| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/16/2009 12:20:17 PM | | In the 80's I had been tied up into some really rough situations that could have involved me in losing my life. I had to disconnect from all that I loved , just to keep it safe . My Girl , Family and even my favorite places to hang out had to come to an end . Now this is well into the milliniem and I have been reunited with some of what i let go , but not all understood. I do live a happier life knowing, I did what I did in a non-selfish way, just to protect the ones and thing's I love. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/16/2009 12:21:11 PM | Absolutely. If I love somebody, I really REALLY do want the best for him. And if the best involves me not being a part of his life, I will let him go.
This has happened once, and although it was hard for me to do, I was very happy deep down knowing that he was better off. So all is good. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/16/2009 12:38:40 PM | Only once, first love... head over heels but I wasn't ready to settle down and I knew he was (he was older) so....
...we still talk sometimes, just on a casual level. He's still single (off and on), I think he was bitter about it for quite some time, I broke his heart... but seems to be happier now (let's hope so- it's been almost 7 years). | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/17/2009 7:31:51 AM | I agree with the let them "grow" comment ^^
I also believe in letting things "FLOW". If it feels good, why ruin it? If it ain't broke - don't fix it.
I believe some women loved me "enough to let me go" - and I just wound-up angry at them.
Personally, I feel that unless you two are having some major dysfunction or incompatibilities that "Letting go of someone because you love them so much" is just a cop-out for "I just don't want to be with you anymore" -or- "I just don't really know what I want" -or- "I have things I want in life that I'm not being honest about that I believe you don't want / don't care about".
I'm willing to bet that 9 times out of 10 the ones who use this excuse to end something, just made lots of assumptions about what their partner wanted in the relationship or in life without checking with them first. I call that "attempted mind reading" A.K.A. --> lack of real communication.
I'd rather you be straight-up with me about it, than try to take "the upper hand" by making yourself sound so damn omniscient and benevolent. Like I'm some sort of lower life form, and you're GOD. It just makes you sound arrogant and snotty.
Putting it that way sounds like you're playing GOD with someone. As-if you're doing them some sort of "favor" and being all benevolent about it. Cut the crap please.
It's fvcking condescending and it just makes you look like a total ass-hat.
Just my 2ยข
Mike | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/17/2009 11:11:05 AM | Yes. And it is not fun. I loved him very much. But I ended it more or less for me. He was happy going no where in life, living paycheck to paycheck and a dead end 7 year job. I could not take it anymore. He had no will or ambition to better himself even though everyone knew he could. I am trying to go for my career in criminal law, and here he was, working the same job for 7 years, not one raise, and satisfied.
He is now still where I left him. We talk once in a while, but that's it. Still waking up at 11am, leaving for work at 1pm, coming home between 9-10pm, drinking beer, going to bed, and waking up doing it all over again. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/17/2009 5:18:55 PM | | Yes, its hard. He was too good for me. He did a lot of loving things for me .I was too naive. Too many other girls wanted to be him, I knew I can't handle that. There could be more than one love in a person's heart. Both of us moved on long long ago. | |
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