| What's this for??? [do men understand a woman's body]
Posted: 9/11/2007 6:19:08 AM | there are no manuals that you can crack out when you are going down you might say...LOL
so yes we fiddle but our fiddling gets better with practice then before you know it ... we actually know what we are doing!!! some of the time ;) | |
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| What's this for??? [do men understand a woman's body]
Posted: 9/11/2007 6:55:13 AM | | If you are far enough into a relationship to be sexual then you should be far enough along to communicate, meaning if a man if fumbling you should help him out a bit. Most men are very willing to take suggestions or be led somewhat as to what makes you happy, if he fumbles and you say nothing then it's your own fault when ya don't get what you need. it goes both ways really and I think it all boils down to open communication | |
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Posted: 9/11/2007 8:23:50 AM |
Secondly real men don't read manual.
I could not DISSagree with this more. I've read many of them. Especailly early on. Tons. I wanted to be the best.
Of course most books are just physical mechanics. This is neophite (beginner) stuff that every man should know. It doesn't really become interesting until minds are engaged. Over 90% of sex is mental. Going deep is a learned experience. Making her so friggin hot and overwhelmed in it is a totally different matter. You can make sex good and even very good but mind blowing and life changing sex is a totaly different matter entirely. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2007 8:57:45 AM | Sex can't be this damn complicated. It's not rocket science. Granted there are different strokes for different folks but we align the same way. This is her pleasure spot. Pleasure it. Some of you women think theres a brain down there to operate on. | |
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| What's this for??? [do men understand a woman's body]
Posted: 9/11/2007 9:00:45 AM | Your clitoris is of no concern to your husband. If you must mess with it do it on your own time or ask your best friend to help. You may wish to to videotape yourself while doing this and present it to your husband as a birthday gift. To ease your selfish guilt, perform oral sex on him and then cook him a delicious meal!  | |
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Posted: 9/11/2007 12:09:53 PM |
Yup; unfortunately the heart (in my case) is attached DIRECTLY to "those parts"
If men learned this rule,which I've found hits at least 85% of women,they wouldn't need to know much else.The right woman would teach them everything else they need to know.
One of the biggest differences in the genders is that men (I'm generalizing here),are more compartmentalized and the "heart" is not always connected to "the parts".Hence the reason why men generally find casual sex more appealing than women as they don't necessarily require the emotional connection for the sex to be good.
There are basics to the biology,but if there is no psychological/emotional spark,it matters little how skilled a guy is on his sexual mechanics. | |
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| What's this for??? [do men understand a woman's body]
Posted: 9/11/2007 12:13:59 PM | It's not so difficult if you use feedback. Just listen and pay attention to her! If you're doing something right she should be giving some indication that she likes it. 
If she indicates that you're on the wrong track, try something else! Eventually you should get a rather good reaction:  Keep going! 
Eventually one gets the hang of it. Most women turn out to be multi-orgasmic, even though they think it's rarer than it is. I think that's a dreadful waste!
Personally, I think this may be because women look for the wrong men. They look for younger men. These men, however, tend to be inexperienced, and haven't learned to satisfy their partners. Sure they look good. But many are into Slam-bam-thank-you-mam sex, instead of trying to satisfy. Like all generalizations, not all of this is true. But enough of it is, for unsatisfied women to rethink! | |
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| What's this for??? [do men understand a woman's body]
Posted: 9/11/2007 3:18:17 PM | I think you can condition a man to not try to learn about a woman's hot spots and how to really make love, by always having to make suggestions, help him out when he fumbles, and so on...
I like a man with confidence and know how abilities, this way I don't have to worry, teach, and maneuver. I loved being swept away.
A little communicating is fine, but I'm not going to be a teacher in front of a chalk board, taping my piece chalk, and writing on how to "connect the dots"
But, true everyone has a different chemistry and different needs...to each his/her own. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2007 3:23:11 PM | fiddling can be fun, but hopefully the guy will..
Listen....to his partners reactions.
Feel.....his partners reactions
See...his partners reactions to what he is doing.
Ladies, don't be afraid to tell us what you enjoy. Some of us do pay attention! | |
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Posted: 9/11/2007 4:59:31 PM | | Do you REALLY expect guys to answer that truthfully?!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 9/11/2007 7:29:27 PM |
All women's bodies are different, and we all like different things, so ALL MEN FIDDLE around until they find out what we each like. That is the best part of the first few times you have sex.
