| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 1/11/2007 8:11:03 PM | | I have Cerebral Palsy.........very mild, but it needs to be told...This has never been an issue for guys, usually my looks and personality are enough to catch and keep a guy interested. However, I don't think I could deal with someone with a severe disability, one worse than mine. Met a guy with CP much worse than mine and saw firsthand how difficult it would be.....he even fell at the movie theater, and I could not help because what could I do to help a guy get up.....So there is a safety issue involved. Would the disabled person endanger you or themselves? Can you handle it? Etc......There are different circumstances to consider ofcourse, but if it is worse than mine I would say no. I am currently dating a wonderful guy who does not consider my disability a problem at all.......I am blessed and may those with disabilities find their true love.......Valentines Day is coming! | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 2/17/2007 6:26:30 AM |
As a physically disabled person I would generally say most people do not want to date us.
you are right RightGuyRightHere but what we can do? we have to accept this reality 
*********** Normally lack information about our condition causes it. ************
I’m a disabled man (spinal cord injury and wheelchair user). I not afraid to say I’m disable person and explain my situation, as I believe the inside is more important than physical body. Our soul is the main part of our existent, so you cannot judge the person by his body.
I’m very active person and try to do anything possible which able bodied acting in their life, I’ve got many interests driving, travelling, swimming, fishing, reading writing and many …..
I studied many interesting topics and am studying computing at the moment and appreciate knowledge. I know unfortunately some people don’t understand our situation. I’m not blaming anyone, because normally lack information causes it, we have accepted this reality.
I was dating a wonderful lady who was spiritual, open minded, easygoing, understanding, very sensitive and romantic and was really indescribable. She was living in Kent, but, sadly last year she passed away and after that I haven't been lucky to find someone like her. She was older than me (about 53 years old) and we spent the most beautiful moments and enjoyable time together which I never ever forget that. We had different religion, but it never stopped our relationship.
I created my profile and deleted it several times in here, because was disappointed and not being able to find a lovely lady yet. I hope eventually find a right and sweet lady, but not sure. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 3/17/2008 6:41:12 PM | They're intimidating because you're scared.
You're scared for two reasons:
1) You simply have no understanding of the issues involved, and that therefore makes you feel inadequate.
2) It forces you to self-examine and therefore re-discover your own own problems (which everyone has to a certain degree)!
The simplest (and most intelligent) approach to this situation is to study disability and get yourself educated on the subject and the social issues surrounding the subject.
Talk to people.
Most people these days have at least one family member or close family friend who has a disability of some sort.
Disabled people will happily explain their situation to you. Just ask!!
And finally....
We've all got the blood of Eden running through our vains. Nobody's really that different (Extra-Terrestrials excluded  )!!! | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 7/9/2008 8:31:05 AM | Unlike most people, who are active and are clearly seeing dating a disabled person as a prblematic holdback, I am a very active person cycling 30+ miles at a time camping out overnight on the moors, I wouldnt care If the person was able enough to look after themselves while I was away where would the problem be ???
Besides science has done alot to enable ablely challanged people to do able bodied sports so all it would take is a little concideration and respect and all the challenge would be was to find the empathy to overcome the ignorance of others that hold the abaliy challenged back - EG.. the little boy recently on the news who lost his legs, who over come that problem to play football again ! so in most cases the disability is the ignorance that holds back the ability and not the physical disability ....
James
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 7/10/2008 9:45:01 PM | Hey there -
I think that it is hard for anyone to consider dating someone with a disability. Of course, it always does depend on the disability. I have Cerebral Palsy myself and have dated men, who have a disability and men who do not. And I honestly have had to think twice at times about dating someone with a disability, just because of the level of disability they have. I like someone who can do various things with me. I love being out and about, not harping over the fact that I have a disability. So I always picture myself with a man without a disability. But who knows what will come.
I would always consider dating someone who is disabled because hell I am disabled. I use a walker and I don't have the greatest fine motor skills. I think what makes anyone cautious about dating someone with a physical disability is the fear. We don't know about this person. Can they have sex? Can we do this? Or that?? The questions multiply in your head, so much so that it is really hard to consider this person for anything more than a friendship.
