| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 8:13:28 PM | ^^^ sorry - I guess I'm referring to Air Farce, Rick Mercer, 22 Minutes, etc. wherein they imitate the Queen when she starts off a sentence with "We" which really means I or me - i.e. talking in the third person.
How am I doing at confusing the issue even more?
I had better get back on topic or the mods will be on my butt. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 8:14:19 PM | In one of the responses someone said that some people don't like to be judged on looks first...So true. Personally I've tried both, pic on and off. When I had it off..not a lot of hits...I put it on for not even one day...and got swamped. I am considered attractive as are a lot of women but definately not gorgeous. Still it just goes to show...they judge by picture first, and that's hardly fair as you can be attracted to someones looks but still find no chemistry when you meet. Body language....how someone feels about themselves, carries themselves, their overall grooming and care...and sincerity...the smile...the eyes...definately the beauty within can flow through. I'll chat with someone pic or not and many times I've been pleasantly surprised that when we did exchange pics....they were very attractive. So before you skip over those without pics....give it a try...you never know.
Also, some like their privacy, especially if they have teenage kids who may also be on the sight lol....or live in a small community....never know! | |
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Tansi
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Joined: 2/25/2006
Msg: 79 | |
| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 8:19:24 PM | Well..........hmph. For your information Miss Smartypants, I dye mine blonde just so other's expectations aren't too high of me.  I do hate to disappoint. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 8:19:45 PM | | ...true but who needs them too if we are happy with who we are??? Personally I have had men tell me how much fun I am and that I am very youthful...and to me that is more flattering than how gorgeous your eyes are etc. | |
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Tansi
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Joined: 2/25/2006
Msg: 82 | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 8:39:09 PM | I don't think it is sad that older people won't settle. If people had been more selective in their youth think of what they could have accomplished with the energy that they waisted being with the wrong people. If they haven't been with the wrong person, they might have just meet the right one for them.
Why are so many people convinced that if we gave up being selective we would have a better chance of happiness? We went through a lot to figure out who are are, and what we need in a mate. Didn't we? Or are all the people saying that we shouldn't be selective, the people who never figured out what they want?
Why not be glad with the fact that we might be alone, but we have learned to live full and happy lives. We have the time, energy and self knowledge that if the right person does come along we are free to pursue a relationship. | |
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Tansi
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Joined: 2/25/2006
Msg: 84 | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 8:47:19 PM | The Queen is not amused. Still trying to wrap her head around the idea of "downtown Cleveland" being the center of something.....Really? Cleveland?
Scary. And I do wear rose coloured glasses. Well, they are sort of brownish rose...
But Cleveland? Is that sort of like Cincinatti? Cannot spell that city's name for the life of me. Where they put chocolate in chili? I've eaten it, I've even cooked it, and it's not bad. But there is very little point to it.
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 8:48:12 PM | | In regards to message 81/owrngplnt: I just dyed my hair blue black. And I'm dating a man with a Ph D. Are you dating someone right this moment? Not 5 years ago. Try a little tenderness. You might trick a angle fish into believeing you are not a sneakhead fish. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 9:34:14 PM | Well yes it seems like slim pickins when your 50 for sure.
But really all it comes down too is what does he own or what does he do for a living .
Yep have noticed alot of women say one thing and yet it all boils down to what does the old bugger have that I may like . LOL
And if he has something they would love to get then the women contact him or chase after him. But I have not seen many seeking a honest caring one woman man who's 40 or over. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/14/2006 9:58:22 PM | | Oops. My hair came out violet black. Too much of another color. Anyways, in the teaching profession. Can't we all get along? To message 87: Do you work? What do you do sir? | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/15/2006 12:16:12 AM | | Symantec - please do a google search on the word 'baggage'. I'm amazed and horrified that you consider kids, grandkids, ex's etc, 'baggage'. 'Baggage' is when you let an issue stop you living your life effectively - like if you have a chip on your shoulder after a break up and it gets in the way of you having other relationships. Children are responsibilities, not baggage. Anyone who has lived life has some sort of responsibility. So you are saying you want a blank canvas, someone who has done no living? Sounds like you want to be the centre of attention. How very selfish! Dream on... | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/15/2006 5:38:56 AM | That Skyline chili from Cincinnati rocks!!
