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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/6/2008 7:11:30 AM | I am a big girl. Always have been, always will be. I'm okay with that. I'm very comfortable with my large ass, large thighs, and my bulging belly, I also have an amazing set of ta-ta's and the sweetest face anyone could ask for. Some men aren't attracted to big girls, but I'd say about 75% of men go nuts over my boobs and they seem to look past my imperfections... It's all how you work it really. Sure I have flaws, but I have some amazing assets that I know how to utilize.
Anyway, I've always had a good, active sex life. Before I got married, while I was married, and even now being separated. Confidence is key.
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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:37:54 AM | | I agree with you Buffy, I have never been huge, but by no means small either. It is something I have struggled with my entire life. I exercise, I eat healthy and I am not huge. Yet because of people like him and his comments I am more self conscious than ever. MEN pay attention here.......telling a girl that she would look so much better if she lost a few pounds is like a woman telling you that you would be better in bed if you gained a few inches!!!! When you say things think about them first and how you would feel if someone said that to you. Not everyone who is heavy spends all day in front of the TV eating bon bons.......some people do try very hard.......and it hurts to constantly feel you are inadequate because some bonehead is basing his total opinion of you on those 30 pounds, when you know you are 3x the woman a skinny person who is so consumed by her appearance will ever be........and in all reality that skinny girl that you were so set on will be so into looks........she will leave your prejudice ass for someone better!!!!! Good luck men.......beauty lies within a person no matter what size they may be. | |
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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:40:26 AM | | My weight does not affect my sex life, if a man is in that situation with me I surely hope he is attracted to me. However, it does affect my dating life which affects my sex life. Seems as if 99.9 % of the men who are potential dates for me are not interested in dating someone like me, although when I was thinner I had a lot less self confidence than I do as a rubenesque woman. | |
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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/6/2008 3:06:53 PM | | depending on your self esteem i had amazing sex with my ex who was big she pleased me so much we where on outr honeymoon all the time it was amazing but short lived. | |
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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/6/2008 3:08:55 PM | Umm nope..........
Aint nothing gonna affect that !!!
I can imagine if someone isnt too confident then yes but surely if the sexula attraction/chemistry is there between two ppl that nothing will get in the way of that ?? | |
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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/6/2008 4:19:15 PM | I weigh, 240 pounds. But I can't stand to have a man on top of me that is much more bigger than me. The squish factor  I like to breathe when making love. | |
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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:08:39 PM | Hello OP
Reading you is like reading myself...like a carbon copy.
Today Im happy and confident, never ever let that make me feel less.
For 47 years i felt miserable. Maybe I need to thank my shrink for the
boosted self esteem.
Anyhow at our age we are not looking into dating Ms or Mr America, we look for deeper than that....
Extra weight is a turn on for lots of guys...like they say...more to grab. Or the bigger the cushion, the better the pushing...-GW/TN- LOL.
This doesnt mean im not always trying to lose some of it. That is a permament goal but not an obsession.
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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/6/2008 10:40:43 PM | | it does a bit,i am much more comfortable and agree it does make sex better when you can shed some of the self image problems. i still have some,especially with a new partner but i do feel more accepting of myself | |
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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:29:12 AM | I am one of theese girls. I do let my body image affect most parts of my life (not just in the bedroom). Up until my current boyfriend i had NEVER got completely naked for sex, however i had previously told him about this and the first time we had sex he left me no choice and stripped me completely, i tried to hide myself a lot and he really didnt mind, slowly but surely throughout that 'session' i became more confident and thought to myself "Your just being pathetic, it's only a body." If he wasnt attracted to me in some way, shape or form he wouldnt of asked me out and we wudnt be in bed together.
Any man who judges you because of your weight or body shape doesnt deserve you anyway! x | |
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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/7/2008 4:52:13 AM | | I like my woman to have a little heft to her . tells me I know what I am doing . my ex-girlfreind deos not understand why I like them over 200 . I met a woman who was 210 . the sex was mind blown good . BUT one little thing stopped us . J A I L . she never told me she was on a list for being drunk and that , if she was caught drinking BACK to jail she would go . funny , how a little thing like that happens . | |
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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/7/2008 7:16:50 AM | | side by side is not deep enough penetration, besides, if the guy has any kind of belly, he is not going to be able to penetrate that deep because the gut is in the way. Very few large men's penis 's are larger than their guts. | |
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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/7/2008 2:26:44 PM | Its not only a self belief issue. I learnt to my surprise my behaviour was what made me sexy or not, not my size some time ago.
