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| If you were to never have sex again, would it bother you?
Posted: 8/23/2007 2:45:19 AM | Well here is the scoop!
Sex research among older people — info you needed to know?
By Kurt Greenbaum
08/22/2007 5:23 pm
Turns out, a federally-funded study published in the New England Journal of Medicine tells us that “many older people are surprisingly frisky — willing to do, and talk about, intimate acts that would make their grandchildren blush,” according to the story today by the Associated Press.
Sex and interest in it do fall off when people are in their 70s, but more than a quarter of those up to age 85 reported having sex in the previous year. And the drop-off has a lot to do with health or lack of a partner, especially for women, the survey found.
The federally funded study, done by respected scientists and published in Thursday’s New England Journal of Medicine, overturns some stereotypical notions that physical pleasure is just a young person’s game.
Among the findings of the study, according to the story:
Sex with a partner in the previous year was reported by 73 percent of people ages 57 to 64; 53 percent of those ages 64 to 75, and 26 percent of people 75 to 85.
Women at all ages were less likely to be sexually active than men. But they also lacked partners; far more were widowed.
People whose health was excellent or very good were nearly twice as likely to be sexually active as those in poor or fair health.
One out of seven men used Viagra or other substances to improve sex.
Only 22 percent of women and 38 percent of men had discussed sex with a doctor since age 50. | |
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| If you were to never have sex again, would it bother you?
Posted: 8/25/2007 6:38:56 AM |
If you were to never have sex again, would it bother you?
I can tell you I believe in marriage or abstinance and this is why :
Sexually transmitted diseases (also known as STDs and once called venereal diseases or VD) are infectious diseases that spread from person to person through intimate contact. STDs affect guys and girls of all ages and backgrounds who are having sex — it doesn't matter if they're rich or poor.
Unfortunately, STDs have become common among teens. Because teens are more at risk for getting some STDs, it's important to learn what you can do to protect yourself.
STDs are more than just an embarrassment. They're a serious health problem. If untreated, some STDs can cause permanent damage, such as infertility (the inability to have a baby) and even death (in the case of HIV/AIDS).
How STDs Spread
One reason STDs spread is because people think they need to have sexual intercourse to become infected. That's wrong. A person can get some STDs, like herpes or genital warts, through skin-to-skin contact with an infected area or sore. Another myth about STDs is that you can't get them if you have oral or anal sex. That's also wrong because the viruses or bacteria that cause STDs can enter the body through tiny cuts or tears in the mouth and anus, as well as the genitals.
STDs also spread easily because you can't tell whether someone has an infection. In fact, some people with STDs don't even know that they have them. These people are in danger of passing an infection on to their sex partners without even realizing it.
Some of the things that increase a person's chances of getting an STD are:
Sexual activity at a young age. The younger a person starts having sex, the greater his or her chances of becoming infected with an STD.
Lots of sex partners. People who have sexual contact — not just intercourse, but any form of intimate activity — with many different partners are more at risk than those who stay with the same partner.
Unprotected sex. Latex condoms are the only form of birth control that reduce your risk of getting an STD. Spermicides, diaphragms, and other birth control methods may help prevent pregnancy, but they don't protect a person against STDs.
Preventing and Treating STDs
As with many other diseases, prevention is key. It's much easier to prevent STDs than to treat them. The only way to completely prevent STDs is to abstain from all types of sexual contact. If someone is going to have sex, the best way to reduce the chance of getting an STD is by using a condom.
People who are considering having sex should get regular gynecological or male genital examinations. There are two reasons for this. First, these exams give doctors a chance to teach people about STDs and protecting themselves. And second, regular exams give doctors more opportunities to check for STDs while they're still in their earliest, most treatable stage.
In order for these exams and visits to the doctor to be helpful, people need to tell their doctors if they are thinking about having sex or if they have already started having sex. This is true for all types of sex — oral, vaginal, and anal.
