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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 5/15/2006 7:36:56 AM | Sorry Lipstick.. but not all older men have a hard time getting excited... in fact... I've never been with a older man who EVER had a problem... I haven't test drove younger one YET but so far the older ones keep me happy so why change???  | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 5/15/2006 9:31:18 AM | Well this is sure an interesting topic. I can't or won't even try to speak for other men but can only speak for myself.
It's not a matter of low libido at all. I get a lot of personal pleasure in pleasing the woman I am with. I love to watch her react to what I do and and enjoy it very much when I see that I am giving her pleasure and satisfying her needs and wants.
When I know she is being pleased then I am more ready and able to allow myself to be satisfied and pleasured myself.
I think it is very important to think of your partner and what they need and want then just thinking of yourself. In this way you both will hopefully get the most pleasure from each other and enjoy those special times with each other alive and wanting more.
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 5/17/2006 11:27:37 PM | When I know she is being pleased then I am more ready and able to allow myself to be satisfied and pleasured myself. I think it is very important to think of your partner and what they need and want then just thinking of yourself. In this way you both will hopefully get the most pleasure from each other and enjoy those special times with each other alive and wanting more. See ... here we go again ... another insatiable "pleaser". Wow ... that's just so hot!   | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 5/18/2006 3:50:36 AM | | Works both ways. It is such a turn on to see the man desire me, to see his body react, to feel the electricity which emits. I find men's bodies fascinating and desirable, but when there is an emotional connection as well the desire to give him pleasure stems both from enjoying him and bathing in the pleasure he gives me. | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 5/30/2006 10:45:36 PM | I think most older men are into pleasing their ladies and generally do not suffer from "low" libido. Since they know their bodies are not as quick to respond the older they get, things are not going to be quite so urgent as when they were younger. Along the line through the years, they have learned to deal with that as well as the art of pleasing a lady.
So the combination can be absolutely breath taking ... I mean it sure takes my breath away when a guy can do such nice things to me and not just want it all for himself ... the pleasure that is! The shared pleasure is the treasure!
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Posted: 5/31/2006 6:42:37 AM | I've not read all the posts on this thread, so what I'm saying may have already been said.
Pleasing or is it low libido????
To me, pleasing a woman is an incredible thing. It's also a fairly selfish thing on my part as well. There is NOTHING like being with a woman when she is in the ultimate moment of physical pleasure. Knowing that I'm helping her to get there. The sounds, the sight, the feelings...nothing like it on Earth! The gasps, the moans, the gritted teeth, feeling her body move are experiences to remember forever.
The selfish part? I go by the theory that if SHE is having a good time, she'll want me to have a good time too.
So, no, "pleasing" a woman does not in any way imply a low libido.
But, that's just my thoughts.
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Posted: 6/4/2006 1:55:14 AM |
To me, pleasing a woman is an incredible thing. It's also a fairly selfish thing on my part as well. There is NOTHING like being with a woman when she is in the ultimate moment of physical pleasure. Knowing that I'm helping her to get there. The sounds, the sight, the feelings...nothing like it on Earth! The gasps, the moans, the gritted teeth, feeling her body move are experiences to remember forever. Gee I sure do hope there are lots of guys out there just like you! | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 6/11/2006 5:43:53 AM | What's the point of sharing intimacies if there is no intent to please your partner?
Wisdom, knowledge and understanding generaly follows age and experience. One's libido is related more to one's state of health than to one's age, whether male or female. Indicating that you want to please your partner is more of an indication of maturity and selflessness than an apparent lack of libido. After years of learning the ropes and practicing self control, a man may take the whole night in doing what he used to spend all night long doing....often reaching greater heights of pleasure. It is such a turn on for many of us to help bring about, see, feel and experience our partner's orgasmic extacy.
For many, it can be just as great a pleasure to give as it is to receive.
In honest introspection, isn't that what we all want in the intimate relating that makes up such a large part of any loving relationship? | |
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Posted: 6/11/2006 10:54:03 AM |
It is such a turn on for many of us to help bring about, see, feel and experience our partner's orgasmic extacy.
For many, it can be just as great a pleasure to give as it is to receive.
In honest introspection, isn't that what we all want in the intimate relating that makes up such a large part of any loving relationship? Now you're talking my kind of language! That's how I see a relationship ... a sharing and satisfying interaction of various types and levels of intimacy ... most not at all sexual as "sexual" is perceived, yet directly related since how we treat our partner throughout the day will determine how we interact with one another when it's "snuggle" time.
