| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/12/2006 4:36:29 PM |
Do the women think they have the same problem? I see SO MANY women on here who are SO PRETTY I would assume they have to chase men away with a baseball bat, and they are on here looking just like all of us are. I don't get it.
Yeah, it's pretty much the same I guess. Of every 50 or so guys who contact me, there are probably 5 - 10 that I'll meet in person. Of those 5 - 10, there might be 1 or 2 with whom we hit it off well enough to want to get together again. Beyond that, not much is happening...yet ;)
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/12/2006 6:47:41 PM | I figure people in my age group are all getting divorced or are already divorced so there should be a second wave coming soon  and think - all the baby boomers are retiring soon and what's going to happen when they are with each other 24/7?
pssst Eddie -while I do have a cell phone - it's rarely on and certainly not suring a meeting, a movie, in a hospital or on a date   | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/16/2006 9:59:02 PM | | YOU Don't get it! How do you think the ladies feel? There are hundreds of nice classy LADIES, that are pretty, intelligent , sexy, fun to be with, honest, clean, and well-groomed, and they have to resort to the internet and still sit home or go out alone. It seems that most ( not all) of the men that contact us only want to meet in a motel room or worse a back seat, instead of going out and having a great fun filled evening. WE REALLY DON'T GET IT. Where are the decent normal men that want a REAL date with a real woman. and why do men assume that if you look sexy you are free and easy or looking for a sugardaddy and if you look plain you are looking for a husband , neither sterotype is true. You would think there would be more men who like you just want someone to spend an enjoyable evening with. you know about getting older, I have noticed the pickin's seem to be slim for the young also , there are more 20 somethings online than over 45. OOOOOOOOOOKKKKKKKKKKKK I am off my soapbox now LMAO. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/16/2006 10:10:17 PM | | I got older and gained weight. That sets me down the list a ways. I lost some hair. Farther down the list. I am not tall. I am not wealthy. I have no social status to speak of, or even any not to speak of. Now I am at the bottom of the list. So far I have lost weight, but not gotten any taller, grown my hair back, made a pile of money, or achieved fame. I am one line up from the bottom of the list. What is in my heart and mind don't matter. How I treat people doesn't matter. The works of art I create don't matter. The type of companionship I offer doesn't matter. Who I am doesn't matter. Women are comparison shoppers, and my role at the bottom of the list is to support the men above, so the woman has someone to be glad she didn't settle for. Online dating is not about people searching for love at all. It is about women complaining they can't find any good men, and doing so in the faces of the men who want them but who will never be worthy of consideration. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/17/2006 6:12:08 AM | "Online dating is not about people searching for love at all. It is about women complaining they can't find any good men, and doing so in the faces of the men who want them but who will never be worthy of consideration".
What about the men complaining that they can't find a good woman, and doing so in the faces of women worthy of consideration? It works both ways. She may not be slim enough, pretty enough, too old, have children.....and so on. Dating sites and dating is a numbers game. You have to keep trying till hopefully your number hits. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/17/2006 7:58:41 AM | Yes I seem to have the slimmer pickin's curse. I havent received a single email in at least three weeks. And I know Im not a bad looking man. I am a professional by trade, a gentleman, Secure with my self as well as finacially for the most part.
Maybe things will get better in time who know.
Sincerely,
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 5/17/2006 8:01:25 AM | Hello, I know they are out there but where. I seem to attact the type of people that send out red flags. may be I will find her some day.
Sincerely,
Joe | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 6/15/2006 6:06:33 AM | just because one is beautiful or handsome does not mean they have met someone,so never assume,not sure about slim pickings,but i dont think many can come outta there shells some are quiet private and reserved,and some are looking for just the right person,and some just want respect,
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 6/15/2006 9:34:13 AM | I can't understand why people put you on their favorites list and then never try to talk to you. Some of them looked promising so I'd send an email.....no response. What's up with that? I'm here to meet people if only friends. I know what you mean Eddie about being somewhat particular. I prefer someone who can spell and has a command of their own language. The pickin's are slimmer but I think that may be because we are older and have a better idea of what we want. The past mistakes hopefully have taught us well what not to look for. Of course, when you fall in love all that just flies out the window! 
This is for you Eddie: Too be or knot two be. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 6/15/2006 12:07:02 PM | Men and women who call children and grandchildren baggage, of possible dating partners will be limiting their dating pool.
Sorry Dahia, but I've had my kids - been there done that and now they're all grown up and in the adult world.
I do NOT want to go there again, with all it's traumas and problems, especially if the kids are someone elses.
