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Posted: 3/25/2009 2:13:41 AM |
Love is waking up in the morning and still kissing him even tho he has bad morning breath.
Ewwww no...thats not love thats just being gross (or having a nose that does not work!)
All face to face loving type activities should be refrained from until dental hygiene tasks have been completed.
God im so anal I even surprise myself sometimes. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2009 5:48:24 AM | Imogine,
I’m almost twice your age, with half your wisdom. Thank you. You’ve lifted my day. You’ve already found and described him. Let the cynics describe all those they haven’t found and some, continue to glory in their own misery. You’ve made it kiddo and they haven’t, which sort of says it all. Good on ya girl. A thousand years of happiness. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2009 6:18:34 AM | Sorry Forever, sort of got carried away, twixt that and a coffee. Me thinks when you think about someone else more than you think about yourself, you’re in love.
Simple, stupid. Sure, let them that know no difference mock. It’s ALWAYS worked for me. I suspect it always will. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2009 6:36:43 AM | Love is...
Three minutes of squishing noises.
Never having to bully someone into saying sorry.
Making them sign a pre-nuptial agreement. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2009 1:36:53 PM | wait.i do know what love is.
Love is swimming on the Gold Coast on your honeymoon, and a shark is swimming straight for you. a huge one.Love swam in between.
thats what love is.
Love walked out of the flames in Victoria, holding his baby.he handed the baby to a woman, said ive lost my wife and my children,please take care of the baby for me.then he collapsed and died.
Thats what love is.
yesterday i saw Love walk in the door. i called him cos we couldnt do anything with his wife.she hit him(hard) and grabbed handfuls of his flesh as he showered her.she couldnt frame sentences anymore.as i left, he was playing her relaxation music and helping her sip milo.we were all subdued, just watching it.
Love doesnt know what Love is signing up for, sometimes.But Love sticks to the deal anyway.
all the rest is stupid sh*tty feelings that go away. | |
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Posted: 3/25/2009 4:20:37 PM | Thank you, that warmed my cynical old heart. Sometimes we forget that love is more than the physical ( take that Mr 3 minute squishy man, 3 minutes! my god could you spare it   ) | |
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Posted: 3/25/2009 5:56:36 PM | Wow what a question ????????????
"Love" A four letter word that has destroyed men and women, bought countries to there knees.
Love is something that we may or may not experience.
The feeling of emptyness when your partner is not beside you.
Waking up in the morning to there soft warm spirit beside you.
Sharing the way you both feel.
A really special frienship
When you truley think about it, it comes down to wanting to with them all the time, sharing your life your soul your existance with them till death do you part | |
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Posted: 3/25/2009 9:23:30 PM | mmmm?.. Love is...
getting a phone call just after lunch today from an old mate with his son from Mackay.. they dropped in a few days ago on a trip down this way to check out a work offer to help another old mate move a gravel pit business and it's gear to another lease.... he's down at bribie.. he's on his way to caboolture station to get to the APort as the call came in..
"Mate I have to get back to mackay to sign some legal court docs tomorrow arvo.. I'm a bit short to fly the boy and myself home".. ( his missus was killed in an horrific accident on new years day.. the 11yr old son was in the car..) .. can I ask a favour.. ?..
well the internet can help, I said... give me a few minutes to check out the flights , I'll book one online with the CC... and I'll text you the details...
it was that quick and easy.. a few minutes later they were confirmed on the plane at 5:30pm... sweeeeeet..
better get your arses down to the airport old mate... I texted back, with the flight numbers...
an act of Love was about $165.30 in this case ..  ... as I chipped in the extra $1.30 to offset their carbon,lol..
love the planet,too. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2009 7:14:08 AM | If the OP meant (what is) romantic love, then I think Imogine nailed it. I've felt that kind of psuedo love a hundred times before. Haven't we all? Maybe it can and does develop into something deep, real and long lasting, but most of the time it's a fleeting emotion which has more to do with mutual stroking of egos than 'love'.
Most of us know true love. Love for a child, a parent, a friend, a pet.... When I compare Hallmark-card-love to the real thing I know I've never really been 'in love'.
You’ve already found and described him. Let the cynics describe all those they haven’t found and some, continue to glory in their own misery. You’ve made it kiddo and they haven’t, which sort of says it all. Good on ya girl. A thousand years of happiness.
