| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 9/14/2007 2:45:19 PM | | Well, I'm 49 and still have a strong libido. But my age/libido has never changed my attitude towards sex. The lady's needs before mine...Always has been, always will be. | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 9/14/2007 3:55:55 PM | I think it has a lot to do with men who, by the time they have reached "our age" have finally figured out the happier they make their lady the happier she will make them!
Win. Win. | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 9/24/2007 9:30:20 AM | Firstlight you got that so right. I have alway believed that the women cums 1st she must be taken care of 1st then I worry about myself.
At 56 I still have a strong libido and alway willing to learn new things. | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 12/29/2008 9:42:56 PM | | Op ~ I am enjoying the benefits of having an experienced partner (over 65) who wishes to please me first. Wow, what I have missed out on over the years. The amount of time he takes to pleasure me makes me want him more each day. I use to try to date men more my age thinking they could match my desires but, I was so wrong! Experience and age make the best lovers. | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 12/30/2008 4:12:13 AM | Guys don't talk to each other about intimacy like women do, but I would surmise that every man of every age considers pleasing their partner important. People are different and intimate pleasure is experienced differently. Our partners need to know how and why our sensory and emotional stimulus works and nobody knows knows better than we do. We have to communicate what works and what doesn't. If our partners aren't making the grade it may be our fault. Or the erotic zones are so different they are never going to align.
I think most people have figured this out. | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 12/30/2008 4:24:09 AM | Oh Mike.....indeed tis not so and not always the case with the older gentlemen either, even tho we're hearing some glowing reports here  . It's a choice to be interested in that aspect and not something that comes naturally to all in the time line of life. | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 12/30/2008 10:15:38 AM | | It's a proven scientific fact that the average 50 year old woman has the sexual appetite and libido as a 20 year old male so the older man who is not in tune with a woman's wants and needs is seriously falling short of the mark. | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 12/30/2008 10:50:37 AM | Oh Mike.....indeed tis not so and not always the case with the older gentlemen either, even tho we're hearing some glowing reports here
Tee-hee lady. You always make me giggle.
OT: At 31, I fell madly and deeply in love with a man 11 years my senior. From the start, he had performance problems from his side. This did not mean he couldn't please, but he had issues at age 42. Sad when you think how much of a sex life you could have after that age, but he explained to me that many men begin to experience troubles after age 35 of a more serious nature. (serious being not having a stand at attention occurrence each morning) .
Shortly before we split up, Viagra made it's way on the scene but was still very costly and experimental. In the end, it saved his life....errrr.... his $ex life.... | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 12/30/2008 10:56:53 AM | The original post included this:
I’ve read some posts from older gents that claim that their role in making love or having sex is really to “please” their partner. So in reading what I have here in POF, does this mean older men can live without sex???? Does it also mean that older men do not exercise their right to a high libido and are willing to just get by pleasing their partner????? Ummm... that IS sex.
Just playing with another person's body.. giving them the pleasure of an orgasm... IS sex.
I can't see where that could mean they are "living without sex"
If that isn't sex, then.... what is it?
And, I don't think it is them "just getting by", I think they're enjoying it!
Now.. some men (and I said 'some', so don't jump on me please) get past 55 or so and can't 'get it up' themselves as often as younger years.. or can't ejaculate as often.
But they still can enjoy the pleasures of sex... lots of other ways.... and do not have to live without!  | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 12/30/2008 11:41:05 AM | Don't women complain about men that are just out to fulfill their own needs.... I think as guys mature... they learn a lot about life in general... just like women. What your seeing is maturity... wanting to please a woman is a good thing... not that they can't perform any more... There are all sorts of things to help men with that... if that was the case...
A relationship is for each person to please the other... wether you're young or older. | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 12/30/2008 2:56:29 PM | Actually I'm kind of curious about all that.....
If a man does have a waning Jr. .....does he have waning sexuality? Does his desire for sex lessen and does it become a question of touch and being touched, body intimacy? I've had little experience with this so I really don't know what a man needs a woman for if he's not excited about the idea. I also get this picture in my mind that a Jr. is like a cats tail....you know what he's thinking by how it twitches....so how would I know what he was thinking about what was going on? I mean half the fun is knowing you are desired.  | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 12/30/2008 3:15:31 PM |
If a man does have a waning Jr. .....does he have waning sexuality? Does his desire for sex lessen and does it become a question of touch and being touched, body intimacy?
