| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 10:13:25 AM | @99 ... Bravo! ... same goes for me!
@stillinlimbo ...
The post regarding being ready to retire, or wind down, is a valid point. I'm almost 50 and expect I'll be working to 70 (unless I can find a 'sugar-momma'.) I can't see that I'd be that attractive to someone who's retired and living on her savings. OTOH, even if I could retire early, I'd probably keep doing what I do just for the fun of it. I have the same situation ... I got a late start on my career (was a stay at home mom for almost my entire marriage of 22 years), so even though I'm almost 57, I'll still be out there doing my job for some time to come.
Even once I retire, I'm the type of person who would still be out there offering my services to folks who need me ... helping others gives my life meaning, so it would not be easy to stop with that and just sit at home.
I see all these guys my age wanting a woman they can "retire" with ... "travel" with ...
... the only ladies who fit that category are the ones who have worked all their lives and packed enough money away to do the same ... that's pretty limited.
Good luck guys in finding that lady!
OT: There will always be folks who just can't get past that "success" factor when looking for a partner ... and that's okay too. Let them find each other and be happy.
I hope it happens soon, so that those who are left will fit into my category ... I don't care about titles and position and such ... I just care about the person and how he treats me.
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 10:40:15 AM | | Will a successful woman date a less sucessful man ? Let's turn that around and ask this. Will a successful man date a less successful man? I think we should always as the questions that will or can be turned around for both sides of the question. If you have a coment on this let me know. I cant see the differnece. | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 11:01:53 AM | Hell yeah, I'd date a "less successful" man, but THEY usually have a complex about it.
It does toy with the traditional relationship dynamic that we've all been programmed with by society... some folk can't get past that. | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 11:47:22 AM |
because your biological instinct kicks in
'must find provider'............(spoken in zombie voice)
I have never said this to myself once in my entire life. If the guy supports himself and likes what he does or is supporting himself until he finds exactly what it is he wants to do, that's enough. I figure if he can support himself and I can, we're set.
As for education meaning nothing, why do you all bother getting it if it means nothing?
It's bull to say it means nothing, otherwise... like you said, why would we work so hard to get one? What it isn't is the highest priority when choosing a mate.
Yes, I've met people who saw school simply as a means to getting a high-paying job.
It can be, sure. It's also ideal for those types who just LOVE to soak up as much learning as they can.
Bullshit...women are very shallow in this area. They first want to know what your portfolio holds before you can get a kiss goodnight; this is after you've already shelled out for a $100 dinner.
I pity you for the women you must meet. Women like what you describe are crass and good for no one.
What if you met a guy who was great; a positive role model, great with kids, caring, compassionate, active in his community, a model citizen, devoted to you, and not to mention hung real well. Would you dump him the minute you found out he was a bus driver? I think you would.
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 11:50:15 AM | My sister is accountant and she's living with a truck driver. They have been happily living together for 17 years now.
He's absolutely lovely man and he loves my sister.
Degree does not define anybodys intelligence. Some people like to study some don't | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 12:08:47 PM |
the word "successful" is definately up for debate however you see a lot of smart guys with dumb women, but you hardly ever see a smart woman with a dumb guy.
There's a very simple explanation for that ... most guys - even the smartest among us - become extremely dumb when boobs and a nice butt come into the picture. | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 12:30:44 PM | It would depend if we could mesh on another level, since we couldn't really talk about our careers without the other person going, "HUNH??"
Personally, I find that I get along better with my peers, if only because we can all amuse ourselves for hours talking about the existance of God, or some other little-thought-about subject that one of us just randomly pulls out of our arzes.
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 12:34:07 PM |
you hardly ever see a smart woman with a dumb guy.
There was a hilarious story in the paper not long ago about a woman with a six-figure income that married a couch potato. After 2 years, she kicked him out. The judge says that the terms of the relationship were set by her allowing him to be like that and now she has to give him half her income for life, unless he can overcome his motivational difficulties and make that much himself. In some States, there is a formula about so many years together lead to so many years of support. We don't have that here. "Til death do you part."
Ask me why I think this is so funny. Ask me why I'm planning to work until I'm 70. | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 12:44:25 PM | The real question is, "how do you measure success?" Is it measured by social status, income or title? Or measured by happiness, peace and compassion? I would date anyone who is successful in the later no matter their financial status, even if they were stinking rich.
