| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 5:34:13 PM | It's amazing how a simple word like baggage could spark such an interesting powerful conversation.
I too have lived 55 yrs a good part of it with a husband and children. They have helped to make me who I am...but they are not who I am...I am a strong independant woman who can live life alone or with someone...
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 5:52:20 PM | I like men who are laid back and secure in themselves. That they don't act threatened by a strong minded woman. That they know how to handle her. I find that white men like this attribute about me. They know how to tame the lioness in me.
Some people purposely like to start stuff. Right ? eastsidenewjerseyeddie ? And putting people down for not using spell check efficiently ? By, the way, I have gone back and tried to correct my spelling on several occasions, but, the posting did not take. That is a computer glitch. We cannot all please everybody in this site eddieeastsideof nyc. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 6:00:29 PM | New Jersey?
Ohio, hon.
East side of Cleveland. Inner city, actually. Remember the Hough riots in the late 60s? That's where I grew up.
Tip for you if you really want to work on your spelling. Write your posts in MS Word. Spell check them there, then cut and paste them here.
Now, my stating that I appreciate and prefer to read properly constructed paragraphs is not a put down of people who have a problem constructing them. It is simply the way I view it.
I also don't use pepper in my food, and ask that if someone cooks for me they leave the pepper out and pepper their own portion later. Is that a put down of people who like pepper?
As far as starting something, go back to square one and look at who cast the first stone. I simply asked a question about whether people find the dating pool gets more shallow as we get older.
Live and let live works in every direction.
And to those of you who had long and happy lives with a spouse, I envy you. I have not been that fortunate, typically of my (un)doing. I am an over-achiever, always wanting to make something just a little better, even if it's fine as it is. I have been married three times, for 7, 1 and 5 years respectively. As with most divorces, blame can be laid at the feet of both or neither, depending on which side of the fence you are standing. I will continue to admit up front that I am not a day at the beach to live with, and it may have been me that was the reason for all three divorces. That water is long since passed under the bridge, and tomorrow will bring new water. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 6:05:11 PM | The term "baggage" is not necessarily pejorative. It is what it is. If you have kids or grandchildren whom you love and want to see often, that's great. It's not necessarily great to someone who lives miles away and might like to spend time with you.
As for me, I have no interest in relocating. I live between NC most of the year, and NH in the months when the uninsulated pipes won't freeze. Suits me fine. Someone in Minnesota with six grandkids they want to keep up with ain't going to work.
Just the facts, ma'am, just the facts.
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 6:08:36 PM |
I simply asked a question about whether people find the dating pool gets more shallow as we get older.
I think that yes, the pool does get more shallow as we get older, even though I do believe there are lots of singles out there our age. Maybe it's not so shallow, but we are picker after what we have been through in our lives.
I do get the emails, but what they seem to be looking for is very off the wall for me. I'd rather stay single! | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 6:16:37 PM | | Oh. Todd Rundgren is a musician from back in my days (70s) who also had a side project called Utopia. One of their albums was titled Oops, Wrong Planet. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 6:20:17 PM | oops,
To steal a line from M*A*S*H, "We're all looking for a custom fit in an off-the -rack world".
I do think that's the problem. Some people who've had a divorce ( or two!), which would constitute 80% + ( or more?)of us, simply will not comprimise. Even on this site, just check out the 'laundry list ' some folks lay down.
And these are the ones still trying!!
How many ( like my ex has currently) simply remove themselves from the pool? | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 6:25:57 PM | | yes, runmartin, I think you may be right, I will not compromise. I've probably been there, done that, and will not settle for less than what it is I truly want in a mate. And if I should find a mate I should want him to not settle for less than he wants! | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 6:41:52 PM | Hello Eddie !!! Happy holiday !!!
The pickings would be slim if you're picky
My list is not that long...can't be homeless , helpless or useless no smoking and social drinkers only
I'm not looking long term ..I'm looking for a lot of fun
Something I could not do while raising a child with no help from the ex
My baggage gets lighter the older he gets
If I make contact with anyone I read their wsh list to see if I FIT in..
If I not I move on ..... | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 6:43:38 PM | oops wrong planet this is Todd Rundgren. You may recognize this.