Exactly. And like women are experts.
"What tipped you off that BITING MY NUTBAG doesn't feel good?" Could it be... hmm... the string of expletives three octaves too high? Maybe the speaking in tongues? Or the siezure followed by the blackout?
Another thing is nearly every guy knows how to get himself off and is often in the "power" position to do so. Many women do not, and they expect the man to figure them out enough to do it for them. The most common power position where a woman can get herself off is when she's on top (astride) using the tried and true pelvic grind. Every woman should know what it takes to get herself off. I've been with both, and the sex is always better with a woman who knows how to get what she wants. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2007 6:24:19 AM | | It is not only about knowing a women's body.It is also making her feel good emotionally.you can be the greatest lover but if you do not make her feel good emotionally your skills as a great lover will not work.also there should be passion, love, romance,trust,good communication and that you are good friends, respect and caring and feeling close to that person.also intimacy. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2007 7:13:33 AM |
Do men really understand how a womans body works. Or do they just fiddle around and hope they eventually hit the right spot.
Do women really understand how a man's body works and do they even care? | |
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| What's this for??? [do men understand a woman's body]
Posted: 9/12/2007 7:28:12 AM | but once they find 'the spot' the go directly there and forget the 'fiddling' ...i like fiddling finding and 'the spots'
LOL
like they find the key and boom not other explore required..(ok not all but most) | |
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| What's this for??? [do men understand a woman's body]
Posted: 9/12/2007 2:25:41 PM |
Bbb does a man care about a women or they just out for there needs and not the women's needs?
Sex is a two way street. A mature man does care about his partner's needs. An immature person who is self centered and selfish is missing out on great sex. One sided sex gets pretty damn boring in a hurry.
Some women are just as guilty of this as men. They want their big "O's" and have no concern for their partner's needs whatsoever (yawn). | |
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Posted: 9/12/2007 5:05:40 PM |
Do women really understand how a man's body works and do they even care?
It depends on the woman,just like anything else.If there's any generalizing thought I know of,based on my own experience,is that many women tend to over analyze things and tend to put some problems off to something more complicated than they are.For example,most every guy,regardless of his sexual prowess or lack thereof,has experienced the occasional complications with his own plumbing.Sometimes the little guy doesn't rise to the occasion or sometimes the gun shoots before it's time,it's usually just an occasional,natural thing the male body does.The first conclusion many women might jump to is,"it's me,""he's just not turned on by me",or if in a serious relationship,"He's dinking something on the side".
These are things time and experience usually solve. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2007 6:14:30 PM | | If you don't point him in the right direction and let him know what does or doesn't work for you, how will he ever learn? | |
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| What's this for??? [do men understand a woman's body]
Posted: 9/13/2007 8:40:57 AM | I really hope that somewhere down the line.... Men use the experience they have learned and go from there. But, Keeping in mind everyone is different and may not be a walking manual.......
Isn't this where play...play and experiment.... Stop listen.... Use all the 6 senses come into effect...
Nothing is worse than to get down and dirty with someone. Find out you could have had as much fun with the V-8.Then have them say see I told I knew what I was doing....
So Guys take the time... Foreplay is almost as important as the actual.... | |
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| What's this for??? [do men understand a woman's body]
Posted: 3/30/2008 3:08:59 PM | Play, play, and more play.
Foreplay is more than wetting your finger.
It's the smile you gave her, the surprise gift, the whisper in the ear while in a public place.
You want to discover a women's body? Get out the whip cream, body chocolate, strawberries, etc.
Phrase your questions
"What would you do if I ......"
"Would you like to try ......"
Ask questions, answer them truthfully without worrying about the perceptions.
If your worried what your partner thinks about you because x,y,z: Then your with the wrong person.
Have fun, smile, and laugh. Rid yourselves of all thoughts of "that's nasty"
If it gives you pleasure, without harm, then don't deny yourself or each other.
Give a woman control to put the cream anywhere she wants, and she will show you the treasure map.
Be adventurous, test the waters slowly. Not many people have the confidence to say "Kiss my hinny, lick my hinny, finger my hinny" .
There is not part of a woman's clean body I won't explore, and I look expect the same.
It's a game between two people [maybe more] and they make the rules there and then, and each and every time the rules change, sometimes less rules, sometimes more.
But alway respect the rules, respect the game, respect the players.
So, Ladies and Gentleman let the Games begin
If you need a referee I'm always willing to officiate, we can go to video for the replays | |
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