Cleveland has an area called The Warehouse District that was one of those big "let's make these old buildings into apartments" projects. Just down a hill from that is The Flats, a strip of clubs and restautants along the Cuyahoga River, and there is a strip on each side, known as the West Bank and the East Bank. 10-ish years ago when I lived downtown, it was the hip thing to do. Now the area is kind of broken down and they just announced a renovation plan that will run $225 million. It was a great area to live. Walk down a hill and be where the clubs are. Drink yourself silly and walk home. No DUI. I used to take my sax with me and walk up and down the strip sitting in with bands. I was in that business for so long I knew everybody in every band so I was always welcome. And living there was a great hook to meet women. That year I had more action than ever. (They must have thought I had money to be living downtown!) If my life hadn't moved 35 miles south to Akron I would be there again, though the same money I pay to rent this 4 bedroom house with a yard, a basement, a garage.... would only get me a 450 square foot efficiency apartment down there. Still, the view of the river right where it made a horseshoe bend (called Collision Bend), watching the ore boats navigate it, all the different bridges.... It was a great place to live.
To the woman who made the comment that "children are responsibilities, not baggage", I agree 100%. And once my children (responsibility) moved out and had children of their own, those children are THEIR responsibiity. You people don't understand why a man/woman sees someone else's kids as baggage. If you want to continue to obsess over that word "baggage", feel free. The concept might be better stated "I don't want to have responsibility forced upon me that I have no interest in, so if you have kids I will steer clear". I know it bothered me to briefly work a second job to bring in more money because it was fall and they needed new clothes for school. And their father didn't pay a dime. That is what the "baggage" thing is about. Note that their mother didn't work a second job, I did. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/15/2006 9:35:46 AM | (quote)Iv'e picked up on the fact that you are 100% honest. (quote) or is it
Apology accepted
Am testing this quote thingy
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/15/2006 9:55:42 AM | When we are older and looking for a relationship with another person, it is important that the two people have similiar abilities to spend time together, and similiar interest.
Some of us have finished our family responsibilities, have our financial/work responsibilites down to a level where we have the time, money and desire to get into a new relationship.
It is pointless for us to get involved with someone who isn't in this position.
If your responsibilities for you children or grandchildren are on going, then why not date people in the same position. To me, it makes no sense to call people who aren't interested in the children included lifestyle selfish. The point to moving towards retirement is that past responsibilities are over, and retirement time is for doing all the things that you haven't been able to do while your are still in good health. | |
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Tansi
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Joined: 2/25/2006
Msg: 94 | |
| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/15/2006 10:21:52 AM | [QUOTE] But really all it comes down too is what does he own or what does he do for a living [QUOTE]
Ummmm no it doesn't. Honestly, I would expect that some women "are" looking for security after devoting their entire life to a man , raising their family and are now finding it hard to get it totally on their own. True enough. But for me, I would rather duke it out in the world myself and live a more spartan life, than to have some man ever say that to me.
Why wouldn't we prefer the man we bring into our lives to have his act together at this age? It is hoped that "most" of us do by this time; men and women alike. Unfortunaely that isn't always the case. Life can knock the hell out of some of us. As for what we can get..how about changing your search settings over and look at what men put on their profile pics. It's boats, big houses, snazzy cars, Harleys, and "so many I can't count" in party mode with booze in their hand. What kind of message is that sending? Huh? It's advertising. I , for one , don't want any of that ****; yours or my own. Well, maybe the Harley
You sound like someone that has been burned and for that I am sorry, but don't paint us all with the same brush. Keep your pecker up (English for chin) and search on like the rest of do.  | |
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Tansi
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Joined: 2/25/2006
Msg: 95 | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 96 | |
| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/15/2006 10:26:12 AM | I only get hits around April 1st... Someone keeps tryin to fool me!!
