| Would u or have u ever slept....
Posted: 4/18/2006 3:55:29 PM | | i never hear from you anymore....too bad..i thought you are a nice woman...that would like to meet a nice guy... | |
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| Would u or have u ever slept....with someone on your first date
Posted: 4/18/2006 4:19:49 PM | Hmmmmm...........I have been out on a few dates over the last year. I find it interesting that 50% asked or just started "moves" within the first 3 hours. One girl was a nurse and seemed to have a lot going for her, but when I told her that I wouldn't be comfortable with that, she started crying and I had to wonder what I have to do to do the right thing. Do I leave or do I..........? I chose to politely appologize and leave.
Not answering the question though ;) | |
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| Would u or have u ever slept....
Posted: 4/18/2006 4:26:37 PM | | All my past relationships started very fast, maybe thats why they were all mistakes.I met my ex wife by joining a group of people I had only recently known, we went off to octoberfest and the beer was flowing! I asked her to dance and we ended up back at her place. 8 years of hell later I walked. I,m in no hurry next time. | |
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| Would u or have u ever slept....
Posted: 4/26/2006 6:01:29 PM | Are you kidding me? I respect myself plenty thank you very much (having slept with a guy on the first date).... I also take pride in my looks and in the fact that pretty much the choice is MINE. 95% of the time the guy will WANT to have sex .. and guess what that gives us the power. And my dear the power of decision is a very attractive thing. See once you feel comfortable enough with your own body to explore certain things you might just open up your sexual horizons and find out that it can be a lot of fun .. and it can open you up in many areas of your life and not just sex .. you can suddenly become a bombshell with super high self-esteem and once that radiates from you as opposed to somebody closed in about sex you might find the world to be a much brighter place .. I know I do.
One more thing ... I don't buy a car without riding it around the block first ... do you?  | |
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| Would u or have u ever slept....
Posted: 4/26/2006 6:05:01 PM | That last post was directed at Jessicakaowl and her naive reply of:
nawwwwww, I'm assuming that if I ever did that, he probably wouldn't talk to me again.
If a girl can't respect herself enough to not sleep with a guy on the first date, why should he respect her at all? | |
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| Would u or have u ever slept....with someone on your first date
Posted: 4/26/2006 6:26:05 PM | Hmmm sex on the first date?
I say live and let live if it feels right do it and if it doesn't do it anyway and deal with the guilt later. It's a long enough life to work through these things but not long enough to have the what if I had only's.
Only you can judge yourself because no one else knows you like you do and therefore have no right too. We’re all adults and the one good thing about being one is giving yourself permission to break all of mamma’s rules.
"Regrets, I've had a few But then again, too few to mention
I did what I had to do and saw it through without exemption
I planned each charted course, each careful step along the byway
And more, much more than this, I did it my way"
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| Would u or have u ever slept....with someone on your first date
Posted: 4/26/2006 9:48:37 PM | I never have......I need to spend time getting to know someone before getting that close to them. I need to have some kind of emotional attachment to someone. How do you even know that the guy (or girl) isn't there to just get laid.... no thanks...not interested in STD's .... | |
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pomik
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Joined: 4/4/2005
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| Would u or have u ever slept....
Posted: 5/16/2007 4:59:44 PM | didn't realise I had to be in LOVE to have SEX , lust works fine for me........I also know alot more people put out on a first date than ever admit to it, that is no sh*t!!!!
SLUTS of the world.......STAND TALL!!! | |
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Joined: 10/17/2005
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| Would u or have u ever slept....
Posted: 5/16/2007 5:45:31 PM | Sluts of the World? Give me a break will ya. You're making it sound like she a slut if she puts out on the first date...NOT TRUE at all dear. Things happen, chemistry is there, lust takes over and both are on the same page...it's all good and right. That is not the making of a slut. Correct me if I'm wrong. Personally I'm not looking for sex on the first date but it has happened....gee, am I a slut now?...lmao!   | |
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| Would u or have u ever slept....
Posted: 6/19/2008 12:34:06 PM | I'm not sure what a date would be but if you like him ..... he likes you ....... and all goes well .................. you would hope sex is in.
Casuall sex is a good thing and should be enjoyed by all ...... lmao ........
I know i've done it and pretty sure it will happen again .......... i'm good with that. | |
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| Would u or have u ever slept....
Posted: 6/19/2008 5:37:26 PM | I have not slept with a date on the fist night. Yes I've been tempted.
I have been lucky enough to kiss a fair bit, but, we both realized it was better to wait if even for only a bit.
Chemistry can be a huge motivator. Sometimes you need to use the brain, go home and jump in the cold shower.
I am no prude, but, taking your time can make things all the sweeter.
That being said, theres always a first time lol. | |
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| Would u or have u ever slept....with someone on your first date
Posted: 6/19/2008 7:33:01 PM | I have and it wasn't one of the greatest experiences in my life. It lacked connection and intimacy with the other person. In fact, once the hormones subsided and the lust pacified, it had little lasting satisfaction.
On the other hand, to make love for the first time with someone you care about, with whom you have already develop some common rapport and comfort can be an exciting, invigorating experience. In my humble opinion, it should signal the cementing of an existing bond, the deeping of an existing connection and respect for the other person. It should set off a joyful beat in your heart and a playful spring in your step and an anticipation of many more wonderful shared experiences to come, sexual or otherwise. There is no magic formula or schedule to gauge when that appropriate moment has arrived. If both are comfortable with the decision to expand their enjoyment and engagement of each other on the physical level, then it should be able to happen very naturally and with no second guessing or doubts and hopefully make the experience even more sensuous and mind blowing fanastic.
If you call me a hopeless romantic, then I stand defiantly as accused.
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| Would u or have u ever slept....with someone on your first date
Posted: 6/21/2008 3:21:36 PM | In the past I've had sex on the 1st date and I thought of 'him' as being the easy, cheap one as he probably thought of me in the same way.
Some where a lot of fun and a great night of, strangers in the night, getting it on, and others the sex was lousy and that ended the date early.
Mostly I'd say, it was ok and sometimes it was awesome sex.
It's different today, because of AIDS and even with protection, it's not worth taking those kinds of chances, that could alter my life for ever.
Now, I would never have sex on the 1st date or for a good while until I felt 'safe', without doubt.
I would expect the same responsible attitude about his own health, from the man.
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