| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/13/2006 12:25:21 PM | | Actually.....yes I have........he's still in school........but when he was with me, he would just downward spiral.........it hurt to realize that the one I loved the most.........I was no good for...not what he needed.....I don't know why, but it would happen every time he spent too much time at my house............I still love him........but he's just not ready for the depth of commitment that I needed after almost three years. I wish him a world of happiness though. It hurts.....but one must move on. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/13/2006 12:32:48 PM | | Yes I just had to do this recently and its killing me. Hes been married twice and cant comitt so I have to let him go and maybe hope that he will decide that the grass isnt greener on the other side of the fence. Dont worry Im not holding out for him I AM going on with my life. But I love him very much and it kills me to know hes out there dating other people. So its time for me to do the same. I wish u luck. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/24/2006 10:06:06 AM |
often wonder if having my heart broken and being single all these years is my karma for breaking his heart.
I ask myself this very question every day of my life. Just what was it that i did fo rkarmaa to hate me so much...and isn't enough and enough!!! When will my debt be paid off! | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 12/18/2007 3:11:09 PM | Sadly enough YES ((( I dated a gal once who was damn near perfect.. everything about her was made for me... We dated 9 mos, ( I had a 5 yr old daughter at the time, she had just said goodbye to her 2nd son as he turned 19 ) she wanted to travel and live etc.. I had a child that needed me and I wouldnt walk away from. With all the love in the world, I told her that this wasnt going to work and I couldnt see a future where she would be happy.
Not sure what ever became of her today, but I know from a friend that our picture (me and child) stayed on her desk for 2 yrs... | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 12/18/2007 3:54:28 PM | Hello,
Yes I did, I had no other choice. Well, I mean I did have choice, but I couldn't live his lifestyle and he couldn't change to live mine. We tried for almost ten years to make it work between us, because we both loved each other but the sacrifices ruined it.
I don't mean to tell you all of this to make you think what has happen to me will happen to you and I can only hope that person doesn't turn out to be the love of your life, like mine seems to have so far. I still have hope and believe this is not so.
I only dated a few guys within the last five years ( it's been that long since I last saw him). Like I was saying, I went out with a few guys and usually after the first date I go home feeling lost or something. It has taught me to be so strong (almost too strong).
He taught me so much about life, relationships, etc. But he also taught me things that forced me to make the decision to leave him. The bottom line was our lifestyles where just too different.
Now what I know is this: I really believe that what we start out living a lifestyle as we are raised to live, and we don't think about how we are raised until we change our lifestyles. You know we start living a different lifestyle. Some of us always manage to come back to that starting point in our lives (like a loop).
ok, I'll try it this way, If we are raised one way, it's a challenge everyday to adapt to someone elses life style that is also their starting point that they are living and perhaps never changed that lifestyle. This is hard to explain, lol... Did any of that make sense so far, man? lol...
Say for example you started going to bars at the age of 21, then you stopped later for whatever the circumstances where that allowed you not to go to bars anymore. you get married, have kids, etc. The otherside: now say that you start going to bars at 21 and you are still going to bars at 49 , and inbetween those years you never stopped going to bars! This is two different lifestyles. Did that make sense?
ok, Irreconcilable Differences with lifestyles! Yeah! Got there... took me awhile. lol...
Anyhow, you love someone but you just can't be them and they can't be you, and living and loving each other the differences are like night and day. You want to go this way and they want to go that way, but you love them with all your heart.
I know which is worse being alone and being lonely or being with someone you love and being lonely. I choose to be alone and get over being lonely! But I still love a man that does exist, but that existence is no different then two ships passing in the night. Feeling like ten long years being lost at sea... ha, ha....
My human side says, it's not meant to be.
My spiritual side says, I love him and it's not meant to be.
My reality side says, you did the right thing and it's not meant to be.
My doubtful side says, have faith and hope, because isn't meant to be.
So I am here  and having faith, but enjoying my life. I really don't think of him as much as I used to, but I still think of him too often.  I wonder if he is happy and I sometimes wonder if he ever thinks about me. lol...
Chela  | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 12/18/2007 6:10:06 PM | Hi,
First off. It's not up to anyone to let another "Go" . I have had a relationship that ended amicably even though I didn't want it to end . If someone wants to end a relationship, what choice do you have. How can you really prevent them "Going?
Just my opinion... | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 12/18/2007 7:56:51 PM |
For whatever reason, have you been strong to let someone go because you loved them enough?
And if so, what happened or what ever became of them?
Yes, My last live in GF. It was in my best interest and her well being and I kind of forced her out. Toughest thing I have ever done in my life.
And if so, what happened or what ever became of them?
After some time she married the first man she met. They now live together happily and I can't be more happy for her. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 12/18/2007 7:57:08 PM | | Yes, and it hurt like Hell. What happened? He found someone else and got married a year later. I knew it was for the best, but ouch ouch ouch. I loved him tremendously and always will. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 12/18/2007 9:11:43 PM | | Yes and it was very painful.. but i did it becasue i loved her and wanted her to be happy.. i ate the pain so to speak and cut ties so she would be free to pursue the other relationship. it's a long and complicated story.. but i did and it hurt more then anything i have been through in life.. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 12/19/2007 4:21:19 AM | He was a foreign student 14 years younger than I wanting to settle in Canada but ended up moving to the States for work. Well at first it was more of a fling that developed into something more serious and one day it hit me, I was in love with him.
