| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/26/2006 5:29:35 PM | Myself, I've done it before and I don't see me not doing it again if the opportunity arises. I could really take advantage of ....errrr.....enjoy... dating a woman who was an auto mechanic  | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/26/2006 5:29:50 PM | | wahya: Careful, if word gets out you can be successful without running in the rat race, cheese will lose its value and the world economy will collapse around our ears! | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/26/2006 9:20:01 PM |
but it seems that todays relationships or succesful ones are bieng seen as a comodity or a purchase that a women can buy to suit her wardrobe, and we all know that buying stuff is one thing they are all good at...not, but when you look under the bed at all the shoes she buys but never wears...
Yah, so how is this different from all the electronic equipment men buy or the hot cars they sink fortunes in? People are materialistic, but it's not gender-specific, I'm sorry to say.
men on the other hand are going to become less and less interested in this type of women normally known as pretentious ****es who will never find the right man as they dont know what one is... as the things mentioned above have blinded them.
As they keep buying hot cars to impress the chicks with them ...  Your post has bitter written all over it. Call me a pretentious, blinded b*tch all you want, but I know what the right man is (FOR ME), and he's either getting a PhD or already has one. It's funny how people jump to say that being attracted to someone tall or someone athletic is a PREFERENCE and not being shallow, but how it's all oh-so-wrong to want someone who is educated and your social equal. Isn't that a preference as well? And what right do you have to criticize someone else's preferences and call her a "pretentious b*tch" for having them?
As for the pretentious b*tches never finding a man, I wouldn't be so sure. I see way more threads from men whining about how women ignore them because they are unemployed slackers than from women who are passed by because they are successful. I also see a lot of men calling successful women names simply because they are insecure and know they don't have a shot with them. As for men being less interested, I'm sorry, but I couldn't give a rat's a$$ if a guy I don't think meets my standards is interested or not. | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/26/2006 9:35:20 PM | I would date someone who is intelligent, driven and hardworking .......money has nothing to do with it. It is about being happy and finding something you are truly happy doing, regardless of money. It is about being able to support the self and contribute to the relationship, enjoy and live life within your means. :)
It is also about being accountable and responsible for your life. I like men with confidence and direction in their life. They have some goals and interests and are willing to go after it.
that's it. | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/26/2006 10:18:44 PM | | I've read lot of stoies about this this past year. Research has shown that by and large, women will not date men who are less of an erner or career achiever than they themselves. The only problem is that the achieving males who are their peers or even superior have been shown to be attracted to women in lesser achieving status thatn the successful women. Men of such means have also shown a tendancy to use their means to attract younger and prettier women. | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/26/2006 10:18:55 PM | I wonder why having a degree or working in a management position is now the definition of successful? or did I misunderstand?
I have a useless Associates Degree and am not even working in the field that is associated with that degree. But none the less I feel that I am successful in the job I have. I enjoy it, work hard and am happier at this job then any job i've had in the last 5 years or so.
If someone wouldn't date me because they felt I was less successful then they are, then that's their choice and would also be their loss! I for one would not judge someone as being more or less successful then myself based on whether they have a college degree or not! Just my opinion! | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/26/2006 10:19:51 PM | It doesn't happen as often but if you meet in a place that you have something else in common than it does happen. An example might be if she likes golf and so do you and you meet at the club. It is possible that she might fall for you before she finds out your a loser LOL (just playin).
You are correct that if you meet on the internet or some other place like that, then why should she settle? She has the whole world to pick from, so why drive a moped when you can have a mercedes?
Let me add that more often then not men will pick a woman with a lot less education because it is more excepted, but women won't usually pick someone that isn't on their same socio-economic level. Tracy | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/26/2006 10:45:45 PM | I don't really take the education part all that serious. I'm an engineer but that really doesn't mean anything. I don't even want to tell people that. It's stupid.
I did read how Harvard did a test on students back in the early 90's. They tested IQ's (IQ= ability to pose and solve problems) on students at the start of thier freshman year and then upon graduation. Thier IQ'a actually went down. So it's relative. They do know how to do something that they learned but have a problem solving problems in that field or in life.
I'm not impressed neccessarily in titles but more interested in application. Yes I dated a doctor. She was a sports medicine doctor I was using for an injury. She did have the pretentous attitude toward most men but she wasn't allowed to be that way with me. Never had to say anything about it to her either. I doubt the thought would even have cross her mind. But then I'm not dumb enough to start a medical debate with her either.
I personally think it's what the man feels about himself on the inside that pikes her interest. | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/26/2006 11:22:39 PM | I am kind of hoping all these gender stereotypes go away one day............
cause that is what it is
IE
now that you ladies are making $60k-$100k...........or whatever
you should be 'set'.....right?
