tps629
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Joined: 3/28/2006
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/28/2006 5:36:16 AM | Hey, Eddie - aren't you interested in my tomatoes?
I don't know. You've never showed them to me...... (need an icon for tongue in cheek) | |
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RBM
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Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 229 | |
| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/29/2006 7:06:43 PM | Wow, I found this thread and read every response. Kept me busy all evening! (Kinda sux that all I have to do on this beautiful Saturday night is read a forum.)
Yes, the pickings are slimmer by far. I have far fewer than 52 hits. More like 40, and my age parameters are wider than yours. Thus far, no matches have appeared, although I've emailed several. I have in fact met several ladies from this wonderful site and have enjoyed that very much. I'm not complaining though. I've only been on here about a month.
EastsideEddie, you rock, my friend! As a former USAF guy, I'll say this much... that I have your six! If things get too tough, I'll call in the really big guns! 
I do have a date tomorrow, with a woman that I met in a Yahoo chat room. It's our 2nd date, but I'm not exactly sure how it will go. But that comment deserves a separate thread.
So I continue searching... and keeping eagle eyes open for new bloo... uh, members!  | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/29/2006 7:22:22 PM | I just checked again. 120 matches come up, 52 with photos. Weeding out the smokers, I am down to 39. Taking out the prison mug shots, the duplicate profiles, the "prefer not to say" about marital status, and the women with kids living at home, I am down to 6.
Now, again for the record, if you smoke, have kids at home, are married looking for a fling or are not attractive to me physically, that doesn't mean I don't acknowledge the fact that you might be a fine person. You just aren't someone I would care to meet with romance on my mind.
Metro area of 1.5 million people, I have 6.
Is that as slim as pickens' get?
Of course I weed the matches out with a lot of specifric preferences, but I am also SO not in a hurry to meet somebody (and more importantly, just anybody) that I would say "Well, I suppose that it's just that one thing...." I won't ever do that.
And that's why there are 6 women on this system in my metro area that I would consider dating.
We often create the slim pickin' situation ourselves, but everybody has their preferences. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/29/2006 8:13:29 PM | | Be lucky you don't live here in Palmdale! It's not a place for single people! When I went to search for men here in the city, the majority of them want discreet intimate encounters, another words, they're married. The men who do appeal to me, live far away, & with today's gas prices... | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/30/2006 11:58:05 AM | Funny, I ride a Virago 740, fish, dance, love rodeos, etc, etc, and I get maybe one hit every two weeks. Godzilla got more! I am not ugly, at least I don't think so. Maybe it is an ethnic thing, I am half Chinese. I thought it was a "young and Blond" thing, but Earthboound is here with us. May I say beautiful as well. Why are you here earthbound? You are not over 45, you are lovely, ????? If you are here looking, I guess I better forget this whole thing, eh? Gee, I would just be with someone to go fishing with.  | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/30/2006 12:27:06 PM | Mishka, you are set up to accept mail from people over age 59. Have you done a search and looked at how few people are on this system aned in that age group? Then add in geography, etc.... (I have not, but wonder if you did.) I do in home computer repair for a living in a large metro area, and the customers I see between 59-68 typically aren't on the computer looking for dates, let alone in a city 2500 miles away. (I'm in Ohio.)
And when do you ride that Virago? Doesn't it rain like 300 days a year where you live?
I doubt your ethnic makeup has anything to do with it. You may be half Chiinese but you don't look physically like you have any Asian blood in you, so I'd discount that. In fact, use that to your favor.
An hour after a date with you, they want another date.
I have a good zinger I'd email to you because it should be kept in private, but alas I cannot do so. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/30/2006 1:42:07 PM | Back in this topic several post they were talking about what a certain clicked box mean what to who.
There is simply no way that everyone is going to know what a certain “restriction” means to everyone else.
Yesterday - I wanted to send a gal an email - I read her profile THREE TIMES - top to bottom - I did not see anything that would rule me out.
