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r324
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Joined: 7/13/2005
Msg: 102 | |
| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/15/2005 9:17:49 PM | Depends on the person.
While they are young, they sometimes look for the BBD (Bigger Better Deal).
As they get older, they sometimes panic and settle for 'less than perfect'. | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/22/2005 12:41:31 PM | Lots of good points on this topic..most accept that the modern trend is for less female (personal) committment -unless family building is invovled. Many women still say they want to commit, but those on here are still trying ! My added point to this is mostly missed so far :-
What happens as people age and have no one who really cares -through shared memories etc? Then the balance shifts back..men are natural loners at heart ,even though they appreciate female company.They have practice nowadays after divorce etc. When the free 'older' woman runs out of young 'admirers' the partner search gets harder. So not so win-win as it may appear !! The figures for mental illness in older woman are rising, as are those for drink and lifestyle sourced problems. We guys are dutifully dying earlier ,as before- but probably leaving a lot less to non stayers!! Just a view..but hard earned ,folks  | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/22/2005 3:16:15 PM | i think that most women aren't ready to commit cause they feel they haven't found the one they want to spend the rest of their lives with yet. committing to someone is a very important task in one's life. they want to try and do it right the first time. that's where the hesitation comes in. it's hard to be sure if you can spend the restof your life with a certain person. takes a lot of time and effort and even then, there is always the chance things don't work out. we men don't come with a guarantee. if we did, it would make choosing a whole lot easier. | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/22/2005 6:43:41 PM | Ya know, whilst in my search for a true love, the very last profile i look at is one where the woman says "I'm very independent" because you are right about most women that are very independent. But when it comes right down to it, when you get past the players and cheaters, i think most people have to experience and endure the bad before they really know what they want, men and women both. Sometimes, they have to go through it 2 or 3 times, and even then, they might still not know what they want, but i think most people do after a couple bad go rounds. And then, finding the right person is hard, but maybe not as hard as we might think, if we would let our gaurds down just a little. But after you have found the "right" person, and both of you have been there and done that, i don't think either wants to jump right into something cause they don't want it to fail, or they're afraid it might fail. Either way, it's understandable. Who wants to go through the bad shit after you've been though it a couple times. But i want another shot at it, simply because of what i've learned from my mistakes and failures. Of course, i don't want it to fail either, but i would go for it, if i felt it. And a woman will too. Let's not seperate the gender of the species. Everybody knows a man can be a **stard and a woman can be a ****, let's look past that. Let's look at the individual. I think it's the way a person was raised, what they've been through, their way of living at the present, do they wanna change that...i could go on and on, why don't we take the words "for women to" out of the subject line and let the truths speak for themselves. Just about everybody has skeletons in their closets, but let history remain as history because when you're lookin for a better future, only the present can create a pleasant past. And when you say "I know what i want and won't settle for less" ...think about that for a minute! When you say you won't settle for anything less, you're cutting yourself too short and may be standing in line a lot longer, while your watching all the other happy couples gettin together. For Christ's sake, take a chance! Even if it means getting hurt again. Just learn to chalk it up as another experience and go on, cause if you don't, you might let the person that could possibly make you happy the rest of your life, slip right through your fingers.  | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/22/2005 10:20:57 PM | | For the same reason a man doesn`t commit these days!!!! PEOPLE don`t commit.....because there is always someone else to take your place...We have become a very disposable society!!!! Nothing much matters any more...Sad but true... | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 8/23/2005 3:42:44 AM | | I could say exactly the same about men but u can't generalise. Times have changed and so have a lot of ppl's idea's about relationships (unfortunately). Why would most ppl want to bother commiting when they can have their cake and eat it so to speak. It's a shame because those who are genuine then don't seem to get a look in :) | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 1/6/2008 10:21:06 AM |
Yes, I needed a man to be part of my team
Hell, I missed this one from earlier.
This post was heartfelt and I sympathise with her,,,But-
No self respecting guy of my generation would want to be part of a womans' team.
Likewise we didn't call women/girls/females- 'guys' either! Soooo popular (common) now.
No wonder it's all screwed up. | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 1/15/2008 6:28:55 AM | It means she can't go out with the other guys she's
dating when you're not around. If you're married,
then it's just you from then on.
Think back to your High School Years when you had
a book of phone numbers to people you dated, and if
one was busy, you'd call another, right?
She can't do that if she marries you. It's sex with you,
or sex with nobody until you come home! | |
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ttblue
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Joined: 12/24/2007
Msg: 116 | |
| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 1/24/2008 7:31:06 PM | | it happened to me a couple of times.. everything's great but no physical attraction.. or maybe they just wanna see how much better looking the next guy could be? | |
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ngat73
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Joined: 6/10/2007
Msg: 117 | |
| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 1/24/2008 7:46:47 PM | | Sometimes its hard to be sure the guy you are seeing is the right one. Sometimes you need more time. You can't "really" know a person that quickly. What is the rush? Maybe the timing is off. Maybe, she needs a little more than you have to offer. You would be the best person to gauge that. | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 1/24/2008 9:48:19 PM | We seem to get so much more substance and intelligent conversation from our girlfriends...especially after men being so dang squeamish...it gets really old...so we depend upon our friends. | |
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| Why is so hard for women to commit these days?
Posted: 1/24/2008 10:02:50 PM | | Op...not quite sure what you meant....but from the SOUND of it, there's sort of a contradiction here. You aske why it's so hard to commit, but then in your message, it sounds like all ya want is a fling in the first half, then the second half sounds like you wanna marry right out of the gate, lol. It just doesn't (to me at least) sound like the two are on the same subject. | |
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