| Would any of you Ladies date fat guys?
Posted: 2/21/2005 1:26:10 AM | No here is why:
1.) I'm very picky
2.) People should learn how to take care and maintain themselves overall. It's a BIG reflection upon how you treat others, especially your significant other.
3.) Its excessive heartache of baggage to deal with someone else's insecurities when they know they should independently take care of it themselves. | |
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| Would any of you Ladies date fat guys?
Posted: 2/21/2005 2:10:12 AM | | first off it depends on ones definition of fat. personally i like somewhat bigger guys, they make me feel safe n secure. but i prefer what i would call solid rather than fat... some people, even at the same weight are soft n squishy, while others are solid (n im not necessarily referring to muscle). ideal for me is about 5'10"-6'2" n 200-250 lbs, tho i dont restrict myself. skinny guys just dont cut it. i dont think id feel safe in a guys arms if he had a smaller frame n narrower shoulders than i do | |
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| Would any of you Ladies date fat guys?
Posted: 2/21/2005 3:08:45 AM |
2.) People should learn how to take care and maintain themselves overall. It's a BIG reflection upon how you treat others, especially your significant other.
why does everyone assume that just b/c someone is a bit bigger its always cause they arent takin care of themselves?
Im not skinny but i wouldnt consider myself fat either, i was skinny all my life even after having my son, i got really really sick and my stomach seperated from my esophagus (sp) took them a long time to find the problem all the while food going elsewhere, finally got it sewed up but still cant shake it though and its no fault of my own.
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| Would any of you Ladies date fat guys?
Posted: 2/22/2005 12:03:23 AM | This thread should serve as an example to a lot of those guys who think the ladies have it in for them. They're much kinder than their male counterparts ... with certain notable and "very picky" exceptions, of course.
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| Would any of you Ladies date fat guys?
Posted: 2/22/2005 8:37:47 AM | | I'm not going to get all goody-goody and nice and say yes, becuase I never have..I've never been asked out by a guy who I would call "fat" either. There really aren't that many "fat" people walking down the street anyway. As far as if I would...to be honest with you if all I had to go on in choosing a date was their looks I probably wouldn't...afterall we all tend to be little superficial that way...but if it was someone I got to be friends with first and I happened to fall for him becuase of who he was then of course I would.... | |
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| Would any of you Ladies date fat guys?
Posted: 2/22/2005 10:35:27 AM | | I am fat and I know that this makes me too ugly to be considered desireable. Not all women want an attractive man, although of course many or most do. I would lose weight for someone if she asked me to. On my own it doesn't seem worth the effort because there are other reasons for disliking me that I have to work on first before looks even matter. Once I improve my personality maybe my weight will be the next step. I will never look good again, but at least I should look my best, and not be an eyesore, or make someone embarrassed to be seen with me. Luckily about weaight it's easy to do the math and compare what I eat with how many calories I burn each day. When it is time to lose weight I will be able to. | |
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| Would any of you Ladies date fat guys?
Posted: 2/25/2005 5:09:45 PM | Hi Fun_Nice_Guy.......Wish you were closer...I'd introduce you to my daughter.:) She is so awesome and nice. Yes she dates larger men and smaller but...she tends to lean a bit more toward the larger men because...
#1 They treat her like an equal and yet like a woman. They are more courteous and romantic for the sake of caring about her likes rather than just to get her into bed. (I have four girls ...we hide nothing from one another and there are times since they became an adult..I wish they would! :))
#2 They seem to her to be able to hold a conversation about many topics...not just a few key guy things.
#3 They have a wicked sense of humour and they are more willing to try be satisfied with her company , rather than just out partying or in a group all the time. They are not as big of braggarts..... sorry..her opinions:)
Why has she not hooked up with one of them......... (She puts things a bit better than I do and I hope I do not screw up and hurts someone's feelings.)
#1 Because they are a little too concerned about doing everything her way and not putting their own wishes/wants. She says she feels like they are trying too hard to second guess why she is out with them(because she likes them) and the constant reassuring gets to be annoying.
#2 They sometimes forget that BO can be a little worse when you are bigger and the one time she tried to say something to someone she really liked he was hurt and she won't do it again.
#3 Though they are willing to try things...if they are not naturally good at it....they quit too soon and get defensive if she tries to coax them into giving things another chance. She doesn't like quitters because life will do you in and she will be left holding the bag.
Does any of this shed any light on why she dates larger men? As for myself. Yup I date larger men too but am at an older age so....yikes..I don't want to do all the asking and most larger men are too shy. It is my gauge as to how often I will have to make the first move, decisions, and do the uncomfortable stuff. I simply don't want to. But.....some of my most fun dates have been with larger guys.:)
Have a fun weekend.
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| Would any of you Ladies date fat guys?
Posted: 2/25/2005 5:38:40 PM | | Not if they don't show any interest or ask. Just being a smarty pants. I am attracted to men's minds and personality not there physical characteristics. Some people just say that but for me it's really true. I have dated very handsome men and not had any sparks at all. I have just been in the presence of a man speaking and the sparks begin to fly. So for me, short, fat, bald, hair, tall, skinny, rich, poor, and etc. does not matter. | |
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| Would any of you Ladies date fat guys?