So I don't think I'm limiting my dating pool - just refining it! | |
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roni43
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 6/15/2006 1:02:06 PM | There is baggage and then there's carry-on luggage. If I fall in love with someone, I would take them as they are. I'm still a hopeless romantic and believe that love conquers all. We all have baggage. Baggage wouldn't be defined as children but the past hurts we have experienced. Is that a bad thing? I don't think so....because sometimes pain refines us. We have to let go of the bitterness and anger and forgive....not so much for their sakes but for our own. When you release them, you are released. I wouldn't want to date a guy with young children because I've been there with my own. But would I? Of course I would if I loved him and would do my best to love them as much as he does.
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 6/15/2006 1:17:51 PM |
I am one line up from the bottom of the list. What is in my heart and mind don't matter. How I treat people doesn't matter.
Oh Bull - Idon't think I've heard a bigger line of bull . . I can't speak for every gal on POF, but I know I'm looking for what's in the heart, mind and soul of a man. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 6/15/2006 2:53:03 PM |
The pickin's are slimmer but I think that may be because we are older and have a better idea of what we want. The past mistakes hopefully have taught us well what not to look for. Of course, when you fall in love all that just flies out the window!  I totally agree with this statement | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 6/15/2006 2:58:59 PM | | Sorrall, I agree with you because im just not in for all that touchy feely kissie type meeting the first time around. It used to be called morals but now seems everyone has their own difinition for it. I am like you I get maybe one to two hits a day and the man actually responds. I don`t post a photo but I always include one one when replying. I have nothing to hide I just choose to keep my photo a bit private. Im probably going to get attacked for agreeing about the Harley issue. I have actually read profiles where it sounded like the mans harley was his first love. But each to their own drummer. I can relate to honesty but, there is such a thing as going overboard. It seems to me that a lot of the men here certainly have their own agendas ( I have several times been exposed to this) and their standards are that a woman will fit their agenda or the meeting is off. I will stay with the slimmer pickins....lmao.. Goodluck to all. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 6/15/2006 4:18:32 PM | | Talk about slimmer pickin's. I am part of the problem. Just had my height measured for the first time in year. I am horrified. I am a whole inch shorter. Help, on only am I a slimmer pickn' but I am a shorter pickn' too. Oh, now I have to change the height box in my profile. Swear! | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 6/15/2006 4:27:18 PM | You don't get it because your looking too hard. Just try talking to the people that write you, just because the book looks a little worn or has too many pages, does't mean that it isn't interesting or doesn't have a good story.
I am not looking for my true love on line, I just like talking to interesting people and if by chance something becomes more than so be it, sometimes the cover doen't really make that big of difference, you start reading the book and you become really interested and comfortable with it. GET IT! | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 6/15/2006 9:10:00 PM | ^^^^^^ yehhh - I finally mastered the dam quote box Me too Horselady....if we didn't do one thing constructive today, we are now masters of the quote box.  | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 6/15/2006 9:42:12 PM | | I agree with Tinkerbell that there are some men out there who, for whatever reason are trying to be 25 all over again. I have been on this site for just shy of 2 weeks and have chatted both online and in person with some interesting and amazing ladies. I have a hard time relating to the prevailing theme of this whole slim pickings thread. In this city I have found a virtually limitless array of beautiful, articulate and sophisticated ladies who are genuinely open to the idea of exploring possibilities with compatible men. It seems to be the classic argument of the glass half full or half empty revisited. For myself, life is a dream and I plan to never wake up. lol More power to you all and happy fishing. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 6/15/2006 10:10:36 PM | Very well stated!! Pics tell 1000 words--but ONLY 1000 words!
[I have found some really great friends on here. Most of them did not have pictures in their profile. After a rapport is established, and confidence is inspired, photos have been exchanged. By that time, you actually have a personality to match to the face. Makes them more than just a picture. Give them a chance and sift through the advertising. Some of them are genuine, just don't know how to sell themselves.]
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 6/19/2006 5:16:45 AM | | To those of you having problems quoting, look to the right side of the screen when you open a reply box. It's written right there on the screen. What's the problem? | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 6/19/2006 9:13:57 AM |
To those of you having problems quoting, look to the right side of the screen when you open a reply box. It's written right there on the screen. What's the problem? Directionally challenged. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 6/19/2006 9:26:12 AM | Yes, there is slim pickens when we get older and it makes it real hard to find a partner if indeed that is what you are searching for.
I also don't understans why so many men contact a woman and only email for a short time and then stop as abrupt as they started with not reason.
I may be older guys, but I am not a lost cause either........
Another thing, why is it that so many men 20 or 30 years younger than me keep contacting me? It is real frustrating especially when they don't leave you alone when you ask them politely too. Or they get real nasty too you and continue popping up now and them just to annoy you..... I have about three that do this.... whatsup with that anyway? | |
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