| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/3/2008 12:01:11 AM | | Yes, we had a great relationship for eight years(were called the two bratty redheads)she took a travel agent course & then became one.At first I tolerated the short trips,but she just loved traveling,especially the adventure of going alone.We started argueing more & more about it.She said she wanted us to stay together,but she wanted to be able to travel the whole world.I was holding her back,so I moved out when she was in Australia .I still miss the 'old ' her,but she is so happy now,and has found some one who likes her being away on trips.I think its a happy ending !! | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/3/2008 4:36:31 AM | | No, I can't say I have. The ones I loved who left, I didn't "let" go. They went, because they did not love me. Unless I wanted to become a stalker, I had no choice in the matter. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/3/2008 8:32:43 AM | | Yes. He's very happy with a great woman, who I've met and like. I'm happy because I get to see HIM happy...we went through some rough times and we just didn't make each other smile anymore at the end...who wants a long-term dose of THAT? | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/4/2008 10:02:50 AM | Yes.....
My Ex-Boyfriend!
We were together for 4 yrs and with him I truly experienced what it meant to love someone "Unconditionally"! I made the mistake of centering my world around him and ended up losing him because I gave him too much of myself and there was no challenge for him. He met someone else and married her 2 months later. He later learned she had some mental problems and they split up. All of his friends and family were against them being together because of all the things he told them about her when they broke up, but he was truly miserable without her. When he came to me with the news that he was not with her anymore, he and I both thought I would have jumped at the opportunity to be with him again, but I just talked with him and listened to him, and held on to him when he cried over her. I still loved him so much and would have given just about anything to have him in my life again, but I knew how much he truly loved her ......I was the one that encouraged him to not give up on their marriage and to fight for what was important to him no matter what his family and friends had to say about it!!! He took my advice and they are very happy,but the sad thing is that by getting them back together we no longer can be friends because she is very jealous and insecure. If she only knew that the person she worried most about taking her man away was the one that was in her corner! I loved him that much and still do...... | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/4/2008 10:32:58 AM | Oh, yes. I've been there in my way. It can be just as hard to let someone walk away as to walk away from them. He was 19, I was 25. The relationship was very long distance. We were best friends; partners; inseparable. It was a lot of work that didn't -seem- like it to me at the time. We were friends for four months first, and then dated for five. The end was so difficult because it felt wrong. It felt like there should have been something we could have done about it.
But he was a lot younger then me, and had a whole life ahead of him. Had a family he loved, as I did with mine, and that he could not see himself leaving them despite what we felt for each other. When it ended he told me that nothing would change between us aside from our "title" to one another. But I suppose the fact that he did not understand all that this "title" implied probably has something to do with his age. I genuinely pray for his happiness and I hope that life is good to him. He has it in him to be a good man and he deserves all the best.
As for me? I have moved along and am trying to move forward, but I will admit there are times he still crosses my mind. A love like this is not something one forgets in a day. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/5/2008 12:23:28 AM | | Someone once said they loved me but it wasn't healthy for either of us to be in the relationship so they let me go, but what annoyed me was that it was their decision not mine, the choices were made for me. I only wish we had been able to communicate better. It wouldn't have been good whatever as the other person just didn't want to be with me anymore. It was long distance and it was killing them but what really hurt was they told me they didn't want a relationship with anyone but then I found out a couple of weeks before they actually broke it off they had an ad on here for LT. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/5/2008 2:33:09 AM | | WOW-THIS IS GONNA HURT!But yeah,i have.Had a friend for 13 years.When my ex and I were havin problems he helped me out with truck repairs and such.This was all with his wifes knowledge and blessing.When I went to pick my truck up one night,my ex followed me.He told my friends wife that we were having an affair-we WERE NOT.She left him 2 days later-took absolutely everything.My friend was crushed.I was there for him every step of the way.Would have done anything for him,even let him go!Now during this he admitted to me that if he ever thought we ever had a chance he never would have married her. I had not had sex in 5 years.We were getting accused of it anyway,so I figured what the hell.If you're gonna get the parking ticket,may as well take the space!Turned out a physical relationship wasn't enough for him.He swept me off my feet.After 15 years of being in a loveless relationship with a man that had never been faithful to me-I fell hard in LOVE>But there was still some hold his wife had over him.I told him if she was what made him happy then go to her. That is how you know if its real love.You care more about the other persons happiness over your own.One snowy night I got a call.He asked me to come over.He had had a particularly bad day.Wife needed tires,he paid for them,now she refused to talk to him.Anyway-I arrive at his home and can't find him anywhere.I called his mom.She said he was "depressed"again like he was on Thanksgiving when his wife invited my ex to dinner.He tried to shoot himself.Was locked up for a 72 hour hold!I visited everyday-his wife did not.Mom told me where else to look.I went back into the house and heard phones ringing from upstairs.He had his cell in one hand and cordless in the other.He had HUNG himself.Trying to call his wife over and over.She would not talk to him.She didn't even shed a tear at his funeral.Gotta go now-can't see through the tears anymore.Good question!! | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/7/2008 2:01:59 PM |
For whatever reason, have you been strong to let someone go because you loved them enough?
And if so, what happened or what ever became of them?
Guess OP's question was also a general question about love... and I think it works the same way for everone you love... for lovers who were not meant to stay together, for your kids leaving home someday, for someone who got close to your heart for other reasons...
There's a wording:
"If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. And if they don't, they never were."
Guess that's true. Even if you think you will lose someone... the bond built on this love may grow even stronger and if so the traces left behind are never made of anger or regrets, it will still be love. Maybe not the way you thought of, but lasting and still something you don't wanna miss.
