| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 7/13/2006 9:03:40 PM | I've dated about four women from here.
All of them where intelligent and attractive ( far prettier than their pictures would have you believe). They were pleasant, and interesting people.
None of them were nympho's or gold diggers.
I enjoyed my dates with all of them, and treated them with respect and consideration. I've never actually had a bad date, in the entire time I used the internet for such purposes. Some where better than others, none were bad. I hope the women I dated would have the same opinion of those dates.
The only reason I walked away from online dating was that the process itself ( at least in my experience) was flawed by it's very nature. There is this McLuhanesque interference by the medium upon the message.
That's the only reason I walked away from the field. | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 8/4/2006 11:56:35 PM | The women i have met on this site and plain jane Vanilla dull normals. They go to coffee dates just aching to find a deal breaker. They arent doing much with their life. They arent eccentric or interesting in any way. Very disappointing. They are chronic singles who drift from date to date always fault finding and looking for ......the one...
However, the women I meet OFF this site are much better to date. So much so that I am changing my profile to looking for friends and halting all dating. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2006 12:42:27 AM | The "girls" I have met are stupendous! Attractive, intelligent, interesting...way more than I could ever hope for. *sigh* But they ALL live so far away it isn't practical 
I have decided to move to either, Toronto or South Dakota. THAT should scare the crap outta 'em! lol Ok, NOW I'm gigglin'. Actually I am moving for "THE" one. | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 8/5/2006 12:39:34 PM |
A LOT of bitter, guarded, jaded, cynical, untrusting, unopen, non fun, angry, waste of time game players from my experience.
I have to say if all the women you are meeting seem to be falling into just this one category then maybe...just maybe you need to look in the mirror and see that it could have something to do with you?
and rudeguy...you know you hate Toronto!  | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 8/5/2006 1:12:24 PM | Hi everybody :)
I have personally met 5 ladies from this site. All SEEMED quite nice and adjusted.
I went on one date with four of these ladies. I dated one lady for a period. The one lady I dated for a period from here is the reason I am not dating at the moment.
I chat with a few ladies from time to time and ALL seem quite genuine. I like this site myself.
A nice diversion in these forums. Interesting, humourous, informative and from time to time intense.
Okay here is one story. One lady I dated told me she had a vision from an experience I related to her. You ready. She told me I was alive in the time of the Spanish inquisition and while captive myself watched a woman I know from the here and now tortured, her breasts cut off and killed while I watched. I said scuze me. :P Errrr Okay. Oh yeah. This came to her while having a shower one day. And people wonder why I drink.
I thank you. | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 8/5/2006 4:59:12 PM | Dang...............the guy who sang 'don't worry be happy' HUNG HIMSELF!!!....so ok besides the annoying song...the lesssoned learned from him is 'worry and get depressed'
Ok..sorry that was just being mean to a dead annoying guy.....but kind of made me giggle....   | |
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Posted: 8/5/2006 5:19:43 PM | I've dated 12 women over the last year while doing this Internet dating thing.
It's been my experiance with each one that each was a normal woman with the exception that they had one or two little things that would make me qualify them as broken.
Girl #1. Hippie - If you weren't about peace love and happiness and ready to smoke a bowl with her at the drop of the hat, you weren't for her. Let's not get into the fact that her home was so disgusting I was surprised it didn't have bugs.
Girl #2. Cancer chic - Simply looking for a father for her daughter and someone to take over in the event she died of cancer.
Girl #3. Tattoo Chic - Had been kidnapped when she was 16 and becouse of that, she had nightmares. This caused her to be sleep deprived. The sleep deprivation manifested itself in self mutilation. She became a cutter. She also had a tendancy to self medicate herself since she had access to prescription medications thru her work asa home health aid.
Girl #4. Middletown Girl - I won't discuss her issues.
Girl #5. Air Force chic - Raped at 18 which resulted in her having low self esteem and using sex as a method to make herself feel desired and beautiful.
Girl #6. Cincy chic - 100% normal as normal would be judged by me. Only problem was, she was on the rebound. Decided to go back to her ex.
Girl #7. Hillbilly Girl - To many problems to get into.
Girl #8. My Michelle - 100% Normal, only problem being that she was boring as all hell.
Girl #9. Wicca Chic - Chronic Dater. Mainly dated to get free meals and gifts from the men. Very sweet, very lovely, very much a user.
Girl #10. Sister Christian - Prim and proper, dressed like a school marm, wild as **** in private. To wild, was initiating sex with me while her 5 year old boy was sitting across from us in a recliner and her 12 year old boy was upstairs and could come down at any given moment. Afterwards I would get calls from her where she would concoct wildly absurd stories about being held hostage and shit like that.
Girl #11. One night Stand. Enough said
Girl #12. The Rabbit - OCD to the inth degree. Prissy as all hell. Insecurity's about sex that abound. Deludes herself into a state of depression. Without her happy pill she has been known to take a knife to her previous live in boyfriend.
How's that for stories about the girls? | |
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Posted: 8/5/2006 8:59:24 PM | how all the guys on this site only want one thing... sex!
