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Missy
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Joined: 1/29/2005
Msg: 27 | |
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| inner beauty of the person or the outside beauty of person prefer
Posted: 2/6/2007 12:54:33 PM | | I prefer inner beauty. Looks fade. I can learn to love someone outside appearance after I get to love them from the inside. Also, if you go just for the looks, you will end up in just a psysical relationship, That's ok if that is what you want. I want the whole package or something more meaningful. A person I can talk to and relate with and have fun. Besides, people get old, sagg, get wrinkles, have accidents and disseases. Do you still stay with a person after they have become disfigured? Do you love their looks or the person? | |
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| inner beauty of the person or the outside beauty of person prefer
Posted: 2/6/2007 1:13:17 PM | A hard choice for me because I like good-looking men.. I don't apologize and certainly don't believe that it makes a person shallow simply because he/she is attracted to beauty. However, between a good-looking man with an average/nasty personality and an average looking man with good/unique personality, it's the latter who catches my heart.  | |
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| inner beauty of the person or the outside beauty of person prefer
Posted: 2/6/2007 1:17:13 PM | | I prefer the inner beauty, and I agree that as you get to know somone the outer apperance becomes more attractive if they posess inner qualities you like. I have met physically attractive women, but often thier inner qualities show thru and all that I can see is an ugly person with a nice wrapper. For me an Oprah type of person wins hands down over the Paris Hiltons of the world. People that are not as high on the mainstream hot-bod scale have to develop their inner selves, whereas the hotties of the world are often given all the attention and therfore never find the need to improve thier personality. And nothing is more ugly than a hot woman who is aging and trying desperately to hold on to her physical beauty because its the only thing she has going for her. | |
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| inner beauty of the person or the outside beauty of person prefer
Posted: 2/6/2007 1:25:52 PM | | No. Inner beauty is subjective. We all share ugly inners and outers. I personally love ugly inside but beauty on the outside. NOthing turns my crank better than a gruesome user, manipulative lier, user, beeeotch user, money gold digger BARBIE DOLL who would cheat on me if I lose my footing. The ugly on the outside women are great resources for truckers or army dudes or people with seeing eye doggies. | |
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ok.1
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Joined: 9/14/2006
Msg: 37 | |
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| inner beauty of the person or the outside beauty of person prefer
Posted: 2/6/2007 1:49:26 PM | ^^^ It's the nature of being human: we all have human hearts and instincts. I think that when you remove all the rubbish we put around ourselves, all the filters built up through bad experiences, suffering, wrong beliefs etc, then what is left is love. You can see this in everyone if you look. Even the most horrible people I know, you can see that their behaviour is not them, it doesn't match what their heart wants them to be, but is only their reaction at one point in time: response to stresses etc.
Now, some people hide their inner beauty under so many layers of self-protective, defensive behaviour that it rarely shines bright enough for anyone to see without them really trying to see it. But one of the cool things is that we all perceive differently: our own experiences and filters and scars affect what we can see, and so sometimes two people can see within each other the inner beauty that is hidden from others with different perceptions.
Yes, all humans are surely beautiful at heart: it is only a question of expressing that enough in life, letting down those defensive walls enough for people to notice your light shining. But some people will see right through your walls even if you keep them up, so beware...
On topic: OK.1 said it brilliantly in message 38. | |
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| inner beauty of the person or the outside beauty of person prefer
Posted: 2/6/2007 2:41:06 PM | Looks do fade with time . Personally, I find men, or people actually, who go for looks only, are very shallow. I am not saying I don't admire a nice looking man, but at my age, I dont expect Brad Pitt either, wonder why men expect perfection no matter what age they are and how they look?. Have had too may "not perfect" looking, to be nice, men, (bald , pot belly, skinny etc) want a perfect 10 in a mate. Why? Are they delusional?
I say inner beauty is MUCH more important. Funny , but I have met very good looking men who , because their inner self was fake, suddenly looked awful to me physically. On the same token, men I have met that I didn't think were physically attractive initially, once I got to know their heart, they started looking physically , wow. lol
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| inner beauty of the person or the outside beauty of person prefer
Posted: 2/6/2007 3:11:18 PM | I'm part of the Outtie crowd myself. And I don't believe for one minute that anyone on here prefers inner attraction to the exclusion of physical attraction. Humans aren't made that way.
You may have convinced yourself of this phenomenon, but barring visual impairment, we are visually-oriented animals and physical attraction is a huge part of the whole mating ritual. Now, you may eventually get to the point where the person is beautiful to you because of who they are, but they have already passed the physical attraction test or you wouldn't have stuck around long enough to find their "inner beauty."
So, this discussion may be all about timing. Are you asking about the immediate dating stage, or the long haul? You'd get two very different replies depending on your answer to that question. | |
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| inner beauty of the person or the outside beauty of person prefer
Posted: 2/6/2007 3:22:49 PM | Great stuff!
Wow I truely believe that the soul dictates our personality and that is supreme in my books! I will admitt that a hot body is attractive enough for a peak but human behavior shines ego into the mix and that beauty become and empty shell in my eyes! Not that this is every case! I personally want a person to care about there health but I don't need no cosmo girl. I need a strong independent women who thinks for herself & listens not what the world tells her she should be. | |
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a1na2
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Joined: 10/3/2006
Msg: 45 | |
| inner beauty of the person or the outside beauty of person prefer
Posted: 2/6/2007 3:26:36 PM | Let's be honest :
we ALL prefer outer beauty but it's a bad deal if there's none on the inside.
So, what do most of us do ? We go for as much beauty on the outside as we can and SETTLE for what precious amount of beauty there is on the inside.
Sadly, the more beauty one has on the outside the less they have on the inside...
...generally speaking, although, I use the term very loosely ! | |
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| inner beauty of the person or the outside beauty of person prefer
Posted: 2/6/2007 3:27:56 PM | Inner beauty for sure...I know that I look at myself now and compare myself to what I looked like 10 years ago...and today I am just as beautiful inside as I was back then...only thing that has changed is my looks...Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!!! | |
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| inner beauty of the person or the outside beauty of person prefer
Posted: 2/6/2007 3:57:44 PM | I've never met a truely beautiful-on-the-inside person. Lots think they are; they're very annoying. And having too many inner flaws myself, I'd be of no use to a total inner-beauty if he stumbled across my path, anyway. Flaws are interesting. They make us human.
So if I'd have to pick, I'd go for outer-attractive and inner-normal. As in good & bad traits. Like everyone else on the planet. | |
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| inner beauty of the person or the outside beauty of person prefer
Posted: 2/6/2007 7:27:05 PM | Agree with message #49.
Ahhhhhhhhh, I found that for all that Olive Oil on the shelves, I would only decided on the bottle that had a more attractive label (skip the label details).
And what standard we should put on inner beauty?? Not only nobody is perfect but also sometimes you have to be with someone for so long (years) to find out his/her true color - the ugly inner sides of theirs. A handsome jerk is a handsome jerk; at least he was my show piece; there's no guarantee for any love relationship, to be dumped by a ugly jerk would be double unbearable to me.
Well, being said all the above, I do believe our outside beauty is reflections of our inner beauty. Haven't you yet met someone who is so drop dead gorgeous, but yet is a total unapproachable object? My man does not has to be very good looking, but if he can't even give a simply warm smile, it is a no no no. My straight answer to this thread is: 100% outside beauty preferred (to my standard). | |
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