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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 8/24/2006 9:54:47 AM | Well I can't speak for this site as I started dating one woman (not met online) exclusively right after joining so I am not in the market any longer, just like the forums, but after a couple of years on other sites I have noticed a few things and formed a few opinions......
First off I must say several other posters seem to have covered what a lot of us guys start to think after awhile, and that is that women in some cases are shallower then even the most Neanderthal of men.
Women complain that all guy's are looking for is sex, in some cases perhaps, but I would assume it gets pretty easy to spot those types after awhile. (this has been confirmed by lady friends and one of my sisters)
Now I think we have different experience's based on age, whether or not we've been married before or not, kids or no kids and just like in Real Estate, location, location, location.
I live in the North Dallas area so there are a-lot of fake, shallow, insincere, plastic people of both sexes out there and it's no wonder we all become a bit cynical after awhile.
We guy's have to watch for the following, sometimes we can tell from the profile sometimes we can't:
1- Ex-Soccer Mom, this type used to live the good life of the stay at home mom, got divorced, had to go back to work and doesn't like it. Want's her old life back and is looking for someone that can give it to her.
2- Sugar Daddy Shopper, This one clearly states in her profile that you must make over a certain amount each year in order to enjoy her company. She likes the good life in every way, maybe even had it at one time, her kids are grown or she never had any and she damn sure doesn't want you to have any that might interfere with her travel plans. Fully expects several expensive vacations a year to various places all over the globe.
3- Replacement Daddy Shopper, Looking for a new daddy for the kids, maybe the ex is a deadbeat, maybe he is just not involved with his kids, hell sometimes she doesn't even know who daddy is, but she expects you to love her little one(s) just as if they were your own.
(If I may expand on this for a moment...perhaps this should even be a separate thread, Hey folks look to nature, most males will kill the offspring of another male, especially in the dominant predatory animals, obviously as human beings this is not acceptable, tempting at times perhaps but not acceptable) Why women think we are capable of, or want to do this is beyond me.
Those first three explicitly want to remarry, can you guess why?
Next we have the following group, don't really have to be on the watch so much with these but they tend to help make ya cynical after awhile.
1- Just Looking for a good time & sex, this type isn't usually a problem for most guy's so not too much of a problem here, this is the party girl just out for a good time, enjoy it while it lasts, because it won't. 
2- Looking for a Playmate, similar to above but wants a LTR or marriage, but only if you meet some rather strict requirements, those being money, no kids or at least grown enough to not be in the way. Their profiles read like a fantasy, Enjoys lots of vacations to go Skiing, Scuba diving, Cruise's, usually on your dime because her kids are grown and she's not getting that fat child support check anymore and can't afford these things, and if she suspects you can't because you still pay child support, you won't even get a response from her. 
3- Looking for a Harley, I love these, Profile reads as follows- Looking for a nice guy, no drugs no alcohol problems, not abusive, I love to ride on your Harley. Or something similar, hey ladies been to a biker bar lately ? Now I'm not saying all bikers or people that ride bikes (I have friends that ride) do drugs, drink too much or are abusive but, for a lot of these guys you are nothing but a "bike ornament" if you fall off they know they can get another one just like you at the next bike rally.
4- Looking for a "Toy", Similar to above but it's pretty clear in the profile that you need something, a boat, a jet ski or two, a bike, a nice car. They make it clear they love to do all these things but of course they don't have their own, and if you don't.... well no response.
( Hey guy's try this, put the following line in your profile: 'Love to go Boating and Jet Sking on the weekends'. Then watch how many response's you get asking if you have a boat or a jet ski, then watch just as fast how many 2nd responses you don't get after replying "No I just enjoy doing these things" ) 
There are of course variations on the above, sometimes you can tell from the profiles, sometimes ya can't, but these are a few of the things that we as Guy's have to deal with.
Then there are those profiles that are so full of RED FLAGS that we have learned to just click NEXT! Some of the keywords there are : Fiercely Independent, I'm an Independent Woman, I don't NEED a Man, Guess what ladies that's wonderful that you can support yourself, mow your own yard, take the Soccer wagon down to Jiffy Lube for it's oil change, can unclog your own sink or whatever, I can do all that too, I can also cook and clean for myself, in some case's better then a lot of you judging from some of the homes I've seen, but I don't claim to be "Fiercely Independent", or say "I don't need a woman" in my profile, So why do you ?
