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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 8/6/2008 2:00:26 PM | | yes they wanted to believe all their friends and didn't want to commit 100% to the relationship they also had past relationship issues so for my sanity and theirs i had to end it even though i knew it would work if he would only take more time out for us and not others. it hurt but i had to end it and i see he is still single the only difference is he has his ex gf and friends on there do 'heart warming' testimonies on his profile which i'm afraid makes him look sad and desperate as he has obiviously gone crying to them and they have felt they just have to back him scr*w the truth just back him no matter what lol i am now dating and enjoying life yes i sometimes stop and think what if but you cant live like that can you. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 8/6/2008 4:32:51 PM | | Yeppers, he broke my heart. As far as what has happened to him, I don't know and I don't really think about it anymore to be honest, as long as he's happy with the choice he made. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 8/6/2008 4:40:39 PM | | I recently ended a year and a half relationship with a man I met here on POF. He is a great guy, big heart and loved me to death but I could not live with his lifestyle and he knew how I felt so we mutually decided to end the relationship. I felt it was not fair to stay with him when someone else could accept him just as he is; he deserves that. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 8/6/2008 8:40:57 PM | Yes...but in a different sort of way...my girlfriend was dying of a very rare illness and I did everything possible to keep her alive...never slept for a year...fought every issue to get her better health care and struggled to help her with every penny I had ...did my best to make her laugh at all times and ease her suffering...slept right beside her the last 3-4 months of her life in Palliative Care 22 hours per day...then when there was no more hope after saying she loved me I had to let her go fulfilling my promise to be with her when she passed away as I kissed her...the toughest part was letting go the last/final time before she was cremated...different than what most of you are talking about...still the worse type of letting go possible and harder to forget.
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 8/6/2008 8:52:56 PM | I guess I could say I have, because our relationship was bad and she seemed really unhappy. What happened to her? Last I talked to her, she had said she would never find someone else like me, and she really wasn't even interested in looking  .
I think the hardest thing to do, though, is to love YOURSELF enough to let SOMEONE ELSE go. If YOU are unhappy, you should be able to let the other person go regardless of how they feel about it. That's the hard part. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 8/6/2008 11:15:58 PM | | Yes 1 and a half years ago. He was the love of my life. I loved everything about this guy. I knew I would never meet another like him. I would of done anything for him. We had the best sex ever. He went down hill when we split up and is still slowly descending. It is so hard to give up someone u love so much. We were on great terms when we split. He had a drinking problem and just could not slow down. I had to move on. Still waiting to find someone I have feelings for like that. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 8/7/2008 1:11:36 AM | Sometimes you can love someone enough to let them go. Cases in point...if you know deep down inside the relationship is keeping them from accomplishing their dream, then it's the right thing to do. Also, if you constantly fight with them about little things and it starts to affect each person's general health and well-being than by all means...termination is the only option for the relationship. If you know someone would be better off with someone else than yourself than it's a tough situation but it's also the way to go.
You can still love a person very much and make the sacrifice that will bring them the maximum joy in their life. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 8/7/2008 12:10:13 PM | "And then the day came
when the pain it took
to hang on
was far greater
than the pain it took
to let go."
My ex wanted something particular in life that I could not provide.
(Other women)
I insisted he go find that.
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 8/7/2008 12:23:50 PM | OMG yes and i pretty much wasted 13 yrs of my life thinking that something was going to happen between us such as marriage or me moving in with him. We both lived in two different cities and we talked more on the phone than we did in person. I finally opened up my eyes and knew that he wasnt going to committ to me anytime soon. I know what youre all thinking, why did it take me 13 yrs ?
Well i always had hope but we always remained good friends and we still love each other no matter what goes on in our lives and i know i will always have a friend to talk to whenever i need one. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 8/10/2008 1:19:21 AM | | Yes and Yes I am going thru this right now. I met someone over a yr ago....we have been thru alot. He is younger than me and when we got together the children issue wasn't a problem because he had prostate cancer and couldn't have kids and I have been fixed. anyway, here it is 17 mos later and after having some tests run, his sperm count is up and his chances of having children are 80% compared to the 24% when we met. He wants a family so badly...I am going thru the change, and my chances of having anymore kids is not good. I love him so much it hurts. Adoption is outta the question, costs too much money as does the surragate mother thing. At this moment I am looking to move my stuff into storage, and finding another place to stay because I know in my gut I will NEVER be able to give him the children he so richly deserves. I love him, but I am letting go. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 8/10/2008 1:22:17 AM | Just recently. She seemed like my soulmate. The person I've been looking for for many years. However, she decided her husband was worth a second go, and I'm now left to find some other soulmate.
