| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/19/2008 9:33:06 PM | Posted By: wahya on 3/29/2006 4 00 PM
Subject: Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Well said. True love allows others be the best they can be. A hard choice sometimes, indeed, if you have to let go to see others fulfill their life withour you in the picture.
This thing called "love" is fasinating, isn't it?  | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/20/2008 4:50:14 AM | Yes. I let go of the man I was going to marry. After 8 wonderful years together he drank too much one night and became a monster. Knowing of cases where the woman takes a man back and history repeats itself, I opted NOT to take him back after his tearful appology. It hurt to see him in a mess, but somehow I had an inner strength that told me not to look back.
As far as I know he is in a relationship and has 2 children. I often wonder if he has become physically violent towards the mother of his children or their children for that matter.  | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/20/2008 11:07:52 AM | Yes.
We love each other dearly, but we were too alike for his liking. He needed a lot of drama and disfunction in his romantic life to keep him interested, and someone like me couldn't give him that. I have a best friend in him, though, and that's better than any romantic thing I think. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/20/2008 12:17:53 PM | | I just currently let a great guy go, I had met him off of here. I don't know whether he told me what he did, as to not hurt my feelings, or if it was true. I think of him in the highest of opinion, and when I let him go, I told him that even if there is no promise of a relationship between the two of us, I would hope that he would keep the lines of communication open. I have never talked to a man as much as I had with him and found it comforting to be able to speak so openly about what I thought when I was with him. Even if it just ended in friendship I didn't mind because I liked him so much that I wanted him to have what he really wanted. Even if that was not me. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/20/2008 1:31:47 PM | | Love someone unselfishly sure. If I cant give them what they need I let them go. I guess its better stated as loved them unselfishly. I just want to see people happy and know when I cant deliver. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/20/2008 1:53:55 PM | Have 2 times.
One was almost 5yrs ago. After 10yrs together. Hurt like crap for awhile,but I have NO regrets. We are still friends,his current g/f is great and they are getting ready to be parents. Can love someone,and yet NOT be in love anymore.he deserved more and so did I.
The second one,been almost 3yrs now. Was suppose to be temporary.But I knew that she was better off,more stable,they had money to do what I couldnt. She will be going to any college,already has a better car then me..lol Not just the money,I had some issues back then,and realized id be selfish to make here leave where she was.
It still hurts me sometimes BAD,but ill always be "mom" and she will always be my baby girl. I use to get upset by people who would say things to me like "how could you" whatever. I could,because I loved her. Id be less of a parent to make her do what "I" needed,so id feel better. Its hard sometimes,but im doing whats right for her,and in the end its all that matters. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/20/2008 2:34:47 PM | | To me love comes fairly easy. One man I have loved for many years, and I have had to let him go twice. The first time I don't think either of us realized it was love- someone else had to point it out to us, the 2nd time was bad timing, the old saying goes- let it go and if it comes back it's yours to keep and if not it never was.... | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/20/2008 2:52:23 PM | | you are not alone. i had to let the man i love go b/c i was (and am) unwilling to invest myself emotionally in a man who is killing himself slowly with alcohol. he tried really hard to stop drinking, but just can't do it. simply a deal breaker for me (social drinking is fine in my b ook...6 beers a night for the past 9 years, only to "cut down" to about 3-4 glasses of wine or champagne nightly is not). it kills me that a man would choose alcohol over a romance with me, but i am certain that there are many women out there who will accept this facet of his personality without question. have to let him go fishing... | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/20/2008 4:07:29 PM | I did it because i could'nt offer her the relationship she wanted and deserved, my own insecurities were ruining things so i left her.
She thought it was to go back to my wife as we always got on well even after our seperation but the fact is i did it because i could'nt handle how i felt , as this was only a couple of weeks ago i guess she still wants to see me in hell. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/20/2008 4:19:43 PM | | I personally did not want to let go...but realized the person was not in love with me but loved something else....painful realization. I had no choice but to let go...so I could find someone more honest and compatible for me to love and have that love appreicated, valued and returned. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/20/2008 4:24:19 PM | Good for you...drinking is a very difficult addiction and many negative things happen...very hard to tolerate as there is no one healthy to have a sensible relationship with and it has to be the addicted person that has to decide on a change...many just are not interested or don't see themselves as having a problem with it...the denial wow.
Good... you were courageous to break out of the cycle. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/21/2008 9:31:00 PM | He let me go because he said that I could do so much better than to stay with someone like him. I told him he was so wrong, but I obliged and let him go. He broke my heart. I loved him enough to not fight for him and in turn built a wall around my heart.
Finally started to take down the bricks.....
One year later I run into him and he beaten down and empty. She is cheating on him. I wanted to tell him that I still love him, but I just listened to him and walked away with my dignity. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 3/21/2008 10:37:04 PM |
I usually love me enough to let them go.