Religion ... I have a relationship with God, I'm a Christian woman, I love the Lord, and other variations of these, Hey that’s great ladies but if you mention God, Jesus or Christ more then two or three times in your profile you come across as a fanatic and or a nutcase, I mean come on, I was raised Catholic but I don't want to date a Nun. 
Anger issues, hey your profile is no place to bash your ex,(or all men) even if he was scum, drank too much, fooled around, or abused you, my sympathies but it's over and time to move on.
Lies, falsehoods & deception, post a recent picture, be honest with yourself and us when describing yourself, (don't pick average if your really a few extra pounds) don't post that your 40 and then in your profile explain that your really 50 but like younger men or didn't want to be overlooked or some other attempt at excusing what was a lie, at that point I click next, I mean we haven't even met and you've already lied to me. 
Now in ending, I have met some really nice ladies on a couple of sites, they seemed to be normal everyday people just hoping to meet someone to share their lives with just like I am, for whatever reason we weren't for each other, oh well so be it, and I still talk to or email a couple of them occasionally.
So anyway you asked for a guy's opinion, here's mine for what its worth.
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/24/2009 5:15:48 AM | | Now I do agree but most are going to put their best out there. That's why you've got to ask if they have more. With most guys that I think are a possibilty I give them my myspace which has every picture under the sun even that one that no body should see you you look so fat, ridiculous, ugly, or whatever the case is. And I love how you say all women want sex when that's all guys want too I wonder where the balance is for everyone. | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/24/2009 5:53:15 AM | I met a greak guy on here but just didn't click with him the way I wanted. No bad story to tell or anything.
I think that many people on here are bring their past relationships with them onto the internet. The past is the past and I think it's wrong to have a negative expectation because you've had bad luck in the past. Everyone is different and you can be surprised by someone you meet online you just have to give them a chance. | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/24/2009 8:42:24 AM | I only met a guy from this site and that was at a POF event. Turned out he was way too young for me and was in a different place in his life.
I turned down meeting an interesting guy after hearing what he was looking for was a permanent friend, companion, sex cuddle buddy. No potential for the emotion and devotion I'm looking for.
The first guy I found interesting on the site balked when I said I wanted to meet him. He thought I was "rushing" it. Wonder what he was hiding.
I'm wondering if internet dating is like the different between "Deal or No Deal" and "the Cash Cab". On DoND people throw away $280,000 they were offered thru luck hoping for the $1 million payout. On CC people earn $800 because of their knowledge and almost always choose to leave with it rather than risk it on a double or nothing.
Perhaps everyone is hoping for the internet dating equivalent of the lucky million dollar suitcase...looks like a model, is emotionally balanced, financially secure and thinks you are wonderful. In the real world, you have to work hard at finding someone, and then work even harder to keep that person. After all that effort, why would you risk it all to possibly get someone better? My man friend says internet dating gives the illusion of choice. How true. | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/24/2009 2:29:07 PM |
Most people I've run into on here just don't seem to want to make time to meet someone - personally I call that a game especially if you say you are looking for long term
I am also not interested in emailing a trillion million times - if I have a good sense of the person 2 or 3 good emails usually does it for me, but so far, most of the men cannot seem to make the effort to send a good email (I'm talking after the first one, like the 3rd email where I've had to make the effort asking questions while he just answers them). If this man was soooo interested in me to send an initial email and I send one back asking questions about him to which he answers and doesn't ask me a single one
This has been my experience also. I've been wondering whats up with that. It is a dating site...which means you ultimately hope to go on a date and meet the person. I've even added to my profile, about emailing with substance a few time, then talk on the phone and then a LIVE encounter hoping to give out the strong hint..But still have those who send one liners, never ask me any questions about myself, want my phone # but never call, just disappear...Been on here awhile and have gone on one real date, had one want to email for months on end. Online dating has definately been alot different than I thought it would be. | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/24/2009 3:32:20 PM | Overall I think I've been pretty lucky. I have met some girls and although no sparks romantically I have made a new friend here and there. I'm not saying it was easy, just getting a response to an email is the hardest part and once the communication started flowing it easy easier to seeing if there was any potential.