::sigh::
Guys, I want to hear your stories about the girls you have met on this site
The girls I have met *so far* ALL superficial - it's all about the looks - if you've got em you're golden. I'd elaborate but I broke rule #6 for 2-3 days as a social experiment. In all honesty, it's been difficult to engage in any sort of conversation here, trolls aside, most (men and women) are more interested in giving their opinions rather than reading what others have had to say on a topic. I suppose I'm guilty as the next person in several threads (incluidng this one as I'm rather tired and should be going to bed), for the most part if a topic peaks my interest I'll read the entire thing and put some thought into my response.
JMJ :bye: | |
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Posted: 8/5/2006 9:17:12 PM | My best internet dating story was meeting this rather attractive and intelligent woman, one I could have easily fallen for. She was, indeed, all that and a bag of chips.
Our first date lasted fifteen hours, and went rather well....until we started discussing Buddhist philosophy.
Oh-oh...
I am not a die hard Buddhist by any means, and I follow the Zen school. She followed the Tibetan school.
We had this discussion on Buddhism over....Montreal smoked meats. 
I'd read a lot about Buddhism, and was pretty familiar with many aspects of it. We were comparing philosophies, and she started telling me that every aspect of Buddhism I was talking about was wrong....and I was being deceptive.
She invited me over to her place, and we decided to start over again. Her teenage daughter was there, and five minutes after I walked in my lovely angel started giving me the third degree ( in front of her daughter I had just met for the first time). All that was missing was the bright light shining on my face. 
Rather than take her on in front of her daughter ( I don't like doing that in front of other people), I decided to do a kind of spiritual "rope-a-dope" tactic, in this spiritual heavyweight battle. 
That night lasted about twenty-five years, and I kept on looking at my watch...
I left, went home, and e-mailed her with this wonderful letter expressing the way I felt towards her - and about a dozen bookmarks referencing all the "lies" I had told her about Buddhism.
Yeeesh...
About two weeks later, she e-mailed me. She told me that I must have the deepest soul she had ever seen - because the white rose I had given her that night was still blooming.
I replied that if it took a flower to tell her that, after being face to face with me for hours and being clueless about it - perhaps it was more a reflection of my talent of flower selection , and choice of flower shop.
Oh yeah....another woman I dated and I hit the rocks when I brought up the fact that I could not justify terrorism for any reasons - and she was a big supporter of the IRA and it's fight.
Sigh....
Wonder why I changed my profile ?
I'm seriously thinking of writing a book about the wonders of internet dating.
The dates weren't bad at all, and I did enjoy them - but oh...the stories I could tell. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2006 6:09:02 AM | | I ask you; what type of girls publish heartfelt desires on a serious site and then don't even bother to check the responses. Thank God this site tells you whether they have even been back on-line in this lifetime, because about 85% of these so-called seekers seem to be on a whim. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2006 6:09:06 AM | 1) Re:Bobby Mcferrin --"Don't worry, be Happy"
"McFerrin is the subject of a persistent yet wholly unfounded rumour that he has committed suicide." He is alive and well folks.
2)Nice to read that some PoF'ers are having pleasant dating experiences, and that not all are completely jaded and cynical. smiles. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2006 6:33:56 AM | man would i love to have a woman contact me wanting sex. but right now the only women who contact me are the ones living in the former soviet union, looking for marrage and a way over here. if i would have to guess why no girls are writing to me at all is the fact that i'm 100LBS over weight. a side effect of the pills i must take. now some women have replyed to my emails, said they were interested, then never wrote back. and now have blocked me from emailing them again. common girls, we men hate being lied to as much as you do. so if your not interested, say so. on the other hand, if there are any girls living near me who are single, love to wrestle and/or roughhouse with men, and are "top heavy", (the heavyer the better), give a holler.
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 8/6/2006 6:40:55 AM | | I agree it is nice to hear some optimistic attitudes even though some stories may be negative. I guess it is all about how you see things. I'm with Montrealguy on my dating experiences. No "bad" dates, but stories to tell indeed! | |
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Posted: 8/6/2006 7:11:42 AM | I think POF has been a enlightening experience for me..The first time I signed on ........2 and a half years ago I can say I was very surprised at how many had resorted to the online dating venue.....
It was such an adventure.I didn't even know where to begin in the dating world, being a part of a couple my entire adult life.
My expectations were too high in the beginning and I soon learned that you really have to take time to learn to be alone before you jump into dating. So I left for a while.Came back a second time, left again and now back a third time.
I came back with a lighter attitude knowing that if I were alone for the rest of my life I really didn't fear it anymore. I like who I am, I have great friends and family.I've learned that if I want to do something I can do it alone.
With this contentment I feel better able to handle anything life has to throw at me.
I've learned that people are all unique individuals, made up of their own life experiences.
It's hard to truly get to know someone in the fast paced dating world these days but I remain hopeful that I will find a compatible person to share life with.
