| Is it wrong for a Lady to be offended when called WOMAN?
Posted: 10/3/2007 7:51:52 PM |
You are a woman if you are a sexually mature female
Lady is a way of life if must be earned, don't expect it to be assumed that you are one.
Bingo.
Long locks I highly doubt if the OP really cares about politcally correct. Not that I care about being politcally correct either.
However OP a persons tone can certinally make being called a lady derogatory sounding. | |
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| Is it wrong for a Lady to be offended when called WOMAN?
Posted: 10/3/2007 8:11:28 PM | Geezus.....you're a freakin' woman....if you got no junk dangling between your legs....you're a WO man....
Me...man....you....woman....
However.....if this makes you feel better...not every woman is a lady. But lady isn't just given out willy nilly....it's earned or you're born into it. | |
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| Is it wrong for a Lady to be offended when called WOMAN?
Posted: 10/3/2007 8:23:24 PM | I had a bf that use to call me woman and he never did it in a mean way..I thought it was kinda cute actually and never was offended...if he had called me lady I think that would of sounded kinda silly actually...hey lady? hey woman? I prefer woman..it's just cuter ..
But my grandpa use to call my granny woman..and it was done in a cute way...I use to laugh when she'd give him a look and he'd say don't go lookin at me like that woman..it's just cute.. | |
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| Is it wrong for a Lady to be offended when called WOMAN?
Posted: 10/4/2007 2:54:55 AM | | Depends completely how it's said.. If it's the derogatory, bullying tone of "Do what you're told woman" then its insulting... if it's the playfuly demanding "Get your sexy a** over here woman" i'd be scampering over there just as fast as my little legs would carry me.... | |
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| Is it wrong for a Lady to be offended when called WOMAN?
Posted: 10/4/2007 5:01:56 PM | .......................WOMAN......................
Context and culture (cultured, if you would) have created a history for the term.
I have always looked upon it as a compliment. It is the very embodiment of what I am looking for in a female. Half the world is female, but there are few women. My grandmother and my daughters are females!!
Gentlemen and ladies are pretentious terms based upon a class system. Given a choice of being labeled as a gentleman or a man, I will choose the latter … a male with strength, honor, and values … who fights his own fights, bleeds his own blood, and loves a woman in the same way.
nothing less, nothing more. | |
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| Is it wrong for a Lady to be offended when called WOMAN?
Posted: 10/5/2007 12:52:56 AM |
Well just because you are a woman doesn't make you a lady. And I have never heard of a lady being anything but female.( OK a few [bold]trannies[/bold] here and there)
Hey, I was looking for that 727!!! | |
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| Is it wrong for a Lady to be offended when called WOMAN?
Posted: 10/24/2007 12:15:01 PM | | the term 'lady' comes from feudal times and refers to the wife of a lord, therefore a 'lady' is a member of the aristocracy; a parasitical class, still present but now obsolete in todays society, as a woman i would not want to be tarred with that particular brush. having said that words change over time and it depends on the context and tone of voice or the intention behind the word. all things considered i would prefer to be called a woman than a lady. | |
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| Is it wrong for a Lady to be offended when called WOMAN?
Posted: 2/1/2009 11:40:56 AM | Hmmm. different cultures and different slang with different connotations. When I was visiting the ex's relatives in Scotland, his cousin (with a twinkle in his eye) said to his new fiance: "get me my tea, woman" . To which she replied: "get your own f'ing tea!". She was not a lady either, I suppose, but the first "woman" who could snag this dude. He just loved it and he was educated, so he knew what he was baiting her with. Needless to say, she explained to him (also with a twinkle in her eye) how to say: "while you are tending to the tea, may I please have a cup, also?" Clearly, they were equals in all aspects of their relationship, including their banter.
When a person addresses you, it is in the demeanor and you need to assess context and body language to know the "intent". A stranger or child needing directions, may say: miss, maam, lady, or whatever their culture has taught them, while they approach or tap you on the shoulder. When referring to someone in a positive manner, a man may say that she is one heck of a woman or lady. However, sometimes the word "lady" may not give you equal access to previously male dominated worlds. Such as, a woman running for office in the usa, would like it said she is a competent woman and not be referred to as "lady" (as in having good table manners, but good for nothing else). Yet, I believe in England, "lady" is used with royalty, is it not? Still, back when that word was created, women were not able to work in those days and depended upon father's dowries and marrying a man of means. They couldn't get their own wealth. That is why female authors and artists took a man's name.
So, if you dwell on the exact word you want to hear, you may be limiting yourself and not meeting people with good "intention". On the other hand, you should be able to use your own words w/o disrespect. I do warn my kids not to call me "dude" though. Thank goodness, they've outgrown that stage. I thought I was living in the wild west!
In my circles, woman is a positive term because it is not used demeaningly and does not follow a command or indicate servitude. When I worked with non profit boards, they used to call the chairwoman, a chairman. So, from there on in, I humorously called the chairman, chairwoman. I was already accepted in my circles of influence and most of them chuckled quite a bit. I noticed that after a while, they started calling the chairwoman a chairwoman. They didn't get it, until I reveresed the tables and then it became a quick learn. However, I was not w/o power and I do have one heck of a sense of humor like the "ladyfriend" from Scotland. | |
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