Don't let embarrassment at the thought of having an STD keep you from seeking medical attention. Waiting to see a doctor may allow a disease to progress and cause more damage. If you think you may have an STD, or if you have had a partner who may have an STD, you should see a doctor right away.
If you don't have a doctor or prefer not to see your family doctor, you may be able to find a local clinic in your area where you can get an exam confidentially. Some national and local organizations operate STD hotlines staffed by trained specialists who can answer your questions and provide referrals. Calls to these hotlines are confidential. One hotline you can call for information is the National STD Hotline at 1-800-227-8922.
Not all infections in the genitals are caused by STDs. Sometimes people can get symptoms that seem very like those of STDs, even though they've never had sex. For girls, a yeast infection can easily be confused with an STD. Guys may worry about bumps on the penis that turn out to be pimples or irritated hair follicles. That's why it's important to see a doctor if you ever have questions about your sexual health.
For more information about the signs, symptoms, and treatments of some common STDs, click on the links below.
Chlamydia
Genital Herpes (HSV-2)
Genital Warts
Gonorrhea
Hepatitis B (HBV)
HIV and AIDS
Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID)
Pubic Lice (Crabs)
Syphilis
Trichomoniasis
Reviewed by: Larissa Hirsch, MD
Date reviewed: March 2007
What can I do to avoid getting an STD?
There are steps you can take to keep from getting an STD:
Don’t have sex. The best way to prevent any STD is to practice abstinence, or not having vaginal, oral, or anal sex.
Be faithful. Have a sexual relationship with one partner who has been tested for STDs and is not infected is another way to reduce your chances of getting infected. Be faithful to each other, meaning that you only have sex with each other and no one else.
Use condoms. Protect yourself with a condom EVERY time you have vaginal, anal, or oral sex. Condoms should be used for any type of sex with every partner. For vaginal sex, use a latex male condom or a female polyurethane condom. For anal sex, use a latex male condom. For oral sex, use a dental dam. A dental dam is a rubbery material that can be placed over the anus or the vagina before sexual contact.
Know that some methods of birth control, like birth control pills, shots, implants, or diaphragms, will not protect you from STDs. If you use one of these methods, be sure to also use a latex condom or dental dam (used for oral sex) correctly every time you have sex.
Talk with your sex partner(s) about STDs and using condoms. It’s up to you to make sure you are protected. Remember, it’s YOUR body! For more information, call the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention at (800) 232-4636.
Talk frankly with your doctor or nurse and your sex partner(s) about any STDs you or your partner have or had. Try not to be embarrassed.
Have regular pelvic exams. Talk with your doctor about how often you need them. Many tests for STDs can be done during an exam. Ask your doctor to test you for STDs. The sooner an STD is found, the easier it is to treat. | |
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| If you were to never have sex again, would it bother you?
Posted: 8/25/2007 6:44:48 AM | | If it were -just- the orgasms, I can get that from BOB. But the intimacy on a variety of levels, the feel of another body, the connection that comes from sex with someone you are very attracted to would be missing... and THAT is what would drive me insane if I couldn't have it again. | |
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| If you were to never have sex again, would it bother you?
Posted: 8/25/2007 8:12:30 AM | I like sex, who doesn't, but I can live without it and sometimes do for a long, long time. I have a pocket rocket haha. I don't enjoy sex unless it's with somebody I really care about and really want to be with so I don't have sex very much, as I'm single.
Casual sex, for me, would be less exciting than my pocket rocket since I probably wouldn't get an orgasm.  | |
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| If you were to never have sex again, would it bother you?
Posted: 8/25/2007 8:49:30 AM | | In the end sex happens in the mind. So if you think it's overrated, in your head it is and you will never experience what others have. If you do not think is overrated, and it's to you like oxygen, then it is oxygen. However, you need to look at what is it that you define as sex. To me sex is shared intimacy. So the many forms that it takes are important like the air you breathe. But if sex to you is nothing but an act, where nothing is shared, then more than likely you will never get to like it much. | |
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| If you were to never have sex again, would it bother you?