Online dating only widens your possibilities that this will happen ...You just have to learn to lower your expectations and then you'll most likely not be disappointed.
dating can be truly frustrating and at the same time entertaining .....things are all about perception.......how we perceive them may not be how they were intended..... and sometimes one gender wants to place the blame on the other....people are people, just be who you are,take your time...sure there are some really weird ones out there but you just have to learn from them........helps you to learn how to figure it out sooner the next time.
You can't let a few bad apples spoil the whole experience.
Lighten your heart and let go of the past...being bitter and cynical only make things bad from the beginning. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2006 7:14:31 AM | | And furthermore, yu girls should know that this site can make a guy become cynical and not sound like normally would, but the profile remains the same. When I began, I found over 9 local girls that if what they said in their profile was true I was everything they were looking for and they were everything I was looking for. I wrote reasonably lengthy initiating notes to them. I was not pushy or demanding, merely asked to have the honor of meeting them to buy them dinner. I also asked them to tell me if they were ineterested after checking out my profile. How many responses did I get back. Guess. Does this mean they are lieing and are actually looking only for Brad Pitt or some rich guy. The apparent rudeness has caused me to no longer spill me heart out, but either say nothing or just a quick "Are you iinterested". I know this sounds very cynical, but if I will not sacrifice my own dignity by reacting any differently. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2006 7:14:37 AM | Well if I were to generalize. I've found ladies that are, bitter (the ex was a jerk and I'm sure you are to), fearfull (we've only been chatting for two months, I don't know you well enough to meet you yet, you might break my heart), grumpy (I shouldn't have to meet guys on the internet, this sucks), shallow (hey, I only care about looks) massive ego's (I'm a very special lady, I expect only the best, I can have any man I want) friendly (you're not my normal type but you seem like a nice guy so lets talk and see what happens) horny (ok, lets meet, I'll take you to bed and see if you can keep up), low self worth (I don't know how any man could want me, *note, the ladies like this are always great ladies, nice, pretty, understanding that some jerk has conviced that they aren't all those things), rude ( disappears mid chat and blocks you for no reason that I can spot) to eager (IF we meet, and IF we like each other and IF we date and IF we get married, how soon are you willing to have kids?) playfull (don't know if we'll meet or not, doesn't really matter, lets just enjoy each other THEN if we meet we might get to REALLY enjoy each other) nice ( do you mind if we talk, learn about each other, I like to learn about people, what makes them tick) I could go on and on but thinking that's enough.
You forget one important type: The attention whore: "hey, come visit my myspace and see me pout and take downblouse pics of myself. And to top it off, read and comment on my blog where I describe in great detail all the mundane facts and events of my life, such as taking naps and what's currently in the fridge."
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Posted: 8/6/2006 7:25:21 AM | Alright I give up - I don't know how to quote properly - the instructions are not exaclty clear - maybe it's me...
The quote from the message above (there that does it) says it all in terms of my experience also. Somehow that is comforting. I especially relate to the massive ego thing - it is unfortunately all too common amongst very attractive women - can you say "false sense of self esteem". That's a shame really - looks fade and it really isn't THAT important to guys. Ladies please stop abusing your percieved sexual power over us - we are NOT all complete zombies who can't say no to your incredible super human powers of attraction ok.
I think the problem lies in the fact that online we tend to elevate our expectations (we assume there are more people to search from than there actually are and thus are perhaps too selective), we tend to convince ourselves that we DO want to meet people whereas the internet allows us the ease of complete avoidance of awkward social contact where we would have to actually reveal our true mortal selves, and in reference the the previous fact - we tend to overstate how wonderful we are (backspace keys make us all superheroes).
However, with that said the ladies that I have gone out with have all been very nice and quite interesting. I find it tough though since it really still is a blind date (self-imposed no doubt - yikes!!) and unfortunately it is hard to determine if there is chemistry that way just because of the awkwardness of having to suddenly focus on someone and to be focussed on. I don't however begrudge any of the dates I've gone on - there just wasn't enough chemistry there. In one case she was just very focussed on her education and is perhaps not ready to take on a relationship - but a super sweet and nice girl.
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Posted: 8/6/2006 7:31:00 AM | I agree that the 'grass is greener on the other side' philosophy seems prevalent here. I have met a couple of great guys on POF and a couple of dudds but no romantic match. I'm a bit put off by the fishing approach honestly and find that those who continue to log on after meeting someone are looking for something that I'm not anyway and it's a good weeding out tool. It's a bit of a play ground for players. But, I'm still here and hoping that that one 'normal' guy will come along.
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Posted: 8/23/2006 11:09:26 PM | rs79 wrote:
Gotta kiss a few pigs (excuse me...frogs) if you want to find your princess.
Contrary to popular belief, being a "pig" has nothing to do with size. A "pig" is a person who thinks only about themself, and uses others solely to suit their own self-serving interests. There are a lot of women (and men) on this site who fit this profile - and they come in all sizes, shapes, and colors. There are skinny women on here who think only about themselves (these would be "pigs"), and similarly, there are BBW's on here who are generous, kind-hearted, and sincere (these would be "princesses.")
There are good people on this site. One just has to sift through the bad ones to get to them. | |
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