But I don't think people have anything to fear when considering dating someone who is physically disabled. There are things to think about sure, but I'd say give us a shot. :) We are all looking for the same thing. Physically disabled or not. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 9/1/2008 8:10:45 PM | Having taken care of both my parents when they each died of cancer, I know I have it in me to take care of someone I love who is ill. However, that experience did teach me that I am not suited to working in the healthcare industry. The people who can have gifts I do not and thank God they do. Being a primary caregiver is a rewarding, sad, difficult task, a blessing, and I would never change those experiences for anything.
I would have to say that it would depend on the disabled person, not their disability. If they cannot accept their disability with as much grace and good humor as possible, then I have to say no because I can't live in an environment of bitterness and anger. It would aslo depend on my ability to be truly helpful to that person, and our ability to build something special together irregardless of the disability. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 9/2/2008 6:15:17 AM | Ive just finished reading all the responces to this and I am truly amazed at how little most healthy people know about people with dissabilities.
The comment I was most amazed at was the women who wouldnt date some one with a dissability because she wouldnt be able to go skiing in the mountains-lets all keep our fingers crossed and hope she dont fall of the mountain and break her back.
Honestly most people with dissabilites are more than capable of looking after them selves.
I am disabled and I spend so much time helping all of my 'healthy' freinds deal with what ever crap is going on in there lives.
Dont make the mistake of thinking if you date some one with a dissability your going to have to become there nurse. Ok there might be the odd person with a dissability that is lazy and milks it for every thing they can get. But most of us can look after our own health needs and wouldnt want your help anyway. We are strong people thats why we are still alive and not dead. Stop treating us like we are dead.
Also there is no reason why some one in a wheel chair wouldnt be good in bed, you may be suprised. There are plenty of medications out there on the market that can help paraplegics get very strong erections that last for over a hour easily.
Think about it, in this day of age were the adverage person is completely self obssessed. Wouldnt it be nice to have a partner that was always there for you, some one who would really appreciate you. People with dissabilities have a lot to offer, probably more than a so called 'normal' person.
Im sorry to ramble on about this but I realy am very passionate about this topic.
The last thing Im going to say is no one knows whats around the corner, all it takes is one unlucky fall and landing the wrong way, and BAM you might spend the rest of your life in a wheel chair.
Wake Up People
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 9/6/2008 2:55:04 PM | I have had several relationships with women with significant disabilities. They were all been good relationships, and disabilities have never been a negative factor in a relationship. Indeed, I would say that it has normative for me to be with someone who is physically different or disabled.
-Gray | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 10/27/2008 5:41:57 PM | I have an invisible disablity(means that you can't tell by looking at me), called "Multiple Chemical Sensitivity". It has many other names: "MCS/EI", "Sick Building Syndrome", "Chemical Injury", "Environmental Illness". There are a few more names that I can't think of right now. It is the same exact illness that the 9/11 first responders have from being exposed to the fumes at the WTC, or what many of our military are getting from being exposed to chemicals during their missions overseas.
Even the slightest exposure to chemical vapors, will usually cause debiilitating/painful symptoms. I have to be outside and in public with a respirator on my face. There aren't many places in our society that don't have chemical vapors, that usually don't make other peeople ill.
The things that make MCS people ill are: perfume, drier sheets in clothing, scented and unscented hairspray, pesticides, fresh paint, diesel fumes, air fresheners, soaps, shampoos, scented candles, etc.
To spend time with an MCS person, people need to be completely fragrance and toxic free. It is very, very difficult if you are a person who is used to using chemical products to spend time with an MCS person. So, just imagine how difficult it is for someone like me to date others!
I need to meet people who regularly shop in health food stores and use natural products or completely fragrance free. Even then, people with MCS have difficulty going in public, and anyone who dates someone with MCS will have to get used to being seen with a person with a respirator mask on. It takes some patience and getting used to, and much easier if a person was already fairly toxic free before being in my life.