This cynic may be glorying in her own misery, but I have the common sense to know fantasy from reality. It's not that I don't wish the 'in love' a thousand years of happiness, but I suspect that after the first couple of hundred years the going might get rough, epecially if they stay together for the sake of the children. Although I've heard ignorance is bliss, I prefer my 'misery' thanks.
Mind you, as I said, I've never been in love so what would I know? That hasn't stopped me living a full and rewarding miserable existance. For instance, my job... with Hallmark cards... here is a small sample of my work:
Thanks for letting me have sex with you
I don't really love you
But you're good enough for now
And here's one for Friendship Day
With friends like you
Who needs enemas? | |
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Posted: 3/26/2009 8:30:32 AM | Sometimes I think I know, feeling it as if the sun shines brightly : and other times I can only feel the shadow of where it has passed unrequited.
Tbh OP, Im not sure I know myself, but I do get a great deal of joy when I think I'm in it, and a great deal pain when that goes awry.
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Posted: 3/27/2009 11:34:51 PM | Pfft...
Alright....its a tricky one this. How do you explain tit to someone who has not experienced it? I meant 'it' not 'tit'... maybe, its similar to explaining God to an atheist? Or a godless universe to a creationist? Is it really about perspective? Semantics even?
There is a difference right? I'd hate to be conned about this, in the same league as getting conned with the God/godless debate. One is bound to be....so far the score seem to be God=10; Godless: 23,997, and in the God camp, there's division in amongst our 10.
I'd like to think that there is a difference....I've lusted and I've loved...so I guess I am in the geeky/nerd/naive/inexperienced/unjaded love camp as well....not doing very well I'm afraid, I seem to always find myself in Howard the Duck's team! Forget, Air Supply, Celine Dion, chockies and roses, not very me I'm afraid....but I cannot deny it....to me doing so, is like denying your girlfriend to your friends because she's not wearing the right clothes, or she listens to (c)rap music (except Dee Dee King's), or wearing white socks with frills with black mary jane shoes.....can't do it. Its umm, unnatural. Yes! I am a believer...I believe in it....amen. I am not sure where I am heading with this so better skip to the next poster below, while there's only 58 seconds invested so far.
Still here?
How to illustrate love? I guess, falling inlove with the town whore would be a good way of illustrating this. Would any sane person do this? Must, eh? How many prostitutes on docos and stuff come home to their partners and after a hard days night? Its just a job right? I mean granted some just swallow their pride and take a kick in the gut every night... 'Goodnight darling'....careful not to ask how was work tonight....or take a chance and get the 'same old, same old' response? Would that be love? Maybe not, any lazy **stard pimp/lover can do that. How about taking it up a notch....say surrendering yourself to the ridicule of your friends (of which some were regular customers mind you), keeping a photo of her in your wallet, providing for her needs and insisting on her early retirement...but only if she wants to...because you 'love' her enough to not be so controlling...and the abomination of abominations...planning a future with her and her kids. Shocking, eh? What possible rational explanation/motive is left? Would anybody be that attractive as to allow yourself to be a fool like that (and Raul over there snickering behind your back, and Pepito, and Juan, and Santiago, and Miguel...)? Maybe...either standards and self expectations are freakin way too low or they're Miranda Kerr and Jennifer Hawkins rolled into one. Or its Hollywood. We all know this is the stuff of myth and fantasy, right? Because this never happens in the real world.... so says a Pedro Sanchez, classical one-tracked-minded individual. Don't prove me wrong people, because that gives me hope...and when there's hope, there's bound to be a disaster lurking...
Would you cross boundaries, shift jobs, change countries, learn a level 4 language to close the gap with someone you 'love'? Ruling out the scams, assuming there's at least 2 out of every 5,989 attempts at cross cultural trans-national genuine marriages of the not-for-convenience kind. And that's another one right there....marriage. Who the hell would be so foolish other than born again Christians, to want to do this? When you're practically getting exactly the same deal anyway. Its like buying American Crew Fiber Pliable Moulding Hair Cream two-for-the price-of-one, and the next shop sells exactly the same item for 50% off the recommended retail price. Ripped off? Not really....although there's that nagging feeling deep down...but I'd buy it still. It can only be love (or the disgust of Brylcream or pomade as a styling product).