Posted: 8/25/2007 10:00:32 AM | | I would have to say yes, it's a huge part of what makes a relationship function properly. it's not merely a physical act, but, rather a connection between two people that can't be replaced by anything else. Passion is a gift the way I see it, I'm not talking about meet and greet sex at all and maybe thats what you have had too much of. | |
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| If you were to never have sex again, would it bother you?
Posted: 8/25/2007 10:12:23 AM | orgasms and sex are two very different things. Could I live w/o another orgasm? I wouldn't like it much, but maybe. Could I live w/o sex? Oh HELL NO!
I'm not sure once someone has been in that intimate sex as an almost religous experience they could so easily say sure, no problem
Most will keep chasing that dragon I think. | |
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| If you were to never have sex again, would it bother you?
Posted: 8/25/2007 10:53:48 AM | Yeah I could live without sex. It would suck but there is a lot more to being content in life then just sex. It's been a little less then a year for me, and the longer I go without, the less I think about it. Still though...I do crave it sometimes, but I just chalk it up to hormones.
If I had the fore knowledge that I would never ever have sex again, I'd probably get deep into meditation, yoga, and all that stuff. Ultimately I believe, in a "non-religious" sense, that our physical bodies are just vessels for something far greater...so why put sooo much emphasis on the act of reproduction? If you can get great, if you can't...well then you can't! I'm sure driving a ferrari down a freeway at 160mph would be explosively orgasmic, but I've never done it and probably never will...so why let it get me down and be preoccupied with it? | |
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| If you were to never have sex again, would it bother you?
Posted: 8/25/2007 11:00:10 AM | Would it bother me? Yes, it does. It has bothered me for several years now.
Not only does it bother me, it hurts. It is breaking my heart.
Especially since I bend over backwards to make her happy.
She says that she loves me but she just has no desire for sex or to touch or be touched.
I don't even want to think about it. I get very depressed. | |
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| If you were to never have sex again, would it bother you?
Posted: 8/25/2007 11:20:46 AM | Dear Goddess... it'd drive me insane!!!
I get antsy after a few weeks. (Um, yeah, pretty much climbing the walls right now... *sigh*)
Part of why I am hoping to find someone who makes my heart race, someone I am compatible with - someone for a longterm relationship, is because I would like to have someone in my bed every night! (Realistically, I know, a partner probably won't be up for every day/night... but at least most, I hope!)
I am a very sexual, sensual person... intimacy is a *need* not a "want" in my life.
Working out, even writing (my creative outlet), doesn't even come CLOSE to the emotions/intensity/passion/release I experience with sex.
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| If you were to never have sex again, would it bother you?
Posted: 8/25/2007 1:55:52 PM |
To never again feel a lover's embrace, to never feel the electric feel of skin on skin, or to never see that fiery passion in each other's eyes.
You can have intimate relations without actually having sex....so if you dont want sex you can still feel your lovers embrace and smooth skin, feel the warmth of their breath on your neck....
I don't just want sex...I want Rock-my-world, grabbing the headboard,...look into my eyes and see my soul sex...what some would call...lovemaking...I can achieve orgasm alone, and I'm good at it...I want the whole package...So, were I never to have sex again...okay...I can live with that...But to never have a man make love to me again....no...I need that
I agree with all the quoters above, I would really miss it...it's been a long time now for me....many months....what I really miss is having someone to cuddle with in bed, I love skin to skin "spooning" and waking up next to someone. | |
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| If you were to never have sex again, would it bother you?
Posted: 8/25/2007 2:00:07 PM | I could go without sex for the rest of my life easily (whilst i have got to perfectly good hands i will be fine) 
I also agree with you sex is very overated
I'm not sure i could go without kisses & cuddles though or to just feel wanted | |
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