| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/12/2008 6:53:49 PM | | i was in love with a man who i had been seeing for two years. i found out he had a longterm partner he had been with for 12 years. but i never stopped seeing him. eventually for my self and for him i called it a day. he stayed with his partner and kept contacting me promising he was leaving her and i said no because my heart was breaking enough. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/13/2008 4:33:16 AM | Yes and after 3 years together, he dumped me and married someone else 3 months later, someone he barely knew. My heart is still shattered, my guts are still all over the floor and this time, I do not think I will fully heal. But as much as I think he has made a huge mistake I do wish them both well..........I guess he wasnt mine to have.. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/13/2008 5:52:33 AM | | If someone wants to go,let them go. We cant control anyone or change them.Would I let someone go even if I loved them-yes if it was the right thing for them. We cant impede anyone in life, they are entitled to choose for them selves and that choice does not always include being with us.Of course it hurts but if it is the right thing so be it.We give our love freely or not at all. If we give to recieve , well it never works and creates insecurity. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/13/2008 9:12:30 AM | | Yes, I have and did. He wanted a different life than he had and I knew he would regret it but he needed to see that for himself. It was one of the hardest things I ever did. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/13/2008 11:50:04 AM | honestly, unless it was for buisiness reasons or something like that i was holding her back from, i could never let any girl i truly loved go. call me selfish, but i call it logic, of course there are certain circumstances where i would feel obligated to let her go; buisiness, she was sick and needed help, or something like that. but i dunno if i could let her go if she wasnt happy in our relationship, only if she really insisted, cause i wont hold on to someone who doesnt want me to hold on to them. otherwise id try as hard as i can to work it out.
me i couldnt risk loosing someone i really loved, cause its too hard for me to trust people. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/13/2008 12:19:42 PM | | I have and did also. It was probably one of the hardest things I've ever done but I don't regret it. He wanted kids, and I was told I couldn't have any more. He went on and had a daughter with someone else and I had a son with someone else- my little miracle baby :) Sometimes things happen for strange reasons I guess. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/13/2008 9:50:29 PM | Yes but it took a while. The problem is one of selfishness ultimately when you refuse to and you have to. But the bottom line is, if you truly love them, it means you want what is best for them. And sometimes what is best for them may not be you...not because you are at fault or they are necessarily (though one or more of those may be the case too), it just sometimes is what it is.
And should you be in that position and realize it, you have to let them go, deal with the pain that you will go through, and come out on the other side a stronger person. The trick then is to not allow yourself to become jaded or close yourself off from other opportunities. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/13/2008 10:21:42 PM | | Yes..........was not easy, and the pain seems to go on forever. But I could not give him what every man should have for a fulfilling life. There are times when I want to run to him and never let go . He was what I dreamed of my whole life, but the timing was bad, I feel it was just as hard for him.I was selfish in the sense I did not want to sacrifice my wants for his.Don't know what the future holds, after he has done all the things , he needs to do ........will the passion and intensity we feel ,survive the separation of two hearts that loved so deeply. Love is not enough , takes more to make a relationship last. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/14/2008 2:42:44 AM | i think i love someone enough to not persue the relationship. i have known this guy for 7 years. i have really strong feelings for him and i think we may start something soon as i have a feeling he feels the same. however, he has just had a baby daughter with his ex g/f! ouch, yea i know. they are not getting on at then moment but if they were to begin getting the feelings back i would abandon my feelings for him and advise him to get back with her. they can have a happy life together if that's what they want and it wouldn't be fair to try and stop that, only if their feelings were true for each other tho, it wouldn't be fair on their daughter if they just got back together because they have a child together there has to be TRUE feelings there. he is one of my best friends and i love him to bits as a friend and deeper than that also. so yes, i do love someone enough to let them go..... | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/15/2008 1:48:07 PM | | I divorced my ex while still in love with her. We had grown apart and had tried so hard to make our relationship better and to work better with each other but we kept falling back into old patterns of behavior. I think after awhile we both quit trying to make things better and just tried to accept the status quo, but neither of us was getting out of the relationship what we should have. Divorce was the most painful thing I have done in my life and dealing with the guilt was the hardest thing to get over. I started dating within 6 months of the divorce but in reality wasnt anywhere near ready. Took me 1.5 years before I felt whole again enough to date. I will be honest and say I have regrets sometimes and am lonely still, but I am comforted knowing that as painful as I knew seperating was going to be, it was the best thing to do. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/15/2008 2:08:32 PM | yes--I still LOVE the man whom abused me--sad,but true!!
I can NOT have that around my children AND I value MY LIFE more than this man.
I have found ways to deal with my problem,because people think I AM WRONG.
I said THAT to say THIS...Just cuz s0meone has a pr0blem the c0urts can NOT or refuse to FIX or the person themselves do not try to fix it,d0es NOT take away true love...so I simply became to blog my feelings and my poetry TO HIM;
whether it goes anywhere or not..I have did my venting for that day...THAT is how* I cope daily.
Maybe at night I cry myself to sleep,but I look for ONE DAY to be released from this LOVE. There are more loves out here,not all the same,but true,g00d men left in this world,or woman if that is YOUR preference.
Even seeing other men has NOT helped my problem--
I am HERE at this* site because I moved ON in my life,and if I can not be accepted for waht I AM and WHO I AM,that is fine with me,cuz I dont PLAY games,nor do I play with my heart,for it tis PURE & TRUE. "I" have a pure conscience.
How bout YOU???
