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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/14/2005 2:27:03 PM | | Yeah agreed, glad you pointed that out. Seems like both sexes are always on our toes then, no wonder there are so many single people now adays. Guess our guards are up so high sometimes that we jeopardize what we have in order to find what we are both looking for and not seeing that it could be each other. | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/14/2005 2:48:55 PM | | Excuse me Logik, but you have no idea about me, so never judge me before you know me, see thats the problem sometimes. Im the farthest thing from picky or shallow, Im not into looks nor into materil things, see I go for personality, triats like honesty, and trust and respect. You only get out of life what you put into it, and no one is better then me and Im no better then anyone else. | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/14/2005 2:57:53 PM | | Someone is riding the bitter bus today, but don't always assume you know what your talking about. We all learn the hardway, thats a life lesson we all go through at one point in our lives | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/14/2005 3:15:31 PM | | I always know what I'm talking about. Else, why say it? Bitter bus? Hey, I just calls 'em as I sees 'em. Does it sound bitter? I dunno... But, it sounds true. | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/14/2005 4:12:14 PM | sweetsassy
that is funny
"bitterbus'
I like that one.........
I think women still have pretty high expectations
from my experience and from reading there posts
they are suffering from this impossible perfect romantic vision in there head
that is imprinted in there head as a child
when they first read Cinderella
ie
"i will know he is the one when,he sweeps me off my feet
all can think about is him
I visualize my everything with him.............etc"
I can't sleep if he is not near me...etc
I think this is an over romaticized outlook.........
when I speak with women I often hear this stuff coming from there mouth
they are holding out for that picture in there head
and real life is not like that ....
so what does a man do?
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/14/2005 4:12:26 PM | Logik.. it goes both ways hon... men lie / women lie.. however.. you can't and shouldn't paint everyone with the same brush or you'll be a very lonely person.
Honesty is #1 to me... and always will be... | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/14/2005 4:47:48 PM | | Why would it be hard for a woman to commit? Look at their choices. Traditions have changed. Roles have changed. Morals have changed, and the world with ever-increasing populations will face more violence and war. It's tough to have much of a relationship in such a fast-moving rat-race to eat, or be eaten. | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/14/2005 4:52:14 PM | | Just the opposite for me. Women want to get married after the first two weeks in a relationship, which is way too fast for anybody over the age of 12. You may be giving out the wrong vibes or need to change your brand of deoderant. | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/14/2005 4:59:36 PM | Yes your right guitarman100, the perfect made for movie romance is all we want, however that really does happen only in the movies. People see what they want in relationships, go after what they feel they desire and fairytales and happy endings are what little girls all dream about when we grow up. Problem is reality is what we should be teaching our children and not fairytales, life is rough out there and living in neverneverland you get you eaten alive I have come to realize.
What men should do you ask, just be themselves and not who every woman wants them to be. | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/14/2005 5:29:57 PM | Kudos To You !!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have been so blessed to be so in LOVE 2 TIMES in my life ! Once to the father of my 3 sons whom I am divorced from but still love very much !!!!!!!!!!! And then I married for the second time and 31 days after our wedding day he was diagnosed with terminal cancer and I lost him 2 years ago this Sept.
I hope with all of my very heart and soul that I am lucky enough to meet #3 somewhere before I leave this world !!!
Gruesome YES but such is life all COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS !!!!!! | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/14/2005 8:28:14 PM | sweetnsassy34
well when a man is just being themselves a girl often
give them a hardtime for not being ...........from the movies
it is really a hard nut to crack.....a man can't win | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/14/2005 8:57:47 PM | wow,... i am really out of touch ..
I thought men had hard time committing.. I thought women had a couple of dates and started picking out wedding rings.. LOL | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/15/2005 8:34:30 AM | | Committments are not useless at all, everyone desires to find that special someone to share all of life expereinces with. If we consistantly have different people in our lives we can never focus on charishing what we have had throughout our lives, I personally and Im sure others will agree that we all long to find that special person to accomplish these things with. | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/15/2005 8:05:23 PM | commitment is hard....havin dealt wit men in the past its hard to trust agian...you have to learn somehow...so you have great realtionships that went sour or you have**** that can't seem to understand who you are & what you have to offer..use, abuse & never talk to you agian....I have major commitment issues...dats me...always been that way....but findin the right person can turn you around...trust plays a big role in a relationship...if you know deep down that you can trust them....boom your game just changed & now all you can think about is that person & nothing else....its magical......
you will know when the time is right...just always be honest wit yourself.... | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/15/2005 8:06:14 PM | The question is what he wants her to commit to and what he is offering to her.
So many men really just want a woman to handle the details and hassles in their life, so they can have more time of their "own". What is she getting out of it as he sits in front of the tube while she cooks or cleans, as he's out with the boys while she stays home with the kids, as he goes on a "guys only" hunting trip and finds all of her hobbies "boring"?
Face it guys, women who end up "alone in the relationship" after they have made a commitment aren't in any hurry to repeat the mistake. Some men put on a really good act until she commits, then they turn their attention to "fun" that doesn't include her. His focus shifts from her, to himself. Its all about what he wants and "needs". Every woman who has had to "wait until a commercial comes on" before she's entitled to his attention knows exactly what I mean, and so does every man who has said that.
The question is - how many guys are more committed to their hobbies than they ever will be to a person? How many guys out there know every little detail of their favorite sport, yet can't even remember the eye color of "what's-her-name" that married them - much less more personal details about her?
The feeling a girl gets from a lot of guys pushing towards commitment is "hurry up and marry/move in with me so I can drop the act and get back to what I'd rather be doing". | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/15/2005 8:19:08 PM | | Blaskist really makes a point...and I know just how she feels. I am in a transitional phase to going from working to being a student,and being a single parent is always a challenge..sometimes it seems inconceivable that anyone would want someone in such a situation! BTW blast stay strong, be proud.... | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/15/2005 9:08:27 PM | <<
Women are more independent...they don't "need" a man to "care for them" like they used to...careers replace men as number one in importance rank...we are also living longer which means we have more time to be choosey! ;)
Just a few thoughts on that.... | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/15/2005 9:15:03 PM | hi baby how are you doing today ? i just do good with english so i hope you email me as soon as posepel i would like to chat with you .
take care and have anice night | |
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