Do you remember the last time I said
If I ever thought about lying,
I’d rather think of dying instead
And maybe you remember the last time you called me
To say we were through
How it took a million tears
Just to prove they all were for you
But those days are through
’cause it wouldn’t have made any difference,
If you loved me
How could you love me
When it wouldn’t really make any difference,
If you really loved me
You just didn’t love me
’cause I know of hundreds of times I could be
In the most unfaithful arms that you always picture me
And maybe you remember that
Though I can’t always show proof I was true
No one else could change my mind or
Stop me coming home to you
But those days are through
You just did not love me enough to believe me
Enough not to leave me
Enough not to look for a reason to be unhappy with me
And make me regret ever wanting you
But those days are through
My favourite and one of his most popular. Geeze I hope I dont' get in trouble for that | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 6:51:34 PM | | tansi, no, sorry I don't recognize it, but thank you so much for taking the time to jot down the words of one of their tunes for me! I'll go and down load it now and listen. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 6:56:44 PM | The ballad side of Todd is represented by:
It Wouldn't Have Made Any Difference <== The one Tansi mentioned
A Dream Goes on Forever
Love is the Answer
Hello It's me
The rocker side:
Real Man
Love of the Common Man
Black & White
Hammer in my Heart
Bang on the Drum All Day (that you hear when most NFL teams score a TD)
I have a guitar signed by him, and he is THE artist I strove to emulate when I played.
Limewire your little heart out! | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 6:59:22 PM | oops,
I think that your attitude ( and there's nothing wrong with it) is shared by the majority on this site, whether they admit it or not.
It's just that being rejected is depressing, especially for what may seem 'trivial' reasons. For example, I knew a woman who wouldn't date men who had mustaches because her ex had one. Is that a rational basis to exclude an entire class of people? It's the same thing where some people won't date a blonde, or brunette, or a graying redhead ( the worst of all!! ).
Explain to me how you can MAKE, or LET, yourself fall in love with one man but deny another due to a physical trait. I'm not saying YOU specifically, but people in general.
Are you honestly saying you'd rather be alone than love a person who may have a physical or character flaw?
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 7:22:37 PM | Martin, being rejected because her ex also had a mustache is far beyond irrational. It is approaching the level of dementia where she needs a whole team of psychologists. In fact she should go to like Vienna where psychology began and study with the masters. That kind of transferrance is absurd and she needs help.
I think that "character flaw" is too broad a stroke. Impulsive buying is a character flaw, but that shouldn't be a deal breaker. However, kleptomania, schizophrenia.... those are major. Physical flaws like a missing finger that can not be altered are one thing, but someone with a big ugly wart in their eyebrow, I mean c'mon..... See the dermotologist and fix it.
What is key in this whole thread is that everyone has different experiences that color their outlook on future relationships one way or the other. Add to that the fact that everyone has "their way" of doing things and it's tough to hook up at our age.
I married in 2000 after a gap of 20 years since the prior divorce. From 30 to 50 I lived alone. I played in bands that wenton the road a lot. When I settled in I had an apartment in downtown Cleveland where all the action is. Swingin' single to the max. And I did things my way the whole time. 20 years is a long time and people get set in their ways. The result of tossing 2 people in that age group together is iffy after the new wears off. We started off infatuated like most new couples, and just 2 years later every day was like a steel cage death match.
As tough as it is WITH the rose colored glasses, it's that much tougher wihtout them. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 7:28:18 PM | eastsideeddie
As tough as it is WITH the rose colored glasses, it's that much tougher wihtout them.
becareful you mispelled without...didn't use your spell check  | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 7:30:30 PM | tinkerbell,
Sad is the operative word.
I guess we'll get what we deserve, and that's a lot of 'down' time between relationships.
But at least we can say we never settled!! That's something to wrap your arms around on a cold winter's night, huh?
(OK, we don't have many cold winter nights in deep East Texas, but the mental imagery fit. Sue me!) | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 7:57:06 PM | "Are you honestly saying you'd rather be alone than love a person who may have a physical or character flaw?"
Just for the record, I wasn't saying "Yup" that that statement is true for me. I was saying "Yup" in general and that our society has become throw-away or disposible for anything that "we"* as a society don't want.
* I am using "we" as in the Royal "we" and no offence intended but I hope the American people know what I am trying to say here. I know the Canucks are very familiar with the phrase.
Okay, I think I'll stop now before I put the other foot in my mouth!!!! Arghhhhhhh!!!! | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 8:08:04 PM | think I'm getting more and more confused.....excuse me while I go dye my hair blonde
OMG, I'm gonna pay for that one, but I often don't get it
edit...ok, I'll just change my pic | |
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