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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 4/24/2006 6:13:36 AM | | I am 49 and want the exact same thing as I did when I was 10. I wanted to have a family of my own aka get married. I still want to find that person that I can happily spend the rest of my life with. The second thing that has not changed is I hate the word relationship. It has got to be the most meaningless word in the English language. | |
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 4/24/2006 9:28:19 AM | I'm no longer looking at the physical so much as the inside of the person. I mean I have to be attracted to them, but I no longer need a "10" to show off with like I did when I was younger. I could care less about what other people, especially other men, think of who I'm with. The thing I worry about is that I've been single for so long, I hope I'm not too set in my ways to compromise...if and when I live with someone again. I don't like the thought of growing old alone, but I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person. So I won't settle until I've found someone that I feel totally comfortable with and someone I can trust.  | |
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 4/24/2006 9:44:18 AM | | Yor so right about this,I have come to the place that I know its out of my hands...And I find alot of freedom in that.If or when I find Love in my life..I have learned to be happy with it!Love is so important for good health..And Iam healthy | |
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 4/24/2006 4:27:44 PM | I have seen this in recent e-mails as well, and I concur completely! I'm finding that personality is more important to me than it used to be.
At this point, what I would like most is some companionship. It didn't used to matter that much to me if I could find someone to go with when I went to an activity. But more & more I find that things just aren't any fun alone. Everyone in my age range at church, work, etc. are all part of a couple, and though they are good people, there just isn't that much in common.
At one point I thought I had found a "special someone" for myself. But after she passed away a couple of years ago, it has been harder than ever, and I find myself feeling more isolated than ever before. | |
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 4/24/2006 4:36:26 PM | "I hope I'm not too set in my ways to compromise...if and when I live with someone again. I don't like the thought of growing old alone, but I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person. So I won't settle until I've found someone that I feel totally comfortable with and someone I can trust.".....AND SOMEONE WHO CAN MAKE ME LAUGH  | |
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 4/28/2006 3:41:42 PM | I notice when I was younger my list was longer ....but I was cuter and thinner and could get away with that behavior
When I was married I thought I had found what I was looking for .. BOY did I wake and smell the coffee and get better glasses
Now my list is short and sweet
You can't be
Homeless
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 7/23/2006 8:46:29 AM |
I guess as I have gotten older I want it all.
I think you're right there Tori.
At our stage in life, our experiences have given us a course in "Selfish 101" and remembering the way I always used to put my kids and my ex first (with no thanks or even appreciation) I don't think it's a bad thing. | |
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 7/23/2006 9:01:33 AM |
At our stage in life, our experiences have given us a course in "Selfish 101"
You've sure got that right!!...there's absolutely nothing wrong with putting yourself first..at this point in life most of us have earned that right...we just need to always remember there's a BIG difference between "first" and "only"... | |
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 7/23/2006 12:49:20 PM | | From what I have seen on the dating sites and reading the post, everyone is saying they want a serious long term relationship, love and passion, someone to grow 'old' with. However, the big problem is....no one wants to make a comment! How can you have these things without one? The word Comment seems to scare everyone off. | |
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 7/23/2006 1:10:13 PM | Yea, I agree with you. My husband died 2 years ago and now that I am looking for a relationship, Iseem to have a checklist of things which is different than when I was in my 20's 30's and now going into 50 I want a real, honest and compasionate relationship. I will settle for being alone if I can't find the guy who has most of the same things on his check list. I am long past settling just to be with someone but look forward to having a good time and meeting special people along the way.
Take care
Becky | |
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 9/16/2006 1:02:49 PM | After my last relationship, where I was willing to compromise & make things work & he was heavily into "come closer-go away" my urge to date or try to meet Mr. Right has waned. I think I will work on me 1st & not go out w/ anyone unless I think we have something in common & he PURSUES me. I'm tired of being the one to do all the work in the relationship. so now I have become selective & I am quite content to spend time in good company-myself! | |
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 9/16/2006 5:52:42 PM |
Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Of course I feel different then when I was young. I don't lower my expectations in the least, possibly I have raised them. I want the whole package. I am happy being me now and I am sure being in a relationship would just enhance that feeling | |
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 9/17/2006 5:16:58 AM | | We all are getting older but were getting better,at 44 i honestly have to say a relationship is different im not 16 anymore and im all grown up now and my thinking and wanting are different,after my 20 year marriage i even think differently i realize life is precious and i am also,when someone throws you away because of some stupid joke,you do think differently about something true and real so yes in some ways i do feel different but i strive to keep a focus as to what i would like the next time | |
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 9/17/2006 6:41:49 AM | We are in a very, very different world now too.
What was important 20-25 years ago, probably isn't so much anymore. Maybe that's unfortunate, and it probably is, but a lot more has changed than ourselves and how we view life. Life itself has changed dramatically. We adapt, albeit sometimes reluctantly, to our developing environment. Some of that is good, some not so good.
This invariably modifies our approach to relationships as well. Hopefully we don't become too beaten-up, calloused, fearful or insensitive along the way. It's important to maintain an open mind and an open heart in the best way we possibly can.
-Suth'nBoy 
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