One thing about online dating that bothers me is the criteria bar is set in my opinion exceedingly high. I remember seeing a commerical for one of the major dating sites where the women said something to this effect, I was able to custom order the perfect guy. That really bothered me. I think there is more of a tendency to perhaps discount someone who might be off on one a couple criterias...wrong education, income level, weight, height, life experiences etc...I know everyone has their own criteria that would be a deal breaker but I think it's too easy to discount someone based on statistics on a screen. Dating can be like treasure hunting, there really is a method to the madness hopefully you can find some interesting prospect, a few keepers and that one gem. | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/24/2009 4:23:18 PM |
Most people I've run into on here just don't seem to want to make time to meet someone - personally I call that a game especially if you say you are looking for long term
I don't believe that. I simply think that the majority of men on here need a course in how to email women. Since I learned very fast how to use this medium, I expect the same in return.
And sometimes the two people weren't just meant to be.
I honestly don't worry about it much anymore. I can usually tell by the first email whether I'll be meeting the guy at some point.
think there is more of a tendency to perhaps discount someone who might be off on one a couple criterias...wrong education, income level, weight, height, life experiences etc...
Them's the breaks. That's why I preferred telephone dating. As for weight and life experiences - yes those are important to me. I'm thin and try to keep fit - what's wrong with expecting the same? I don't want someone who hasn't had life experience, I can't relate to people like that. People are gonna do what they're gonna do based on their experiences on here. Believe me, there's a ton of men I'd like to contact, but can't because they want children. I'm screwed LOL. | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/24/2009 6:07:54 PM | I completely agree with this, You just need to become friends insteada jumping into it. But Im sure like me and many other guys, It's hard findings. I'm still at the party stage of life just looking for fun  But in time can always turn into the "long term attractions" | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/25/2009 10:50:45 AM | For the poor lost soul trying to get the quote thing to work.
This allows you to quote a previous post.
copy adn paste the whole thing over ont he right hand side then replace the "This allows you to quote a previous post." text with what you want to quote which can also be copied and pasted. Highlight the text, hold contrl and hit the C to copy it, move the cursor where you want to paste it, and hold cntrl and hit V to paste it. | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/25/2009 9:45:07 PM | Well if I were to generalize. I've found ladies that are, bitter (the ex was a jerk and I'm sure you are to), fearfull (we've only been chatting for two months, I don't know you well enough to meet you yet, you might break my heart), grumpy (I shouldn't have to meet guys on the internet, this sucks), shallow (hey, I only care about looks) massive ego's (I'm a very special lady, I expect only the best, I can have any man I want) friendly (you're not my normal type but you seem like a nice guy so lets talk and see what happens) horny (ok, lets meet, I'll take you to bed and see if you can keep up), low self worth (I don't know how any man could want me, *note, the ladies like this are always great ladies, nice, pretty, understanding that some jerk has conviced that they aren't all those things), rude ( disappears mid chat and blocks you for no reason that I can spot) to eager (IF we meet, and IF we like each other and IF we date and IF we get married, how soon are you willing to have kids?) playfull (don't know if we'll meet or not, doesn't really matter, lets just enjoy each other THEN if we meet we might get to REALLY enjoy each other) nice ( do you mind if we talk, learn about each other, I like to learn about people, what makes them tick) I could go on and on but thinking that's enough.
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/25/2009 10:50:11 PM | For the most part, I find the women here to be much like they are outside of the internet (Antisocial, dismissive, self-objectifying, etc.). However, I have had about five women make the first move and that doesn't happen outside of the net, so I can't say it's entirely the same.
I think that most men are on here because they're trying to widen their range of options. With a lot of the women, I don't think they're here because of a lack of options; they're here because it allows them to filter their options more easily. | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/26/2009 12:06:17 AM | | i think the women here are pretty darned terrific. (call me a calculating a$$-kisser if you like, but don't call me wrong.) i've had overwhelmingly positive experiences. it's an adventure and it's a blast, and i wish i'd known about this place years ago. | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/26/2009 5:38:38 AM | ^^^my experiences have been eye rolling, but yeah nothing that bad. But again, I'm trying to keep it real and as positive as I can.
