| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 4:29:19 PM |
Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
This doesn't even make sense to me.
If you let them go, it's because you're willing to go through the process of un-loving them.
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 4:42:04 PM | | I met someone on another site I was crazy about. He was crazy about me but had some issues which caused him to doubt his ability to keep me happy. I left so he could have whatever time he needed to see how perfect we were together. He sent me an email two days before he was killed in a motorcycle accident. What is it they say.. if you love it let it go and if it loves you it will come back to you. Not sure of the verse but that is so true. | |
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Nona37
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 4:57:49 PM | Wow, this is a good thread. I know of someone who loved ME enough to let me go, he knew I would never love him the way he loved me, and all the years of chasing me had finally taken it's toll on this man, he actually stated to me once, after many years of trying to "land" me, when I actually came to him after all those years and stated that he and I could be together, "You do not love me in that way, and I have to let you go so that you can find the man who you can love in that manner, I have to let you go, because that is how much I love you"!
He was killed in Iraq a couple of months ago, and I still to this day, unfortunately, have not met a man who is even remotely close to loving me the way he did, I know he set's a high bar for any man who comes into my life, but if I can ever find a man who can love me the way this man did, and so unselfishly, I swear I would marry him.
This man was so great, I"m more than likely going to name a not for profit organization after him, that will aid homeless veterans, he deserves that honor, he was not only a wonderful man and childhood friend, but he was a very brave soldier, he died a hero. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 5:55:15 PM | Yes, I did once.
I met someone in a land far far away and due to my responsibilites (and his) it wouldn't have been possible for either of us to move closer to each other. Because I cared and loved him I wanted him to find happiness and love with in a reasonable distance. I will always care about him and love him and who knows..maybe one day things will change but for now I just want him to be happy. | |
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Nona37
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Joined: 12/4/2007
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 6:14:06 PM |
If you let them go, it's because you're willing to go through the process of un-loving them.
My daughter was being torn in two trying to abide by the court ordered shared custody. Her stepmother wanted her to stop seeing me. She wanted to protect her father. I let her go and when I did I gave her a plaque with a butterfly that said - in brief - when you love something, let it go .... etc. She came back years later (I missed some key events in her life) and it took 2 years to get her step mom's poison out of her system. I never stopped loving her. You don't, you know. Not when you really love someone.
Prior to that I had loved a man who absolutely could not tolerate children. The choice I had to make was him or my children. No choice. I loved him and let him go. I understood why he could never share a woman with a child. A couple years later someone invited me to contact him again. The fires were still hot and I chose not to burn myself with contact. I don't often think of him anymore, but when I do it is still with love and caring.
Yes, sometimes love does mean let go. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 6:15:50 PM | yes!!..he was my best friend!..
I told him to go for the chance of a life time in hs career.
He thought I was trying to get rid of him. I was doing this for him..his future..
I thought nothing could come between us anyway and things would work out in the long run.
He found someone else a month before he left to move across country and I was /am devistated!
Last I heard..she got pregnant a month after he left,(long distant relationship) and he was marrying her. (quiting his job out there and moving back here) He is giving up so much!
All I can do is sit here and wish him all the happiness this life can possibly bring him.
A day doesnt pass, where I dont think of him!
thats all I have to say about this.
If you let them go, it's because you're willing to go through the process of un-loving them.
so untrue....I let him go...because I do love him! Nothing can ever change that. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 6:20:46 PM | I loved myself enough to let my ex go.
I don't mean that to sound sarcastic, I'm quite serious. It was one of the most difficult things I ever had to do, and it was against her wishes (but not her boyfriend's). If I had stayed with her, I would have no self-respect left at all.
Ultimately I'm sure it was the best for both of us, as we were just growing further and further apart. I wish her well, but any hope we had of maintaining a friendship went away when she later started ripping me off, financially. It's hard to be un-bitter enough not to feel that she probably misses my credit cards, and maybe my weenie, more than she'll ever miss me.
But life moves on..... | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 6:26:52 PM | Lol!!! Yeah,... funny how we do seem to dwell on our pasts though! GOOD I'm NOT the only one doing it!!! Yeah, I met a Wonderful Beautiful Woman almost twenty years ago. I was so smitten, and she was quite accomodating. I did fault myself though, I was freshly back to my home town after my first carreer of three years and was unemployed and taking upgrading courses at college. I ended up leaving town to further my education,... I learned a year or two later that she was the youngest Aunt of the buddy I left town with.... thus my knowledge that at least I think she's been married and had children.
Now,....?! Well, 13 years of the same job, and am ready for another carreer shift,... if it happened again? Well,... I think I have the potential to spite carreer for love. We can't take the physical with us when we depart the hereafter,... what about love? Guess thats where FAITH comes in!!!!