The mood was waxing, but the moon was waning....
If you get my drift..... | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 1/2/2009 2:29:56 PM | I think that the old standards of how you treat the person that you are with still stand true.
1. When you are out with a person, be out with them, dont be looking at other women.
2. Pay attention, talk to them , find out likes and dislikes.
And than pay the same attention when you are alone.
I held this lady's face the first time I kissed her, The old Cary Grant style, she was 32, I am 57. She said that she had never been kissed like that. She said that she knew that she had my full attention.
Yes, as I get older i need a few more naps. lol | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 1/12/2009 8:43:41 PM | | I have to jump in on this one. As a woman and a redhead almost 50 who has an affectionate and passionate side and someone who does not look or feel their age and is dating I had to comment. This goes by the man and not by the age! Some People not just men have stronger sex drives than others. Some unfortunately almost have none-they talk a good game but when it comes time they make excuses and will even belame the partner that you do not turn them on. Yes as a man gets older he can have issues but that does not mean that part of his life is over-call the doc and get the pill! Do not stop living until you stop breathing! | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 1/13/2009 12:41:16 PM | lipsticksunsets since you are asking, men lose their tostersone as we age. If a woman stays active AND DONT LET HERSELF GO TO HELL.. men can still find her A older woman attractive. Men are visual till we die. It all depends on a woamns attractivness. If she is HOT the OLDER man usually can PERFORM very very well. If she is NOT then its a 1 shot charlie and good night dear. And as men get older alcohol can DEFINATELY affect a mans performance. I myself to be perfectly HONEST can be TURN off no matter if she is GORGEOUS or average if she has a feminist attitude. Young or old. And I also like a older woman because usually her BEST DAYS have long and gone. She knows that !!!!!so then she must DROP her high and mighty attitude and her out of this WORLD expectations. where the average Joe wasnt good enough for her in her younger days. But is good enough now.. Men DO NOT AGE as FAST as a woman.. Ask your doctor. But women usually OUT LIVE MEN thats NO secret. as a woman posted on these threads "Where are all the good men?" they have moved out of the country some have, and now are reaping the rewards that was once past them by. like collecting reaping the young goods that was PAST over them when they were younger themseles. Life is Sooooooo good | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:36:15 PM | Yeah, that always puzzles me when a guy makes a point of saying that he wants to please the woman sexually.............heck, I just assume that both people are going to please each other and enjoy it........... But I think with some guys, they don't learn to please a woman until later in life and so when they learn it, they like to let women know that they are better lovers then they used to be?
I've never had a man who wasn't a good lover because I'm very picky about who I make love with.  | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 1/16/2009 11:36:42 PM | Brian:
And I also like a older woman because usually her BEST DAYS have long and gone. She knows that !!!!!so then she must DROP her high and mighty attitude and her out of this WORLD expectations. where the average Joe wasnt good enough for her in her younger days. But is good enough now..
Are you saying you like older women who have low self esteem? | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 1/21/2009 5:48:32 PM | It onlytakes4musclrestosmile. No Not self esteem. But when women in their 20s and 30s That WERE HOT... they could pick and choose like a KID in a candy store. (Since there MORE men in North America) after the years of partying drinking drugs and children . Their LOOKS has surely dissapated. Most commonly over weight and run down. they then DROP their HIGH expectations and the NOT so good looking Guys that WERE NOT good enough looking in their 20s and 30s are NOW lets say given a chance. the EX HOT women dont be seem to be having the PHONE ringing off the HOOK and getting ALL the attention they got when they were in their 20s and 30s. They NO longer get treated like QUEENS and have their ass kiss like back in their 20s and 30s. A womans PRIZE pocession is her looks. Nothing MORE an older woman HATES is a YOUNGER looking woman. But their are some circumstances itonlytakes4musclestosmile you look very good for an OLder woman. I KNOW I do. | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 1/21/2009 6:02:05 PM | I can still pick and choose, and I still do. Maybe you're speaking of one specific woman that you came in contact with. I will never drop my high expectations, as long as they still work for me. I know other older women who can say the same. You're making an awful lot of generalizations about ex hot women. Maybe that's because that's the kind you attract.
I don't want a man who is just interested in pleasing, if it means what I think it does. | |
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