NO........ you aren't
because your biological instinct kicks in
'must find provider'............(spoken in zombie voice)
someone that makes more
I think this disease of more is getting out of hand a bit.
Driving up in your Hummer with your $4 cup of coffee may be good for your image
but, not so good for the planet | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/26/2006 11:34:39 PM |
Will successful women date a less sucessful man? Sure ... why not? I don't care what he does for a living as long as he's clean and doesn't "stink" when he leans in to kiss me "Hello".
I wouldn't date a man who couldn't hold a stimulating conversation with me ... you don't have to be "book smart" with several degrees under your belt in order to be able to do that.
I'm not interested in "material" stuff, so a big house and fancy car are of no interest to me ... just the man. He has to be sincere and honest. It would be really great if when I walk through the door he is simply thrilled to see me.
There's more, but I answered the question.  | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 2:06:39 AM | I've been the driven for success route.
It damned near killed me, literally. Never again.
If a woman doesn't want to date me because I'm 'lower-class' that's her problem. Not mine.
Unless you get up to the esoteric levels of an intellectual pursuit, I can hold my own. Last time I counted I had close to 1,000 books in my library. Everything from Socrates to Sun Tzu.
I'll hold up my end to the best of my abilities.
So if a woman is going to ignore me because of my current socio-economic position it's pride and laziness, not careful consideration. | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 3:57:30 AM | most women wouldn't. too much of influenced by the society - the media first of all.
only if she experiences that she is happy with a "less successfull man".
think of the crocodile dundee.....a man living with crocodiles out in the wild....and the successful New York journalist.
first, she thought "no way"......until she found out it is much better for her
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the problem is I think a lot of women miss happiness because they are too much influenced by the society...but yeah, it's their problem | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 5:32:26 AM | Some of the biggest morons I've ever met were people with six figure incomes, more than one post graduate degree, two SUVs and a six bedroom house in the burbs.
And yeah... some of the most interesting, intelligent people I've ever met were people who worked in a little bookstore or had a teaching gig making 25K a year and barely making ends meet.
I'm all about the interesting, intelligent people so I'd definitely date someone who wasn't as successful as me. | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 8:44:12 AM | Alex, you first say:
most women wouldn't. too much of influenced by the society - the media first of all.
But then you say:
think of the crocodile dundee.....a man living with crocodiles out in the wild....and the successful New York journalist.
Forgive me if I'm wrong, but Crocodile Dundee wasn't real It was a MOVIE. Now isn't that media too? Or are we selectively influenced by media?
I can't talk for other women. But if I were influenced by the "media," I'd be looking for a tall, dark, and handsome executive. As it is, I'm looking for a dorky PhD student or postdoc who can talk about anything under the sun. And last time I checked the "media," that wasn't the type everyone went gaga over in cheesy reality TV shows ...
As for education meaning nothing, why do you all bother getting it if it means nothing?
Yes, I've met people who saw school simply as a means to getting a high-paying job. They didn't bother much and they were happy to get out as fast as possible. But these aren't the norm, unless you hang out with businessy types. Most people seriously enlarge their perspective upon being exposed to new information and theories. Sure, some manage to do that by reading a lot on their own, and they are not to be discounted. But they are very rare: the needle in the haysack. There aren't that many Virginia Woolfs around today. | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 9:47:19 AM | I wish, I wish, I wish that I had read this a few months ago when I was chatting up a doctor and didn't make the final play for a date because I felt I was playing out of my league.
The post regarding being ready to retire, or wind down, is a valid point. I'm almost 50 and expect I'll be working to 70 (unless I can find a 'sugar-momma'.) I can't see that I'd be that attractive to someone who's retired and living on her savings. OTOH, even if I could retire early, I'd probably keep doing what I do just for the fun of it. A lot of our retired staff do come back even if they don't need the money. But the answer to the OP's question may be age related.
I think Felinessa is drawing from an unecessarily small pool, myself. Its a safe one, in that you can count on anyone within that pool being up to your intellectual standards. There are lots of people who hadn't the opportunity or desire for post-grad studies who keep up their intellectual stimulation none-the-less. In fact, the best thing about my job is that I have hours of personal reading time, plus an opportunity to discuss and share it with people on a regular basis. | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 9:49:18 AM | Bullshit...women are very shallow in this area. They first want to know what your portfolio holds before you can get a kiss goodnight; this is after you've already shelled out for a $100 dinner. You blew it with me when you first started talking about what type of degrees you held prior to answering the question.
What if you met a guy who was great; a positive role model, great with kids, caring, compassionate, active in his community, a model citizen, devoted to you, and not to mention hung real well. Would you dump him the minute you found out he was a bus driver? I think you would. | |
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