I sent it and got a XXX IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU - blatant WARNING right in my face.
Since I had not sent any emails (had replied to a couple) I had no idea why.
It was like RON EAT POOP AND DIE YOU RAT - HOW DARE YOU TRY TO CONTACT HER.
I later figured out that I had “hang out” clicked .............. OMG that made me some kind of scum bag to the system.
When I clicked that box - to me it meant - be around each other some and see what happens.
I am 100% looking for “Little Miss Right” - I don’t want one night stands - I am not looking for more female “friends” BUT I sure as heck am not asking a female to marry me in my first email.
I think I changed it to long term - now I guess I have to worry that any female I say “hi” to ..... oh well ...... it just can not be done right if people click a bunch of those check boxes.
I very seldom try to contact a female - I did last night and boy did I get scolded - all because I clicked “hang out” - I think we have to click something.
My intentions are very honorable and I can’t click anything without making some kind of commitment to someone that I have never even talked to before.
They need one that says something like. I am a normal person - but I have no way to predict if we will get married or not unless I at least know your first name  | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/30/2006 1:48:04 PM | | Sorrall - I totally agree with you. Tired of seeing likes to hug and touch, likes sex, etc. There is more to life than that too. Been alone for 15 years and will stay that way rather than settle. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/30/2006 2:27:34 PM | Well.. I may be too picky, plus my age has something to do with it also, Im sure. A lot of men my age are looking for the younger ones. (shrug)
If a man smokes, (Im thinking about lowering my standards on that one. They can always quit?) has kids living with him (men my age are sometimes on their second set of kids, Ive raised mine I dont think I want to raise more), is married, separated, or in a relationship, that doesn't mean you arent a good guy. It just means, that just isnt what I had in mind to be with forever.
Say what ya mean, and mean what ya say.
If I see 'hang out' or 'just friends', Im not interested. I dont want a short term anything. Im ready to be found. Ive been single for 20 years, done everything twice and now its time to settle down and I want to find my last dance partner in life. A long term honey. I dont take a 'not interested' too personally. It may be that he is looking for something Im not?
p.s. Ima woman, my mind is subject to change at any time. (smile)
There are too many fish in the sea, to worry about the ones that threw you back.  | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/30/2006 2:34:54 PM | Redd, you want a proposal in writing immediately, or do you think you should spend some time getting acquainted? I think everybody is ULTIMATELY looking for happiness long term, but my personal take on the "looking for" box is that it is so open to interpretation it shouldn't even be there. Don't you want to be friends before you get married? And don't you get to be friends by hanging out?
Long term is a series of short terms.
You may be taking that too literally. A lot of men see "long term" and tjomk "This is a desperate woman who wants to marry ANYBODY just to get someone with health insurance for my 5 children" or something in that vein.
Give the guys looking to go slow a chance and you'll meet a lot of good men. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/30/2006 2:50:52 PM | | I seem to be everything that all men do not like. I have not been married, have no children, try to have morals and manners, do not smoke, do not drugs or drink heavily, but alas, I am not tall, thin and beautiful. Short, cute and plump with a feisty personality seems to be popular on another planet. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/30/2006 2:51:23 PM | Hmmm.. Eastsideeddie, I re-read your reply several times.
You may have something there. I didnt really look at it that way.
Im not desperate, so maybe I need to think about taking baby steps. You may be absolutely right. Thank you for your discernment. You gave me something to think about.  | |
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RBM
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Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 240 | |
| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/30/2006 3:07:15 PM | I don't necessarily think of "looking for LTR" to mean desperate and wanting marriage in a hurry. I see it as a mindset where the person knows what they want and are not interested in casual dating, but in dating with the intention, just as EastsideEddie says, to get to know the person and maybe it will lead to something permanent in the future.
