| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/7/2006 3:10:33 PM | "I'm just making a pont that the majority of men looking for LTR are really looking to replace almost immediately what they once had without passing through the mourning stage."
Very true Tink, and I would like to add that pickin's r slimmer because these same people don't want to use any energy find a new person, or giving her reason to want to be with him.
You gotta love the person who ie. "loves to go to the cottage weekends and needs someone to come along". (I am sure there are women like this too.) It is like they loose their mate and have an employment spot to fill.
I actually had a widower (not picking on widowers, he could have been divorced just as easily) meet me for a coffee first meeting, and brought along a photo album inventory of his property and toys, to convince me that we should just jump into an instant relationship and then very soon get married. Of course, he was shocked when I told me to go do his morning before someone took half his property away from him. God Help any women who wasn't after his property who accepted that deal. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/7/2006 3:37:51 PM | Moraima, I am not saying this to be a wise guy, but I don't understand something in your post, possibly because of a typo.
You said
he was shocked when I told me to go do his morning before someone took half his property away from him
and unless "go do your morning" is Candaian slang for "Just buzz off and go about your business because I am not interested", I will guess you meant "mourning" over his wife. Those are both very real possibilities, and both make sense in the scenario you described.
Thinking about the difference in what "f*ck off" means up there and down here.....
Up there it's "abandoned me and went off". Down here it means "Get the hell away from me".
This IS honestly a legitimate question, despite my reputation as a smart ass. I would have asked in email but I'm not in Canada so I can't email you.  | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/7/2006 3:48:39 PM | Sorry for the typo - I just type way too fast some times - I meant mourning. Didn't mean "buzz off". I seriously tried to get him to really that he was in no position to seriously date. As a widow myself, I try to help people realize the dangers to trying to bypass the moUrning process.
Don't get that F off" mean abandoned me and went off" in Canada.
OK, I am going to try changing my profile to let people in the forum email me. I will try putting in my profile that I am not interested in long distance. If I get too many from the US or other countries emailing to date (?), I will have to change it back. | |
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Posted: 5/7/2006 4:31:01 PM | And if someone you don't want to talk to emails?
Don't answer. Or say no thank you.
Why does it have to be a drama?
Not everyone on here is agressive and confrontational.
But we do have a block button for those who are. | |
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| Changing who can email
Posted: 5/7/2006 4:35:58 PM | | I have to time to waste on unnecessary messages. ie. toyboys, separated men, women with issues etc. I live in a drama free zone. Sorry, that their is an issue for some that a member in this thread want to contact me. Thanks for your interest in my welfare. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/7/2006 5:00:48 PM | p.s. My ex tried to take my house...the house I had for 12 years before I even met him. So that story can go both ways.  | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/7/2006 5:32:03 PM |
Originally posted by reddwine
p.s. My ex tried to take my house...the house I had for 12 years before I even met him. So that story can go both ways.
Sweetie, I'm not interested in your house. But I definitely like your caboose!   | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/7/2006 7:31:26 PM | | I can relate. Several of the contacts from men. . . post pictures that are at least 10 years old. . . yep hair is all gone now?? a couple that I know on here are lying about their ages. Guess they think no one will ever figure that one out. A bunch of them don't have adequate means to support themselves. . .not looking for anyone to raise here. And let's don't forget the ones with alcohol/drug problems. . . still trying to figure out why they are single. I frequent this site hoping to find someone interesting. Don't do bars/clubs. . . just another avenue to hopefully meet a great guy. Good luck, Janna | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/7/2006 9:44:31 PM | I agree the pickin's are slim when you get older ......... it's never good to sell yourself short just to suit someone else's needs. Besides being by yourself isn't the worst thing that could happen to you  | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/8/2006 6:22:19 AM | Hello all...I do agree that the pickin's are slimmer as you get older...for what reason I really don't know...I thought it would be easier as I am now older...hopefully wiser...but I have found that the men I have encountered seem to want to test drive...that is why I stated no 1nt stands or intimate encounters....
I don't say that men are not having the same problems that us woman are having....
1. hating or bad mouthing an ex
2. wanting just a 1nt stand
3. w/children
4. widow/er's not letting go of their spouse
But to make the statement LTR mean desperate or anything else is a person who has some magor issues to deal with....
LTR means ro me....
1. some one longer than a wk..mo..
2. someone who is friend
3. after you get to know each other a sensual partner
4. someone who lights up the room when they enter
5. there are some many things to different people what LTR means
Just a note...no one knows how long a relationship will last to actually define LTR in a span of months... years.. I just think we hope when we meet that person it will be for a long time..
I too am not looking for marriage...don't want to...but I wouldn't exclude the possibilty..
I am not looking to raise someone else's kids...but I wouldn't exclude the possibilty...
Pet's can be an issue also if you think about it..they can keep there owner from traveling...
I don't want someone who has more pets than a kennel....Do I want the dog on every date...
So when we start to exclude certain options from our profile or life we begin to narrow what our choice's are...so pickin's get slimmer
bald vs hair.....heavy vs thin.....muscular vs flabby....beards vs..clean shaven....white hair vs colored hair....blue eyes vs brown...the list goes on....
I think we should be looking at is the person a good person and will they be a good match....get over what has happened in the past and just stay away from that type once you realize it.....
