| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 9/8/2006 9:03:21 PM | | I dated a man who was visually impaired, and, although some facets of the relationship needed extra support and attention, I gained so much insight and enjoyment by "seeing" the world in a different way. We eventually broke up because of different values, not because of the disability. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 9/8/2006 10:01:07 PM | Hi bookyone, I Have been around and been friends with disabled people but have dated any as I was married at the time. I am widowed now. It would depend on the disability as I am a small woman an I could not handle a lot of lifting, otherwise than that I would consider it. It is not the disability that counts. It is the personality and chemistry.
Sometimes veterans who have lost limbs feel that they would be a burden and no one would want them. That is not the case with a lot of people.They like everyone else need love in their life. We all disability or not need to find that certain someone, and who knows they may be disabled. I don't think it matters, at least for me. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 9/8/2006 10:17:55 PM | I dated someone in a wheelchair, was paralyzed from chest down, I used to shoot a lot of pool in my moms tavern and he started coming in, watching me and making comments on how I played. One night he started talking to me and asked if I would consider dating someone in a wheelchair? He was very easy to talk to, not bad on the eye, so I figured what the heck, and said " Of course I would" and then he asked me out, so I then replied "WOW, this is awesome, I have always wanted to go with a man I could push around." We all got a big laugh out of that and he then knew I was really comfortable being around him, and that is what it is all about with anyone, being comfortable. It was wonderful for a while. After about a month, he started asking me to help him with his personal needs, in which at first I did not mind, at times he really needed help, and it does feel good to be able to help anyone, especially someone you really like, but it just got to where he wanted me to do more and more for him, and was very possessive with my time.
Dating is one thing because we are all have our hang ups on what we think we want and who we see ourselves with!! But to not want to be friends and talk to you just because you are disable, mentally, physically, doesn't matter, we "ALL" have feelings and yours is just as important as mine, and let me tell you, on here, at one time or another, we all feel the same way as you do, we just do not know what our disability is, so at least you are one up on us!!!!  | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 9/8/2006 10:34:19 PM | I was also born with Spina Bifida w/ Hydrocephalus. I am an open minded guy but never seem to find more than friends. To me the whole idea of someone have a disability does not matter. Why would the world shun this person?
Don't you think its been hard adapting to a world that wont adapt to us with a disability. I cant stand the word disability. I am differently abled but have found that women in Calgary are not at all interested in a nice short guy that wlaks with amild limp. I mean women say they want a nice guy... I am a very nice guy but cant get anywhere. I mean I have to know the person before I get into the nuts and bolts of my disability. I get frustrated when discriminated against. I confront those people that laugh or smirk. I dont need the added pressure in life. So what I am short with a minor physical disability. Does that make me lees of a person?> | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 9/8/2006 11:08:46 PM | I have dated someone that has a disability and it was great but had its difficulties as I am a disabled person as well. Now for me I am disabled with a chronic illness called Fibromyalgia (look it up) and Chronic Fatigue syndrome. So I have my own that I deal with but I try my hardest to keep doing as much I can and lead a normal life as much I can. I am not wheelchair bound but I walk a little slow. I workout and do what I can.
I have found out that guys either do not care as some would like to have the opportunity to care for me. I am active like every other female out there or more LOL in the ummm other department. Some guys care and those usually disappear off the face of the earth and I expect that to occur. I am used to it and I know that it is their loss as they missed out so much with me. 
So I think almost everyone has some sort of illness that they are going through such asthma, bad back, messed up knees or hands.