Posted: 2/25/2005 6:52:28 PM | Well as for myself i think of myself as being fat iam 230 and 5-10 but for myself it kinda hard to lose weight I hurt my back in 2000 and cant do what i use too but i try and like the rest of the fella's here I would also like someone to love me for me and all but i think when it really comes down to it we may never find what we are wanting LOL but we still try very hard to make the gals in out life happy witch for me now going on 4 yrs single
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| Would any of you Ladies date fat guys?
Posted: 2/25/2005 6:56:06 PM | | i have dated guys that are bigger..it doesn't matter what they look like or how big or small they are..eventually that will all fade anyway..its personality that matters!! | |
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| Would any of you Ladies date fat guys?
Posted: 2/25/2005 7:48:03 PM | Yes I would..and have...plus I look better with a man who is cuddly, feels more comfortable having a man who is taller and bigger (I like to feel protected :P).... | |
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| Would any of you Ladies date fat guys?
Posted: 2/25/2005 8:41:27 PM | | After reading the majority of these posts, I have decided to leave my 2 sense as well. I am new to POF, glad to be here. I have to say I would date and have dated a BHM (Big Handsome Man). But I also have to say that looks and appearence matter big time. Speaking for myself only...I cannot date a man of any size who is not clean, does not bother to take care of how he dresses or doesnt care how appears to others. A persons attitude plays a big part of how they appear to us on the outside. I cannot date someone who is narcissistic and full of himself, or someone who hurts others feelings to make himself look better to others. I alot of our personal attributes play a huge part in how we appear to others, so I have learned to never say that looks dont matter anymore. Most people judge a person just by looking at them. Can you judge a book by its cover w/out reading it? You might think you can, but really you will get the whole plot wrong 9 times out of 10. Being a BBW myself, I tend to watch how people react to me. Some people are very kind while others take one glance at me and judge me as being ugly, not worth their time, some even act as if I am inhuman or from another planet without ever speaking to me or getting to know me as a person. To myself and God I just say you know what, it's their loss, they could have missed out on one of your blessings for their life Lord. I never take another person for granted, God could have planted that person in my path for a good reason, so I count them no matter how crule they are...as a blessing. So to me it isnt the size that makes a person a person...its definatly whats inside that makes a person who they are. Take the time to get to know that person and guarnteed your first impression of them being a bad person will change in a flash. So yes I would date a big man if he fit my standards as the kind of man I am attracted to. I am attracted to all types of men big and tall, short and skinny, black or white, red or yellow....its all in the person you are! | |
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| Would any of you Ladies date fat guys?
Posted: 2/25/2005 8:50:56 PM | | yea why not, what counts is on the inside,my first husband was on the big side, so am l for that matter.l think ladies are less judgemental in that area than men. you look at the profiles the men are more discriptive about looks than the ladies , aslong as your a careing person and have a sence of ha ha thats what counts. | |
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| Would any of you Ladies date fat guys?
Posted: 2/25/2005 8:58:35 PM | Someone earlier in the thread asked for an opinion from a FL woman.. I would, and have dated a fat guy, but then again I'm a fat chick. 
I wonder, though... I've read a few other threads from and about big women, and it just seems like there's such a bias, that it's okay for a man to be big but not a woman. Other than one slightly negative comment, I didn't see anyone bashing, and that really surprised me because in the threads regarding BBWs, there was bashing left and right. Besides, in the entertainment industry a fat man is accepted but how often do you see a fat woman? Look at Fat Joe, Ralphie May, Kevin James, Drew Carey, and any other number of TV and movie stars with the "keg". I think it's sexy, myself but I have to wonder about the double standard.
So what gives? Are women more openminded, or are men more concerned with the "trophy chick". | |
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| Would any of you Ladies date fat guys?
Posted: 2/25/2005 9:22:39 PM | It's not so easy for 'fat' guys either. Ralphie May and Drew Carey are comedians and probably rely heavily on jokes to make it through the day. Besides if you ever listen to Ralphie May, he loves himself fat or not. Which most likely makes him 'sexy'.
I have never really been approached by a heavy set male to go out on a date with them. But I think that I would, as long as we got along well. Sometimes I get worried because of past things that have happened, that I might get hurt, physically, by someone larger than me. Which might mean I put out the vibe I don't want them to approach me. But being a 'fat' person myself, I suppose I can't expect anyone else to look a certain way. I'm more concerned with finding someone that I get along well with, and if I'm attracted to him, fat or not, then it's about 'dating'. I'm just babbling, but any 'fat' men feel free to email me, I'm up for chatting with anyone.  | |
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| Would any of you Ladies date fat guys?
Posted: 2/25/2005 9:49:18 PM | | Thank you ladies for all the good advice. Your advice makes me believe there is someone out there for me. I will continue my search till I do find her. So if there are any ladies near Oklahoma that want to chat send me a message. Thanks again. | |
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| Would any of you Ladies date fat guys?
Posted: 2/25/2005 9:51:56 PM | sure i would date a fat guy.. i actually have a very dear friend that is fat and he is so great and just so sweet and fun to be with too .. i always say, what matters most to me is what's on the inside- it just gives you more to cuddle with ;-) ;-)
weight doesnt make any difference to me, its the Person that matters !!! im overweight too and he doesnt mind at all .. we've known each other for almost five months and he's the greatest !!! | |
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| Would any of you Ladies date fat guys?
Posted: 2/25/2005 9:56:03 PM | Forgot to mention .. my ex boyfriend was fatter .. and i loved him for the way he was and he loved me for the way i was and it was great while it lasted
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