I was explaining the possibility of interstate romance to a work colleague and the reaction? You've got to be insane! Yet telling the exact same story to another colleague is 'awesome', 'adventurous' and 'inspiring' even...seeking counsel in matters of the heart is best left to Google, eh? You're getting exactly the same response sans any damage to your credibility. Needless to say, I omitted that one crazy 'what-was-I-thinking' moment to meet someone in Oslo to my workmates. Or that rendezvous in that little bistro near Gare du Nord. My mother surprisingly was very cool with this...as if its just an everyday occurance, no surprised reaction whatsoever. She's always stated she lived for love....wasn't quite sure what that meant, exactly...though I suspect that that line-of-thinking-madness gene got passed down to me. I've rationalised it in my head many times over...but have now accepted it as part of my left arm. Crazy for most...maybe I am a nutbag after all. No wonder I am all over the shop...like this post.
Explaining 'love' to those who had never experienced it is like explaining emo and goth to a Wiggles buffoon. Its felt and there's no two ways about it....not iffy....clear as crystal meth...and love, according to my Sunday School class when I was ten covers a multitude of sins (hence even a prostitute can be loved, and be worthy of your good name from a non-sexist perspective...c'mon lay the PC cannon down, will ya?) and is better than faith and hope apparently.
It is also action-oriented...a sense of urgency to it....hurry up and wait! Diggers would know this concept very well. I don't know why but somehow it speeds you up. And if you are an economist, you start looking at the opportunity cost every time you're apart...and you want to get this thing started ASAP because life is short and you've worked out that if you have 20 years left to your working life, minus, base hours, average overtime, miscellaneous work functions, thinking time, 6.5 hours of sleep everynight, 30 minutes to get ready in the morning, one hour commuting to and fro...you're left with 2 hours quality time each day....that is if the kids don't require your weekends. Barely enough time to watch the Lord of the Rings Trilogy (Extended versions)....and there's only one trilogy Star Wars fan.
I suppose one can argue that there's retirement to look forward to....with nothing else to come between us save for viagra, a pacemaker and a hip replacement. Memories would be great and would be nice two years before Alzheimer's, and I suppose that's another driving force when you're in-love. You want to be remembered...all those corny jokes you've said, the dance moves that you've shown the kids, trying to sound sexy while making love and you're coming up with funny crap and you both end up having a belly laugh....the stuff you bought from eBay and sent to your office address because you're trying to keep on budget, playing chess and cheating for no good reason at all....late night conversations about nothing...
Lust on the other hand is easy to explain to anybody. What, you don't know? Its old news before its even began, because you know there's nothing behind the green door...just a cold mechanical bodily function to get over with...and for me personally, as soon as its done, I can't shower fast enough...who uses Charlie nowadays...or it could be Chanel No.9 who knows but it still smells cheap...and that stuff sticks to you like glue.....and brush my teeth and gargle like its nobody's business...and because you're grown and somewhat civilised, you offer to call them a cab (but if you were an immature 20 something, you can't kick them out to the curb fast enough...or use a lame excuse like an early morning Breakfast Value Meal shift). But noooo....they seem to also want to cuddle, and the worstest of all....kiss. You mean to say ass-to-mouth wasn't enough? That's lust in a nutshell.
I suppose if you're a music buff an easier reference might be the song 'Closer' by Nine Inch Nails. People judge it for its violent imagery...the bit people tend to remember is the obvious attention grabbing part of the song and forget that the rest of the song is an honest admission of nihilistic helplessness:
My whole existence is flawed
You get me closer to god
You can have my isolation, you can have the hate that it brings
You can have my absence of faith, you can have my everything
Help me tear down my reason, help me its' your sex I can smell
Help me you make me perfect, help me become somebody else
I suppose only a believer in the concept of Love can you see the upsides of this song....the Lust camp just want the animal bit. I love this song...actually the whole album 'The Downward Spiral' a brilliant concept album. The closest thing to a love song for me. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2009 3:24:49 AM |
Alright....its a tricky one this. How do you explain tit to someone who has not experienced it? I meant 'it' not 'tit'...
Thanks for clearing that up for us Pedro. I mean answering the OP's question 'what is love?' not the tit bit. Now can you explain tit to us all? I love your insights.... | |
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Posted: 3/28/2009 3:09:25 PM | You might like to check out the research of this woman....
http://www.ted.com/index.php/talks/helen_fisher_studies_the_brain_in_love.html
http://www.ted.com/index.php/talks/helen_fisher_tells_us_why_we_love_cheat.html
Helen Fisher is an anthropologist who has been studying the
way our brains change when we are in love
whether we are successful in love
or have been dumped.................