I understand what you're saying that as we get older, the pickings do get slimmer, or perhaps they appear farther away...Could be our "older" eyes  Don't let that discourage you. Also, don't limit yourself to meeting people online. Get out there and do things, whether its taking a cooking class, going to museums or happenings around your town. Just going to a nursery to pick up plants & stuff for your place. You just never know. When you start enjoying life, and finding things that you are passionate about, you'll find that you'll attract folks that have the same passions that you do...
I've started a new business, currently I can only do it part time. We had our convention, in which 15,000 people were there. These folks are just as passionate about the business and I actually met a couple of people.. We had a lot in common and shared some really good times. We've got a convention coming up in Las Vegas in September, so I know I'll have to keep my drooling to a minimum.
I find as I get older, its more about relating and networking... If it winds up turning into a romantic or even long term relationship, then that's the perk for getting out there... Hang in there, meantime go out and have fun! | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/15/2006 10:50:52 AM |
whether its taking a cooking class, going to museums or happenings around your town. Just going to a nursery to pick up plants & stuff for your place.
I laughed out loud at that, not that it isn't sound advice, but it's the kind of thing I used to do when I was younger and wanted to go out and pick up girls!
The nursery works REALLY well if you play the helpless man card. The grocery store too. I once met a woman that I dated maybe 8 times afterward by asking her how to cook something I was buying. As the conversation went forward I started using the "This is so much I can't remember it all" face, and I just said "This would work so much better if you'd just come over and cook it with me and then we can have dinner." And she did exactly that the next night.
(I never said I didn't know HOW to be a slimeball. I just said that I'm not that way anymore!)
I once talked a woman into coming over AND PLANTING the flowers I bought!
Another life. Younger, bolder, less character, less gray hair.... And a lot thinner..
Now that I want to meet a woman that I can actually TALK to, it's rough. By the mid 50s almost everybody available is available for at least the 2nd time and so many people are jaded by their past experiences. And the same "set in our ways" thing applies. | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 98 | |
| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/15/2006 11:39:09 AM | The reason older people seem less in desire is because those who do allow themselves to wallow in self pity, anger, bitterness, jaded, or unwilling to try new things is society's perception of us. Unfortunately, the dating pool seems to be jaded by those few who convey such an "attitude".. We have to work on ourselves first and quit focusing on negative things in our lives.
We can either dwell on what we don't have, or we can enjoy life for TODAY and focus on what we do have! We can either be grateful or wallow in self pity. The choice is up to each and every one of us. Even tho I don't have someone special in my life, I am grateful for each and every day because I view life as an adventure, and at the end, I will exclaim "WOW, WHAT A RIDE" and die with a smile on my face! | |
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Sh1rl
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Joined: 4/8/2006
Msg: 99 | |
| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/15/2006 5:31:06 PM | Ditto on this side of the gender block. Ex's, kids (even those chaps well over 50) that have left them poor. Or, in the midst of divorce and thoughts are monopolized by the lawyers. Talk about baggage!! Or, those that aren't stay well clear of any committments because they don't want to go there again. We don't all want your money. Some of us have our own!!
I'm going to say here too...we don't all want to marry you (you meaning men in general). Some of us don't even want to live with you...we just want companionship....friends, lovers, confidants....but, no more than one, k. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/15/2006 5:46:19 PM | | ^^^ Well said. I must say, that of the majority of gentlemen that I have met from this site, it would seem that I am far better off emotionally and financially than they are. I am truly amazed at what life situations some of the men are in that I have met. Some of the reasons that are offered (nope, I never ask, I just listen) are beyond belief. I come away telling myself that I am truly blessed to have worked as hard as I have and to have gotten to where I am, which I wouldn't consider to be very far up the ladder of success. But, apparently it is. | |
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