| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 4/2/2006 4:30:21 PM | Older men pleasing women!! If only we had the chance!
Those of us who may fall into the category of "older men" may, if we've been lucky, had the opportunity to please a lady now and then.
I truly believe that the ladies nowadays are educated enough to know that men are not the ones in control of the sexual act. The ladies are in control, guys, like it or not. If she gets you hot enough, you are not gonna please her if you are 21 or 61!
It needs cooperation, and understanding from both!!
Of course we want to please the lady before we have our turn, or even better, at the same time. But in real life, does that happen? No, so, we don't let the orgasm get in the way of real intimate pleasure!
If you, as a man, have "done your deed", there is no reason to roll over and fall asleep...you still have a partner to help to achieve what you may have! | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 4/3/2006 3:03:19 AM | To my mind, titillation and titivation definately have their place. The whole point of sex is as a culmination of intimacy, not a replacement for it.
Little things mean so much, a touch, a caress, whether in public or in private. All of these touches can lead to a buildup of excitement, anticipation. True lovemaking begins not when getting into bed, but when getting out of it in the morning. From there, the entire day can be spent in tiny signals, or something more overt, and gradually build to a crescendo that may or may not involve sex. Both partners enjoy the attentions of the other, both have the opportunity to display their affection for the other.
To take a well known phrase and pervert it for my own use here, I firmly believe that men over 50 (and yes, I'm one of them) have learned to think with the larger head! I personally love to feel a lady shudder in pleasure at my mere touch, see 'goose-bumps' appear behind my trailing fingers, hear the sudden intake of breath when my hand gently caresses her arm. All this doesn't happen overnight, it takes time and patience to build to this level of intimacy.
So in short, no, it isn't low libido, it's patience learned, patience applied, and patience paying off with results!
I have yet to meet a lady that doesn't like this kind of treatment, but then again, I've been fairly limited in my experience as regards numbers of partners - I have yet to meet that demanding tigress with the insatiable lust for all things carnal, but on reflection, do I really want to? | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 4/3/2006 5:07:09 AM |
Little things mean so much, a touch, a caress, whether in public or in private. All of these touches can lead to a buildup of excitement, anticipation. True lovemaking begins not when getting into bed, but when getting out of it in the morning. From there, the entire day can be spent in tiny signals, or something more overt, and gradually build to a crescendo that may or may not involve sex. Both partners enjoy the attentions of the other, both have the opportunity to display their affection for the other.
Well said Pauper, you hit the nail on the head. If more men would take up this practice on a daily basis, there would be a great deal of happier women on this earth. I, for one, salute you and your wise comments. | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 4/3/2006 4:57:16 PM | There are some gentlemen though who at 60+ do have a problem in that area for whatever reason. Do you all agree that if such is the case, then you should tell the woman you are dating before things get to that point?  | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 4/3/2006 10:21:23 PM | | YES... that way we don't think it is us or something we've done... some men AND women have problems sexually. Why not be up front and honest about it in the beginning. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2006 10:53:58 PM | I dated a man 10 years ago who was impotent ... he told me up front and we dealt with it. We dated well over a year. I appreciated it that he was honest with me. I do believe that he was comfortable letting me know because we had been really good friends prior to becoming a couple.
Certainly for a couple to start having conversations about "sexual problems" they'd probably have to be pretty good friends. It's not something you just let them "sort of" discover, but then again it's not something you just "pop" on your perspective lover.
At what point do you tell them?
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 4/4/2006 2:37:48 AM | .
Sometimes we see these questions and they are little more than foolishness by jilted women. Ah, but here comes the real thing from a women of the age group who should be asking the question.
There are some gentlemen though who at 60+ do have a problem in that area for whatever reason. Do you all agree that if such is the case, then you should tell the woman you are dating before things get to that point?
My first intent would be to say yes, maybe he should at least hint that there “could” be a problem. But, you’re just getting a tentative yes out of me for that. It ain’t at all a firm yes in this case.
We can turn it around, you know. There are many unresponsive women out there. Oh yes, all these women like to cuddle and be held, they just don’t like sex, per se. We have a little patch and/or salve to help that, but it seldom get prescribed to those who could use it best cause they never ask.
Guy’s can get Viagra, which I am against because it affects the heart. There’s now better stuff available. One available drug is so good that if a man takes a half dose every other day, the problem is solved. This drug is not yet prescribed like that, but that makes no difference. Viagra was a heart medication before it was used for it’s present use.
So, your question is: “then you should tell the woman you are dating before things get to that point?”
And the answer is both yes and no.
Many times, just the fact of having a new body in the form of a person you really like fixes the problem for a while. With many men, anyway, but not with women because response is strictly a hormone problem. And, anyway, if a man has had the problem for a while, and had the brains to look into it, he will start out by opting for the little blue pill. But, that’s just a temporary fix. In a long term relationship, ditch the blue pill, cause there is better stuff to take, every other day, as said above.
If a man knows that protocol, it’s really unnecessary to tell his lady unless he wishes. I think he should, but my opinion doesn’t count.
Unfortunately, the same option does not apply to the unresponsive woman. It’s the patch or the cream for her, and not much else will do. That’s all that is available right now. So, her partner will know.
So, let me think about it from yet another point of view: Foreplay.
So, okay, you’re happy cuddling but nothing else is happening. Hah, the guy needs his pill and the gal need her patch. You both have discussed and figured that out. Then you get them. Is that not great foreplay, then, or what? She bring him the pill and he applies the salve or patch.
Well . . . work that out and here comes one hell of a memorable weekend!
Yeah, good communication. That’s usually kind of cool.
