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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 26 | |
| When is it a good time to give up on LOVE
Posted: 4/12/2006 12:38:11 PM |
People say that love happens when you least expect it, when you are not thinking about it, when you are not looking for love and when you are happy with yourself. Take time to enjoy being yourself by yourself. It is very attractive not only the opposite sex but in a way to make new friends and be closer with those who are already your friends and your family. It's like the right person for you has a desperation detector and stays away when you are looking for them and come out when you are okay with being single. Funny how it happens, eh?
Actually, It's been the process of not looking that has yield no interest... | |
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| When is it a good time to give up on LOVE
Posted: 4/12/2006 12:51:31 PM | i guess it happens when many years have gone by, and there is no action in your life. You sort of get used to not doing anything with anyone, and the familiarity of not having any action makes you complacent and unwilling to change your perspective.
Besides, when you consider that most women require guys to be 6' or taller, your odds are very slim. It only gives you more of a reason to remain in your little complacent place catching flies.
I guess I just got used to it already. So I dont know. I guess I came up to that point already. 12 years without a girlfriend and 6 without dating. And I have no intention, desire or reason to go back to the game anyway....
I know I sound defeatist, but hey, with so many "no's" you just become jaded and maybe just "quit" without knowing it..... | |
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 30 | |
| When is it a good time to give up on LOVE
Posted: 4/12/2006 5:05:06 PM |
i guess it happens when many years have gone by, and there is no action in your life. You sort of get used to not doing anything with anyone, and the familiarity of not having any action makes you complacent and unwilling to change your perspective.
Besides, when you consider that most women require guys to be 6' or taller, your odds are very slim. It only gives you more of a reason to remain in your little complacent place catching flies.
I guess I just got used to it already. So I dont know. I guess I came up to that point already. 12 years without a girlfriend and 6 without dating. And I have no intention, desire or reason to go back to the game anyway....
I know I sound defeatist, but hey, with so many "no's" you just become jaded and maybe just "quit" without knowing it.....
I see what your getting at... But I haven't given up but I believe the time is quickly approaching that I may have too.
I'd say over the last year and to the best of my knowledge I've tried to strike up a conversation or something with well over 500 + females over the net. All I get is a "No"... Now, how someone can decided that I'm not worth speaking with, without ever actually speaking to me is beyond my understanding?  | |
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| When is it a good time to give up on LOVE
Posted: 4/12/2006 6:44:45 PM | I agree with the guy who said you give up when you're dead.
What's the deal? How's everything else? It's never just one thing.
I loathe my job. I'm also VERY trapped in it. Chicks sense those kinds of vibes.
I gotta do a lot of work on me before I can expect to find the kind of woman I want and pursue a healthy relationship with her.
What about you?
On the lighter side...
Trade the WS6 for something a lot older that you can drive in all the classic charity runs and such.
Invite women to join you as you cruise in your rat-rod to raise money for childhood lukemia...capisce?
Almost as good as walking a puppy. | |
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| When is it a good time to give up on LOVE
Posted: 4/12/2006 7:03:34 PM |
guess it happens when many years have gone by, and there is no action in your life. You sort of get used to not doing anything with anyone, and the familiarity of not having any action makes you complacent and unwilling to change your perspective.
Besides, when you consider that most women require guys to be 6' or taller, your odds are very slim. It only gives you more of a reason to remain in your little complacent place catching flies.
I guess I just got used to it already. So I dont know. I guess I came up to that point already. 12 years without a girlfriend and 6 without dating. And I have no intention, desire or reason to go back to the game anyway....
I know I sound defeatist, but hey, with so many "no's" you just become jaded and maybe just "quit" without knowing it.....
Smart thinking here. I agree. Dating today is not for all. With so much bs and way too many expectations, some men can't live up to it and know it...but too many listen to the comments made by others and think "yes I should not give up"
Like how women today do not NEED a man, men today do not NEED a woman. Companionship seems to be desired to fill a void alot of times, and when you have things in common with a woman or women you meet..a friendship is all that is made.
Also I agree you hear no's all the time putting yourself out there, those rejections will make you jaded in time. Been there, done it...not a good feeling.
My advice, give up only if you are ready to forget that part of your life, and enjoy all the other aspects of it...if you give up and it makes you feel depressed because you are single...then it is the wrong reason to give up...make sense? | |
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 34 | |
| When is it a good time to give up on LOVE
Posted: 4/13/2006 4:33:13 PM |
What's the deal? How's everything else? It's never just one thing.
I loathe my job. I'm also VERY trapped in it. Chicks sense those kinds of vibes.
I have a great job, so it's not that! I'm not desperate or anything... I mean yes I'm looking but doing so from the perspective if it happens then it happens. It's not something that will destroy the happiness I already have if it doesn't come about. I just find it ironic that's all?
Trade the WS6 for something a lot older
Never, It's going to be a true pleasure to enjoy as the years go by... Besides, I'm currently already in the process of getting an older car to rebuild... But I'd never get rid of the WS6.
raise money for childhood lukemia with charity runs and such.
I already do that... I find it funny that so many women like to say how concern they are over such things. However, there's a big difference between concern and doing something about it. Here I am one guy that does do something about it and they don't even bother to speak to me... Go Figure?
Almost as good as walking a puppy.
well, I've done both and yield the same results... So what else is left? | |
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| When is it a good time to give up on LOVE
Posted: 4/14/2006 8:26:18 AM |
Been there, done it...not a good feeling.
My advice, give up only if you are ready to forget that part of your life, and enjoy all the other aspects of it...if you give up and it makes you feel depressed because you are single...then it is the wrong reason to give up...make sense?
