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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/26/2006 4:24:22 PM | | I have been on the site for about a month I recieved little to no hits either. I was thinking about posting a picture, but I don't want my co-workers getting that personal or being judged by my picture. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/26/2006 9:06:12 PM | My experience has been that when a women first joins a dating website, she gets deludged with hits. Most that she wouldn't be interested in. If she has been on for a while, then only some of the newbies will "hit" on her. Ain't life grand - (kidding!) Hopefully, while enjoying the forums, the "right" hit will come along. If not, aren't we having fun anyway? | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/27/2006 7:30:45 AM | | true.. when i was in my 20 s, i had no problem finding a b.f. actually, from 18 to 30 i always had a guy. i needed a break by then. i stopped dating for a while. now, at 45, nadda. it is harder to find someone as we get older. at least for me it is. i find that when i was younger there were less games played. now, my antennas are up...too many players... | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/27/2006 7:47:05 AM | Coca, I looked at your profile and you may want to ease off the restrictions some. It appears that you aren't interested in anybody who doesn't want to go right from your first meeting to the wedding chapel.
And isn't "intimate encounter" far too subjective to be a criteria? What does that actually mean? You aren't interested in a quickie an hour after you meet or you never ever want to have sex?
Some of them actually say they won't accept email from men interested in "dating".
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/27/2006 7:53:31 AM | | i checked my profile. i am confused. i thought it was clear that i want serious only.. no hanging out, no f...k buddies, no friends... i want someone full time... did i fill that form out wrong? | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/27/2006 8:31:29 AM | Just saying that you only want to hear from men who want a long term relationship will limit who can even attempt to contact you and that may cut down on the amount of contacts you have. If you experiment and search for men with the exact specs you state, you may be surprised at how few match exactly. But if you bend a little and allow people who want to start as friends and let things happen you pool gets bigger. Kind of what the thread is about. If you are very restrictive and too selective, you will likely have very few choices available.
And I should add that I have some very selective ideas myself and don't have a lot of opportunity because of it, but it's my choice to remain selective so I have nobody to blame when I don't get a lot of responses from women. | |
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Tansi
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Joined: 2/25/2006
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/27/2006 8:32:14 AM | Eddie
It reads to me as "an" intimate encounter, as in a "one off" kinda thing. As in "I'm married, or not, and just want to do the wild thing with no strings attached". Sex my friend , just sex. No hangin out getting to know each other, no maybe we'll do it again, just doin it.
That's how I read it. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/27/2006 8:39:30 AM | | well, i feel that 'friends' means no long term. i have friends. i am looking for long term. i don't think guys think.. ok i'll be her friend first and we'll see what happens. i may be wrong but i feel that a guy who wants to me just friends is looking for a f..k buddy... just my opinion..... | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/27/2006 9:05:18 AM | My dear, you are obviously looking for either an argument or a vote of support that your profile is perfect, and you won't get either from me. All I said to you was that your limitations on who may contact you are very narrow and that is cutting down on your possibilities. By all means, if you are happy with it, leave it like it is, but I'd ask around a bit to see how many guys are on an internet dating system looking for a longterm relationship immediately with a woman who is nothing more to them at this point than a photo which could be a photo of anybody, a profile that could be a load of manure, and an apparent desire to marry by the weekend. Do you want to marry a guy who wasn't a friend first, or someone you didn't date a while first? Nobody said anything about jumping into the sack with a horndog who wants to have sex and then forget you. If you choose to interpret "for friends" as someone looking for a f*ck buddy, you have trust issues. I interpret "for friends" as someone who is willing to get to know me rather than ask me to fly to Las Vegas tomorrow and hit the Elvis wedding chapel.
Have a great life.
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/27/2006 9:08:39 AM | | thanks..not looking for an argument..or want you to agree with me. i see it differently, thats all.good luck to all of us.... | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/27/2006 12:24:13 PM | | Coca2 - I think the same as you do re the definition on Long term and friends. It does seem like there are a lot of men's profiles thought that say they want to be friends and then move into a long term relationship---------who knows. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/27/2006 12:37:55 PM | Let me ask you all this question. Aren't you at all leary when the "looking for" is long term relationship? Doesn't that intimate that the person would leap at the first person that they can at least get along with and try to force it to happen between them? I am of the belief that you can't just put any 2 people together and call them a couple. We don't live in a society of prearranged futures or contracts between families that 2 people must marry when they reach the age of concent. It doesn't happen that way.
What kind of conversation could there be on the first date if either party went into it trying to make this person fit their preconceived idea of what a lifelong partner is supposed to be? Wouldn't there be a tendency to want to see things that aren't there?
That is why I question the choice to eliminate everyone but 'long term' and locking your email out to anybody else. This isn't Adam and Eve who had no choices here. You have a lot of choices and you may miss out on a good one if he wasn't thinking 'long term' the day he filled out his profile. EVERYBODY wants to have a long term partner to some degree, but shouldn't you learn how to walk before you try to run?
Give yourself a chance here. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/27/2006 1:00:41 PM | | how about a new line to choose from? example...friends first then long term. there problem solved. i'd check that box. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/27/2006 2:07:35 PM | | eastsideeddie--------you are a good guy, but give your head a shake. Where ever would you get an idea that a women who is looking for a long term relationship is anything like what you are talking about. Maybe it's the man/women not understanding each other thing, but what you wrote makes no sense to me at all. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/27/2006 2:12:01 PM | All I am saying is that when a woman says "long term relationship" she is
1. Delusional if she thinks she is going to find it on POF
2. Seeming to want to skip the "how cool that we both like Chinese food" step.
3. Looking to rush into something.
That is how I see it, and that all I am saying. It's how *I* see it. Let's DATE for a while. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/27/2006 2:20:47 PM | | ya know what i find funny about all of this? most guys don't even read my profile. they want pics, just chat, sex only....all that i wrote that i don't want. so i might as well have written.. i have 3 eyes, 12 fingers, and a lizard tongue...ohhh life. | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/27/2006 2:27:56 PM | I read it through several times. And enjoyed it, to be honest. Just not looking to get married this weekend.. 
Can't email you though. Too old, too far, etc.... | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/27/2006 2:40:58 PM | Bring some Hampton tomatoes....
Email me and we can work out the details. I'll have my people call your people. (You have people?) | |
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| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/27/2006 2:48:20 PM | EEEEddie........help! rushing into something-------give me a break. I have been single 12 years - my choice. Was single for 7 yrs. between being divorced and marrying my late husband.
I list long term relationship, because: I don't do casual/sport sex and don't go for short term dump them and on to next.
I haven't hung out since I was 12. I have enough friends.
When I say look for long term, I know that (if you aren't into casual sex), first you have to become friends and build from there.
Delusional to think that men and women on pof also look for long term. Sure some don't, but some do as well.
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tps629
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Joined: 3/28/2006
Msg: 225 | |
| Slimmer pickin's when you get older?
Posted: 4/27/2006 7:07:10 PM | LOL CAPTAIN HOOK 
Well Well .. look here.. I'm no captian.. but the hook thing  
Now due to certian posts on these forums.. I put the truth out there..
The real thing that really sucks, is when the B*tch that wants to 'cause me more pain that killing me', REALLY, it was in the email that "broke the camel's back", and I put it in the complaint.
Do you think I should rent out the house and move? LOL  : 
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