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 4/4/2006 4:10:08 AM | I have been blessed, and cursed, with a high libido. My ex was cursed, and blessed, with a low libido. Of course, that didn't materialize until five years into the 17 yr marriage, but, hey, what's a lack of sex got to do with marriage anyway? 
I suspect those that have "I like to please my partner" in their profile are sincere in their desire...with the emphasis on "desire." Like anyone else, they are trying to attract someone. Sheesh - that's a no-brainer.
Pleasing your partner should be a given in a relationship, always. One should not have to overtly post it to let anyone know that's how you operate. If you aren't out to please your partner, you're just plain selfish.
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 4/5/2006 1:39:44 AM |
Pleasing your partner should be a given in a relationship, always. One should not have to overtly post it to let anyone know that's how you operate. If you aren't out to please your partner, you're just plain selfish. Yea ... what "annudder" says.
Any guy who wants to keep his lady these days needs to be taking his partner in consideration. I'm so pleased to see that the guys are so in tune with that. | |
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Posted: 4/5/2006 7:37:03 AM | DBNdon "Sometimes we see these questions and they are little more than foolishness by jilted women."
Well well well...foolishness huh? Jilted?
Am working at being abit more sensitive....I will not respond the way I want | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 4/5/2006 10:43:27 PM | some older men pleasing women is.... not news
to the voluntary exclusion of their own pleasure?
--------following is just 'backstory' go to the '===bottom line==='
i started communicating with my partners soon after the woman who seduced and 'took' my virginity kindly advised- 'never say you're sorry, just hang in there and everything will turn out all right'... [it does;]
so i paid attention- not for any ulterior purpose- but to observe her pleasure and find out what truly pleased her. [it also excites me- to have her groaning, arching her back, smacking the bed, gripping the sheets, or headboard, [instead of my head, *gasp*, i can empathize girls;]-
so we agree to communicate up front- while the fundamental 'stop or no' means exactly that-
[rarely in my experience;], and some other words or commands are self explanatory- 'yes', 'there', 'shut up and kiss me you fool', 'yes, yes yes!', 'get up here', and the ever popular 'give it to me NOW!'-
 [where were we;?] 
now most of all these spots in/on all women are in/on/around the same places... [they might not know it- but some write books on this too;], so even if you've only been with one woman, whether just starting out or have been monogamous forever; if you communicate- and pay attention- you should be able to please any woman IF you also have patience [read control]
======================bottom line=====================
old does not necessarily produce experience.
nor does experience always yield skilled lovers-
[whether ten thousand women- or one woman ten thousand times-
a selfish and/or ignorant man may have never performed to his maximum potential! ;[wilt;?] | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 4/6/2006 5:20:03 AM | .
I want my palm kissed!!!!!
Fingers first, Pickles. Fingers first -- slowly, at the tips where the most nerve endings are. Later, the palm.
Everything in its own time. . . . 
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 4/6/2006 5:43:56 AM | Pickles said:
hi
Just reading this thread for the first time and ......are there any men like db or jim or any of the other chivalrous guys close to me???
I want my palm kissed!!!
Mesnafugal said:
These guys on here.. know how to kiss you all over
Pickles, you look so fine doll. To bad we are not closer. But I have to admit, I usually like to start kissing at the toes and slowing work my way up to the palms. Now that's along trip and it might even have some detours along the way. *blush*
And of course my dear Mesnafugal is right (see above) | |
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Posted: 4/6/2006 9:05:34 AM | Hey....toes got those
Elbows and knees that aren't sharp....
And lots of curves in the road....
Lips hips and fingertips...and I can wait for the Palm........brb
Thank goodness for Canadian springtime eh?
Nice when you have to cool off | |
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Posted: 4/6/2006 10:02:13 PM | | pickles.. in case you haven't noticed.. these men will do anything BUT cool you off!!! But then we soooooooooooo deserve good men with the experience and desire to pleasure us. I'm a Pisces so my "body part" is the FEET.. .yep... my feetsies are sensative... need to redo the nail polish however.... I'm feeling like RED now... | |
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Posted: 4/6/2006 11:09:29 PM | Mesnafugal said:
I'm a Pisces so my "body part" is the FEET.. .yep... my feetsies are sensative... need to redo the nail polish however.... I'm feeling like RED now...
What are you doing to me Mes? Yummy! I don't have a foot fetish, but being a submissive, it is good place to start. oh those feet and toes! With you, I'm afraid it would grow into a full blown fetish for me! *blush* | |
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Posted: 4/6/2006 11:15:21 PM | OH NO not the toes ... the base of your neckline ..woooooooooooooo
ok where was I ..oh yeah
Touching ..touching is good
Quality over quantity ..seduction does not hurt .. kissing ..be a good kisser
and please Guys don't forget AFTERPLAY ..it is so important to most women to know that they are still appreciated after the act
and ladies help the guys out ..TELL them what you like | |
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Posted: 4/6/2006 11:33:00 PM | | Good, as my sub you will wash and massage my feet. And because I'm such a precious Dom, I will let you pick out the color you want on my toes. Yes the back of my neck is sooooooooo sensitive I like the nibbles, with a little bit of teeth... oh yeah.... now we're talking!!! | |
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Posted: 4/6/2006 11:40:44 PM | Not only will I pick out the color Mistress, I do a very good job at pedicures! That will be my job...take good care of your pretty feet. As for the back of your neck...mmmmm! My face burried in your long beautiful hair and my lips and teeth gently teasing and kissing my Mistress for Her pleasure.......which is what gives this man his pleasure.
Now about that wedding date...........Tux and gown ordered! lol  | |
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