Keep love in your heart
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 12:47:23 PM |
It would depend if we could mesh on another level, since we couldn't really talk about our careers without the other person going, "HUNH??"
talking about the existance of God, or some other little-thought-about subject that one of us just randomly pulls out of our arzes.
Is your career going to be a philosopher? I'm perfectly able to discuss the existence of God, or string theory or stellar mechanics or SETI or the history and current events of Asia (that was my degree, including learning to speak and read Japanese.) I'm a licensed electrician, have a teaching certificate for ESL, design and make my own motorcycle heads for fun. And drive a tour bus for a living. Partly because life's flow forced me into it. But mostly because it suits me, for a multitude of reasons.
I should have hit on that doctor! | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 12:52:54 PM | personally i don't measure success by money, social status, university degree's, the size of the car or even the size of the penis.
i do measure it however by other standards that include self worth, commitment to those things that are important to them, willingness to try their best to be the best that they can be, an open heart and spirit, and other qualities that matter not to none but me.
if a man has the qualities that i am looking for then he is bound to be successful, to me at least, and thats all that really matters. | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 1:01:42 PM | Oh, let's not stoop to defining terms. That would remove confusion and shut down the majority of threads here. Use the most generic words you can find, preferably those with several possible meanings, and then we can argue back and forth endlessly, just like being married again *sigh* The good old days...
POF isn't so much for finding a new mate as it is for getting that wonderful misunderstood feeling, and wounded indignation, that we haven't had since the moving van pulled away from the house under the watchful eye of the sheriff's deputy. Speaking figuratively, of course.
A person who values social standing will want to find someone who adds to theirs.
Men used to take up with lowly women all the time. But now that women are in the workforce, do they likewise rescue poor lowly men? NO! They do not. They turn of their noses at the poor **stards and chase after men who play golf or tennis and drink coffees made with ingredients from a half a dozen countries. Injustice, thy name is woman. | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 1:37:38 PM |  The values of a successful woman are opposite of an unsuccessful man, and thats where the problem is.
IN RESPONSE TO QUOTE
(((((((((((I should define sucessful, shouldn't i? Sucessful - University Degree, working in a profession, or mangament position. Come on, you know if you are.
Would you date a fellow who was less sucessful than you? Would you date a blue collar worker? )))))))))))
     
HMMMM,,,,I think that I would date a man that was less successful than me!!!!!!!!!!!
If I was a doctor,,,would I date a male nurse...of course I would...we'd have something in common all the time for starters. A nurse (in my opinion) is just as successful as a doctor.
I think that an unsuccessful male would have a problem dealing with the female's success.
Society in general would ponder or even be bold enough to ask about the situation ,,,,,,
because it doesn't happen too often.
And even if it does happen............we think less of the man who now becomes the SLACKER at home while she brings home the bacon. Needless to say, we do think it is funny when a man stays at home and cooks dinner and cleans the house as she busts her B***s off making sure they maintain their lifestyle. Now how do you take your husband to a dinner party when he doesn't have much to conversate about with her colleagues. It just doesn't happen that way. Even if she did love him. In my opinion I don't believe it would work out.
so like i said earlier...............................................
The values of a successful woman are opposite of an unsuccessful man, and thats where the problem is.
Not that i am successful, this is just my pesonal opinion,, i'm not trying to sound shallow, but it does appear to clear that a successful woman won't bother with an unsuccessful man because he is beneath her..........in her opinion......
As for the man, if he really wanted a successful wife, he would be bold enough to try...
but how does a man compete wiht 100K, ...a woman with that $ lives alone, because nobody is good enough for her.............its pitiful | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 1:58:41 PM | | There are plenty of women out there, that just want love, and attention. don't waste your time with those that seek status, and career. wealth can be taken from you, so can your health. careers are over rated. so enjoying the people in your life,and learning, isn't about degrees. I have met many with degrees, who lacks true knowledge, or even commom sense. then theres good natured, or bad natured folk. go with someone, who you can enjoy your time away from your career. you need a life besides the job, if not. well you aren't for me thats sure. | |
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| Will successful women date a less sucessful man?
Posted: 3/27/2006 2:22:28 PM |
POF isn't so much for finding a new mate as it is for getting that wonderful misunderstood feeling, and wounded indignation, that we haven't had since the moving van pulled away from the house under the watchful eye of the sheriff's deputy. Speaking figuratively, of course.
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