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/8/2006 6:42:03 AM | psssssssssst coco45
“I agree the pickin's are slim when you get older”
I have GREAT NEWS ............... it is all relative - to me gals your age are HOT *****YOUNG****** chix | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/8/2006 9:15:31 PM | So many topics in just one thread!!!…
EastsideEddie said (msg44)
It is my choice to not date someone who doesn’t understand how Velcro works or actually needs to read the directions on the shampoo bottle. If you really need to be told to lather, rinse and repeat... When was the last time you read the shampoo bottle? Very few of them say rinse, lather, and repeat anymore. Some still say repeat, ‘if necessary’, or ‘ if desired’, though. (I just took myself out of your matches, because I actually read the shampoo bottle!) Actually, awhile back, there was an email that mentioned something about how all of a sudden the makers of shampoo decided that it was no longer necessary to ’repeat’, so I checked it out…and it’s true. (Wonder what changed their mind?)
On topic, about the slim pickings, well, I haven’t actually met anyone off a dating site yet, but judging from my emails, there are some really nice men out there….doesn’t look like ‘slim pickin’s to me!
As to the baggage comment…. Life isn’t always a party….we aren’t 10 years old anymore. Life is full of ups and downs and how we handle these, defines our character….makes us who we are. I know that some people have pretty uneventful lives, and if you avoid getting ‘involved’ with people, you can keep it that way. However, the more involved you are in other people, the more ‘baggage’ you may accumulate….and it isn’t all bad. Like the song ‘The Dance’, you could’ve missed the pain, but you would’ve had to miss the dance. My life has been very eventful, but I wouldn’t trade the experiences for anything in the world, even though I may wish they would’ve had a different ending.
Children/grandchildren who come home to live may be considered baggage, (although I think it depends on the circumstances), but then does it not stand to reason that this same person would consider an aging parent ‘baggage’ ? If so, that is sad.
With LTR, maybe POF should list the choices as to what your 'long term GOALS’ are. I always had LTR, as I felt it weeded out the players and one night stands, but I definitely would never jump into something like that with just anyone….I’m way more selective than that. I’d rather be alone than in a so-so relationship….(’alone’ isn’t a BAD thing, ya know)…. I recently changed it to ‘friends’ because I found that some men think you should make a commitment without a face to face meeting, and I'm not there yet! (How ridiculous is THAT?)
I agree with Tansi, (msg 208), on the definition of ‘Intimate Encounter’.
but someone with a big ugly wart in their eyebrow, I mean c'mon..... See the dermotologist and fix it. One thing to say about this…if it is bothersome to the person who has it, by all means get it removed, if you want. But, don’t necessarily do it for the potential date, as what is ‘ugly’ to one person, may be ‘beautiful, or unique’ to another. Sometimes the unique traits are what makes someone special to us. (and, not to be mean, Eddie, but you misspelled dermatologist-I just couldn't resist!!)
Now, in case you are thinking that I can’t construct a proper sentence because I do these dots…well, you are wrong. At work, all of my sentences are proper, but in here, I'm ‘playing’, so I type more the way I talk.
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/9/2006 4:58:40 AM | ^^^^^^^NEXT WEEK????? You never stop with the laughs, do you???? (Or maybe that wasn't meant to be funny?)
I have 3 shampoo bottles here now...one almost empty...says, 'if desired'....one just put in the shower to replace that one....says nothing about repeating...and one in the cupboard so I don't run out...says, 'if necessary'. When that email came out, just about every bottle I looked at said nothing about repeating. I don't know why it changed, as I can remember when they ALWAYS said "Lather, rinse, repeat". Guess my age is showing, NOW, huh?
Oh yeah....another comment on the 'Intimate Encounter' issue....if I see on the profile of a man who emails me that intimate encounter is acceptable, I ask about it, because if he is the type to just have an intimate encounter with someone he just picks up off the internet, he probably won't be my type. I like a guy who is a little more selective than that....
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/9/2006 7:38:31 AM | Okay, obviously this thread is just not going to die so let me add something else into the mix.
DEMOGRAPHICS - Did it occur to anyone that there are probably a lot less people who have made it to the 45+ age? Death can do that, ya know! When you were in your 20's there were a lot more people in your peer group. As you age, your peer group naturally becomes smaller through attrition, in other words, death. There just aren't as many people in your peer group as you age.
Moral of the story: either die young while the going is good or continue to fish and take your chances!
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/9/2006 7:48:02 AM | | Well, Tink, that's a good point, but doesn't the same logic dictate that attrition will proportionately cut down the number of hunters as well as the number of prey? | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/9/2006 7:52:27 AM | Yeah, Eddie, it works both ways.
Your statistics are completely different than the Calgary ones though. It seems to me that there are way more women in Calgary on this site than men in Calgary. Either that or I should face the reality that no man in Calgary wants me! I don't know but I find that I have more contact from American men and/or Canadian men from a distance. Figure that one out for me please, Eddie!
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/9/2006 8:04:08 AM | Hey, Tansi, are the pickin's any better in Abbotsford? I can pack the car up and be there by nightfall.
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/9/2006 8:28:14 AM | Well I live in Richmond,Ky an the men here are not interested in dating or having a relationship,all that they want is a sex partner.So were are the men that want the above anymore. | |
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