Ya gotta laugh and have a chuckle at the ridiculousness of some of the dates at times. | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/26/2009 6:41:50 AM | | For some odd reason, when I was dating I ended up going out with a ton of aerobic instructors or yoga instructors. The interesting thing was that many didn't list that on their profile. It just happened. | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/26/2009 9:19:42 AM | Online dating can be fun. I would definitely recommend this over doing nothing and just sitting around all day. However, if you come on here expecting to find your true love, I feel horrible for you.
I haven't had any horrible experiences from meeting women online, but I wouldn't consider the dates I've been on to be anything other than a waste of time. | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/27/2009 2:45:25 AM | I met my last GF on Match.com.
KK... Now maybe because it's a paid site, it was actually easier (MUCH easier) to find "potential" dates (but please, I am in no way advocating that POF follows suit!)
Within about 2-3 weeks after initial contact, we dated, perhaps 2-3 after that I guess we became an “item” (and notice how I used that word loosely).
Anyway, bottom line, she was a gold digging psycho! And I guess I just had to finally learn the lesson that "not all that glitters is gold".
She was stunningly attractive but a totally disturbing and neurotic fruitcake and I've made damn well sure to burn the image and the experience of her, in my mind for the rest of all Time.
Suffice to say I was pretty much forced to kick her ass to the kerb about 2 months later. Something I'm actually quite pride off considering that physically, she was a damn good catch.
So yeah... Let's just say I'm a bit more wary of online women.  | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/27/2009 3:20:52 AM | ok.i cant speak for the rest of the guys but if i was looking for sex i would go down to dillans are one of the local clubs and pic up a girl. women think im hot..the problem is is that they dont want to get to know me they just want someone to show off...hes so cute, he has a good job and hes so sweet....yeah whatever, no you cant move in, get a job, and i didnt answer your whatcha doing txt because i just got off the phone with you 2 min ago..you know where the door is.
i have met a person on this site. shes very good looking, very sweet, and allot of fun to hang out with. i like her as a freind there just isnt any romantic spark.
i dont take this site that seriously as far as finding a lasting relationship. i noticed allot of the women who contact me or on here because they cant find a date after 3 hours of being single. ive also noticed that women are chickens they have to contact me because i feel a sign of self confidence and that one of the things i look for. so if i look at your profile and i dont contact you dont get offended i wanna see if you really are independent, outgoing, and fun loving. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2009 11:04:48 AM | | ^^^^^christ, man, if i read this from a woman, i would think she were the most spoiled princess on the planet. only thing missing here is how disgusted you are that they take you out for steak instead of caviar. | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:15:09 AM | ^^^^He does have a point. SOME women care more about your "resume" that they can compare with their friends than actually dating you.
Men do it too. But usually it is based solely on looks and how "hot" she is. 95% of guys care that you have a job and are happy. I know I could care less if she's astronaut or cleaning lady.
Now here's where the problem is. Many times, when women do make comments like this, they are tacitly accepted. Whereas a man is an arrogant jerk and will be told "oh no you didn't". Women generally won't put up with this. Men will, if they are attracted enough.
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:31:00 AM |
Women generally won't put up with this. Men will, if they are attracted enough.
some men choose narcissistic users, yes, and women too. that isn't necessary, though, because there are plenty of women on here who can meet anyone's beauty standard and have big hearts as well. i've been privileged to make the acquaintance of several. | |
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| Guys, what do you think of the girls?
Posted: 6/27/2009 3:13:19 PM | My problem is, I've gotten messages from some great guys on here who could be great matches for me, but they always live too far away. It's not that I haven't found great guys on here who live closer, but the ones I've contacted, usually aren't interested in me. For some reason, it's always the ones who live farther away that are interested. 
*sigh*
I've had a few dates with guys on here over the years. A few jerks, but most have been positive experiences. I guess that's why I keep coming back here. Because for the most part, it's been ok. | |
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