The relationship lasted a couple of years. I broke up with him way before he decided to move but we were still very much in love. I had been married, had kids, been divorced earlier in life and that he was at a different phase of his life. I knew as long as I was in the picture, it would have interferred with his desire for a family and he felt pressure by his family to marry someone from the same origin. I love him so much, and although I cherished his love selfishly, I knew I was holding him back. I ended up moving out of province before he left. I couldn't bear to see him leave and to say good bye.
I was in a total emotional mess then and needed to distance myself to turn the page and to move on. It took me nine months to get partially over him. I still bear the scars.
Seven years later, he moved back to Canada with his new wife in the same province where I live. Coincidence? We connected at some point in time and the love was still there for us. Our meeting brought closure for me. In retrospect, I didn't want to open this door again -especially a newly wed man. I told him, I didn't think it was appropriate for us to see again and turned the page once more. It wasn't meant to be period. However, I will always have found memories of us and he will always hold a special place in my heart. What I have learned from this is the dept of my own feelings for another human being. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 12/19/2007 8:20:21 AM | He was wonderful in all ways but he would not work...
I could no longer carry the whole load of support and live with this no matter how dearly I loved him..
7 years later,,,,I see him from time to time,,he brought me sunflowers last year
He still does not like work
prairie 44 | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 12/19/2007 11:29:15 AM | Yeah.
Just finished talking to her about a half hour ago.
We connected spiritually, romantically, and in every other way except physically, as we were on opposite sides of the country, separated by 3000 miles.
She met a man over where she lived, and I grudgingly let her go. Since then, we miss each other almost as much as we try to move on.
We were the first people that each of us opened up to... She was afraid of rejection like her mother had had from her father, and I was afraid of never being appreciated.
In the end, She had to reject me, and I had to learn to appreciate what little satisfaction we'd had in our time together.
~ David | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 12/19/2007 11:38:12 AM | | Yep my only 1 true love! Last december he actually broke up with me but since then we have went back and forth back and forth. I learned that when u love someone sometimes letting them go is the only thing u can do. I learned that my absence made his heart grow fonder. I learned by setting him free he keeps returning back to me. It's like since I don't contact him now he contacts me. I felt like he was the one but he has issues and I don't think he will ever get past the issues. I can't be there to console him all the time. I gave him many opportunities. He was truely meant to be alone. I do believe this now. It was been a little over a year and he has not went out with anyone else. I'm glad I made a lasting impression on him. I think he believes I am too good for him and he can't get past it. I never judged him though, I just loved him for who he was. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 12/19/2007 11:55:57 AM | Yes I have. When a man gives me the impression he is interested in someone else then I let him go after a few signs he isn't trying with me any longer.
Is he still with her? No.
I have no regrets.
I want someone to be with me because they WANT to. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 2:47:24 PM | | I did, it was tough but sometimes you have to make a decision on whats right and not on what you feel. Im sure not much has changed with him, he will make a great partner for someone else. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 2:52:39 PM | | If you truly love someone then your priority should be their happiness...I knew things were not gonna work so I let him go..I stopped pursueing the one man I thought I was meant to be with and now he is one of my best friends. He doesn't need to know I still love him...he just needs to know that I'm his friend and I'm here for him when he needs me to be just like he is for me. We obviously were not meant to be and someday I will meet someone who is right for me. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 3:11:44 PM | | Yes. My wife and I of 12 years in total are seperated and will be divorced soon. She told me in a letter that I needed to let her go as well as a divorce. My question is how does one find the strength to forgive when all youve gotten are lies and deception and unfaithfulnessmduring the process? It is the ultimate breach of trust between two people | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 4:18:38 PM |
First off. It's not up to anyone to let another "Go" . I have had a relationship that ended amicably even though I didn't want it to end . If someone wants to end a relationship, what choice do you have. How can you really prevent them "Going?
You can't stop someone from going... but letting go of someone is more ending the relationship when they don't want to.
I've done it...
And more painfully and more recently, been the one "let go of".
Deeply in love, but 650 miles apart. He was supposed to move here, but when he realized he couldn't do that yet and didn't know how long it would be til he could... he walked away from the relationship. Hear from him every now and again, but barely.
Kind of pisses me off, because I'm an adult and thought I should have the right to have a say in it, but I also know how hard it was just getting through those months counting down to him moving here. Only seeing each other once a month was so hard and to have to deal with that for months or even years would have been brutal.
I miss him terribly despite it having been months - wish he knew that. It doesn't make it easier knowing that he did it for me. Doesn't make me miss him less. I don't know what would have been worse - this or struggling through more months of missing each other. Right now, I'm inclined to say this is worse. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 4:26:14 PM | | Yes i have, and its so hard because we still have contact because of our children...He had grown beyond our marriage, and i saw that and let him go without a fight...people still look at me like im stupid... | |
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