Wow. Well said. The only time I can say I "loved someone enough to let them go" without their having done something horrible enough to make me end the relationship was back in high school. I moved away and it was too hard to see one another, so I broke things off. We stayed good friends for many years after the fact. Last I heard, he's happily married (I was at the wedding) with a couple of kids. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/2/2008 12:51:54 PM | | Yes, loved them enough to set them free to fly. Carry them in your heart knowing the letting go is painful but in time will always bring a smile to the memory, what stronger love can you give. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/2/2008 1:13:55 PM |
For whatever reason, have you been strong to let someone go because you loved them enough?
Yup.
And if so, what happened or what ever became of them?
She shows up after every boyfriend or husband and expects me to take care of her. Loser.
Remember the old saying......"If you love something set it free. If it comes back to you it was yours all along. If it doesn't come back.....hunt it down and kill it."  | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/2/2008 2:49:29 PM | Yes. My ex husband.
I knew I would never trust him again and what kind of marriage would we have together? So I called it quits and divorced him.
He is still living a tortured life of lies and deceit while I am finally learning to love and trust again. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/2/2008 3:37:07 PM |
Yes. My ex husband.
I knew I would never trust him again and what kind of marriage would we have together? So I called it quits and divorced him.
He is still living a tortured life of lies and deceit while I am finally learning to love and trust again.
That is not what the post is about. You used to love your husband...Not still are in love with your husband.
You also dumped him. I think that letting go is something the rejected person has go to do. You had it easy. All break ups are incredibly hard, but the moment you lose trust, then you are no longer in love. I still love my ex though I am no longer in love with her. I am not hung up on her anymore.
It was hard for me to make the move to give up on he, cause you never know, she could come waltzing back. I have to resign myself to the fact that She is not the same person and neither am I. She wont be coming back cause even if she does, she is a changed person. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/2/2008 7:18:02 PM |
For whatever reason, have you been strong to let someone go because you loved them enough?
And if so, what happened or what ever became of them?
The question was not IN LOVE but LOVED.
I loved my husband. I still love my ex husband and I loved him enough to realize that our marriage was over. You would not believe that number of women that hold onto their husbands out of hatred and spite. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/2/2008 7:43:59 PM | I loved my wife for 8 years. To (subconciously) prove that I still loved her I let her take her name off of everything we shared. She took advantage of that and now has spotless credit and no bridges to go back and cross. I, on the other hand, have doomed myself to cash-only.
I don't regret having done it so much as regretting not seeing a little more clearly that I was being taken advantage of. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/2/2008 7:55:40 PM | I still don't get it............?
seems to be that we all relate to this in our own experience.......I for one, will not, am not, and will never by my own will, let the one I love 'go'.....and I'm surprised that my thoughts on this are not the popular vote ...and may be kinda bonkers apparently | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/2/2008 8:09:14 PM | I loved a woman once who loved me back. But she needed to follow a different path than the one we had started out on together.
It's one of the hardest things to do to let someone go. All of us are selfish to different degrees and I'm no exception. But I let her go. It's not what she wanted but what she needed.
What became of her? Hopefully she is happy most of the time in her life. And hopefully she, from time to time, thinks of me and smiles a sad smile.
I'll always think of her. | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/2/2008 9:22:46 PM | I have, in fact he was my high school sweetheart. We were together for 3 yrs. He was 2 yrs older them me. He had great career oportunities elsewhere, it would of been selfish of me to make him stay, I knew if I asked him to stay he would of... Even though I knew it was going to be extrememly hard on myself, I had to make him go...We got back in touch a few yrs later, history repeated itself. He wanted me and my son to go with him...However for several reasons, I didn't. I let him go yet again....Since then I haven't seen or talked to him. They say if you love someone so much let them go, if they come back to you it was meant to be....He came back, I just wouldn't let him stay...
Since then, I've met a wonderful guy. However, I didn't realize when I met him I had to sort things out, I thought I was ready for yet another failed relationship. He loved me so much, he let me go figure things out for myself and what I wanted...I figured things out, which didn't take me long by the way and came back...Things are great! | |
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| Have you ever loved someone enough to let them go?
Posted: 4/2/2008 10:35:04 PM | I absolutely have and it hurts!! The most recent would have to be my ex-husband. I will love him forever and he will always be a part of my life...we don't have kids together and have come to realize that we are better friends than anything else. And I know that if I need him he is only a quick phone call away. He at this point is pursuing a new relationship and he told me about it. I wasn't sure what to say at first but realized that if it was going to make him happy then that was all that mattered.
The other time was my best friend. This year would have a been a 25 year friendship--its now gone by the way-side and we no longer speak as he decided to tell his s/o that he was having feelings for me and had for a long time. So to save his relationship with her I walked away. I miss him daily but know that this was something I had to do. | |
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