I know that at this point of my life I do prefer someone that is remotely healthy meaning even though they have health things going on, they are still able to function. I need that encouragement from them to keep going with all that I go through and for them to be there as a support system (opening the door for me, making sure that I am alright, etc). | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 9/8/2006 11:20:52 PM | | I would date someone, no problem. People on here say that disabled people can't keep in an active lifestyle. I have taught many disabled people to ski. There are people in chair that can outski all but the elite levels of racers. I heard of a guy in a chair that was working on doing a helicopter ie: 360 in a piece of adaptive ski equipment. Never heard if he pulled it off. They can wear out an AB skier | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 9/8/2006 11:25:11 PM | | I don't mean to sound shallow, but to me it would depend on the degree of the disability. For example, I did once go on a couple dates with a girl who was blind, but I would find it VERY difficult, to go out with a girl who was, say, on the Stephen Hawking kind of level... I mean, it just totally kills the whole mood for me, and it's hard to develop any sort of romantic atmosphere in that kind of situation. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 9/8/2006 11:53:46 PM |  this is such a hard subject for me....
as i dated...a guy who was hearing impaired....another with cerebralpalsy and a couple others with different physical inmpairments of less meaning.
i dont care what disability a person has if i am interested in them...but i found the hearing impaired guy was anything but that..he was totally normal...we just didnt click in the important ways. the guy with cerebral palsy ( i dont like myself over why i ended it)he was a great guy and caring loving etc....was his vocalism shall we say...while in intimate moments....i actually hadnt talked to him in over a year..ran into him last nite..and realized i did right by him..not me...since i would have hurt him more if i tried to fake acceptance over something that litteraly annoyed me ..but i also realized i still cared for him just as much as i did when i disappeared on him...but i also know i would of hated myself if i stayed...after trying to tell him for over 2mths it was not for me to be more than casual friends.
i did volunteer work for years with many groups....lions telethon/clubs....optimist clubs etc etc....i am not shallow/prejudiced over a handicap... just i am human and can accept any handicap almost..even with my own dad before he died and was confined to a wheelchair...where i was his daycare giver...while my mother was at work.
right now..i am yet in a delema with myself over a very very dear friend i have known for many years....we were neighbours and spent many days together as friends...and with our kids together..while our spouses were at work.(no we never were romantically inclined and not even a consideration between us...as we have solid thoughts on loyalty to our partners) the 4 of us were the best of friends and trusted each other together....we spent at least a couple hrs together a day together...at nite we always had our coffee/tea time after all the kids were in bed. his wife..was actually a daughter to my parents good friends for years.
he is single and so am i...he wants to date...and work on a relationship..but he has a few physical handicaps..which doesnt bother me as friends...but they progressed over the years....he is asthmatic...and 75% now confined to a wheelchair....and it doesnt bother me as friends...i could actually see us together as partners if i decided to go that way..since we know each other so well....
i am mad at myself right now...since i cant let myself go past the friendship level we have had now for over 15yrs. i so adore him as a friend..but cant see a romantic relationship....over my ignoraNce to his progressing handicaps. i cant say why..as its very personal....but as a woman i still need the physical needs when i am with a male. its not his fault and i blame myself here..since i know i would want more than he could give at times.
 i could see myself in total love with him..if i could get past my insecurities... | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 9/9/2006 2:39:39 AM | | this is a good and honest subject to bring to the public attention i am a disabled person so dating lady who is disabled wouldn,dt be a problem for me from a able bodied propective it may be and this will tell u if ur looking for love to be aware of as many people out there arnt as genuine as they make out to be if any one has a disabilty becareful as not to have ur feelings hurt | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 9/9/2006 2:54:16 AM | | being honest from the start is the best way forward as disabled people -people with medical conditions need a lot of support and understanding as they may have to take medication which may alter how they feel from time it takes a lot of strength from the able bodied community if they dated disabled people as it would be hard for them to deal with so their needs to be understanding and communication from both parties enjoy yourselves with that in mind. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 10/10/2006 11:44:57 AM | Once I start talking to someone I always let them know that I was born with a very mild case of cerebral palsy and what they will expect to see when they meet me. I have nothing to hide and I havent let it stop me from doing the thing I want to do.
I dont think I would openly post it on my profile though as I have heard quite a few people get mean messages back without cause | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 10/10/2006 12:06:56 PM | My knees went bad last year and I need a cane. I can't run, hike or dance. I can go for slow walks if the terrain is relatively level, but not for longer than about 20 minutes.
