| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/1/2006 6:02:15 PM | Do you have to be in love to marry?
It helps if the other one passes gas to close to you.
Do you or should you marry her and should you say "I love you" if you don't feel it yet?
No, you be honest, and maybe in time you will, if you don't think so run for the hills. Why is she pregant? | |
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| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/1/2006 6:05:23 PM | Well, in the country I was born, at my great grandmother's time, all marriages were arranged. Not all of them were unhappy married. In fact, my great grandparents were a happy couple, and they never met each other before the wedding.
Also love has many degrees. I assume that nowadays people would marry for love only, but also there are chances that one will claim "I thought I was in love when I married but I was wrong......I was very inexperienced at that time........"
If you marry someone you haven't fallen in love yet, the question should be how sincere you are to make that marriage work. Are you willing to settle with a person you can live with and not looking further for a person you can't live without need lots of thinking.
No, you shouldn't say "I love you" if you are not in love. You are responsible to what you said to the others. | |
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| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/1/2006 8:05:48 PM | Well, duh, I wouldn't marry someone unless I was in love with him and he's in love with me.
I like the above poster's "No you shouldn't say "Il love you" if you are not in love." Well said. | |
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| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/1/2006 8:19:31 PM | No. Up until very recently, marriages were arranged, by families, for business, love or at least being "in love" had nothing to do with it. I think just as many marriages worked out back then as now, perhaps more.
Loving someone is different from being in love. | |
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| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/1/2006 8:27:29 PM | NO ! If it turns out that you never develop this feeling for her, then not only have you screwed yourself, you've screwed her out of something you made her feel was real. If you have kids, they become involved as well. It doesn't work and will eventually explode.
Get there first......or don't go at all. | |
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| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/1/2006 9:04:16 PM | You don't have to be in love to marry. Some guys marry out of a sense of responsibility (yes, it still exists in some guys) especially if they've been sampling the goodies beforehand. Some people marry to avoid tax penalties. There's an infinite number of reasons why people marry, so don't be surprised in what you discover.
~Aurora | |
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| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/1/2006 9:17:28 PM | | For a commitment that big in life. YES I have to be IN LOVE. Getting married just to get married is a bad idea. You will regret it later in life, first find a woman to be best friends then a lover and then if the LOVE grows then marry. Just my advice here on how I feel. | |
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| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/1/2006 9:46:51 PM | | I think loving somebody is the only reason I'd get married.I'm not comitting for the next 50 years of my life with somebody I don't love......I don't care how well everything else clicks. | |
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| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/2/2006 8:38:11 AM | For me, there would be no other reason...... period!
And I want to marry again. So i do need to find that one woman that can love me as much as I love her. Not an easy task. You get choosy at my age. | |
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| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/2/2006 9:06:31 AM | If I'm not mistaken - arranged marriages seem to have a longer 'shelf life' than so called marriages were two people 'fall in love'.
But what do I know since I've never been married or even proposed to. | |
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| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/2/2006 9:11:49 AM | | But I think part of the reason arranged marriages may last longer is because of the cultural expectations placed on the participants. It's pretty ingrained in them to accept this part of their life. That said, however, I know of one arranged marriage that has gone thru some serious ups and downs -- so even that doesn't guarantee success. | |
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| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/2/2006 9:27:58 AM | you don't have to be in love, nor do you have to be crazy to marry some one,but trust me, BOTH those conditions are of tremendous benefit to the proceedings- 
Cindy O | |
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| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/2/2006 9:29:05 AM | C'mon!!! Are you really that dense?
should you say "I love you" if you don't feel it yet?
Yes....lie as much as possible.....that's the key to happiness! (rme) DUH!
How could she be perfect in every way if you don't even love her!?!?
She may be "perfect" but obviously nowhere near perfect for "you".
go roxie (we harts are so smart)
If she were perfect for you.......you'd likely already be in love with her.
If you really have to ask these questions you should NOT be dating......
.......much less contemplating marriage.  | |
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| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/2/2006 9:36:33 AM | Marriage is suppose to be forever!!
How can you think of a forever with a person that you arent in love with?
People rush into things to quickly now days and I think Its a shame! | |
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| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/2/2006 9:42:16 AM | | You want to fall in love with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Don't marry her unless you love her. | |
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| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/2/2006 9:44:29 AM | If she's perfect & your not in love...
she's not the perfect one for you...
Marriage...I'm not touching that one!...
Never say "I love you"...unless you mean it...
Just my input!... | |
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| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/2/2006 9:45:01 AM | | I'm afraid my roomate is going to marry her boyfriend not because she loves him but because He makes $250,000 a year, unfortunately for him he can't perform well in bed and she's frustrated about that. I told her not to marry him cause she will be unhappy. The book is still open on her. I dont want to see her make a mistake. | |
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| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/2/2006 9:59:21 AM | Alot of the fixed or arranged marriages they might last longer but there is often no love in the marriage.What I see often is two unhappy people in a fixed marriage........but long live LOVE?
SOUNDS ridiculous.......doesn't it? | |
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| Do you have to be in love to marry?
Posted: 4/2/2006 10:08:11 AM | What if she is perfect in everyway, but you haven't fallen in love with her? Do you or should you marry her and should you say "I love you" if you don't feel it yet?
Huh? Then what is the motivation of marrying her or to say "I love you"? Is it because "she is perfect in everyway"? I think you will feel lousy within yourself if you say it when you don't feel it or mean it, then there may be guilt etc. Also what happens when time shows up some flaws in her and you don't consider her 'perfect' any more? Or you meet someone you have feeling for? Will you then regret? Many issues to consider. Important to reflect on what your motivation is in wanting to marry her even though you don't feel that you love her. Doesn't seem to be a solid foundation....jmv | |
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