It was/is incredibly difficult not to drive over and see her, but she's made her choice, and I must live with it.
I don't regret falling in love. I also don't regret letting her go. I did everything I could to let her know how I felt and what I was offering. But in the end, it is her choice.
I really wish that she chose me, but she didn't. So now I'm still fishing, again.
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 8/10/2008 4:21:05 AM | Yes did that once, and lived to regret it. Since then i have learn't that if it ever was to happen again i would take a chance next time. Learn't over time that life itself means taking chances. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/9/2009 6:05:56 PM | Yes, did it recently as well. The way I look at it is: "If you love someone, set them free, if they return, it was meant to be" Or something like that 
Anyway it hurt, & still does. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/10/2009 7:54:54 PM | Yes I sure did-
He wasn't over the ex-wife...
Things were going good between us, we became really close, his family liked me and vice versa but his heart was still with her.
I wrote him a long and painful letter stating that I understood and that he should try it with her again (regardless of how dumb an idea it was). And he thanked me for understanding and said I was incredible.
I don't ever remember going through heart break that bad... | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/10/2009 8:02:29 PM | naiveteisbliss,
I can relate to what you went thru as well. I did once go thru what you experience and it is for the better that you see them with someone else. I would just back off and talk to other people instead back then. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/10/2009 8:16:53 PM | | Yep....a couple times in my life. The first one married a girl a year older then me and they have two children now....I think. The other one was just three weeks ago, so it is too soon to tell what will become of him. I'm sure whatever happens in his life will make him happy and he will fair well. That is my wish for him anyway! | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/10/2009 8:19:30 PM | Yes, my ex-wife. She wasn't happy with me. She cheated. I let her go. I helped her with the immigration process to get him in the country. I even performed the ceremony that united them in marriage. I wanted, above all things, to make her happy. We all get along fine and I will be staying with them next month for a week when I return to Florida.
I didn't make her happy, so I did what would make her happy!
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/10/2009 8:32:46 PM | When I was in my early 20's, my cousin was married to a woman I adored. Naturally I didn't act on it, but it appears that she noticed it. They seperated and she showed up at my home. We ended up sitting on the bed talking, when that moment came. When the world comes to a stop and there is nothing but electricity cutting through you. It occurred to me that my cousin and her might get back together if I didn't get in the way, that it would be a betrayal of him, that it was simply wrong. I began to act like an ***hole and she left...I said I was young. Behaving badly was all I could think to do to get her to leave.
They did get back together, but before a year was up, they divorced and remain apart to this day. It's hard not to imagine what might have been. But I wanted to do the morally correct thing. Was I a fool to let her leave? | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/10/2009 10:21:50 PM | | I had to, because the person I was with at the time had gone through many hardships in life. She hadn't experienced alot of things we get the opportunity to. So I figured it was best now to let her go instead of waiting and letting my feelings for her get stronger. "If you love someone let them free, if they come back then it was meant to be" | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/10/2009 10:25:32 PM | I kinda think true love is forever. And sometimes for everyone involved it is better to let them go even though you both still love each other or even if one party is truly in love.
But I'm a romantic at heart. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/11/2009 12:00:26 AM | Yes I have actually. Once so far with another soon to come.
About 6 months ago I let go of a great man... he wanted children of his own and I had no interest of having any more. I felt it was selfish of me to continue dating him and keeping him from finding that special someone who could not only compliment his life, but give him the child or children that he so desired. We are still good friends to this day and I don't foresee that ever changing.
In another 3 months, my oldest will be leaving the nest to set out into the world to be his own man. Again, I will have to let him go and cut the apron strings. It will be difficult but I'm confident he will do well. He has grown up to be a respectable and honorable man and I couldn't be more proud of him. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/16/2009 12:07:43 PM | Yes.....
My ex and I had broke up and he met someone off of a dating site. He knew her for 2 months and married her. He found out later that she had alot of hidden secrets that effected their marriage and relationship. The love I felt for him was truly unconditional in every way. He and I remained like best friends even after we broke up. She was a very insecure person and would not allow him and I to remain friends any longer. I understood and had to respect his and her wishes. I was very sad I was losing my best friend. We did not talk for over 2 years, until one day he showed up at my door and told me what had happened with the two of them. She had gone off the deep end cleared the bank account and split. He had found out that she was suffering from a personality disorder called Bi-Polor. His family and friends all told him to get rid of her. I saw how much he was hurting over her and I suggested that he talk to her and see if they could work through the issues they had. I explained to him that had she been taking her meds like she was supposed to , the behavior she displayed may not have happened. He agreed to have dinner with her and discuss the possibility of working things out between them. They ended up getting back together. As much as it hurt me to let him go, it hurt me more to see him so unhappy without her. | |
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