If I met someone whose lifestyle was much more energetic than mine and he really wanted an activity partner, I'd hope we had more in common so he could still enjoy knowing me, but
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the situation is reversed and I met a man who was wheelchair-bound, IF the chemistry is otherwise great, sure, I'd date him. I know I would not be in any position to provide physical care of his needs but we'd still get along if the basic rapport is good.
I would have difficulty dating anybody if mentally/emotionally we're not in sync, disability or not. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 11/23/2006 6:09:16 AM | I've been reading the many different threads on this base subject and have enjoyed reading the different views and opinions.
There are a few quotes I'd like to share that I think people need to remember when looking at any potential mate or even making new friends.
To paraphrase Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., "you cannot judge someone simply by the color of their skin or the condition of their body. You must judge the person by the content of their
character. "
"The key here is to realize that everyone is different, and a disability (or lack thereof) is simply a condition of the body, not the full measure of the man or the woman."
"that a person is only as disabled as you let them be and inside that person is someone whom isn't disabled and is worth getting to know."
"Disability is a matter of perception. If you can do just one thing well, you're needed by someone." Martina Navratilova
My 2 cents... | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 1/11/2007 10:46:22 AM | Well sweet lady,
Well thanks for giving us disabled men a brake in dating us. Yeah distance can be a factor. I am disabled and have muscular dystrophy. i guess the women in my area don't care to even give us a chance to love. It is sad but I don't let that stop me. Well have a nice evening down under. bye
Juan | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 1/11/2007 10:47:20 AM | Well sweet lady,
Well thanks for giving us disabled men a brake in dating us. Yeah distance can be a factor. I am disabled and have muscular dystrophy. i guess the women in my area don't care to even give us a chance to love. It is sad but I don't let that stop me. Well have a nice evening down under. bye
Juan | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 1/11/2007 11:03:43 AM | | why is it so hard for people to just look at whats on the inside of a person and not whats on the out side. for me there would not ever be a proble with dating some one with a less than perfect body . .. because i was raised to believe beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. and you should never judge a book by its cover. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 1/11/2007 11:15:40 AM | | I have dated a guy who was def and it didnt matter to me, I was supportive of him and tryed to learn as much as i could about what he was going through. He was not born that way he got hurt as a teenager so he could speak and hear with hearing aids. He ment to the world to mer tho and his defness didnt change that. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 1/11/2007 6:05:12 PM | I worked with a man that was born with cerebal palsy for almost a year when I was a home health aide. He had the best personality. He met his wife back when he was in school and had been married to her for twenty years. When he was out and about (motorized wheelchair was his car), he would have girls hanging all over him. If he had been single, he would not have wanted for a date. Considering he could do nothing for himself - he couldn't even feed himself, it was amazing how many were just attracted to his personality.
At my work there's a man that is really friendly and sweet that's totally blind - white cane, braille, etc and I wouldn't think twice about accepting a date if he ever got around to suggesting it to me. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 1/11/2007 6:40:49 PM | | As a physically disabled person I would generally say most people do not want to date us. I hold down a normal job make good money play disabled sports. Live a good clean life. Have everything going for me except one thng. I can meet women here and if I do not mention it I can get a date. Then it is over. Now I show my picture on my posting and will that is it. I do not get any resonces at all. LOL. Someday my prncess will come. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 1/11/2007 7:18:35 PM | ah, let me say...I'm deaf guy. In my dating experience. It have alway end up disaster. DUe with lack of communication. I cant speak very well. American Sign Language is my first language. its hard to find the one who s willing to learn about my cultural. I guess nowaday everyone is picky. Lots of discrimination toward to me in my experience.
Its hard for people who willing to learn sign language. it require to be patience and give a time.
I should be fortunately that I m not blind, or on wheelchair, etc. that could be worse. | |
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