If one has a satisfying relationship ... all of those things just intermingle and one doesn't have to question a partner's motives ... one just knows that whatever occurs is occuring out of love. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2006 4:51:07 PM | Well Geez !! … now where did this thread come from ? (lol). Let me see now, how can I say this appropriately …
“Older gents” tend to have a bit more experience in sex and making love – and I mean that only in the quantitative sense, as in, put 40 years on the ol’ odometer and the mileage does tend to accumulate. And over a long period of time, the mind and body tend to be ‘trained’ into certain behaviours and ‘mindsets’. Now I’m just speaking for myself here - although I tend to think I may be speaking for a large segment of the “older gents” - but to me it has ALWAYS been about the woman. I learned at a very young age that ‘pleasing’ the woman stood a better chance of “getting me more” (trying to behave and not be rude, here). I learned to concentrate on what I was doing, learn about my partner, what ‘turned her on’. Over the years, it just became a part of me – so much so, that I’ve mostly lost track of what she was doing to me – not entirely, you understand, but my concentration was definitely on what I was doing to my partner, not what she was doing to me. And over the decades, I found that what turned me on most is the way her body moved, not how she made mine move. Hey, call me shallow and maybe a little blunt, but when I’m making love to a woman, my concentration is on her. What she’s doing with her time, I’m sure she can handle (so to speak).
And sorry, OP … you know I seldom disagree with any of your posts, but I don’t see where there’s a logical leap to wanting to live without sex, lo libido or anything like degrading my role to just wanting to ‘get by’, by pleasing my partner. I couldn’t think of anything farther from the truth. I mean geez !! … I’m busy, d*mmit … and we all know how lousy the male sex is at multi-tasking.
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Posted: 6/17/2006 4:54:04 PM | | Now that Ive seen this thread, concerning my thread about the guy blah blah blah you know which one, he did tell me also that he gets more enjoyment out of pleasing the woman, but he wants me to "please him" in a dark place. Kinda contradictory, dont you think? | |
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 6/17/2006 8:02:01 PM | Wow factor that often attracts us to older men is the sense of security, believing our libidos r more equal, and embellishes our sense of femininity & sexuality, depleted during childbearing and family nurturing stage in life...exhausted with selfless state of being for many yrs, turns to some well deserved selfishness, once the nest empties, libido heightens, older men's wisdom, experience and desire for companionship, endearment etc...is more secure and trusted by women, with less fear of infidelity, the weapon of choice by younger men. Endearing qualities heighten in a marriage too, if they make it past the female nurturing yrs ,and male inflated ego yrs....libido heightens when not an expectation on a ongoing basis....thus older men, delightful to many women...feel more appreciated, secure in union and so ....bottom line....''Hey, u make me feel like a woman, no greener grass on the other side, cause when i feel like a woman, i am more woman than an older[or any] man would want , ...gimmie, gimmie never gets, whiners always whine but never get it and cant rationalize why.....older men just know how to bring it out all in a woman, and the womans libido deemed more equal or greater, makes her master of that domain for once and becomes the temptress, able to seduce using her heightened sensuality no longer judged as inadequate thus demeanining, .....younger men just dont get the fact that they destroy the very thing they desire, and keep searching for, until they become that much older & wiser man! | |
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Posted: 6/17/2006 11:04:14 PM | Cdn man it was a question I had on a boring rainy day in Vancouver way back when.
I have not slept around much to be honest and my limited experience has caused me to believe that older men are not as spontanious as I might have expected. Judging from research and statistics older men are not so motivated to want 'sex'. They may desire sex or think of it but basically incapable of calling on it AT Will sort of speak. 
I've often heard men my age say they are more into pleasing their partner and that had caused me to think that men generally will please to keep the peace or connection.
Older men have admitted that yes it does take longer regardless of physical shape to become erect and in some studies its a 20 hour waiting period for men over 50.
In effect, I find 'making love (or sex)' is high on the list for some women including myself, and wanted to know what the attitudes were here on POF so I asked. ITs' quite simple really  | |
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Posted: 6/17/2006 11:37:06 PM |
and in some studies its a 20 hour waiting period for men over 50
I must comment... you insult your own intelligence. Whenever a study uses the word "some" it usually refers to a minute percentile. For example: "Some" studies also concluded that women do not climax after menopause. Should we assume that women are not worth the enjoyment after menopause? Maybe that is why men saught younger women?
The bottom line: Any study can reach a conclusion that suits particular needs. There are studies that suggest anal sex for a woman has health benefits.... should men surmise that a woman objecting to anal sex does not want to be healthy?
