| do u find the older u get, when u are not in love, sex isnt as great?
Posted: 3/28/2006 5:21:51 AM | yes i feel like that... i think once uve been in love at all and have had sex with that person, then casual sex just doesnt come anywhere close and u end up disappointed.
sex is great, dont get me wrong, but unless its with someone Ive got deep feelings for, then forget it... i get bored really fast. | |
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| do u find the older u get, when u are not in love, sex isnt as great?
Posted: 3/28/2006 7:30:13 AM | | The best most amazing sex you can have is when you are truly in love with the person you are making love to. The deep emotion is what brings desire, sensuality and craving for sex back into love making. The best orgasms of your life will be from the person your deepest desire is for. | |
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| do u find the older u get, when u are not in love, sex isnt as great?
Posted: 3/29/2006 5:18:29 PM | | Age is relative...and since I am almost 25 years older than you...my perspective is a little bit different. I was married for 14 years....and although I loved my husband very much...the sex was almost noexistant...per my choice...due to all the pressures and difficulties that raising a family brings about. When we did have sex it was mostly a guilt thing on my part and I just wanted to get it over with. Needless to say...he found it somewhere else and left. My loss. Six years post divorce I am convinced that sex with someone you don't have intense intanglements with is best. I am not talking about a series of one night encounters...but I guess I am referreing to an FWB, with whom I can enjoy sex with but minus the difficulties that come with a full blown relationship. This is a relatively new relationship for me....so I may change my mind as time goes on. Maybe it is just a phase and someday I will agree with most who have posted answers. | |
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| do u find the older u get, when u are not in love, sex isnt as great?
Posted: 3/29/2006 7:45:53 PM | | It is for me...I think its because i've done my share of "just for the sex"...I love sex...and i want good sex and i want a partner who wants it as much as i do...but the feelings have just got to be there. Also with age comes experience and knowledge of what i like....so i guess i want a partner i feel comfortable enough with to do all those things i've learned...and the comfort level comes from "knowing" and "loving" that person.... | |
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| do u find the older u get, when u are not in love, sex isnt as great?
Posted: 3/29/2006 8:24:47 PM | Okay sling some mud my way... i must admit..i think you're a bit young to feel so empty over having "sex", casual sex or not... Sex is sex...emotion makes it much better...sex with emotion involved is "making love"...
Sex is just a physically pleasurable act...making love is more emotional..with the physical thrown in...pick your partner more carefully and it won't happen.
I've had times in my life where just sex was what i wanted..and other times when that just didn't cut it...
Forgive me for making a bit of fun but...he can't have been that good lmao!! 
You can have great sex and feel good physically..it's the emotional bond that makes us feel fulfilled though^^ :)
Just a thought...please don't be too harsh in critisizing me.
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| do u find the older u get, when u are not in love, sex isnt as great?
Posted: 3/30/2006 1:29:27 PM | Six years post divorce I am convinced that sex with someone you don't have intense intanglements with is best
CSK, you're going thru what is called an EGO-REPAIR-PHASE. nothing wrong with that but I suspect you'll eventually outgrow it.
but you also make a good point. Sometimes it can get stale after a while, even if you do love the person. The challenge is to keep it fresh.  | |
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| do u find the older u get, when u are not in love, sex isnt as great?
Posted: 3/31/2006 8:12:55 PM | When someone says sex is "emotional" for them... I wonder what they MEAN by "emotional"?
does that mean they don't enjoy the other person physically? or don't want to please them?
to me "Love" means I want someone in my life. For them to be the most important love in my life, we have to enjoy sharing many things together... more things than with anyone else. If someone's sexual peak is reached only by someone making them feel important and appreciated and not sharing the physical joys of the act itself; that's a slippery slope with me. I want.. NEED to get physical and I think the other is really more selfishness and ego than anything else.
I don't want to be with anyone who feels like that. Sex is awesome for me.. physically. Better than ever before... better knowledge and more experience makes better lovemakers. No doubt in my mind. | |
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| do u find the older u get, when u are not in love, sex isnt as great?
Posted: 4/3/2006 10:02:32 AM | I think some people have missed the point of the question....it's not a matter of getting older and having lousy sex....you can be older and have great sex...the point is....
As you get older, "When u are not in love, sex isn't that great."
I will say this...sex is better, with true feeling, and caring ,and emotion and indeed, love.
I would have to say...age has nothing to do with it...sex has and always will be better for me, when i truely care and love a woman. Period!!
P.S. Mutual love is the best sex you can ever have^^...it's not sex...it's called making love.
Just a thought.
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| do u find the older u get, when u are not in love, sex isnt as great?
Posted: 8/20/2009 8:34:35 PM | I must be weird. I've NEVER found sport-fawking all that satisfying. Being in LOVE defines the relationship and concentrates the sex into a truly awesome experience - EVERY TIME.
I was with one lady for 21 years. Things were up and down for a long time but I loved her and we rode out the bd times and then for the last 2.5/3 years she was with me things were just getting better and better all the time.
There is a finality to separation by death. You also tend to hold the good times in much higher regard - almost like a tribute. It truly does define what we had and I long for that feeling again. I know at 56 even if she showed up tonight we'd never have the youthful crazy sex that you're capable of when you're young but the emtion would more than make up for it, I believe.
Too soon we grow old.
Too late schmart.
Well for some of us anyway. | |
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| do u find the older u get, when u are not in love, sex isnt as great?
Posted: 8/20/2009 10:00:11 PM | | I don't know if it's harder as you get older as I stopped having sex sans love in my 20's, had plenty before then...However amazing sex with love is breathtaking, unrivaled, and passionate,sensual on such a higher level. Yeah, the other stuff, eh..'s alright if that's all ya got..but I have much more than that / want much more than that. | |
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| do u find the older u get, when u are not in love, sex isnt as great?
Posted: 8/21/2009 12:53:33 AM | I agree with you on this one (0p)
If I feel closeness and want to love a man he will get 100% from me in bed.
Love making can be a wonderful and fulfilling arrangement if you are both wanting a proper relationship. 
Casual stuff might be boring because it can hold negative actions without really caring for one another, you would never get to know the person well and it is just an act which is forgotten, as no-one has really put enough of anything into it. Mistake!  | |
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