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Posted: 3/28/2009 5:46:29 PM | i watched the second one Ms Seagull...that was excellent stuff!
sobering to hear that antidepressants suppress the dopamine circuit in the brain... which triggers romantic love and the sex drive, according to her ...a lot of people are on those drugs.Im sure we need em for a while, but maybe if we need to turn the page romantically, we may have to slow down their use (under doctors supervison of course).you never go off those drugs immediately....sorry. i know i am stating the obvious. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2009 8:01:14 PM | thanks......
The first one is more in relation to the love subject I believe and explains how and why we love and the deep effect it has on us when it is good and when it fails.
(( The spiel on antidepressants was just a small part of the talk and not what my intent was about... at all )) She was looking at it in a global way.
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Posted: 3/28/2009 10:23:49 PM | TFK --->
Love doesnt know what Love is signing up for, sometimes.But Love sticks to the deal anyway. Perfect!
No one knows what life will bring them when they fall in love, but we all hope that when we make some sort of commitment to someone we love, then it will be forever.
The trick sometimes can be knowing that maybe you love your partner more, or perhaps differently, to how they love you. Sometimes, if that's the case you just gotta bail & have faith that out there somewhere is someone who sees you for who you are & loves you anyway. Or buy a dog 
A relationship is controlled by the person who cares the least. | |
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Posted: 3/29/2009 12:45:36 AM | | Love is for the greatest good...by that i mean if you love someone you want for them what is their greatest good...even if that means your not the one with them | |
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Posted: 3/29/2009 1:12:32 AM | Yeh!!.. coool...I've never heard it explained in a way that sits as well with me as that..
all of my relationships have ended with that in my mind.... and I have never asked anyone to leave...or implored them to stay... the door being always open...
it hasn't always been easy personally... though all of these women are still my friends on a rare meeting... a reward in itself...
what do they say?... if you let love go and if it comes back,,, then it is love... | |
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Posted: 3/29/2009 3:43:46 AM | Love is for the greatest good...by that i mean if you love someone you want for them what is their greatest good...even if that means your not the one with them
I relate to that because for me the greatest love is that I have for my sons. My eldest is now at uni and isn't putting the effort in required. So frustrating!!! He has the opportunities that I didn't and yet seems to be wasting it by playing computer games and not doing the study required. I have had to take the hard road and tell him that I will support him financially while he is investing in his future, but if he fails due to his lack of interest or motivation that's it - move out and get a job! Tough love is hard - not easy for a parent to do. As this poster said - love is doing the right thing by the one you love despite how it hurts you. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2009 4:21:07 AM | | well I don't wanna be in love then if he doesn't wanna bang me day, noon and night | |
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Posted: 3/30/2009 4:53:52 AM | | Errr, I just spilled hot tea all over my groin region reading that bit....would you be as kind to define what you meant by 'bang'?? | |
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Posted: 3/30/2009 6:18:01 AM | poster 45.
Yep youre right.sticking to the deal is definitely going out of fashion.and bailing is definitely getting more popular.I predict a significant rise in dog ownership.Theyll even stick with you to the end.I have a dog.Only sometimes...somehow....it just dont hit the spot....But i know what you mean.
Me.Ive gone back to the opinion of my original post in the last few days.
Dont know what love is.Dont think I believe in it anymore. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2009 7:39:15 AM | Hey, Iron Balls.... poster 49 meant have wild monkey sex three times a day, probably all over the house and in as many positions as inhumanly possible. Hope that clears that up for you.
So, anyway... here I am, sharing the love with you all tonight through this video. Enjoy! But please turn the sound down if Whitney Houston makes you gag (I'm thinking in particular of Mr Sanchez's delicate musical sensibilities here).
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjWtRYaxmWM&feature=related
There are heaps of copies of that little clip around, but for the full story visit here: http://www.bornfree.org.uk/campaigns/big-cats/about/christian-the-lion/
So whatcha reckon? ^^^Pure, uncomplicated love - and quite unlike the dysfunctional attempts at connection with another being we humans seem to excel at. If I was a scientist I'd say Christian's story says a lot about shared experiences or 'bonding' being an integral part of love. But, since I'm not, I just say awwwwwwwwww.
I predict a significant rise in dog ownership.
Yep, we should all get a dog. Though I prefer cats as they are more choosy about who they love. A dog will love an idiot, a cat will only love those worthy of their time. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2009 12:33:17 PM | | Bravo! Brilliant. Tearjerker.Shamed,me.I guess I do believe in love.The real stuff, that is.Back on the believing in love team.I think. | |
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