SOMETIMES..in this life,we can not always HAVE what we desire..and most of the TIME...when we get it, something just screws it all UP,or maybe it was NEVER ever meant to BE...but we should seek the g00d...in ALL things,f0rgive,and c0ntinue our life as we ALL have a purpose...If we KNOW inside,that we DID our part,then what IS unforgiveable???
Making the BEST of an ABUSIVE relationship,no matter HOW LONG you were with that person, is not Always the answer to stay...If you VALUE your life ,you will get out of a bad situation...move on and continue to pray that that person can find the way to get H E L P. They say...most abusers..can not OR will not change...Most likely TRUE,but there is HOPE and GOD...only that person...can change,and with GOD only by their side...so,that is the hope I live with.
It doesn't matter* WHO agrees OR disagrees with ME...I am not HERE for that.
"With MEN all things are impossible..but With GOD,ALL things ARE possible"!!!
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/15/2008 2:12:09 PM | 1) Yes, I loved someone enough to let him go 23 years ago.
2) He met, fell in love with, and married a wonderful woman who has added tremendously to his life (and he to hers). I attended their small wedding (less than 20 people) 15 years ago, and I am friends with both. Even though he lives half a continent away, I consider him one of my best friends in life, and we still talk weekly.
I gotta' peaceful, easy feeling... | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/15/2008 2:16:57 PM | Yes
Isn't that what real love is? Wanting the best for the other person, being their biggest fan? Supporting them without thought of recompensation... just because you wish them the very best of life, love and happiness? And sometimes the "best" for them, is NOT you.. at least not at that time, or in that circumstance.
Anything else isn't love, it's captivity. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/15/2008 2:28:09 PM | well im dealing with that right now.if you truly loved someone,that full blown true love,its very hard to let them go.
i am trying to let the love of my life go,actually i dont have a choice.she was the most beautiful girl ive ever been with on the outside and inside.
i was threw hell in my life and i didnt know it caught up with me and took it out on my ex.i am so broken about it!
im letting her go but have to because she found someone within a month and now they are married just 3 months after us breaking up,so i guess i have to let her go.
i do feel like i want to fight for her love though because i also feel when you care about something you never give up.
i feel letting it go is like admitting defeat,i think if it means alot to you fight for it. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/15/2008 2:49:04 PM | Oh yes!
His downward spiral into depression was seriously affecting our relationship and I had only two choices. Go down with him in a 'crash and burn' scenario or love him enough to break it off.
I had to say good-bye or lose my mind. My exit did, I believe, force him to reckon with himself. He's working his way back out of the darkness now. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/19/2008 8:13:04 PM |
Yes, I divorced my husband of 20 years over six years ago because he thought he could have a 'do over' with his first wife after they'd been apart almost 25 years. He's now in the process of divorcing her and wants to come back to me. I'm in 'wait and see' mode, with no expectations regarding him or a future 'us'. If your 'soulmate' stomps on your heart, do you forgive and forget?
After several conversations with my ex recently , I realize that I'm a very different person now, he's not and that I can't ever return to the past. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/19/2008 8:29:52 PM | I was in love with a guy a few years ago - but unfortunately his ex-girlfriend (of 4 years) wouldn't give up on him (kept phoning him & went to his place a couple of times), and his mind wasn't solely on me. So I let him go, but I cried a lot, didn't sleep much, etc. for several months. Even now - three years later - I still think about him, once in a while. I don't know for sure if we would have stayed together if his ex hadn't constantly interfered (it confused him because we had met right after their break-up - not smart, I know, so we mutually broke it off & he went back to her - he's still with her).
In some ways, I became a better person for having gone through a lot of pain - I'm now more sensitive and compassionate towards others - especially those going through hard times. However, I would never want to go through that kind of pain again - it was the most depressing time of my life. I still wonder, to this day, if it would have worked, if not for his ex coming around - perhaps it wasn't meant to be (though not sure if I believe in that saying or not). | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/19/2008 9:07:13 PM | Hey Mari-Jeane,
I am 22 and have been dating someone who is 45 years old for 5 years now. I never intended to date someone so much older, yet I just fell in love with him. I believe age is only a number. He has many problems though. He has clinical depression, chronic insomnia, Meneire's disease, financial trouble (he may lose his home), he is divorced and has 2 kids. One boy is 13 the other 10. We have had a great relationship, it just seems every 4-6months, he can't handle everything altogether. So, he takes a break from me. .. I only bring him food, love him, massage him, cook for him, am there for him, just plain care forhim. Now, he told me about 3 weeks now, that he wants to take a break. That since he just had a birthday and is now 46, he thinks our age difference is wrong, and now it bothers him. We always said "it is what it is". we couldn't help how we feel. I just don't know anymore now. He does not want to talk or see eachother right now and I don't know if he will ever. I want to let him go, but I am having trouble. I have fallen in love with him, I am afraid I will never have what rare and special relationship we have had. I saw your story and could relate, obviously. I am just very, very saddened, and I don't know what to do. I want to move on and not care anymore, but it is challenging me with full force. I want him to feel better and get better so he can be happy and be happy with his kids. If you have any words of wisdom, it would be greatly appreciated.
Sincerely dying of a broken heart
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/19/2008 9:28:04 PM | Posted By: nipoleon on 3/29/2006 2 01 PM
Subject: Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
If it is not meant to be, it will not/never come to pass, NO MATTER what you did or didn't do.
God is in control, not any one of us, eh? :) | |
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