Blessings! | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 10/27/2008 7:31:58 PM | I would say no. Personally I don't want a relationship to involve me taking on someone's problems and becoming their caretaker. It's nice to have someone you can lean on once in a while instead of always the other way around. Depending on the disability, I don't see how that could be an equal partnership.
I think it would just take a person who wants to nurture someone. They are out there, my ex-roommate in college developed a relationship with a guy who was totally paralyzed and took over all his care. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 10/27/2008 9:37:56 PM | As I said to a similar question: Sure I would. My relationships with women who had significant disabilities were warm, wonderful, and fulfilling. I am much more worried about defective character than with a body that looks or works differently.
Vive la différence! | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 10/31/2008 1:50:43 PM | | I am disabled, more so, am Deaf. But everything else works fine with me, I can talk, I can drive, I can walk, I can converse, I can play sports, I can kick your butt if I wanted to, (Nawww), I can kiss, I can do whatever, but you would be surprised on how many girls back off when they find out I simply cannot hear, my ears just don't work...I wear a hearing aid, I grew up in the hearing world and act like a normal person, what difference does it make if you date a person who needs to wear glasses? Same idea. But it is sad at the same time...for example..if this girl went off to France, and she doesn't know French, but meets this nice French guy, and she wants to get to know him some more, but the language barrier is in the middle..she does not let this deter her, yet she asks the guy how to say stuff in French and they eventually learn each other's language and eventually "fall in love" or have fun with one another....can't the same logic be used when I meet a hearing girl (Again, I can talk, and I know sign) but if you are too afraid to open your mouth and talk, then you can always ask me to teach you some signs to break the ice and then it goes from there..same idea, same principle, but Ive heard excuses that "oh its different..its just....." Just what?? I dont bite and I am a very easy going nice guy who's interested in meeting people and I enjoy having a good time!! | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 11/5/2008 6:24:51 PM | | i would date a disabled person being one myself i understand that they are people just like anyone but one thing i have noticed on this and other 'DISABILITY' forums is that people automatically think that if someone is in a wheelchair they would have to take up the role of care giver. Im wheelcahir bound and perfectly capable of looking after myself thankyou and not only that i also care for a disabled brother who is in a better condition than myself so open your mind a little you may see a whole new world. please remember disabled not unabled. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 11/11/2008 3:06:44 PM | | I dated a woman with mild cerebral palsy once and didn't have any problems. She occasionally had seizures, but barely noticeable otherwise (not the violent ones, they were random black-outs). Initially I was taken aback by it but the more I thought about it the more I realized it ultimately didn't matter. Yes, there were concerns that had to be taken for her safety and consideration but it really didn't affect how either of us felt or were attracted to each other once we got passed the first few dates. She had a great personality, was very beautiful and could carry a great conversation. It definitely humbled my outlook towards being open with dating. It inevitably didn't work with us unfortunately; for reasons completely unrelated to the CP. | |
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| How many guys or gals would consider dating a physically disabled person?
Posted: 11/11/2008 9:55:22 PM | I believe I read on here, that someone said that they would not date someone with Mental Illness. Why? If they are leading a "normal" life except the Mental Illness, then why not date them. Of course it would depend on the Mental Illness and if they are taking their medication like they are supposed to.
I have a Mental Illness, Depression. It is being controlled with medication. Yes, I still have some periods in a day were I will get depressed for about a hour or so. But then my mood improves and I am back to somewhat "normal".
People with Mental Illnesses also want to be loved and cared for just like everyone else, probably need it even more. But many people do not or will not take the time to understand what the Illness is and how it affects that individual. Also every individual with a Mantal Illness needs to have a good support system for them to be able to manage their illness or even beat it. A part of that suport system are friends and family.
As for a physically handicaped person, would I consider dating someone with a physical handicap? Honestly, I do not know. It depends on the person and their physical handicap. Or as some like to say, "Their Physical ability". Also it would depend on what type of physical handicap it is and how it affects them. | |
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