There are those on this, and other sites, whose sole intent is recreational dating. They have absolutely no interest in any type of relationship, and may date several different people a week strictly for entertainment purposes. That's fine, but it's not what everyone wants, especially someone seeking a long term relationship. Weeding out the recreational daters from those interested in something more substantial would be the goal when saying "LTR."
There are also others who want "short term" because they know that they have a move pending in a month or three, etc., and simply want to be with someone exclusively while waiting for that significant change to happen. I've been contacted by several of those.
I chose "dating" simply because it's the one thing that isn't excluded by the majority of women on the board in order to get past all of the "must not be" criteria.
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/30/2006 3:23:54 PM | | I seem to find the same problems on any of the websites. I am a recently turned 58 assume I look quite a bit younger as I usually date women in the 48 and up bracket, also because of my activity level.I was on Match for over a year and became somewhat frustrated at the attitudes of people on there. I live in a rural area and realize that I have to drive out of my comfort zone to meet people but it still doesn't seem to matter. It's just harder the older you get regardless of any obstacles other than age. It seems that no matter what you may have going for you when they see the age you are all done. Good luck. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/1/2006 3:56:53 PM | "A lot of men see "long term" and tjomk "This is a desperate woman who wants to marry ANYBODY just to get someone with health insurance for my 5 children" or something in that vein." Eddie - how could you say this?????????
Me thinks you don't know anything about women if you really believe this------------or is it possible that women are like that where you live - can't be true.
best wishes Eddie,
Patricia
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/1/2006 5:01:13 PM |
or is it possible that women are like that where you live - can't be true.
Oh, it be true. I was the target once. 2 kids, father was a slug who never paid a dime in support but wanted to see "his" kids every weekend.... And once she realized that I wasn't going to bankroll things their biological father should be responsible for she dropped me like a bad habit.
And believe me, there are MANY cases like this. You have heard of something called "marriage of convenience"? That's what this is. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/1/2006 5:24:13 PM | Slim Pickin's and "marriage of convenience" ----you got to stay away from these people both men and women. Why would you think we are all like that? If I found Mr. Perfect, I wouldn't marry/live with until after a 2 year dating period. Who knows if I will ever marry again, and I am fine with that. If people our age have learned anything - it should be don't ever rush relationships.
Eddie - I think you must be just pushing my buttons. Maybe you should give an iq test before dating someone more than a month. What can I say
I don't have any girlfriends who would rush into a relationship. "Marriage of convenience" - the women I know have all the toys they need, and don't need a man's toys. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/1/2006 6:01:23 PM | When did I say I thought you were all like that?
I just said that it happens. How many old men do you see with their young, hot, trophy wife who married the guy because he is rich?
You don't have any girlfriends who would rush into a relationship.....the women you know....
Do you know everybody?
You think Jackie Kennedy wanted an old geezer husband like Ari Onassis? Is it remotely possible his millions had something to do with it? And that Bill Gates is a real hunk, eh? You know nurses? How many of them want to land a doctor knowing they make a lot of money?
All I said was that it happens. You applied the absolute to it.
It won't happen to me because I don't have squat.. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/1/2006 6:46:29 PM | Slimmer pickin's caused by me - I don't date anyone who isn't mentally and financially independant. I don't find it hard to figure out whether someone is dependant. I would never put myself in the position to get involved in a relationship that would require me supporting the other person.
Eddie - I thought that you had said more than once that women looking for long term are desperate. It certainly hasn't been my experience with either sex. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/1/2006 7:04:11 PM |
I thought that you had said more than once that women looking for long term are desperate.
How did you get from "women in bad financial straights MIGHT see a man with money as their way out" to what you said about my post?
Try to keep up, okay? Don't restate my words and pay attention to what I actually say if you are going to comment. Kind of like writing a book report..... | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/1/2006 7:39:23 PM | | my darlin eddie..s.o.s.....i thought that u said that a man would want a trophy woman..via, she wants a man with $$$....am i wrong?????( check the previous postings)...tosca | |
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