The poem from msg#45 is a good one too. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 6/10/2008 11:03:37 AM | | My spouse changed. I lost the playful, sexy lady with issues that I just loved and wanted to protect. She became heavy (100 extra lbs), mean, cruel and unloving. I thought it was me and worked at it for 8 years. Friends left, she disowned her family and loved to spend her time cutting me down. I missed the lady I fell in love with. Her wardrobe changed to MUmu's and birkenstocks. One day I said I've had enough. I thought she would want to make it work..."De Nile"...she joined a gym and soon victoria secret items and new clothes becan to arrive, even heels and those thong panty's she had dissed for years...so she's back on her way to becomming the woman I 'd loved and the only way for me to get her there was to let her go. I loved what I had, hated what I got and will someday be recovered from the whole experience. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 6/10/2008 11:11:55 AM | I did...once...
She said, "She had to find herself..."...and that was that...
She never did, and after twenty some-odd years, and three husbands later...she's in an even crazier scenario...
But I've gotten older, and have changed as well...and what might've been important then...isn't now...
Maybe...I just don't give a s**t anymore... | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 6/18/2008 1:54:08 PM | | i went to prison for 2 yrs,my partner needed somebody beside her whilst i was away,why not she did nothing wrong.on my release she was there to rekindle what we had before i went away but had strong feelings for her new partner, i left her to her new man and now they have a child, i loved her she loved me and theres not a day goes by when we dont think of each other | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 6/18/2008 3:06:47 PM | | Yes, I blew him off for 2 years after we separated even though in my heart I loved him so much. But, his family didn't like me and I didn't want to cause any complications in his life, so I let our divorce go through. Still, it is hard to deal with sometimes. I hope one day he realizes I did it all for him. Doesn't make it any easier on me or our son. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 6/18/2008 3:11:00 PM | | Yep - I did. He was trying to find his kids and to get them back off his ex wife. We'd only been together 6 months and I knew that he was being pulled in 2 different directions which must've been a complete brain fart for him. I loved him so much I had to let him go for his own sanity. It broke my heart at the time but at least I could walk away knowing I'd done the right thing. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 6/18/2008 3:18:36 PM |
Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Hmm...interesting.
Yes I have...but I dont think its either necessary OR that reflects at all their love for me.
To let someone go...means you will grieve for them in exactly the same way you would as if that person has effectively been taken by death.
The difference is...for the most part...death is not a choice.
To let someone go deliberately because they want something...IS a choice on their part.
And THAT ^^^ is a reflection of their Love for me.
See...you dont HAVE to make the choice of one thing or another...people only *think* they have to or they should...infact I think its rather cowardly.
examples
Career versus Relationship with someone you truly love.
Distance versus Relationship with someone you truly love.
There's absolutely no reason IMO that you cant alter your life path to contain everything.
I dont much care whether or not to do it means you have to be negotiating, accomodating and mutable.
Thats what you do when you LOVE someone...its called supporting each other.
So...could I let someone go because they made it an unnecessary choice? sure.
Would I ever take them back? no | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 6/18/2008 3:22:03 PM | Yes, I have loved someone enough to let them go.
He is happy now, and that's what matters.
Just because I loved him did not mean we were going to make it as a couple...and I am happy he is making it with the right woman. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 6/18/2008 4:14:08 PM | Yes, I was madly in love with a man who was separated for 18 months. She wanted nothing to do with him anymore. The two of us were amazing together.
She found out about me and wanted to come home. He loved me very much but I knew he loved her and their memories more, so I let him go easily without a fight. They were together 25 years and had a lot of history. I respected him for wanting to make it work, even though it nearly killed me. Never thought I would ever get over him. Probably the greatest man I have ever known.
We still keep in touch occasionally. Most times he is not happy with his decision and regrets it. But it was his choice, and something he has to live with. If he really was so unhappy than he would leave.
There will always be a special friendship and bond between us. I truly want him to be happy and work things out. I really really loved that man, enough to let him go. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 6/18/2008 4:46:44 PM | | When I was 21 I fell in love with a woman who was perfection as far as I could see. We met through the mail when I was at sea in the navy. At first it was the occassional letter and then it was two or three a day. And that was before we met in person. We talked about marriage and I loved her whole family. But she had to go to work in D.C. and me in San Diego. The last time I saw her was her first day of work there. It took me a while to get settled and she was still searching for living arrangements too and so we didn't talk for a while. Too long. I finally got a phone number for her and when I called a guy answered. When I asked her if he lived there she said yes and then silence. I understood what that meant. I told her I loved her and always would and said goodbye for the last time. But I've never forgotten her and think of her everyday. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:27:32 PM |  Yeah, I have actually.. very recently. The guy I was interested in just doesn't feel the same for me. I like him a lot and would love to jump in a relationship with him, but he's going through a lot of emotional things that he's not comfortable telling me about. Due to that, we decided to stay friends. Even though we can't be in a romantic relationship, I still think highly enough of that person to never want to lose him. So we talk, but not like we used to. I've backed off and he lives his life and I do mine. It's sad, but whining about things doesn't help a situation. Sometimes you just have to suck it up and move on.  | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:31:22 PM | Oh gosh, this is the hardest thing. Knowing when it's just a rough patch and you can make it through... and when you're hoping for something the other person just isnt capable of giving.
I havent done it... yet. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 6/18/2008 5:35:54 PM | | i did!it was the hardest thing in the world to me.it hurt so much.he was moving away,and i was not able to go.said someday we would be together,that day never came..i guess it's true,if you love someone set him free if he comes back hes yours!! | |
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