| Hard to be natural?
Posted: 6/23/2006 9:20:13 AM | I used to be the same way...I found myself starting to use the "don't give a shit" attitude really helped in my case....although, don't over due it  | |
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| Hard to be natural?
Posted: 6/23/2006 10:00:44 AM |
I used to be the same way...I found myself starting to use the "don't give a shit" attitude really helped in my case....although, don't over due it
Ditto,
if you can put yourself in the mind set that it doesn't MATTER what they think you are a lot calmer and less "hung up", takes practice, but it makes conversation with those people way way eaiser (most of the time). | |
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| Hard to be natural?
Posted: 6/23/2006 10:51:35 AM | This happens because when we aren't attracted to someone we really don't care what they think of us - we don't have to show our best side, we don't have to worry about being rejected. It's comfortable, non-threatening and we have nothing at stake to loose.
But when we LIKE someone that changes everything. We NOW have something at stake (our pride and our feelings). We want to be liked in return, we want to be accepted and found cleaver, charming, desireable, intelligent, etc... what they think of us matters. We feel this "attraction" and we want it to be mutual. So we weigh every word in the hopes of coming across well (and more often than not we go mentally blank with the effort) instead of just being open and relaxed. This IS the norm.
Obviously you are not alone.
Lady Kay | |
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| Hard to be natural?
Posted: 7/8/2006 8:14:25 AM | This happens because when we aren't attracted to someone we really don't care what they think of us - we don't have to show our best side, we don't have to worry about being rejected. It's comfortable, non-threatening and we have nothing at stake to loose.
But when we LIKE someone that changes everything. We NOW have something at stake (our pride and our feelings). We want to be liked in return, we want to be accepted and found cleaver, charming, desireable, intelligent, etc... what they think of us matters. We feel this "attraction" and we want it to be mutual. So we weigh every word in the hopes of coming across well (and more often than not we go mentally blank with the effort) instead of just being open and relaxed. This IS the norm.
Obviously you are not alone.
Lady Kay
Think i would have a hard time talking with you, be more interested in touching and find out what happens | |
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| Hard to be natural?
Posted: 7/8/2006 11:32:53 AM | | Yeah, I've found that - I wouldn't say I have a problem being myself, but I totally have a problem balancing overdoing it with not overdoing it. I can be a little quieter or a complete ass, but I just don't seem to have the ability to balance it and just be normal. Of course, afterwards, I always ask myself...why would I want to be with a girl I'm not relaxed enough with to be comfortable? | |
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| Hard to be natural?
Posted: 8/17/2006 5:00:38 PM |
I used to be the same way...I found myself starting to use the "don't give a shit" attitude really helped in my case....
Completely! I don't care what people think of me. If you aren't gonna wanna be around me for me then you probably aren't someone I should be interested in anyways | |
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| Hard to be natural?
Posted: 8/17/2006 6:11:17 PM | I'm irish........always have something to say.......also the more nervous i get the more i talk....i find it hard to talk to someone i AM NOT attracted too......
oooo cool song
OHHHHHHHH ITS SO NICE TO BE WITH YOU.....I LOVE ALL THINGS YOU SAY AND DO......hmmm who sings this....AND ITS SO NICE TO HEAR YOU SAY YOU'RE GOING TO PLEASE ME IN EVERY WAY...........HUNNY I HAVE A NOTION YOU'RE GOIGN TO CAUSE COMOTION............ok ill be quiet now    | |
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