Second time was due to the fact that I just had to repect my future children (I still have those thoughts). Children have so much going against them as it is... why give them a harder life still? Sure I find it hard to abide by a smoker,... But NOT AROUND MY CHILDREN!!! I know the stat.s Even having one smoking parent increases the likelyhood of chidren becoming smokers. Yeah, THATS' great for a family, mine or my children! (sarcastic) | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 6:27:04 PM | | Yes. 3 months ago, my GF of 8 yrs said she wasn't happy anymore and was not longer in love with me. I wanted to fight to keep her, but it's not like she wanted me to pick up towels off the floor or take up flamenco dancing to please her. Not something I an easily fix. She stated something that I couldn't fix, and although I've never been one to give up, especially after an 8 yr investment, I figured if I can't make her happy, or if she's not in love with me anymore, no amount of begging, pleading or crying will help. So I let her go on to a happier life, while I fell apart..So is the price of love. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 6:31:50 PM | Mizztery
You cant hold onto something that has to be set free!..Resentment always follows
We have to accept endings and realize that it is for a reason. (destiny)
We cant keep those close ,who dont really want to be there. The tighter we hold on..the faster they slip away. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 6:42:36 PM | | I have loved someone enough that they let me go. I didn't want to go, but they let me go anyways. Then, after about three years now, I am about over it. They did try to make some contact in between then and now, but I didn't respond. Let them have their cake and eat it too. I may get my heart broken again, but it will not happen twice because of the same person. It was tough, but life is tough. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 7:36:31 PM | I have done this.
It started in 1992 when I met the man of my dreams. It was a true "Love Story". We did everything right. We took it very slow. Dated every day for 9 months before anything ever happen. Once it did, there were no boundries to our love.
He asked me to marry him an I said NO! He said, no???? Why??? I said that I would only marry him under one condition. That condition is that you would give me a 50 year contract.
50 years???!!!??? I am already 52, he said. Yes, I know, I said. And in 50 years you will be 102 and IF you can find another wife...then God bless you! However, in 50 years I will will only be 87! And I KNOW I CAN find another husband!
He like my logic and agreed. We were married 2 years later. We never mentioned the contract again. On our 3rd anniversary he gave me a card. Inside he wrote 3 down and 47 to go. I cried.
His health had never been all that good. He was a cancer survivor and about the time we were engaged he was diagnosed with diabetes. He had a very hard time adjusting to the diet and exercise program. He started having strokes. He was haspitalized several times. A few of the times were touch and go. I was always by his side telling him that he had to pull through because I loved and needed him so much. He always did.
I came home one afternoon, after an anusually bad day. He had begun taking daily naps. I called up to him when I came in. This time there was no answer. When I went upstairs I found him collapsed on the floor. I called the ambulance and we went to the hospital.
As bad as it had been in the past, it was never this bad. The doctor told me that it was in Gods hands this time. Several hours later things got worse. I finally had to go to the doctor and tell him to stop. I knew it was time. The doctor agreed.
They tidied everything up and shut down the machines. He was in a coma now. They told me that the end would probably be only minutes away. I sat and held his hand. The minutes ticked away...then an 1/2 hour...then an hour....then more hours. The doctor said he did not understand. Just then, I did!
There were still 361/2 years left on the contract. Earlier when he was on the machines, his numbers would jump about five points everytime I spoke..but only when it was me speaking. I knew that even in his coma he could hear me and was listening to me. I knew what I had to do.
I bit my lip until it almost bled, Then lied through my teeth. I sat up straight, still holding his hand and told him that it was ok. I told him that I understood if he had to leave and that I would be just fine. A very short time later, he grasped my hand tightly and semi raised it twice....as if to say good bye. And he was gone forever. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 7:45:46 PM | i let a man i loved more than any other man in my life go because i knew he needed to be single......he has since dealt with his issues and met a woman he is now engaged to, i've had to mourn that engagement, but i am happy that he is happy
the guy i'm dating now i also let go...which was hard to do cuz i think he is so incredibly hot in so many different ways...but this time the man keeps coming back, so i know he is mine to keep  | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 7:49:03 PM |
If you let them go, it's because you're willing to go through the process of un-loving them.
mr dyno---- real love thinks of the other persons' needs...just like a mother giving up a baby for adoption, she is doing this for the childs sake, no matter how much it breaks her heart
no such thing as "un-loving" someone | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 8:38:15 PM | Many years ago I let a man go that I loved. He wanted children and I had reason to believe that I might not be able to have children. So it wasn’t worth the risk of him being unhappy later in life.
It didn’t take long for me to realize that I could have given him what he wanted; however, at that point in time, it was too late as we were both married to different people.
Odd though in retrospect, unlike him and his wife, I didn’t have any problems having children with my second husband.
Life sure can throw curve balls… | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:31:21 PM | One hated my guts and still does. (pardon me if I'm depressed the same week my big wonderful brother dies).
The other one loves me very very much and understands why things were the way they were when we were 14. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:44:07 PM | | Sh!tz, I believe that we each do this w/ everyone who's ever been a meaningful part of our lives. I've loved, and still do so many people who either moved on to their own ideas of 'greener pasture's in life ...or have passed away. I was recently put back in touch w/ one of my dearest of friends from high school by another dear old friend, who was my nemesis then. We both seem to realize that we all need to move onward in life and make the most of what we can ...w/ those who care for us. Some still feel a need to 'burn bridges' behind them, but it says too much for the little that they actually cared when ...and for the idiots they're yet to realize themselves to be. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:52:43 PM | | It was very very sad that I had to let the one I loved go...we just didn't purr at the same things anymore...it broke my heart to do this...and is still very sad for me....I have no untoward feelings for him and hope he is finding all the things he searches for in his life. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 1/3/2008 4:20:32 AM | The simple answer is yes.
While I am more then willing to fight for and work hard and *our* relationship, he wasn't. He claimed there were too many things that would prevent him from being truly happy. | |
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