However, I think there is a hormone issue as well. I know if I'm starting to put on weight, before my clothes get tight, because my drive is lower. | |
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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/7/2008 2:37:55 PM | | I am not overweight but of course weight effects people sex life. I have been with big woman and small woman and I prefer a bigger woman at least that have meat on their bones and don't look sick like some skinny woman do. Most woman and guys only go for looks that is why also bigger people have a hard time finding someone. Looks mean nothing at all which people never will understand it is what is in the inside that really means something. Bigger people should be shown and appreciated more especially on television because they are human also and deserve attention also. | |
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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/7/2008 2:47:03 PM | | Doesn't matter. Big or small, there is someone out there that will most likely find you attractive. I've been with different body types and I am a big woman myself but what it boils down to is being able to enjoy yourself and your partner. We worry too much about the little things. The fact is, if you are getting naked together, there is something attracting each of you so that's not the time to worry about it. | |
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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/7/2008 3:31:44 PM | Dr. Mehemet Oz stated that for an overweight man, for every 30lbs he loses, he gains one inch of penis size.
So yes, weight can matter in terms of satisfaction! | |
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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/7/2008 9:26:02 PM | First I'll note that my weight hasn't affected myself mentally when it comes to sex. Of course, being heavy meant your pickings were far slimmer.
I weigh, 240 pounds. But I can't stand to have a man on top of me that is much more bigger than me. The squish factor I like to breathe when making love
When I was up around 300 or even 270, sex was definitely physically demanding, and there were certain positions that didn't work. Combined with my extra weight, the women I've been with have been larger and that limited the potential positions.
With one of my partners when she went on top, I felt like I was getting crushed and couldn't breath myself. This same partner must have had *at least* an inch of fat protecting her kitty down there. How I even got in there, I wouldn't even guess.
Now being a slimmer 230, not to mention being with a much slimmer partner, we can both go much longer, and do all the things that were so much harder with all that extra weight.
We unfortuantely have one problem with myself being 6'4 and her being 5'1. Certain things require a stool 
side by side is not deep enough penetration, besides, if the guy has any kind of belly, he is not going to be able to penetrate that deep because the gut is in the way. Very few large men's penis 's are larger than their guts
I can validate this. In fact, I can say that I definitely look bigger now, after losing many pounds. I remember there being a pouch down there (below the gut but above the base of the shaft) that made it look smaller, but not no more
Sex just seems easier and better after losing all that weight. | |
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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/7/2008 9:58:37 PM | Self confidence is definitely sexy! Even without a "slamming body" you can still meet fantastic people. And if you are big and beautiful then there still is no need to feel self conscious about it when you're in bed. If you're at the point where you are in bed naked with someone, trust me, they don't care about those extra inches.
But anyone who says that size doesn't matter at all is kidding themselves. At one point I rapidly gained 20lbs due to a medication I was taking. I wore (on average) a size 2, and I went up to an 8-10. Unfortunately for me the weight didn't go into my boobs either! I certainly wasn't huge by any means, but men (in particular strangers) definitely treated me differently. Everyone was still nice and pleasant, but people suddenly weren't so eager to help you lift those heavy groceries, or give you their seat on the bus, or just smile and strike up a friendly conversation with you, etc. It was very depressing actually to realize how shallow people truly are, even if it's just on a subconscious level.
I am still struggling to get back to my former size, but now I've (mostly) accepted the fact that I'm just as good as I was before. And you're right, once you stop thinking "I'm fat" and start thinking "I'm fabulous" sex is much improved! | |
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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/11/2008 9:57:44 AM | Thank you, original poster. I now finally have the opportunity to say that while sometimes I'm attracted to bigger girls, I often am not because I'm an average-sized guy, and well, the sex was either uncomfortable, awkward, or just plain hurt.
Some of us try to get smaller women for more practical reasons, not just attraction. | |
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| Does your weight affect your sex life?!
Posted: 7/11/2008 10:27:39 AM | | well weight and being healthy going hand and hand with me. when i feel unheatlhy because i have gained weight my sex drive is low. when i am working out, even if im not losing a whole bunch my sex drive is through the roof. | |
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