You can NOT be friends with someone you are in love with
I would just like to point out one thing. It IS possible to be friends with someone you`re in love with. For a long time after we split my ex and I were still very much in love, we remained friends - spent time alone together and with mutual friends. We are still the best of friends to this day. Before anyone comments I will have to make it clear that although we were in love we both knew that being together was a mistake, sometimes love just isn`t enough.
I have always tried my hardest to remain friends with any ex boyfriend, just because a relationship has ended it certainly doesn`t mean you should immediately write that person out of your life. Each person I`ve been with has had an impact on my life and each has helped to influence the person I`ve become.
I know that I for one would be hurt to say the least if an ex of mine with whom I still shared feelings (be they friendly or romantic) did not acknowledge my birthday. You don`t need much to say I care, I`m here for you. A simple card would do the trick.
To the op my advice would be to send a card, don`t try to come between your ex and her current boyfriend, if she wanted to be with you she`d find a way. She`s moved on and I suggest you try to do the same. I don`t however think you should forget her entirely, give her and yourself some space and time to sort out your true feelings. When you`re ready to be there for her as a friend do just that. If you truely can`t be around her without being with her then let her know and say your goodbyes.
I wish you all the luck in the world, I hope you figure this out. Much happiness for the future 
Ps. Phew! Rant over!! (did I just read your mind? Yeah? Thought so)
PPs. I just realised this is a pretty old thread....... my advice is redundant 
Oh well maybe someone else has a similar problem.
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