Most of these studies/surveys lack credibility, but if you need the study to serve your own purpose, I'm sure you can have sex with anything to satisfy personal needs and agendas.
Don't be so gullable.... I guess men should also come to the conclusion that women in their prime/peak are not trustworthy because they have uncontrollable urges for sex and according to "Cougar Monthly" 40 something men can't do it for them. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2006 11:47:14 PM | 20-HOUR WAITING PERIOD ?!? ... geeeeeez !! That's what I've got to look forward to ??
I guess I better get d*mn good at foreplay then, huh ? ... Lookin' like I've got 19 hours to fill up.
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Posted: 6/18/2006 12:10:36 AM | A woman's body is a sensual temple. I enjoy the pleasures I get from sense, touch and smell when being intimate. It has nothing to do with wanting to insert my penis. It has a lot to do with enjoying the feel of a woman's entire body.
Maybe the truth of the matter is older men prefer to make the experience last longer... women should embrace that sentiment.
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Posted: 6/18/2006 1:08:39 AM | .
As a physiologist, I’m laughing a lot about these posts. The problems related only concern 10% of the male population and 20% of the female population of those over 50 years old. And, for most, in both sexes, that is easily corrected.
How do we want to poke fun at each other and how little we wish to help someone we like. Wow! You have taught me a lot here.
As with any physical problem, I think that if you are not part of the fix, you are part of the problem. I see that here.
Hell, I’ve seen bed check in a home for the elderly come up with quite a few empty beds. Same thing happens at the hospice where I volunteer.
Truth is, most men and women do quite well with their sex life into their eighties. You just do not hear about that because it is not normally talked about.
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| Older Men 'Pleasing'...or is it a low libido?????
Posted: 6/18/2006 5:42:28 AM | To cdn musicman and doc ....u pleasing older men have just filled in 1 hr of that long and gruesome 19 hr foreplay....thats why women find many older men pleasing...in many less obvious and unacknowledged ways ... the ongoing foreplay in everyday life with them makes working on it only in the bedroom unnecessary...when did it become a job .... unfortunately almost 4ever in hx gender competitions and relationship demises. Maybe foreplay requires redefining to better understand the difference of an others and one's own perception of why and where one's libido falls on the infamous judgement scale.... Woh, did i just relieve a mindload and get rid of that ole 'got a headache'....maybe better communication is another good foreplay tactic too then.....they just keep comin' dont they.....the mystery of the gender oppositions unfold....sure perks the ole libido ...
No intnet implied....totally in luv with an other....at least until the libido of the honeymoon phase lessens....one headache scenario will tell it all...hope u guys r still about when the judge drops that gavol.....
Do u think we'll ever really get it right??? | |
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Posted: 6/18/2006 6:12:57 AM | iNFAMOUS AFTERTHOUGHT ...... PLEASE , LET NOT ANYONE BURST MY LALA LAND BUBBLE
WAS SELF PERCEIVED 90 % CONTENT SINGLE FOR LAST FIVE YRS AND LONELY AND DISCONTENTEND IN 23 YR MARRIAGE AND 10 YR COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP....WHAT IN THIS UNIVERSE DRIVES US TO SEEK ANOTHER MATE....IS IT THE CHALLENGE TO SUCCEED AT WHAT WE FEEL WE'VE FAILED OR IS IT LUV[WHATEVER DESCRIPTION THAT IS] OR IS IT LIBIDO'S DRIVEN DESIRE. SEEMS THIS SELF PROCLAIMED EVOLVED SOCIETY IS SLOWLY
RETURNING TO PAGANISM.....OLDER MEN MAY ALSO HAVE BASIC CORE VALUES AND VIRTUES THAT R ANOTHER FOREPLAY IN EVERYDAY LIFE.....SEEMS POST INDUSTRIALIZATION PEOPLE IN GENERAL BECOMING MORE AND MORE FOCUSED ON MATERIAL AND LUSTFUL PLEASURES, AS THEY NO LONGER SPEND TIME SHARING ACQUISITION OF BASIC NEEDS AND ARE EVEN LUCKY TO MEET IN THE BEDROOM WITH GREAT EXPECTATIONS OF EACH OTHER, AND POTENTENTIALLY NOT IN SYNC WITH LIBIDOS AT A THAT RARE SIMILAR TIME, JUST BECAUSE THEY R TOGETHER. oLDER MEN HAVE MOR DAILY TIME TO SHARE.....dOORBELL.......I'LL SPARE U ANY MORE | |
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