolish way that it would make you feel being with him for any longer. You speak alot about status (your friends from work and your Ex) So in regards to "status" while you are still healing...you can pat yourself on the back and say, I felt like something was wrong, I investigated it, and I am not going to be a door mat for anyone, I am the strong one and I kicked that low-life pharmacist to the curb (you could even joke and say the South Beach Condo had roaches anyway - ha!) A person that tries to strip you of the person you are - which is a person that would lie, cheat, abandon, hide, ignore, etc..., is a VOID, they are just an image of a person without real regards for others' feelings. That kind of person would eventually strip you of everything that you are!
God be with you and hear your prayers! When it gets really tough, just pray and remember He never puts on us more than we can deal with! | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 8:22:01 PM | | I know it is really hard right now, but it will get easier. You do not want to be with someone who does not respect you enough to be honest with you and you certainly do not want to be with a guy who is going to be unfaithful to you. Everything happens for a reason no matter how painful or unjust it may seem at the time. Things always work out the way they were meant to in the end. If you were meant to be together than you would be. Do not blame yourself. It takes two people to make a relationship work. Sometimes bad things happen to good people. He will probably regret what he has done, but you can not wait for him to realize what he has lost. Stay busy. Go out with your friends and have fun. Force yourself to be active no matter how unnatural it might feel. Join a club or sign up for a course. Avoid things that are going to remind you of your ex. When you start to think about him shift your thoughts to something that makes you feel good. Try and picture your ex in a really embarrassing or ridiculous situation. Imagine him in a stupid hat or dancing like an idiot. There are lots of guys out there who you could be very happy with and your ex is not as great as you have made him out to be. You should be mad at your him for cheating on you!! He does not deserve you and you will realize that soon enough. Try not to contact him. Chances are you will only regret it later. Life is too short and he is obviously not worth your time. You will feel better. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 8:27:49 PM | He probably never will admit to it. I went through something very similar a year ago. My best advice is to surround yourself with friends who are supportive towards you and go out and have fun even if you have to force yourself. You may even want to go talk to someone, even if its just to vent and cry, its amazing how much better it feels to let it out. Time is what you need to heal, I know it sounds cliche and I hated it when people told me that, but they were right.
If he is cheating now he will probably always be a cheater, move on you deserve better! | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 10:07:18 PM | | warrior, my proof is just as good as the woman that got scratched and the vast majority of people that responded would agree. that should tell you something. granted anything is possible and u could be right but i dont believe in miracles. more then anything i want to move on and occupy my time with enjoyable things but i feel what i really need right now is another guy. whether its a rebound or a legite relationship, every ounce of my body is craving that. the problem is that i dont really have anyone in my pipeline and i live in philly, and those of you who have been to philly know how hard it is to find someone. #2 city for the ugliest people. outlook not so good for me. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2006 10:18:39 PM | honey let me tell you no man will tell you straight up that he has been cheating, unless his d--- is made of made of gold well then he might be worth the dying part, but otherwise move on, you must be young to feel like this, cuz when you experience life, you'll reilize he's just another reject from someone else he did the same thing too, so it's better off that you know about it now. so move on sweetie. take care and
God bless, don't give up. | |
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Posted: 3/29/2006 7:22:51 PM | sneaky...
completely understand how u ve been thru' ,all questions pop up in ya head,why why why
round and round,simple and easy for ppl whom hasnt been into situation or got over it...
they could say or i could say "well maybe if u hadnt made HIM ur life then it wouldnt have been ruined !! " ...yea rite !!! BUt who knows ? i could be wrong ,the reason u want him to
say or except wht he did,would never happened,nor he would come back to you...
wht can you see over there would Be "COLD" ...EVEN IF U KNEW IT...STILL YOU WANT TO SEE HIM ...with lil hope in lil heart that broken in picese ...u wish things and he would turn to you,talk to you or give you the eyes way blahhhhh ...he maybe did talk to u a bit ,u came home feel better a bit but still in pain ask why and hope he would be nice and be back to u ,deep inside ..when he turns cold..u hurt urself more and more ...knowing to see him and hear his voice would be painfull ,still u run to it ...AND NO MATTER WHO SAID WHT...U'LL TAKE ANYTHING JUST TO GET THAT PAIN ! "
you will be struggling and think how would u live without him,knowing in ur heart also that u wanna be with him, able to forgive for wht he s done to you only he comes say sorry or give u those puppy eyes bla bli bla...but u also know u wont have him back,he isnt your or he isnt the one u've known before ,he will not comeback and all u'll get from him "cold as u mean nothing to him " is all .....take ur time,sit ,cry as much as u want ,go round and round,yell whteva !!! till you are satisfied ...
The fact is
"nobody can help you no matter how much they wanted tooooooo...
unless u pull yaself up"
 heyy..if guys re that bad ,should we consider gals gals instead !
i know i know,bad timing  | |
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Posted: 3/29/2006 10:37:13 PM | Op, I don't know what you are doing through, but you can definately overcome this. You have people out there that care. I appeal to your conscoius to not do anything to yourself , just be yourself and start being happy and be assertive and happy with who you are.
Get well soon. | |
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Posted: 3/29/2006 11:16:17 PM | | if feel the same way to i was hurt and plaeyed cheated burn out rundown dried up drowing in sorrow move on with your life you desrve better this men from chatsworth ca he fake mei wish i never ever fell in love with him.i finaly heal hea real devil in disguise. | |
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Posted: 3/29/2006 11:27:00 PM | lol. the ladies here are so desperate. I have slept with 8 ladies off of this site in the past 2 months. Just prey on their emotions and tell them what they want to hear. Wow, who am I going to play with next lol.
Brian, eh, no Scott, eh no Duncan lol | |
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Posted: 3/30/2006 12:08:29 AM | Please don't say that,you no wat,its better to find things out during the love puppy stage,then wen your deep in mix...and in this case it showed his true colors,which is selfish black.........look sweety,there is no person in this world that has the right to make another individual feel,hurt,feel bad,or feel sad,hes not worth it,.........every1 has an angel out there,its up to us to chose wisely,its not easy but we got follow our harts,let him go,if u stay,u might forgive,but never forget,avoid the torture,and look for some1 you desrve,giv him he's crap,and u keep your head up......if you feel like your life is over,he's difitnetly not it,you need some1 that makes you love life,everyday is a celebration of life,live it up,owen staR | |
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