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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 9/17/2006 7:46:02 AM | I guess I do..
I have a friend I met a couple months ago..
Friday night I spent the night with him..
He's not really my type but the nicest man..
He is bout as round as he is tall..
And a diabetic, we layed in bed and watched tv
till after midnight and I was sleeping in a t-shirt
and panties, and felt nice laying beside him..
He was impotent!! I knew that when I stayed..
But I stayed anyway, and sex should not be the
most important part of a relationship..
I do miss sleeping next too a man..
But part of me misses sex!!
But I will still be his friend even tho sex will
not happen between us..
Judy
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 9/17/2006 9:43:00 AM | No Judy I don't find that weird at all. Sometimes just being cuddled and held by someone dear and special to you can be almost as good--just not quite as good as sex. I am a widow of 2 years now and miss talking to someone about my day or just bounces off ideas with. Someone to play verbal volleyball with: bantering back and forth. But when night comes, the part of wanting a body next to you becomes more real and harder to deal with. But that is not what guides what I'm looking for in a relationship. It's the way you talk to me and what you say: it's the same ideas and ideals, it's becoming familiar with each other and having lots of the same interests and an interest in learning about your differences-AND still liking you for it!
Now if only I can figure out how to find someone like that!!
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 9/28/2006 8:40:04 PM | | Yes i feel differently about relationships i realize we are all grown up now,and some have been through hell and back,i also realize there must be chemisrty,tis not like when we were 16 barefoot and pregnant,this is alot for one to get into over nite things dont happen overnight,some of us are scared,afraid to trust again,afraid to be a team again,so yes its a big issue for many to handle, | |
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 9/28/2006 9:07:52 PM | I feel the same about relationships, I just no longer expect to be loved, since I was and then was not. It's like being retired from football because you weren't good enough to stay on the team. The game remains the same. You just don't play anymore.
Women are, in a not at all bad way, utterly insane. They stand alone rejecting love while giving as their reason they are waiting for love. That's like waving the bus to keep on going because you have to stay and wait for the bus. A man's insanity is to imagine the woman will be satisfied with his love. That's like getting on the bus no matter it's heading the wrong direction.
Meanwhile, the happily coupled folk are snuggled in bed together tonight, their lives putting the lie to every theory and excuse single people use to keep safely uncoupled.
Relationships have always been about relating. Relate well and get along, or relate poorly and fare less well. I also still feel the same about gravity. When I drop a French fry it lands on the floor. | |
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 9/22/2009 7:27:55 PM | I don't think I ever thought a relationship would make my life perfect. Even when I was younger, and single I did not expect life to be perfect just by virtue of having someone to share it with. In fact when married, life was never perfect, but it sure made it easier to face problems when they were shared with someone that cared about me.
A person should have a good life whether single or coupled. They should not expect being part of a couple to make a bad life good. What my life experience has been though is, when you have a life partner to share things with, troubles are half as bad because you share them with your loved one. Good times are twice as good because you have someone to share your joy. For me then, the net result of having a mate, half the grief and double the joy. I think it is well worth the effort to make a relationship work. | |
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 9/22/2009 7:39:32 PM | I've read this original post three times now, along with responses. I'm alright being single. I don't need anyone to make my life "perfect".
Not even sure I want someone in my life, but, I just decided to date some exclusively. Its o.k...as a matter of fact, its alot better than o.k....But, should we decide to end it tomorrow, I'm going to be just fine...If it works out though, wow, we're talking about something VERY different? As always, I'm clueless, about the original question.
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 9/22/2009 7:51:13 PM | | I'm with you, perhaps even more so than you. I don't need a relationship, don't long for one, could care less if I'm ever in another again. And I'm not bitter, nor jaded in the least about them either. Actually, I'm quite content and at peace with my experiences of them. Feel rather full from them, blessed by them. | |
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 9/23/2009 4:10:10 PM | I am at the same place. I have a comfortable, happy life. Good friends, a great family and activities that I love. I have been in love several times but only married once. My life is pretty much perfect as it is. Having a good relationship may make it sweeter but like a cake it is also good without the icing. This means that unless and until I find the perfect man for me I will have a good life. If my Mr perfect does not come into my life I still have a great one.  | |
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 9/23/2009 5:58:58 PM | | hi.. I feel different in that I realise how important it is to be really matched with someone on most levels vs on just a few levels... I know that I am definitely wired to be in a loving marriage and I would value it even more now than when I was younger... I feel ready to meet my soulmate and even though I do not need a man I value meeting a good man... blessings for happiness | |
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 9/23/2009 6:25:51 PM | "I really feel like the pendulum has swung the other way for me. I am very cautious getting to know new people these days, and don't look for sky rockets and firecrackers on first dates anymore. Life is too complicated when you're older and it takes awhile to see if you're compatible, etc..."
So true...I used to think that I knew within the first five minutes if something would work or not, now I see that it takes awhile to really get to know someone and to see if they we are compatible(that word sounds boring) however it fits!
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| Now that you're older, do you feel different about relationships?
Posted: 9/23/2009 6:52:38 PM | Upon reading many of the previous posts, I have to say most of what the posters say is applicable to me as well.
I don't know about any of the rest you but I am having a real struggle keeping up my motivation (I believe there is a thread about this subject). As many of the others have said if they find someone great and if not that's fine too.
I like many of you have a lot of good years left and that makes it frustrating, like I should be off my ass and out there looking. Been on POF I guess a few weeks or so, left once before that for a few weeks and so far have not contacted one female. A couple have contacted me which I appreciate and my profile gets many views but that's as far as it goes.
My grandmother and grandfather were married for well over 50 years and when he died, my grandmother actually remarried some guy named George who was in his 80's. They had nearly a decade together.
So how do I feel about relationships the OP asks? I would like one but I guess I'm too damn lazy to go find one. Hopefully I can work out of that. | |
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