I guess that, what happens is that you get used to being alone, and actually seeking something does not interest you. Besides, I am so full of apathy and indifference to this whole game of dating that I just do not do it.
I dont know. Maybe tomorrow I'll change my mind and will put a post in the testimonials as to how happy I am that I found a woman, but for now I dont know....The familiarity of my status as a "single and not looking guy" is all that I know.... | |
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| When is it a good time to give up on LOVE
Posted: 4/14/2006 8:54:04 AM | ^^Nothing wrong with that...I have been single for years and it is not by choice but because many women I have met over the years nit pick at this and that about me. I did at one time get very down on myself about all my rejections and such. But once you experience that you move on...never felt better about myself like I have over the past few months.
So being single is not all that bad at all and I just take full advantage of it.
If I am to be with someone, I will want someone who is outgoing and enjoys having fun...not someone who wants to sit around or create drama. Might be why it has been a long haul trying to find someone compatible to me. Who knows, I may even not be good enough I do not know.
But I guess in a way I have given up, but left the door open for it to happy if it does. Make sense? LOL | |
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| When is it a good time to give up on LOVE
Posted: 4/14/2006 10:09:23 AM | | A co-worker of mine recently attended her grandmother's second marriage.... Her biological grandfather had passed on about 6 yrs. ago... she met an old childhood sweetheart about 2 yrs. ago, and they are now married.... they are both in their 80's...... so, NEVER give up on LOVE.... | |
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| When is it a good time to give up on LOVE
Posted: 4/14/2006 12:25:54 PM | WS6
At 32, no one should be in a pity party! Concentrate on who you are and have fun for yourself. A relationship does not complete someone...that is a trap so many make. You must be content with yourself before you have something to offer someone. Stop looking for the end result first. Just an observation...your profile reads very self-effacing. Stop describing yourself based on what others want or how others have seen you. It doesn't help that you define looking for a relationship as "It is very important for me to have my children know their grandparents... That would be nice but solid endpoints are unlikely to make you attractive to someone and can actually make you sound desperate.
Live life for yourself first dude...a relationship is a nice to have, not a necessity, for loving yourself and what life has to offer. | |
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| When is it a good time to give up on LOVE
Posted: 4/14/2006 4:17:46 PM | First,I'd like to say as most everyone has...
Never give up on love so long as your heart
still beats & your mind is open...
Love comes in many forms & in many ways...
Love may come & it may go...But to find it & receive it...
You must first learn to love yourself...  | |
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| When is it a good time to give up on LOVE
Posted: 4/14/2006 4:18:12 PM | | I sometimes wonder why so many people jump up and tell others never to give up..makes me laugh because no one is the same, and so no one is going to have the same luck...I say give up if you want...no harm is being done is there? | |
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| When is it a good time to give up on LOVE
Posted: 4/14/2006 4:56:51 PM | Not picking on the OP or anyone else, but seriously, if you were going to give up, wouldn't you just take off your profile quietly? Look at the testimonials forum, bunch of threads, I've had it, this place doesn't work, yet their profiles are up. Like the farewell tours of Cher, just keeps going and going. Is it a ploy for someone to beg you to stay, for attention? Taking time off or away is one thing but if you REALLY wanted to give up would you start a thread about it? Just asking, that's all. | |
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| When is it a good time to give up on LOVE
Posted: 4/14/2006 5:15:36 PM | I am not looking for love, just friends, that's all I am here for.
the unfortunate fact that we, as adults, have lost the ability, or never had it, to love unconditionally. Perhaps not all, but many have no idea what that is or what it means. The real love, unconditional love, will happen when I leave this world. I don't know what it's like to receive it, but I do know how to give it. That's what matters most to me. My daughters get it every day. And they will continue to know my love for them. | |
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| When is it a good time to give up on LOVE
Posted: 4/15/2006 3:57:13 PM | | Like I said, give up if the time is right and you have had enough. Nothing wrong with that. I know a few people who do not date and quite frankly they have a fun life. So many think "Oh man you must be depressed being alone" and yet they are not at all. They travel, do things that they enjoy and have no regrets. So I say it all depends on the person. Giving up on love is for some and not for some. | |
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| When is it a good time to give up on LOVE
Posted: 4/15/2006 5:48:33 PM | I hate wasting time on love cause it never leads to n e where fullfilling and besides all u do is just waste time on a person and end up breaking up with them. I say find time to better yerself then go for the love game again cause with the love game it is alot like poker u never know what hand there holding. I myself will never love n e one again cause the pain after the love will never go away. | |
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Edie1
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Joined: 3/18/2006
Msg: 49 | |
| When is it a good time to give up on LOVE
Posted: 4/15/2006 6:00:20 PM | | Never! I believe that you need companionship and love all your life. If you lose one you work through the pain and then you get busy and find another. It gets a little harder as you get older but if you hang in there you will find someone. I have seen people in their ninties holding hands and really looking at each other in loving way! | |
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| When is it a good time to give up on LOVE
Posted: 4/21/2006 10:24:06 AM | I agree with sunstreeked,
When you see the thermal mushroom cloud on the horizon or the meteor the size of Texas streaking through the sky. Time to "adjust" your viewpoint on love and hang on for the ride!
Divorced twice, love myself, love my kids, family, friends, humanity and life. Really what choice do you have ? Wake up everyday in the same skin, choose to smile or choose to be unhappy and never do anything about it. I choose to love and believe in love, how else can I ever expect to have somone else truly love me? Just my polyanna approach to life at times I guess.
Either way make the choice before your feet touch the floor each morning, irregardless if you're waking up by yourself, your friends, family, kids and coworkers will appreciate it. | |
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